momsloved:
So this thought keep resounding in my head. Divorce.
The beauty of life is when two people In love decided to join hand and work hard to survive.
It's becomes difficult to survive alone when the one who is supposed to hold you up, is the one breaking you.
Life is hard and it's very difficult to get help from other people because everyone is facing their own challenges.
I understood. That's why I asked everywhere for help, and non helped me.

Now,
If a woman is married to a man who cannot or making effort to provide for the family, shelter, food, train the children, non take any responsibilities in the family,
Is this act not worthy of divorce?

A man who sleeps comfortably knowing that everyone in the house is hungry including his little baby, hasn't he proven himself worthy of divorce?
What exactly is the essen of being married to a man who lives all the responsibilities of survival to his wife, knowing that she's struggling and can't just ignore like he do when the children are hungry?

To a very sincere man, pls tell me.
What go through a man's heart, why would he refuse to make himself valuable to provide for his family and yet comfortable?
To a very sincere woman who can put herself in this shoes before commenting.

Would you stay married to a man who push ALL the responsibilities on you? Knowing you are not financially capable?
A man who watch you struggle to feed his children while he's there, you struggle to pay school fees, struggle to pay bills, struggle to get shelter.
You do all these yourself because if you don't, he wouldn't make effort either.
A man who can even thought of living you behind because he couldn't afford the rent, so you could sort it out on your own.
What kind of man does this?
Are these not enough reasons to divorce him and walk away?
What would you advise?

I feel sorry about your situation.

But from first hand experience, I have learnt not to believe everything a woman says, I really need to hear from this man to no why?

What changed him, before I can advice.

98% of problems in marriages are caused by women, but play victims when the pressure starts coming.

Don't make yourself a judge over a one-sided matter.

But you were reluctant when he insisted you relocated to the village where he can start things afresh. You said you want to stay bavk in the city. The pressure you're feeling now is what most men pass through daily to fend for grown adult(wife) and their children just because the society designed it so. Now you have learnt is not easy to be a provider.

Emmanuel909090:


I feel sorry about your situation.

But from first hand experience, I have learnt not to believe everything a woman says, I really need to hear from this man to no why?

What changed him, before I can advice.

98% of problems in marriages are caused by women, but play victims when the pressure starts coming.

You're right not to believe her.

All I see from her previous posts is typical of the Nigerian women. A man loses his source of income, told her to let them relocate to the village to start things afresh, she refused. And keeps nagging him about his inability to currently provide rather than support him to rise again.

I hope for the man's sake that she divorces him. She already mentioned that she denies him sex, food and exposes his current situation to family and friends. She is currently of no benefits to the man and at least when she's gone, the man will have peace of mind and a less nagging voice singing in his ears every day. The only benefit the man currently gets from her being his wife is the constant belittling and I'm damn sure he will be relieved to see her go.

Typical selfish woman. Makes a vow of "for better for worse" during the wedding ceremony. And after enjoying the better and once the man is in a mess and needed supporting hands and ears, they kick him while he is down. When my father fell on hard times, I was withdrawn to a free public school close to our house until things got better. At least my mother knew then how wise and understanding it was to ease the pressure on her husband and not start reporting him to neighbors, friends and family members about "his inability to pay school fees". Too bad they don't make wives like my mother anymore. Because I don't seem to understand the fact that a struggling man is still being tasked with paying school fees when there are free government schools all around us.

Momsloved , I sincerely hope and pray that you divorce him. You are of no use to him as a wife just as he is of no use to you as a husband. Take your kids and divorce him. It will lift a huge pressure off him, and at least, you'll know how easy it is to continuously fend for your family.

Mille:


You're right not to believe her.

All I see from her previous posts is typical of the Nigerian women. A man loses his source of income, told her to let them relocate to the village to start things afresh, she refused. And keeps nagging him about his inability to currently provide rather than support him to rise again.

I hope for the man's sake that she divorces him. She already mentioned that she denies him sex, food and exposes his current situation to family and friends. She is currently of no benefits to the man and at least when she's gone, the man will have peace of mind and a less nagging voice singing in his ears every day. The only benefit the man currently gets from her being his wife is the constant belittling and I'm damn sure he will be relieved to see her go.

Typical selfish woman. Makes a vow of "for better for worse" during the wedding ceremony. And after enjoying the better and once the man is in a mess and needed supporting hands and ears, they kick him while he is down. When my father fell on hard times, I was withdrawn to a free public school close to our house until things got better. At least my mother knew then how wise and understanding it was to ease the pressure on her husband and not start reporting him to neighbors, friends and family members about "his inability to pay school fees". Too bad they don't make wives like my mother anymore. Because I don't seem to understand the fact that a struggling man is still being tasked with paying school fees when there are free government schools all around us.

Momsloved , I sincerely hope and pray that you divorce him. You are of no use to him as a wife just as he is of no use to you as a husband. Take your kids and divorce him. It will lift a huge pressure off him, and at least, you'll know how easy it is to continuously fend for your family.

Wisdom encrypted, thanks for breaking a lot down for people who are in need of this advice.

Men really need help in our society.
She will divorce him and end up being a side chick to another married man.

It's best she divorce him, so he can pick his pieces and build himself up.

A woman can be loyal to her pastor, her boss that pays her peanut but will not respect a man that has been doing more than all this before now.

She don deactivate.

Her hubby has seen the post.

Looks like the hubby commented above.

Foodqueen:
She don deactivate. Her hubby has seen the post. Looks like the hubby commented above.

What in the vawulence was going on here?

Emmanuel909090:



Wisdom encrypted, thanks for breaking a lot down for people who are in need of this advice.

Men really need help in our society.
She will divorce him and end up being a side chick to another married man.

It's best she divorce him, so he can pick his pieces and build himself up.

A woman can be loyal to her pastor, her boss that pays her peanut but will not respect a man that has been doing more than all this before now.

And to even think according to her comments that the man has only lost his job for a few months. The man better be saving vigorously for his future. I dread the hell that awaits him when he is old or not in good health.

That's if she even sees the married man to be side-chick to. Pussy is now cheap in Nigeria. A Married man who intends to cheat can get varieties of younger women for 10k or less. I'm sure he'll prefer that to an old woman with a worn-out pussy who intends to put her family baggages on him, and who might even be stiff in bed.

Cowbell521:
On his behalf, I thank you from freeing him from your baggage. He owes you nothing and stop sending him account. Free him completely!

So his children are now baggage? Do you understand English at all?

Cowbell521:
You're of no value to his life. Divorce him ASAP. Free the man from your constant nagging. He owes you nothing. Divorce him and free him so he can have peace and better life

It's obvious from your comment that you have a brain of a 2 year old.

realtalk19:


It's obvious from your comment that you have a brain of a 2 year old.

By their comments, you shall know them

Mille:


And to even think according to her comments that the man has only lost his job for a few months. The man better be saving vigorously for his future. I dread the hell that awaits him when he is old or not in good health.

That's if she even sees the married man to be side-chick to. Pussy is now cheap in Nigeria. A Married man who intends to cheat can get varieties of younger women for 10k or less. I'm sure he'll prefer that to an old woman with a worn-out pussy who intends to put her family baggages on him, and who might even be stiff in bed.