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TemplarLandry:
You should not have cheated on her.
Apologize to your wife and make things work.

I dedicate “Where You At?” by Joe feat. Papoose to you. Great romantic jam!

You are always dedicating why not dedicate your life to achieving success in life

I've been married for four years now, and it seems my wife has become a stranger.

We've been having issues from the first year, mostly on different styles of life.
I am a guy who loves managing resources and very focused on achievements because I was born with a silver spoon but lost it due to the death of my father, I never wanted to experience the same thing as I did when he died.
She on the other hand is comfortable and okay with what she has, not too bothered about achievements.

I've been calling for management of resources for a while but she's the type that grew up in a very comfortable home and knows not how to manage resources.

Another issue on my part is that, she does not really care about how she looks and that's one of the things I care about.

I lost, or should I say resigned from my first job due to pressure and things became hard. I had to sell some of my landed properties so we could survive.

I got another Job and in six months, I made millions. We lived well until I wanted to chase my passion in banking again.

Got back into banking and to cut the story short, I met one lady where I was sent to. I loved her. I wish I had met her first honestly. In a year, she showed me a lot in the kind of woman I wanted. Then I lost my job again, this time because I wanted to go for youth service.

I got back home and I told my wife the game plan. I bought foodstuffs for at least two months and went for camp. In less than a week, my mother called me and was angry why I left my wife and two kids hungry. I exeated camp immediately and came back home. After investigating, I found out she sent the food to her mother who is an associate professor, without telling me and while she knows out conditions.

I got so angry. I wanted her out.
I considered things because my second child which she had by force is just 5months. She had the baby because she stopped taking contraceptives because of advice from people that if she has a male child for me, I'll stay.
After much, she can't leave, because who will take care of the boy?

Yesterday, she read my messages and discovered I was having an affair and wants to leave. I told the lady off this morning but, I still loved her.

I can't allow that. Even if she does, she has to wait for the boy to be at least a year old. Remember she was the one that wanted this baby, not me. Now she wants to leave the liability for me?
And I can't allow my kids to grow with her because I don't want them to learn such lifestyle.

What should I do?

Let me leave this page for those with wisdom

JayDaily2:
You allowed your wife to use contraceptives, that may be the roots and the cause of most of her problems, women should avoid contraceptives, It's balances hormones and pollutes the mindset of a woman therein causing unnecessary behavioral switches.

The brain of a woman is naturally unstable, When she adds contraceptives to that, expect drama.

Not all the women o.
My wife was on them for about 4 years, i can comfortably rate her 95% out of 100 (characters, home management, neatness, etc.)

1. Your topic said you're in love with someone else. Love is not enough in marriage because there are season you or your spouse will not be in love with each other. You have to be committed to each other when it comes to marriage.
2. The someone else you're now "claiming" you're in love with will soon fall out in love with you or you stop loving and start loving someone else or she start loving someone else too. It's human nature. It will happen. So how long do you want to go in that circle?
You have to go into relationship with everyone you have feelings for? Some of us control our feelings not that we don't have feelings too. Go and learn how to control and manage your feelings before you scatter your home.
3. You married each other to compliment each other. She can't be you and you can't be her. You must have a good part you like...so compliment it with you own good side and she too know your bad side.
4. Stop justifying cheating and adultery. Go and settle with your with before you regret it.and manage your home and affairs that's your job as the head of the home. You're the CEO of your home. The responsibility stop on your table.
5. I wish your home well.

I've been married for four years now, and it seems my wife has become a stranger.

We've been having issues from the first year, mostly on different styles of life.
I am a guy who loves managing resources and very focused on achievements because I was born with a silver spoon but lost it due to the death of my father, I never wanted to experience the same thing as I did when he died.
She on the other hand is comfortable and okay with what she has, not too bothered about achievements.

I've been calling for management of resources for a while but she's the type that grew up in a very comfortable home and knows not how to manage resources.

Another issue on my part is that, she does not really care about how she looks and that's one of the things I care about.

I lost, or should I say resigned from my first job due to pressure and things became hard. I had to sell some of my landed properties so we could survive.

I got another Job and in six months, I made millions. We lived well until I wanted to chase my passion in banking again.

Got back into banking and to cut the story short, I met one lady where I was sent to. I loved her. I wish I had met her first honestly. In a year, she showed me a lot in the kind of woman I wanted. Then I lost my job again, this time because I wanted to go for youth service.

I got back home and I told my wife the game plan. I bought foodstuffs for at least two months and went for camp. In less than a week, my mother called me and was angry why I left my wife and two kids hungry. I exeated camp immediately and came back home. After investigating, I found out she sent the food to her mother who is an associate professor, without telling me and while she knows out conditions.

I got so angry. I wanted her out.
I considered things because my second child which she had by force is just 5months. She had the baby because she stopped taking contraceptives because of advice from people that if she has a male child for me, I'll stay.
After much, she can't leave, because who will take care of the boy?

Yesterday, she read my messages and discovered I was having an affair and wants to leave. I told the lady off this morning but, I still loved her.

I can't allow that. Even if she does, she has to wait for the boy to be at least a year old. Remember she was the one that wanted this baby, not me. Now she wants to leave the liability for me?
And I can't allow my kids to grow with her because I don't want them to learn such lifestyle.

What should I do?

I've been married for four years now, and it seems my wife has become a stranger.

We've been having issues from the first year, mostly on different styles of life
Another issue on my part is that, she does not really care about how she looks and that's one of the things I care about.

Got back into banking and to cut the story short, I met one lady where I was sent to. I loved her. I wish I had met her first honestly. In a year, she showed me a lot in the kind of woman I wanted.

You didn't tell us your age but you appear like those teenagers who just get married. Bros the first 5 years of marriage with kids coming can sometimes be strange and stressful. So you are right your wife has become a stranger but so are you! It can happen!!

Having issues about her lifestyle is also not entirely new...in fact not new at all. You ain't perfect brother, I'm not, she's not. You can work on this with more understanding, care and love.

Going back to banking career after some ups and downs...typifies your reality. You kept bouncing back after every setback. Take that energy straight back to your marriage. You will see amazing transformation. It shows how resilience and proactive you can be.

Then you met this lady and all of suddenly you wish you met her first! And you cheated!!. You think your wife has not met anyone else way way better and more compatible than you? You haven't told us she cheated but you are a cheat bro. You brother...you are the problem!

Abeg go back home and start apologising to your wife, who for the last 4 years has had your 2 beautiful kids and sacrificed everything for you and the kids. She doesn't deserved to be cheated on. Her only crime was send some FOOD items to your mother in law. Omo are you a man?

I don't want to talk about your side chick because we all know what it's. The people suffering here are your own kids, someone's daughter and you Mr OP. And somehow, you have the very key to unlock your family problem. Dare not run away from it. Your brothers all over the world are suffering to find solution for their own family. Money, food...whatever!

Which kind story line be this?

are you sure youre old enough?

Abeg naija get issues wey dey bother me like this

I've been married for four years now, and it seems my wife has become a stranger.

We've been having issues from the first year, mostly on different styles of life.
I am a guy who loves managing resources and very focused on achievements because I was born with a silver spoon but lost it due to the death of my father, I never wanted to experience the same thing as I did when he died.
She on the other hand is comfortable and okay with what she has, not too bothered about achievements.

I've been calling for management of resources for a while but she's the type that grew up in a very comfortable home and knows not how to manage resources.

Another issue on my part is that, she does not really care about how she looks and that's one of the things I care about.

I lost, or should I say resigned from my first job due to pressure and things became hard. I had to sell some of my landed properties so we could survive.

I got another Job and in six months, I made millions. We lived well until I wanted to chase my passion in banking again.

Got back into banking and to cut the story short, I met one lady where I was sent to. I loved her. I wish I had met her first honestly. In a year, she showed me a lot in the kind of woman I wanted. Then I lost my job again, this time because I wanted to go for youth service.

I got back home and I told my wife the game plan. I bought foodstuffs for at least two months and went for camp. In less than a week, my mother called me and was angry why I left my wife and two kids hungry. I exeated camp immediately and came back home. After investigating, I found out she sent the food to her mother who is an associate professor, without telling me and while she knows out conditions.

I got so angry. I wanted her out.
I considered things because my second child which she had by force is just 5months. She had the baby because she stopped taking contraceptives because of advice from people that if she has a male child for me, I'll stay.
After much, she can't leave, because who will take care of the boy?

Yesterday, she read my messages and discovered I was having an affair and wants to leave. I told the lady off this morning but, I still loved her.

I can't allow that. Even if she does, she has to wait for the boy to be at least a year old. Remember she was the one that wanted this baby, not me. Now she wants to leave the liability for me?
And I can't allow my kids to grow with her because I don't want them to learn such lifestyle.

What should I do?

I've been married for four years now, and it seems my wife has become a stranger.

We've been having issues from the first year, mostly on different styles of life.
I am a guy who loves managing resources and very focused on achievements because I was born with a silver spoon but lost it due to the death of my father, I never wanted to experience the same thing as I did when he died.
She on the other hand is comfortable and okay with what she has, not too bothered about achievements.

I've been calling for management of resources for a while but she's the type that grew up in a very comfortable home and knows not how to manage resources.

Another issue on my part is that, she does not really care about how she looks and that's one of the things I care about.

I lost, or should I say resigned from my first job due to pressure and things became hard. I had to sell some of my landed properties so we could survive.

I got another Job and in six months, I made millions. We lived well until I wanted to chase my passion in banking again.

Got back into banking and to cut the story short, I met one lady where I was sent to. I loved her. I wish I had met her first honestly. In a year, she showed me a lot in the kind of woman I wanted. Then I lost my job again, this time because I wanted to go for youth service.

I got back home and I told my wife the game plan. I bought foodstuffs for at least two months and went for camp. In less than a week, my mother called me and was angry why I left my wife and two kids hungry. I exeated camp immediately and came back home. After investigating, I found out she sent the food to her mother who is an associate professor, without telling me and while she knows out conditions.

I got so angry. I wanted her out.
I considered things because my second child which she had by force is just 5months. She had the baby because she stopped taking contraceptives because of advice from people that if she has a male child for me, I'll stay.
After much, she can't leave, because who will take care of the boy?

Yesterday, she read my messages and discovered I was having an affair and wants to leave. I told the lady off this morning but, I still loved her.

I can't allow that. Even if she does, she has to wait for the boy to be at least a year old. Remember she was the one that wanted this baby, not me. Now she wants to leave the liability for me?
And I can't allow my kids to grow with her because I don't want them to learn such lifestyle.

What should I do?

You kept referring to the baby as hers, if you don't want the baby, you would have used condom. So, you are part of the blame.

You are in and out of jobs cos you failed to put your house in order. If you think your gf is better, give it time to show her true colors, she might be worse than your wife.

Stay with the devil you know and learn how to resolve issues with her

I've been married for four years now, and it seems my wife has become a stranger.

We've been having issues from the first year, mostly on different styles of life.
I am a guy who loves managing resources and very focused on achievements because I was born with a silver spoon but lost it due to the death of my father, I never wanted to experience the same thing as I did when he died.
She on the other hand is comfortable and okay with what she has, not too bothered about achievements.

I've been calling for management of resources for a while but she's the type that grew up in a very comfortable home and knows not how to manage resources.

Another issue on my part is that, she does not really care about how she looks and that's one of the things I care about.

I lost, or should I say resigned from my first job due to pressure and things became hard. I had to sell some of my landed properties so we could survive.

I got another Job and in six months, I made millions. We lived well until I wanted to chase my passion in banking again.

Got back into banking and to cut the story short, I met one lady where I was sent to. I loved her. I wish I had met her first honestly. In a year, she showed me a lot in the kind of woman I wanted. Then I lost my job again, this time because I wanted to go for youth service.

I got back home and I told my wife the game plan. I bought foodstuffs for at least two months and went for camp. In less than a week, my mother called me and was angry why I left my wife and two kids hungry. I exeated camp immediately and came back home. After investigating, I found out she sent the food to her mother who is an associate professor, without telling me and while she knows out conditions.

I got so angry. I wanted her out.
I considered things because my second child which she had by force is just 5months. She had the baby because she stopped taking contraceptives because of advice from people that if she has a male child for me, I'll stay.
After much, she can't leave, because who will take care of the boy?

Yesterday, she read my messages and discovered I was having an affair and wants to leave. I told the lady off this morning but, I still loved her.

I can't allow that. Even if she does, she has to wait for the boy to be at least a year old. Remember she was the one that wanted this baby, not me. Now she wants to leave the liability for me?
And I can't allow my kids to grow with her because I don't want them to learn such lifestyle.

What should I do?

I don't believe this story. How many years have u worked, become comfortable, married then youth service? How old are u sef?

Marrying two wives is allowed. Don't cheat, just formalise the new lady and marry her. The first wife will calm down and both will balance each other.

I've been married for four years now, and it seems my wife has become a stranger.

We've been having issues from the first year, mostly on different styles of life.
I am a guy who loves managing resources and very focused on achievements because I was born with a silver spoon but lost it due to the death of my father, I never wanted to experience the same thing as I did when he died.
She on the other hand is comfortable and okay with what she has, not too bothered about achievements.

I've been calling for management of resources for a while but she's the type that grew up in a very comfortable home and knows not how to manage resources.

Another issue on my part is that, she does not really care about how she looks and that's one of the things I care about.

I lost, or should I say resigned from my first job due to pressure and things became hard. I had to sell some of my landed properties so we could survive.

I got another Job and in six months, I made millions. We lived well until I wanted to chase my passion in banking again.

Got back into banking and to cut the story short, I met one lady where I was sent to. I loved her. I wish I had met her first honestly. In a year, she showed me a lot in the kind of woman I wanted. Then I lost my job again, this time because I wanted to go for youth service.

I got back home and I told my wife the game plan. I bought foodstuffs for at least two months and went for camp. In less than a week, my mother called me and was angry why I left my wife and two kids hungry. I exeated camp immediately and came back home. After investigating, I found out she sent the food to her mother who is an associate professor, without telling me and while she knows out conditions.

I got so angry. I wanted her out.
I considered things because my second child which she had by force is just 5months. She had the baby because she stopped taking contraceptives because of advice from people that if she has a male child for me, I'll stay.
After much, she can't leave, because who will take care of the boy?

Yesterday, she read my messages and discovered I was having an affair and wants to leave. I told the lady off this morning but, I still loved her.

I can't allow that. Even if she does, she has to wait for the boy to be at least a year old. Remember she was the one that wanted this baby, not me. Now she wants to leave the liability for me?
And I can't allow my kids to grow with her because I don't want them to learn such lifestyle.

What should I do?

Mend your marriage, don't give it up.

You don't know If the new lady will give you serious hell.

You can't leave your wife cos you think you are in lust sorry, love with another lady.

If you want to marry two wives go ahead,ko Kanye but don't give up your marriage except she wants out.

You are confused as your erection between your legs.... Do you hear yourself, you are in love with another woman and you have 5 month old baby with your woman... You need brain resetting. You think say because your side chick dey give u fresh puna means say she is better. Oga Ade go back to your wife, prostrate and thank her for marrying cornfused man like you. She deserves award. All your excuses are completely lame. You are blinded or Bewitched

I've been married for four years now, and it seems my wife has become a stranger.

We've been having issues from the first year, mostly on different styles of life.
I am a guy who loves managing resources and very focused on achievements because I was born with a silver spoon but lost it due to the death of my father, I never wanted to experience the same thing as I did when he died.
She on the other hand is comfortable and okay with what she has, not too bothered about achievements.

I've been calling for management of resources for a while but she's the type that grew up in a very comfortable home and knows not how to manage resources.

Another issue on my part is that, she does not really care about how she looks and that's one of the things I care about.

I lost, or should I say resigned from my first job due to pressure and things became hard. I had to sell some of my landed properties so we could survive.

I got another Job and in six months, I made millions. We lived well until I wanted to chase my passion in banking again.

Got back into banking and to cut the story short, I met one lady where I was sent to. I loved her. I wish I had met her first honestly. In a year, she showed me a lot in the kind of woman I wanted. Then I lost my job again, this time because I wanted to go for youth service.

I got back home and I told my wife the game plan. I bought foodstuffs for at least two months and went for camp. In less than a week, my mother called me and was angry why I left my wife and two kids hungry. I exeated camp immediately and came back home. After investigating, I found out she sent the food to her mother who is an associate professor, without telling me and while she knows out conditions.

I got so angry. I wanted her out.
I considered things because my second child which she had by force is just 5months. She had the baby because she stopped taking contraceptives because of advice from people that if she has a male child for me, I'll stay.
After much, she can't leave, because who will take care of the boy?

Yesterday, she read my messages and discovered I was having an affair and wants to leave. I told the lady off this morning but, I still loved her.

I can't allow that. Even if she does, she has to wait for the boy to be at least a year old. Remember she was the one that wanted this baby, not me. Now she wants to leave the liability for me?
And I can't allow my kids to grow with her because I don't want them to learn such lifestyle.

What should I do?

Happy for your sincerity and making it easy to advise you. Two wrongs actually cannot make a right but you have committed a grievous offense by having an extramarital affair. This indeed is an abomination before God and has resulted in the destruction of your marriage. All women have one fault or the other, so expect this new lady to display a bad character soon.
Please apologize to your wife and show true and genuine repentance, then see your marriage blossom again.

You have to build your home, firstly the love started dying because she bore a son and maybe u weren't capable then, so the pain continue growing thereby u start spotting her flaws, trust me the other lady u think is best will be worst than ur wife if you marry her, be a matured man and fix ur home, my wife was never my kind of woman both physically and intellectually but I built her to how I like it, now my wife can talk about crypto and various IT stuffs, there are many things both of us does that neither of us likes, that's where communication comes in, if we sit your wife down and question her you will see where ur faults are, unless the relationship or marriage is toxic, never leave everything is fixable, I heard someone said he has fallen out of love for his wife, that's bullshít, a real man don't marry for mere love, na ashawo dey him eye him don dey look outside

Lol, oga go and work on your marriage, after turning her to after 2, you want to bail out, transfer that love you are giving to your sidekick to your wife. I am sure you were lovey dovey when you married her newly, olojukokoro, onisekuse😏

A friend lamented to me how his marriage of less than 2 years is already frustrating him. I
He said his wife does not listen to him and challenge him by raising her voice at him. I know his wife- Beautiful, gentle, calm & respectful. When I mentioned these qualities he said Yes to people outside but at home she's torn in his flesh. So, never compare your marriage with one another, you don't know what the hell they are going through.

OP Whatever you don't cheat on her oo.
Better you go your separate ways than cheating.

JayDaily2:
You allowed your wife to use contraceptives, that may be the roots and the cause of most of her problems, women should avoid contraceptives, It's balances hormones and pollutes the mindset of a woman therein causing unnecessary behavioral switches.

The brain of a woman is naturally unstable, When she adds contraceptives to that, expect drama.

I recommend you to search and join the Telegram channel called IAJ ONLINE for best financial and daily lifestyle education.

how does contraceptives causes balance hormones and pollutes the mindset of women? Medical & scientific proven

You are the problem in your marriage

How people think they can find a solution to serious issues of this magnitude on Nairaland is funny to me.

Lolz

Bukola94:
how does contraceptives causes balance hormones and pollutes the mindset of women? Medical & scientific proven

Sorry,

It's disbalances hormones, I meant to say.

Typo error.

This is not enough reason for you to cheat on her not at all, talk to her talk to her please.
He who have heads has no cap and who has cap has no head, am someone who likes venturing into different legitimate things just to get more streams of income I have high taste and high prospect but look at me no support. Just talk to her, and looking good aspect she needs to work on it, she needs to package herself well.
But Still someone should bless me *0090093633 sterlings*

I've been married for four years now, and it seems my wife has become a stranger.
We've been having issues from the first year, mostly on different styles of life.
I am a guy who loves managing resources and very focused on achievements because I was born with a silver spoon but lost it due to the death of my father, I never wanted to experience the same thing as I did when he died.
She on the other hand is comfortable and okay with what she has, not too bothered about achievements.

I've been calling for management of resources for a while but she's the type that grew up in a very comfortable home and knows not how to manage resources.

Another issue on my part is that, she does not really care about how she looks and that's one of the things I care about.

I lost, or should I say resigned from my first job due to pressure and things became hard. I had to sell some of my landed properties so we could survive.

I got another Job and in six months, I made millions. We lived well until I wanted to chase my passion in banking again.

Got back into banking and to cut the story short, I met one lady where I was sent to. I loved her. I wish I had met her first honestly. In a year, she showed me a lot in the kind of woman I wanted. Then I lost my job again, this time because I wanted to go for youth service.

I got back home and I told my wife the game plan. I bought foodstuffs for at least two months and went for camp. In less than a week, my mother called me and was angry why I left my wife and two kids hungry. I exeated camp immediately and came back home. After investigating, I found out she sent the food to her mother who is an associate professor, without telling me and while she knows out conditions.

I got so angry. I wanted her out.
I considered things because my second child which she had by force is just 5months. She had the baby because she stopped taking contraceptives because of advice from people that if she has a male child for me, I'll stay.
After much, she can't leave, because who will take care of the boy?

Yesterday, she read my messages and discovered I was having an affair and wants to leave. I told the lady off this morning but, I still loved her.

I can't allow that. Even if she does, she has to wait for the boy to be at least a year old. Remember she was the one that wanted this baby, not me. Now she wants to leave the liability for me?
And I can't allow my kids to grow with her because I don't want them to learn such lifestyle.

What should I do?

story of a yeye disrespectful dishonest unfaithul person trying to make his marriage to another yeye disrespectful person work. both of you are useless people who shouldnt remotely be together. this is such a toxic marriage, this can never end well.

- a disrespectful dishonest unfaithful deceitful husband has no business telling a wife what she should do (or not) in marriage.
- a yeye woman who lives in fantasy land wasting money/food needed/meant for her kids, has no business being married.

Exceed15:
A friend lamented to me how his marriage of less than 2 years is already frustrating him. I
He said his wife does not listen to him and challenge him by raising her voice at him. I know his wife- Beautiful, gentle, calm & respectful. When I mentioned these qualities he said Yes to people outside but at home she's torn in his flesh. So, never compare your marriage with one another, you don't know what the hell they are going through.

Maybe your friend is cheating on her to have triggered such type of behavior towards her husband

"I considered things because my second child which she had by force is just 5months"

For writing this, you will sure die by this woman.

I've been married for four years now, and it seems my wife has become a stranger.

We've been having issues from the first year, mostly on different styles of life.
I am a guy who loves managing resources and very focused on achievements because I was born with a silver spoon but lost it due to the death of my father, I never wanted to experience the same thing as I did when he died.
She on the other hand is comfortable and okay with what she has, not too bothered about achievements.

I've been calling for management of resources for a while but she's the type that grew up in a very comfortable home and knows not how to manage resources.

Another issue on my part is that, she does not really care about how she looks and that's one of the things I care about.

I lost, or should I say resigned from my first job due to pressure and things became hard. I had to sell some of my landed properties so we could survive.

I got another Job and in six months, I made millions. We lived well until I wanted to chase my passion in banking again.

Got back into banking and to cut the story short, I met one lady where I was sent to. I loved her. I wish I had met her first honestly. In a year, she showed me a lot in the kind of woman I wanted. Then I lost my job again, this time because I wanted to go for youth service.

I got back home and I told my wife the game plan. I bought foodstuffs for at least two months and went for camp. In less than a week, my mother called me and was angry why I left my wife and two kids hungry. I exeated camp immediately and came back home. After investigating, I found out she sent the food to her mother who is an associate professor, without telling me and while she knows out conditions.

I got so angry. I wanted her out.
I considered things because my second child which she had by force is just 5months. She had the baby because she stopped taking contraceptives because of advice from people that if she has a male child for me, I'll stay.
After much, she can't leave, because who will take care of the boy?

Yesterday, she read my messages and discovered I was having an affair and wants to leave. I told the lady off this morning but, I still loved her.

I can't allow that. Even if she does, she has to wait for the boy to be at least a year old. Remember she was the one that wanted this baby, not me. Now she wants to leave the liability for me?
And I can't allow my kids to grow with her because I don't want them to learn such lifestyle.

What should I do?

So she wanted the baby and you wanted the Bleep. Man you are too dumb to be alive.

I've been married for four years now, and it seems my wife has become a stranger.

We've been having issues from the first year, mostly on different styles of life.
I am a guy who loves managing resources and very focused on achievements because I was born with a silver spoon but lost it due to the death of my father, I never wanted to experience the same thing as I did when he died.
She on the other hand is comfortable and okay with what she has, not too bothered about achievements.

I've been calling for management of resources for a while but she's the type that grew up in a very comfortable home and knows not how to manage resources.

Another issue on my part is that, she does not really care about how she looks and that's one of the things I care about.

I lost, or should I say resigned from my first job due to pressure and things became hard. I had to sell some of my landed properties so we could survive.

I got another Job and in six months, I made millions. We lived well until I wanted to chase my passion in banking again.

Got back into banking and to cut the story short, I met one lady where I was sent to. I loved her. I wish I had met her first honestly. In a year, she showed me a lot in the kind of woman I wanted. Then I lost my job again, this time because I wanted to go for youth service.

I got back home and I told my wife the game plan. I bought foodstuffs for at least two months and went for camp. In less than a week, my mother called me and was angry why I left my wife and two kids hungry. I exeated camp immediately and came back home. After investigating, I found out she sent the food to her mother who is an associate professor, without telling me and while she knows out conditions.

I got so angry. I wanted her out.
I considered things because my second child which she had by force is just 5months. She had the baby because she stopped taking contraceptives because of advice from people that if she has a male child for me, I'll stay.
After much, she can't leave, because who will take care of the boy?

Yesterday, she read my messages and discovered I was having an affair and wants to leave. I told the lady off this morning but, I still loved her.

I can't allow that. Even if she does, she has to wait for the boy to be at least a year old. Remember she was the one that wanted this baby, not me. Now she wants to leave the liability for me?
And I can't allow my kids to grow with her because I don't want them to learn such lifestyle.

What should I do?

You are fucking with a woman's heart and you are asking life, what you want it to do for you.

Man await your death. Especially now you got another death you are in love with

I feel your pain bro. I am in the same boat as you. Been married for 3 years with 2 kids and have been finding it difficult to love my wife. I Cant stop craving for pussy that is outside. If i dont Bleep outside, i will be very restless. I must Bleep a woman outside, married or single to feel good about myself and gain my confidence as a man.

Bastarrd. You are a badly raised motherfuckker. You think if you were married to your side chick you would be having a happy perfect marriage? Your wife did wrong sending the food to her parents, yes, but looking at your story, you are the problem in your marriage.

I've been married for four years now, and it seems my wife has become a stranger.

We've been having issues from the first year, mostly on different styles of life.
I am a guy who loves managing resources and very focused on achievements because I was born with a silver spoon but lost it due to the death of my father, I never wanted to experience the same thing as I did when he died.
She on the other hand is comfortable and okay with what she has, not too bothered about achievements.

I've been calling for management of resources for a while but she's the type that grew up in a very comfortable home and knows not how to manage resources.

Another issue on my part is that, she does not really care about how she looks and that's one of the things I care about.

I lost, or should I say resigned from my first job due to pressure and things became hard. I had to sell some of my landed properties so we could survive.

I got another Job and in six months, I made millions. We lived well until I wanted to chase my passion in banking again.

Got back into banking and to cut the story short, I met one lady where I was sent to. I loved her. I wish I had met her first honestly. In a year, she showed me a lot in the kind of woman I wanted. Then I lost my job again, this time because I wanted to go for youth service.

I got back home and I told my wife the game plan. I bought foodstuffs for at least two months and went for camp. In less than a week, my mother called me and was angry why I left my wife and two kids hungry. I exeated camp immediately and came back home. After investigating, I found out she sent the food to her mother who is an associate professor, without telling me and while she knows out conditions.

I got so angry. I wanted her out.
I considered things because my second child which she had by force is just 5months. She had the baby because she stopped taking contraceptives because of advice from people that if she has a male child for me, I'll stay.
After much, she can't leave, because who will take care of the boy?

Yesterday, she read my messages and discovered I was having an affair and wants to leave. I told the lady off this morning but, I still loved her.

I can't allow that. Even if she does, she has to wait for the boy to be at least a year old. Remember she was the one that wanted this baby, not me. Now she wants to leave the liability for me?
And I can't allow my kids to grow with her because I don't want them to learn such lifestyle.

What should I do?

You are an extremely foolish man.

Oh, you think the woman you're seeing now is better than your wife? Mad man.

Your problem started when you started falling in love with a strange woman. You should have just kept her as a sex tool and let it stay like that. You started comparing that woman in your head with your wife. You are a fool.

You have wronged your wife, go and beg her. This issue is the most trivial issue to cause a divorce.

Fvck you bro

This epistle reminds me of someone making excuses for cheating their spouse. You must have dated your wife for a while before getting married, now why are you ranting. She gave the foodstuff to her mum and am sure she must have mentioned it before but you dismissed it. Did you try to talk to her and hear her out? And pls, enough with the liability bullshit. He's your son for crying out loud. Do you know how it feels to be rejected by your own blood?Your son will grow up and will someday look up to you. I hope it will not be with disdain. Grow up man, you are just pathetic.Apologise to your wife and keep your zipper up!!