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OloYeOfEgbE:
Hmmm....

If you ain't ready for the downs and if you tend to forget its about the kids,biko remain single,enjoy your life and date as many people as you want during Ups till ya die. God no go vex.

Choice

gassbee:
Your sex life would be reduced drastically because you would be denied sex on some flimsy excuses

fortunechy:
No 5 is so wrong. Responsibilit(ies) won't make u not to have sex for months until u can't perform... If responsibility or responsibilities will make u not to have sex then the poor and the less privileged won't give birth at all..

AlphaHakimi:
I am speaking to you as an individual. If your dad was/is a good man, you will still love him whether he is married to your mum or not.

Every woman's gift is conditional and sentimental. Here is an analogy of a sentimental gift from women(Your mum)

" You return home from school and ask your father for 10,000 to buy a text book at school. He will ask you what textbook you want to buy and you may have probably inflated the amount for the textbook. At night, your father stays awake thinking of how he will give you his last 10k for school. Tomorrow morning he calls you and gives you 7k. He give 2k to your mum for food before going to work and he is left with Just 1k. Now he has to pay transport or fuel his car, he has to also buy something to eat from that same 1k.
Now you go back to your room feeling sad that your dad did not give you the complete money. While you are grumbling, your mum squeezes 3k into your hand and tells you 'don't mind your father, he is a stingy man' and immediately you collect the money from her, you feel better and begin to smile and your emotions surpasses your reasoning. You are angry at someone (your dad) who gave you 7k but you are happy with someone who gave you 3k". WOMEN ATTACH SENTIMENTS TO THEIR GIFTS.

Do not misinterpret my message for being misogynistic. I'm just trying to open your mind to properly understand the world and how women think.

Shalom

EriMma1:
Marriage na cage from the way I see married women. Whenever we go out with them and try to chill, you'll see them hurrying back home to meet up with school runs and chores. Haba! Me I'll just be laughing and enjoying myself till 8-9pmish before going home.

Sometimes marriage scares me.

Everybody shaa mustn't get married.
Some people are actually not wired for marriage most commonly as a result of their life experiences and perception of marriage.

The irony of marriage, especially for folks truly wired for marriage, is that the same things they may complain to you about in their marriage is still the same thing they share as memorable experiences to other people.
For instance, someone may always complain to you that the husband and children wahala are too much, but this same person will be gisting and happily exchanging same stories of her husband and children wahala with another person.
That is life for you. It can be bittersweet

Basiljoe:
I will rather commit suicide than marry a Nigerian woman.

Zyxsc:
You can have your babies outside the confines of marriage, my brother. Just be present in their lives as they grow up and choose a morally upright baby mama.

Kingstanding:
. Are you married? You're a genius.

easzypeaszy:
Dat married women love seex more dan married men.
Althoght the man has tendency to do it outside but fr house if u wan nack ur wife 10X she go dey spread leg like bread n butter

god2good:
Beauty is useless compare to character/ mindset/believe/behavior

Ajehkpako4naija:
We don't do baby mamas. Baby mamas are for the immatured minds. Marriage is sacred and scriptural and meant for those who respect the institution. To some marriage is sweet, to others,its unfortunate. Some hate the word marriage because it didn't favour thier parents or siblings, while some would have love to get married but later hated the concept because they lack money, and age is telling on them. I believe u belong to one of these categories. Pls don't be pained bro.

Baby mamas are for the immature minds? No worry. Experience has a reputation for being a ruthless teacher

AlphaHakimi:
This is because men don't complain. Women are always the once complaining and taking sides.

If my messages are not sweet to you, that's because I'm telling you the truth. The truth is always bitter.

PLEASE NOTE THAT MY MESSAGES ARE NOT MISOGYNISTIC. BUT IF YOU TAKE IT THAT WAY, THEN ITS FINE.
WHATEVER MAKES YOU SLEEP WELL AT NIGHT.

Viking07:
Number 5 is the shocking part. Most people don’t know this. When you get married, you’d realize sex is overrated. 😁

AlphaHakimi:
Marriage is the most critically crafted institution that is designed to control the behaviour of humans and ensure the controlled existence of mankind.

Please note that I used the word "control" in order to truly explain the nature of marriage. This is because, there is nothing you can achieve within Marriage that cannot be achieved outside of marriage for men.
Just name one thing you can achieve within the confines of marriage that you cannot achieve outside marriage.

Animals don't get married but yet they sustain the existence of their species.

Every factor that made you as a man go into marriage will become irrelevant after one year of marriage.

Now if you are saddled with this fact as a man, why don't you make marriage transactional just as women do?.

Don't settle for less. You're a MAN for goodness sake. Don't date or marry any girl who is poor or from a poor background. Any day the marriage stops serving your purpose please LEAVE because your wife will leave you any day you stop serving her purpose. Your children no matter their age will understand once they get older.

This is why women love marriage.
1) If she gets married at 25 years of age, she is sure that all things being equal, you as a man will provide for her until she gets to 55years of age. By that time, she must have had an adult who will continue where you stop.

2) By 55years of age, your children will begin to think that their mother was the ONLY parent that suffered to raise them. They forget all the hardwork, insults and humiliation you had to endure to provide.

3) She secures a guardian, protector, companion, sexual exclusivity etc all to your own detriment.

Finally, don't be decieved about marriage as a man. It is a money-milking institution designed to ensure women survive this harsh world. DONT LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR THE SURVIVAL OF WOMEN, LIVE FREE AND LIVE WELL.

Shalom

Bolaji26:
You sure i go get married with all this things I read here

STEWpid:
Chai..

Nobody should tell you anything about marriage because majority of those who gives better marriage advice do not even have a better home themselves.

Be prepared, be determined to have a better marriage life, caution yourself when it's required, know your partner before marriage and be sure you can cope well with it, and take it as simple as ABC.

L'oba kuku tan!

kayperry:
You forgot to tag ishilove, cococandy, pocohantas

no peace for the wicked not even in shiloh

AlphaHakimi:
Marriage is the most critically crafted institution that is designed to control the behaviour of humans and ensure the controlled existence of mankind.

Please note that I used the word "control" in order to truly explain the nature of marriage. This is because, there is nothing you can achieve within Marriage that cannot be achieved outside of marriage for men.
Just name one thing you can achieve within the confines of marriage that you cannot achieve outside marriage.

Animals don't get married but yet they sustain the existence of their species.

Every factor that made you as a man go into marriage will become irrelevant after one year of marriage.

Now if you are saddled with this fact as a man, why don't you make marriage transactional just as women do?.

Don't settle for less. You're a MAN for goodness sake. Don't date or marry any girl who is poor or from a poor background. Any day the marriage stops serving your purpose please LEAVE because your wife will leave you any day you stop serving her purpose. Your children no matter their age will understand once they get older.

This is why women love marriage.
1) If she gets married at 25 years of age, she is sure that all things being equal, you as a man will provide for her until she gets to 55years of age. By that time, she must have had an adult who will continue where you stop.

2) By 55years of age, your children will begin to think that their mother was the ONLY parent that suffered to raise them. They forget all the hardwork, insults and humiliation you had to endure to provide.

3) She secures a guardian, protector, companion, sexual exclusivity etc all to your own detriment.

Finally, don't be decieved about marriage as a man. It is a money-milking institution designed to ensure women survive this harsh world. DONT LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR THE SURVIVAL OF WOMEN, LIVE FREE AND LIVE WELL.

Shalom

Emma1Oj:
No body said their will be total see finish after seeing each other unclothedness and when the woman becomes the bread winner for the family.

Zyxsc:
Broh, none of these things apply to me. I'm married. I'm financially stable. I didn't come from a broken home.

Baby mamas are for the immature minds? No worry. Experience has a reputation for being a ruthless teacher

AlphaHakimi:
Marriage is the most critically crafted institution that is designed to control the behaviour of humans and ensure the controlled existence of mankind.

Please note that I used the word "control" in order to truly explain the nature of marriage. This is because, there is nothing you can achieve within Marriage that cannot be achieved outside of marriage for men.
Just name one thing you can achieve within the confines of marriage that you cannot achieve outside marriage.

Animals don't get married but yet they sustain the existence of their species.

Every factor that made you as a man go into marriage will become irrelevant after one year of marriage.

Now if you are saddled with this fact as a man, why don't you make marriage transactional just as women do?.

Don't settle for less. You're a MAN for goodness sake. Don't date or marry any girl who is poor or from a poor background. Any day the marriage stops serving your purpose please LEAVE because your wife will leave you any day you stop serving her purpose. Your children no matter their age will understand once they get older.

This is why women love marriage.
1) If she gets married at 25 years of age, she is sure that all things being equal, you as a man will provide for her until she gets to 55years of age. By that time, she must have had an adult who will continue where you stop.

2) By 55years of age, your children will begin to think that their mother was the ONLY parent that suffered to raise them. They forget all the hardwork, insults and humiliation you had to endure to provide.

3) She secures a guardian, protector, companion, sexual exclusivity etc all to your own detriment.

Finally, don't be decieved about marriage as a man. It is a money-milking institution designed to ensure women survive this harsh world. DONT LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR THE SURVIVAL OF WOMEN, LIVE FREE AND LIVE WELL.

Shalom

Tonnyray:
Truer words have not been spoken. I'm exactly 2 months a married man and babygirl wan kee me. It's a real case of unleashing the sexual demon. It's almost like all the dishes she makes she collects in the other room. It's bliss so far. Glory to GOD.

Ajehkpako4naija:
If u are married, then why advocating for baby mamas. Is like your brain needs a total overhaul. Freakk

Zyxsc:
1. For a man, it's just a bills-paying institution. You go pay bills sotey you go forget wetin carry you enter the marriage in the first place

2. Enjoy your bachelorhood Wella before going into it. 40 is not too late for a man to get married.

3. You can't prove you're mentally strong until you're married because na then you go know what it takes to retrain an adult child like your wife. She go do some kain things wey be say, e fit make you go crazy.

4. If you can avoid it, please do. It's not worth it. Once you're married, you'll loose a part of your freedom. You can only regain it at the detriment of your home.

5. Don't go into marriage because of children. They may grow up and not make you happy by going against your wish (of course, they have their own lives to live. You've lived yours). Don't go into marriage because you love your girlfriend. Na this one go clear your eyes pass. Go into marriage because you want a life-long friend. Even at that, it's still a gamble. E fit shock you 10 years down the line.

REALretep:
Everybody shaa mustn't get married.
Some people are actually not wired for marriage most commonly as a result of their life experiences and perception of marriage.

The irony of marriage, especially for folks truly wired for marriage, is that the same things they may complain to you about in their marriage is still the same thing they share as memorable experiences to other people.
For instance, someone may always complain to you that the husband and children wahala are too much, but this same person will be gisting and happily exchanging same stories of her husband and children wahala with another person.
That is life for you. It can be bittersweet

qtx:
All sound good except number 4. My dear now that you are still young you may think you wont mind, but as age starts setting in, you will regret big time for not marrying at all. Loneliness and depression wii kii u.

cl0r0x:
Before marriage, you never know that

Your method of chewing is wrong

You close the fridge wrong

The way you move is wrong

You breath in a wrong way.

You only realize after getting married.

Suspect33:
I'd rather the marriage breaks down.. tufia