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Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by grandstar(m): 2:39pm On Aug 06, 2023
peretei2024:


I thank God, today am a graduate, married with 2 kids without their 1kobo contributed.

Does your father come around?
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by Gentlesoul2021(m): 2:44pm On Aug 06, 2023
Zonefree:
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So, you started tapping palm wine at the age of five


As I saw that part, I knew the story is all shade of rubbish.... Weyrey fit climb high tree at age 5
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by Omoawoke: 2:45pm On Aug 06, 2023
peretei2024:
My fellow Nairalanders,

Tell me why I must forgive my daddy and my Late Mummy.

I was 4years while my elder Sister was 6years when my daddy and my Mummy had a serious misunderstanding, so few weeks later, my daddy was transferred to Kaduna from Lagos being a Solder ( who knows I he was the on that requested for that).

On one fateful day, my Mummy went to the market to buy some stuffs in the Market, then here com my Daddy's younger Sister( Aunt) with a vehicle. She forced I and my elder Sister to the vehicle and moved is straight to my Daddy's village in Ondo State. We cried, cried ,
and cried but our tears couldn't saved us.

Finally we landed in a village where there is no light, no hospitals, no good schools, in the hand of strange people we don't know.

Remember I said we were moved when I was 4years. Now at 5years in the village, daddy never visited, mummy never visited, so I had to start tapping Palmwine just to raise money to start my Primary school in the village. After a year or so, I was able to get some money to pay for my Primary school. I decided that I can't continue with this Palmwine tapping at this year, so I work hard and raise some money to start selling bottles of kerosene to sponsor myself from Primary to Secondary school.

When I was in JSS3 , my Elder Sister got pregnant for a guy out of frustration and betrayal from the path of our Parents who abandoned us for years. Our Uncle in the village who never care about us , informed my daddy that his daughter is pregnant for a guy ooh, then my daddy said the guy must marry her . Finally the guy agreed, then my daddy who never visited us for over 15years came down to the village because of the money he will collect.

After marriage rites, I was taken to Lagos by my elder brother.

Note: my Mummy whom I never see for over 15years knicked me out of the house after spending just 1week with her in the house. Her complain was that I believe like a bush boy.

My elder Sister is still married to the guy in the village and she can't even express herself in English, and this is a lady that was born here in Lagos.

Tell me how I will forgive them after going through hell because of selfish Parents.

My mummy died 4years ago but I didn't even know where her grave is because we were never in good terms and till tomorrow, I will not forgive her not even my daddy.


Bad parents!!!

If I’d ever come to this world again, may I get good parents over and over again.
You need to move on, forget them and work hard to be successful. Then ensure to be good parents to your kids
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by peretei2024(m): 2:46pm On Aug 06, 2023
Gentlesoul2021:


As I saw that part, I knew the story is all shade of rubbish.... Weyrey fit climb high tree at age 5

Don't pray for life to push you too hard

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Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by Uche559(m): 2:48pm On Aug 06, 2023
How u take dey climb palm tree at 5yrs?, This ur story I dnt believe am. But if it's true, u r now married and a graduate so, move on biko
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by Typing: 2:49pm On Aug 06, 2023
peretei2024:
My fellow Nairalanders,

Tell me why I must forgive my daddy and my Late Mummy.

I was 4years while my elder Sister was 6years when my daddy and my Mummy had a serious misunderstanding, so few weeks later, my daddy was transferred to Kaduna from Lagos being a Solder ( who knows I he was the on that requested for that).

On one fateful day, my Mummy went to the market to buy some stuffs in the Market, then here com my Daddy's younger Sister( Aunt) with a vehicle. She forced I and my elder Sister to the vehicle and moved is straight to my Daddy's village in Ondo State. We cried, cried ,
and cried but our tears couldn't saved us.

Finally we landed in a village where there is no light, no hospitals, no good schools, in the hand of strange people we don't know.

Remember I said we were moved when I was 4years. Now at 5years in the village, daddy never visited, mummy never visited, so I had to start tapping Palmwine just to raise money to start my Primary school in the village. After a year or so, I was able to get some money to pay for my Primary school. I decided that I can't continue with this Palmwine tapping at this year, so I work hard and raise some money to start selling bottles of kerosene to sponsor myself from Primary to Secondary school.

When I was in JSS3 , my Elder Sister got pregnant for a guy out of frustration and betrayal from the path of our Parents who abandoned us for years. Our Uncle in the village who never care about us , informed my daddy that his daughter is pregnant for a guy ooh, then my daddy said the guy must marry her . Finally the guy agreed, then my daddy who never visited us for over 15years came down to the village because of the money he will collect.

After marriage rites, I was taken to Lagos by my elder brother.

Note: my Mummy whom I never see for over 15years knicked me out of the house after spending just 1week with her in the house. Her complain was that I believe like a bush boy.

My elder Sister is still married to the guy in the village and she can't even express herself in English, and this is a lady that was born here in Lagos.

Tell me how I will forgive them after going through hell because of selfish Parents.

My mummy died 4years ago but I didn't even know where her grave is because we were never in good terms and till tomorrow, I will not forgive her not even my daddy.


Oga you mean, you tap Palmwine like this at the age of 5?



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ei7tMTpXQmA
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by Gentlesoul2021(m): 2:52pm On Aug 06, 2023
peretei2024:


Don't pray for life to push you too hard

In this context, come on, look at it.... Palmwine tapping is not just an ordinary work. Requires skills and all, for a 5 year old. You guys believe everything you see online.... Kowai ...
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by okunwaye(m): 2:52pm On Aug 06, 2023
Wodu89:



I went thru atleast three.to five times.more hell. God doesn't.tolerate any form.of.unforgiveness.
Shove your stupid god inside your ass, fooool!!! angry

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Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by peretei2024(m): 2:53pm On Aug 06, 2023
peretei2024:


Don't pray for life to push you too hard

You see when I started . Look at my hand and facem you know nothing bro

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Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by themanderon: 3:02pm On Aug 06, 2023
peretei2024:


I thank God, today am a graduate, married with 2 kids without their 1kobo contributed.

If you do not forgive then you can never be at peace with yourself and God himself will not forgive you because you cannot say you have not tresspasssed against God. If you want true inner peace you have to forgive and be appreciative that everything eventually turned out well for you despite all you went through. Do not raise you children in hatred and bitterness for your parents.
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by Shattuck(m): 3:05pm On Aug 06, 2023
peretei2024:


I thank God, today am a graduate, married with 2 kids without their 1kobo contributed.
bro, I feel your pain, I understand why you can't forgive your parents, truthfully it is understandable, you are not obligated to forgive them, the best way to heal is to just come to terms that you never had parents and that they were terrible people, there are lots of folks like your parents and lot of kids who grew up under similar circumstances. It makes no sense, but we are who we are, and your parents were terrible people.

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Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by Alliswell248: 3:05pm On Aug 06, 2023
peretei2024:


You can see I didn't reply him bcz if I do I will curse his generation

I emphatize with you and pray that God would heal you and take care of you and the lovely children you have.

I know you might not like this, I pray God would give you the grace to forgive them. U forgiveness is sin against God. You own God, and not your parents, everything about you.
Pls pray to God to help you forgive your parents.

Lastly, don't be too far from your sister.

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Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by Desusi: 3:07pm On Aug 06, 2023
Zonefree:
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So, you started tapping palm wine at the age of five

ORISIRISI
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by saintneo(m): 3:09pm On Aug 06, 2023
peretei2024

I read you story. I don't even know where to start to be candid you have being through a lot.

Nonetheless, you have to forgive your parents so that you can heal internally. This statement is easier said than done, but a gradual softening of your mind will help.


Given that you typed this story implies that you took your education seriously and you have improved a lot.


Get closer to God, please forgive your parents and see how lighter and faster you become.
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by candygist: 3:11pm On Aug 06, 2023
Samantha124:
But you should be angry with your aunt, she's the one who forcefully took the two of you away from your mother for no reason and you don't know the reasons why your mother never bothered to visit you guys... What if your aunt threatened her?

And what do you mean your sister got pregnant as a result of frustrations? Are you saying your sister decided to add more frustrations into her life by getting pregnant just because she was frustrated with your parents?

You like emebo, what do you need such information for ?
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by WriterX(m): 3:13pm On Aug 06, 2023
peretei2024:
My fellow Nairalanders,

Tell me why I must forgive my daddy and my Late Mummy.

I was 4years while my elder Sister was 6years when my daddy and my Mummy had a serious misunderstanding, so few weeks later, my daddy was transferred to Kaduna from Lagos being a Solder ( who knows I he was the on that requested for that).

On one fateful day, my Mummy went to the market to buy some stuffs in the Market, then here com my Daddy's younger Sister( Aunt) with a vehicle. She forced I and my elder Sister to the vehicle and moved is straight to my Daddy's village in Ondo State. We cried, cried ,
and cried but our tears couldn't saved us.

Finally we landed in a village where there is no light, no hospitals, no good schools, in the hand of strange people we don't know.

Remember I said we were moved when I was 4years. Now at 5years in the village, daddy never visited, mummy never visited, so I had to start tapping Palmwine just to raise money to start my Primary school in the village. After a year or so, I was able to get some money to pay for my Primary school. I decided that I can't continue with this Palmwine tapping at this year, so I work hard and raise some money to start selling bottles of kerosene to sponsor myself from Primary to Secondary school.

When I was in JSS3 , my Elder Sister got pregnant for a guy out of frustration and betrayal from the path of our Parents who abandoned us for years. Our Uncle in the village who never care about us , informed my daddy that his daughter is pregnant for a guy ooh, then my daddy said the guy must marry her . Finally the guy agreed, then my daddy who never visited us for over 15years came down to the village because of the money he will collect.

After marriage rites, I was taken to Lagos by my elder brother.

Note: my Mummy whom I never see for over 15years knicked me out of the house after spending just 1week with her in the house. Her complain was that I believe like a bush boy.

My elder Sister is still married to the guy in the village and she can't even express herself in English, and this is a lady that was born here in Lagos.

Tell me how I will forgive them after going through hell because of selfish Parents.

My mummy died 4years ago but I didn't even know where her grave is because we were never in good terms and till tomorrow, I will not forgive her not even my daddy.



When I tell you that I can feel and understand your pain, I really mean it brother, yes truly , I was never in your circumstances but i was in my own circumstances and whilst you HAVE ALL REASONS AND RIGHTS to not forgive , I will ask you to FORGIVE, you are where you are for a reason and I don't mean it as some motivational speaker but seeing myself go through a lot as well, brother, I want you to know you haveto forgive it is the only way you can move forward, that heavy burden you carry around will not only drag you back but prevent a lot from.dragging you forward as I have come to learn, we forgive for our sake so that our the lord Jesus can forgive us and help us move forward. You have been through a lot, dear friend it is time to move on and look forward, I did and it doesn't make things automatically easy but you will definitely be able to move forward, time to let that pain go away. Call her and his name (your parents ) and tell them you forgive them. May the good lord strengthen and bless you.

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Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by Nobody: 3:14pm On Aug 06, 2023
Where did I say I needed the information?
candygist:


You like emebo, what do you need such information for ?
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by Josephkabila12: 3:16pm On Aug 06, 2023
peretei2024:
My fellow Nairalanders,

Tell me why I must forgive my daddy and my Late Mummy.

I was 4years while my elder Sister was 6years when my daddy and my Mummy had a serious misunderstanding, so few weeks later, my daddy was transferred to Kaduna from Lagos being a Solder ( who knows I he was the on that requested for that).

On one fateful day, my Mummy went to the market to buy some stuffs in the Market, then here com my Daddy's younger Sister( Aunt) with a vehicle. She forced I and my elder Sister to the vehicle and moved is straight to my Daddy's village in Ondo State. We cried, cried ,
and cried but our tears couldn't saved us.

Finally we landed in a village where there is no light, no hospitals, no good schools, in the hand of strange people we don't know.

Remember I said we were moved when I was 4years. Now at 5years in the village, daddy never visited, mummy never visited, so I had to start tapping Palmwine just to raise money to start my Primary school in the village. After a year or so, I was able to get some money to pay for my Primary school. I decided that I can't continue with this Palmwine tapping at this year, so I work hard and raise some money to start selling bottles of kerosene to sponsor myself from Primary to Secondary school.

When I was in JSS3 , my Elder Sister got pregnant for a guy out of frustration and betrayal from the path of our Parents who abandoned us for years. Our Uncle in the village who never care about us , informed my daddy that his daughter is pregnant for a guy ooh, then my daddy said the guy must marry her . Finally the guy agreed, then my daddy who never visited us for over 15years came down to the village because of the money he will collect.

After marriage rites, I was taken to Lagos by my elder brother.

Note: my Mummy whom I never see for over 15years knicked me out of the house after spending just 1week with her in the house. Her complain was that I believe like a bush boy.

My elder Sister is still married to the guy in the village and she can't even express herself in English, and this is a lady that was born here in Lagos.

Tell me how I will forgive them after going through hell because of selfish Parents.

My mummy died 4years ago but I didn't even know where her grave is because we were never in good terms and till tomorrow, I will not forgive her not even my daddy.

who be dis one
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by Govocrete: 3:19pm On Aug 06, 2023
You need to forgive and let go of the past

You parent never planned to divorce but situations beyond their control lead them to choose divorce.

Secondly, did you find out from your parents why none of them visited you and your sister in the village after their divorce?

In your write up, you sounded so bittered about your parent. You mentioned that your father only visited to collect money entitled to him from your sister's marriage. I disagree with you on this, how much is the bride price. The bride price will not be enough to cover his travelling expenses.

If you father is still alive , swallow your bitterness and pay him a visit along with his ground children or pickup the phone and call him.

If your father failed to make you a proud son, make him a proud father by mending fences. Life is short do it today.
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by sunbreaker: 3:25pm On Aug 06, 2023
Zonefree:
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So, you started tapping palm wine at the age of five

Good cooked story. What are the tricks he used to climb palm trees at age of five?
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by Thomthom(m): 3:26pm On Aug 06, 2023
Children that don't ask questions... Why did you not ask questions and do Ur own investigation to know what really happened that made them abandoned u guys.. it's good we asked questions from mum and dad first before conclusion.. If I were in ur shoes, I would v looked for a way to know the reason u were moved to village and the reason behind it.. not with one part with both mum and dad.. Because some children will just ask Mon what happened, mum will blow all the lies and spoil the husband to the kids and I will hear the children will say I will never forgive my father because he abandoned us. Whereas they did not inquire what happened from the father also.

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Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by maxiuc(m): 3:26pm On Aug 06, 2023
Zonefree:
[b][/b]

So, you started tapping palm wine at the age of five

And he was also the drama coordinator in primary two I know this guy

grin grin grin grin grin grin

Please forgive ooooo
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by nnamdiosu(m): 3:28pm On Aug 06, 2023
You talk as if you not forgiving your mom and dad is affecting them where they are.

You talk as if there's an award for. The most unforgiving child.

Meanwhile I'll give you an advise, if you like take it. If you like don't forgive me too.

In this life, there are great people who have brilliant starts and destinies. A key indicator of such people is the HARDSHIP they face in life.

It's very clear that you are a great man but you are focused on your pains. Focused on the blame.
You see, throughout your ordeals, I just read complaints, blames, anger and pain in your write up.


Grow up. Move on. Hustle hard. Fight for your life and destiny. You're already at a disadvantage, leave unforgivness which will only end up making your bitter and in chains.
Toy need God, like really really need God.
Fo to him and express your pain. Forgive and move on.

Forget about the past. Look to the future. Believe it or not, there are people that suffered more than you.

What about the girl whose own father raped her. What will she now say?
What about those in orphanage homes whose parents abandoned them right from birth, they didn't even know their parents at all.

Forgiveness is beneficial to you the forgiver and not to the forgiven. It's to your own benefit, and not the dead people who are beyond this world.

I truly hope you listen to my advise.
May God help and guide you. Amen.
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by frozen70(f): 3:30pm On Aug 06, 2023
peretei2024:
My fellow Nairalanders,

Tell me why I must forgive my daddy and my Late Mummy.

I was 4years while my elder Sister was 6years when my daddy and my Mummy had a serious misunderstanding, so few weeks later, my daddy was transferred to Kaduna from Lagos being a Solder ( who knows I he was the on that requested for that).

On one fateful day, my Mummy went to the market to buy some stuffs in the Market, then here com my Daddy's younger Sister( Aunt) with a vehicle. She forced I and my elder Sister to the vehicle and moved is straight to my Daddy's village in Ondo State. We cried, cried ,
and cried but our tears couldn't saved us.

Finally we landed in a village where there is no light, no hospitals, no good schools, in the hand of strange people we don't know.

Remember I said we were moved when I was 4years. Now at 5years in the village, daddy never visited, mummy never visited, so I had to start tapping Palmwine just to raise money to start my Primary school in the village. After a year or so, I was able to get some money to pay for my Primary school. I decided that I can't continue with this Palmwine tapping at this year, so I work hard and raise some money to start selling bottles of kerosene to sponsor myself from Primary to Secondary school.

When I was in JSS3 , my Elder Sister got pregnant for a guy out of frustration and betrayal from the path of our Parents who abandoned us for years. Our Uncle in the village who never care about us , informed my daddy that his daughter is pregnant for a guy ooh, then my daddy said the guy must marry her . Finally the guy agreed, then my daddy who never visited us for over 15years came down to the village because of the money he will collect.

After marriage rites, I was taken to Lagos by my elder brother.

Note: my Mummy whom I never see for over 15years knicked me out of the house after spending just 1week with her in the house. Her complain was that I believe like a bush boy.

My elder Sister is still married to the guy in the village and she can't even express herself in English, and this is a lady that was born here in Lagos.

Tell me how I will forgive them after going through hell because of selfish Parents.

My mummy died 4years ago but I didn't even know where her grave is because we were never in good terms and till tomorrow, I will not forgive her not even my daddy.


Sorry about such emotional pains you passed through form a very tender age

As for your mum, forgive her for she is already gone and you need to free your mind and be happy

As for your dad who is still alive, just leave that man first

Find your bearing and stand well

A time will come when he will looks for you

You will serve him the same way he served you
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by Sweetvie: 3:33pm On Aug 06, 2023
Hmm
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by Chiuzk: 3:34pm On Aug 06, 2023
peretei2024:


I thank God, today am a graduate, married with 2 kids without their 1kobo contributed.
congratulations bro, but sure, you have to forgive them. Not because they deserve your forgiveness, but because it is the right thing to do.
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by Blue86(m): 3:37pm On Aug 06, 2023
This story is touching actually.
And I don't blame you if you are hurt.

But do you know your mom right now, and your dad are in deep regrets right now?
Do you know they reaped whatever negligence they had towards you?
Look at how mom died without you nor your sister even knowing where her rotten body is?

And dad can't even look at you eye ball to eye ball, I guess.

I want you to forgive them.

Because it will keep hurting you.
You made it without them.
You don't need them to live rent free in your heart and mind.

Let Christ Jesus help you to forgive and heal.
Because it is written, he heals the broken heart, and binds their wounds.
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by simplelad(m): 3:39pm On Aug 06, 2023
It's a terrible experience brother. It hurts you a lot, I can feel that from your write up. Regardless of what they have done, you still owe them kindness, leave the matter to Almighty God because you will also be accountable to God how you were able to take care of them. Be kind to your dad that's still alive and forgive your mum
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by abbey621(m): 3:40pm On Aug 06, 2023
E no go better for anyone who asks you to forgive....Abeg continue holding the grudge, the bitterness, the frustrations in you. Perhaps when your papa pass away, maybe then you can finally say good riddance!

Listen my man, forgiveness is not for them but for you, it is for closure. You do not want to carry all that negativity into the next generation. Imagine your kids asking about your parents and all you can narrate to them is curse and frustrations.....NOT COOL!

In the end, nobody gives a flip if you forgive or not, I can bet my last kobo your papa has kids elsewhere and his military training has drained the normal emotions a parent should have for his kids. Look at it this way, be thankful they gave you life, you could have been flushed down the toilet or left inside a condom grin grin grin

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Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by candygist: 3:45pm On Aug 06, 2023
Samantha124:
Where did I say I needed the information?

Your Question mark.
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by linearity: 3:46pm On Aug 06, 2023
The problem with not forgiving is that, it affects you more and gradually kills you from inside or cause you to do something you will forever regret against your target.

Forgiveness is a medicine, it will heal you from all those hurts you passed through. It will bring you inner peace, it will unchain you so you can move forward, it declog your mental mind, emotions and drop those things that are weighing you down….take this medicine and see how you will start to heal.

Remember I said forgive and not forget. That stage is your life is a teaching period, it was learning period. You should never forget the life lessons, use those knowledge to guide your today and everyday life, use them to navigate your family life and how you bring up your children, remember them and put them to work for you.
Re: I Can't Forgive My Late Mummy And My Daddy by Nobody: 3:47pm On Aug 06, 2023
candygist:


Your Question mark.

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