Zonefree:
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So, you started tapping palm wine at the age of five

laugh wan kill me die

peretei2024:
My fellow Nairalanders,

Tell me why I must forgive my daddy and my Late Mummy.

I was 4years while my elder Sister was 6years when my daddy and my Mummy had a serious misunderstanding, so few weeks later, my daddy was transferred to Kaduna from Lagos being a Solder ( who knows I he was the on that requested for that).

On one fateful day, my Mummy went to the market to buy some stuffs in the Market, then here com my Daddy's younger Sister( Aunt) with a vehicle. She forced I and my elder Sister to the vehicle and moved is straight to my Daddy's village in Ondo State. We cried, cried ,
and cried but our tears couldn't saved us.

Finally we landed in a village where there is no light, no hospitals, no good schools, in the hand of strange people we don't know.

Remember I said we were moved when I was 4years. Now at 5years in the village, daddy never visited, mummy never visited, so I had to start tapping Palmwine just to raise money to start my Primary school in the village. After a year or so, I was able to get some money to pay for my Primary school. I decided that I can't continue with this Palmwine tapping at this year, so I work hard and raise some money to start selling bottles of kerosene to sponsor myself from Primary to Secondary school.

When I was in JSS3 , my Elder Sister got pregnant for a guy out of frustration and betrayal from the path of our Parents who abandoned us for years. Our Uncle in the village who never care about us , informed my daddy that his daughter is pregnant for a guy ooh, then my daddy said the guy must marry her . Finally the guy agreed, then my daddy who never visited us for over 15years came down to the village because of the money he will collect.

After marriage rites, I was taken to Lagos by my elder brother.

Note: my Mummy whom I never see for over 15years knicked me out of the house after spending just 1week with her in the house. Her complain was that I believe like a bush boy.

My elder Sister is still married to the guy in the village and she can't even express herself in English, and this is a lady that was born here in Lagos.

Tell me how I will forgive them after going through hell because of selfish Parents.

My mummy died 4years ago but I didn't even know where her grave is because we were never in good terms and till tomorrow, I will not forgive her not even my daddy.

I was surprised to see "elder brother" in the story. Where did that come from. I hope this unforgiveness had not/won't hinder your progress. You should be making this post after you have made it in life, then go and show face in your village, and let it filter into you father's ears (in case he doesn't live there now) that you have made it.

Nä so I watch one irresponsible man bagging his son to forgive and take him in now that the young boy has money, meanwhile he drove the boy out of his house when he was 12 because he married a single mother with 3 children. The shameless man thinks by just saying sorry pains disappear.

WHATSOEVER A MAN SOWS HE SHALL REAP

Zonefree:
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So, you started tapping palm wine at the age of five

5 in village... Simple thing

peretei2024:
My fellow Nairalanders,

Tell me why I must forgive my daddy and my Late Mummy.

I was 4years while my elder Sister was 6years when my daddy and my Mummy had a serious misunderstanding, so few weeks later, my daddy was transferred to Kaduna from Lagos being a Solder ( who knows I he was the on that requested for that).

On one fateful day, my Mummy went to the market to buy some stuffs in the Market, then here com my Daddy's younger Sister( Aunt) with a vehicle. She forced I and my elder Sister to the vehicle and moved is straight to my Daddy's village in Ondo State. We cried, cried ,
and cried but our tears couldn't saved us.

Finally we landed in a village where there is no light, no hospitals, no good schools, in the hand of strange people we don't know.

Remember I said we were moved when I was 4years. Now at 5years in the village, daddy never visited, mummy never visited, so I had to start tapping Palmwine just to raise money to start my Primary school in the village. After a year or so, I was able to get some money to pay for my Primary school. I decided that I can't continue with this Palmwine tapping at this year, so I work hard and raise some money to start selling bottles of kerosene to sponsor myself from Primary to Secondary school.

When I was in JSS3 , my Elder Sister got pregnant for a guy out of frustration and betrayal from the path of our Parents who abandoned us for years. Our Uncle in the village who never care about us , informed my daddy that his daughter is pregnant for a guy ooh, then my daddy said the guy must marry her . Finally the guy agreed, then my daddy who never visited us for over 15years came down to the village because of the money he will collect.

After marriage rites, I was taken to Lagos by my elder brother.

Note: my Mummy whom I never see for over 15years knicked me out of the house after spending just 1week with her in the house. Her complain was that I believe like a bush boy.

My elder Sister is still married to the guy in the village and she can't even express herself in English, and this is a lady that was born here in Lagos.

Tell me how I will forgive them after going through hell because of selfish Parents.

My mummy died 4years ago but I didn't even know where her grave is because we were never in good terms and till tomorrow, I will not forgive her not even my daddy.

Hmmmm..
God will be strength..

peretei2024:
My fellow Nairalanders,

Tell me why I must forgive my daddy and my Late Mummy.

I was 4years while my elder Sister was 6years when my daddy and my Mummy had a serious misunderstanding, so few weeks later, my daddy was transferred to Kaduna from Lagos being a Solder ( who knows I he was the on that requested for that).

On one fateful day, my Mummy went to the market to buy some stuffs in the Market, then here com my Daddy's younger Sister( Aunt) with a vehicle. She forced I and my elder Sister to the vehicle and moved is straight to my Daddy's village in Ondo State. We cried, cried ,
and cried but our tears couldn't saved us.

Finally we landed in a village where there is no light, no hospitals, no good schools, in the hand of strange people we don't know.

Remember I said we were moved when I was 4years. Now at 5years in the village, daddy never visited, mummy never visited, so I had to start tapping Palmwine just to raise money to start my Primary school in the village. After a year or so, I was able to get some money to pay for my Primary school. I decided that I can't continue with this Palmwine tapping at this year, so I work hard and raise some money to start selling bottles of kerosene to sponsor myself from Primary to Secondary school.

When I was in JSS3 , my Elder Sister got pregnant for a guy out of frustration and betrayal from the path of our Parents who abandoned us for years. Our Uncle in the village who never care about us , informed my daddy that his daughter is pregnant for a guy ooh, then my daddy said the guy must marry her . Finally the guy agreed, then my daddy who never visited us for over 15years came down to the village because of the money he will collect.

After marriage rites, I was taken to Lagos by my elder brother.

Note: my Mummy whom I never see for over 15years knicked me out of the house after spending just 1week with her in the house. Her complain was that I believe like a bush boy.

My elder Sister is still married to the guy in the village and she can't even express herself in English, and this is a lady that was born here in Lagos.

Tell me how I will forgive them after going through hell because of selfish Parents.

My mummy died 4years ago but I didn't even know where her grave is because we were never in good terms and till tomorrow, I will not forgive her not even my daddy.

Oga no matter what pain they caused yhu,
Yhu are killing yhurself holding back to the grudges and expecting it to pain the dead

I can't even express how I feel sorry for yhu....
Carry on with yhur unforgiving spirit nah...

So yhu feel those other who grew with both parents are all better of?
Think twice....
Don't be drinking poison and expecting another person to die....
It doesn't work that way....

Wait oo taping palmy at Five,? How did you do that?

zoeymikey:

Ejaka mi

ntank akpaniko

HoneySwag:
I don't need to read your story before I come to a conclusion that you have a problem with yourself. You're not the first person coming from a damaged home, they're a lot of people out there and they are moving on.
Thank God your parents are not alive for you to make their lives miserable[/font][font=Lucida Sans Unicode]. You're only causing more damage to yourself, the earlier you forgive them and move on with your life the better for you.
Mistake has been made, why don't you help your future kids by correcting that. You think if they had they wouldn't have invested in their children's lives?
All fingers are not equal, not everyone has the knowledge on what next to do if the option they completely depended upon failed them. Forgive and move on

sometimes you just can't help than to insult people online

Samantha124:
But you should be angry with your aunt, she's the one who forcefully took the two of you away from your mother for no reason and you don't know the reasons why your mother never bothered to visit you guys... What if your aunt threatened her?

And what do you mean your sister got pregnant as a result of frustrations? Are you saying your sister decided to add more frustrations into her life by getting pregnant just because she was frustrated with your parents?

Exactly my thoughts. It takes determination to be successful in life.
Your story is similar to many others. Thank God you are a graduate now. I will refer perei to read a novel written by the late Niyi Oniororo, titled "persevere dear brother".

peretei2024:
My fellow Nairalanders,

My mummy died 4years ago but I didn't even know where her grave is because we were never in good terms and till tomorrow, I will not forgive her not even my daddy.

Omo...this story is quite painful. Honestly.

peretei2024:
My fellow Nairalanders,

My mummy died 4years ago but I didn't even know where her grave is because we were never in good terms and till tomorrow, I will not forgive her not even my daddy.

Omo...this story is quite painful. Honestly. Are you currently in Lagos?

peretei2024:


You can see I didn't reply him bcz if I do I will curse his generation

The thing dey pain when it's coming from parents ... E dey pain ... This life ehn ... It's one that cares about you truly ooo be your blood..

Nawa o

Our story is like the same I'm not in good terms with my dad too

peretei2024:


I thank God, today am a graduate, married with 2 kids without their 1kobo contributed.

Just move on with your life, and try and help your sister. Remember God in all you do and you shall surely prosper if you are committed to it, many successful people in the society today had same childhood experience. Lastly forgive your parents so that you can have peace of mind and so that God will bless you because for God to work in your life, your heart and mind must be clean.

peretei2024:
My fellow Nairalanders,

Tell me why I must forgive my daddy and my Late Mummy.

I was 4years while my elder Sister was 6years when my daddy and my Mummy had a serious misunderstanding, so few weeks later, my daddy was transferred to Kaduna from Lagos being a Solder ( who knows I he was the on that requested for that).

On one fateful day, my Mummy went to the market to buy some stuffs in the Market, then here com my Daddy's younger Sister( Aunt) with a vehicle. She forced I and my elder Sister to the vehicle and moved is straight to my Daddy's village in Ondo State. We cried, cried ,
and cried but our tears couldn't saved us.

Finally we landed in a village where there is no light, no hospitals, no good schools, in the hand of strange people we don't know.

Remember I said we were moved when I was 4years. Now at 5years in the village, daddy never visited, mummy never visited, so I had to start tapping Palmwine just to raise money to start my Primary school in the village. After a year or so, I was able to get some money to pay for my Primary school. I decided that I can't continue with this Palmwine tapping at this year, so I work hard and raise some money to start selling bottles of kerosene to sponsor myself from Primary to Secondary school.

When I was in JSS3 , my Elder Sister got pregnant for a guy out of frustration and betrayal from the path of our Parents who abandoned us for years. Our Uncle in the village who never care about us , informed my daddy that his daughter is pregnant for a guy ooh, then my daddy said the guy must marry her . Finally the guy agreed, then my daddy who never visited us for over 15years came down to the village because of the money he will collect.

After marriage rites, I was taken to Lagos by my elder brother.

Note: my Mummy whom I never see for over 15years knicked me out of the house after spending just 1week with her in the house. Her complain was that I believe like a bush boy.

My elder Sister is still married to the guy in the village and she can't even express herself in English, and this is a lady that was born here in Lagos.

Tell me how I will forgive them after going through hell because of selfish Parents.

My mummy died 4years ago but I didn't even know where her grave is because we were never in good terms and till tomorrow, I will not forgive her not even my daddy.

Your story is filled with half baked lies, you said you and your elder sister (6 years old) in the second paragraph but her age reduced to 5 years old before the end of the story...Chai!

You also claim you started tapping palmwine at age 5...haba did your parents who were based in Lagos started teaching you how to tap palmwine in your mother's womb?

sixtus3606:


Omo...this story is quite painful. Honestly. Are you currently in Lagos?

Yes am in Lagos

JetApartment:


Your story is filled with half baked lies, you said you and your elder sister (6 years old) in the second paragraph but her age reduced to 5 years old before the end of the story...Chai!

You also claim you started tapping palmwine at age 5...haba did your parents who were based in Lagos started teaching you how to tap palmwine in your mother's womb?

I will curse you if you try me

I have to quote this, every soul need it
The one that forgives does himself a favour. Forgiving does not mean forgetting.

Skyfornia:
Forgiveness is what you do for yourself and not for others. For the sake of your peace of mind.

Look at this scenario, any time you are happy and you remember what your parents did to you..anger will well up in your spirit and you will become sad. Who is that affecting? It is you!

Purge yourself of any bitterness against your parents and consider their actions one of the trainings fate brought your way to sharpen your tomorrow.

If you keep dwelling in the past, you won't move to your future.

Some f00ls here commenting rubbish. They themselves are traumatised without knowing it. This is the reason Nigeria is what it is today; a lot of traumatised f00ls who never knew they are traumatised and who never sought for help.

jaeyking:

This story get as e be oo

It is well

I tell you. E no straight. Looks more like a script.

Please forgive and forget so you too can have rest and peace

Metrofox:


There's a book you should go read , toxic parents by Susan Forward. Your parents were not selfish but inadequate but you have the power to reclaim your own life and move on

Available online?

My dear brother,Embrace Jesus,pour out your heart to Him and He will give you foreclosure.

Bro you have to first of all forgive yourself then forgive your parents then move on with your life. Everybody has one regret or the other.

I wanted to do medicine, my father because of his selfish interest decided to fill engineering in my jamb. I did it and passed, after a year in school I fell in love with a girl that was when my father realized I need to go and study abroad. Ok, I agreed because no source of funds except my dad. After school, I'm now into entertainment and my friend married my girlfriend. One funny thing is that the girl is now a powerful political figure, happily married with three children. She doesn't want to chat me let alone receive my calls because she doesn't want to fall for me a second time.

Guy most parents ruined most children's future, but you have to move on, forgive and forget. Now the engineering I did isn't even useful anymore because I am into movie making and since I forgave him for messing up my future, I have found peace of mind. I stay far away in Barcelona doing movies.

Bro forgive, forget and move on with your life. This life is short, enjoy it while it lasts

Samantha124:
But you should be angry with your aunt, she's the one who forcefully took the two of you away from your mother for no reason and you don't know the reasons why your mother never bothered to visit you guys... What if your aunt threatened her?

And what do you mean your sister got pregnant as a result of frustrations? Are you saying your sister decided to add more frustrations into her life by getting pregnant just because she was frustrated with your parents?

A girl in JSS3 which this kind of experience will most likely get pregnant unless she has proper guidance from family. Unfortunately, that didn't happen.

She was merely looking for soft landing and in her little brain at the time, the guy seemed to be taking care of her and showing her the love her own parents didn't show. Automatically, she gravitates towards him and does whatever he tells her to do.

You see how the pattern flows?

HoneySwag:
I don't need to read your story before I come to a conclusion that you have a problem with yourself. You're not the first person coming from a damaged home, they're a lot of people out there and they are moving on.
Thank God your parents are not alive for you to make their lives miserable. You're only causing more damage to yourself, the earlier you forgive them and move on with your life the better for you.
Mistake has been made, why don't you help your future kids by correcting that. You think if they had they wouldn't have invested in their children's lives?
All fingers are not equal, not everyone has the knowledge on what next to do if the option they completely depended upon failed them. Forgive and move on

As good as your advice seem, it's too hard and harsh. Communicating empathy is very important even when you disagree with someone. You don't go hard on someone with trauma please

How is this your mum's fault ? It should be your aunty that came to forcefully dragged you away , and your foolish father that failed to take care of you.



uote author=peretei2024 post=124917624]My fellow Nairalanders,

Tell me why I must forgive my daddy and my Late Mummy.

I was 4years while my elder Sister was 6years when my daddy and my Mummy had a serious misunderstanding, so few weeks later, my daddy was transferred to Kaduna from Lagos being a Solder ( who knows I he was the on that requested for that).

On one fateful day, my Mummy went to the market to buy some stuffs in the Market, then here com my Daddy's younger Sister( Aunt) with a vehicle. She forced I and my elder Sister to the vehicle and moved is straight to my Daddy's village in Ondo State. We cried, cried ,
and cried but our tears couldn't saved us.

Finally we landed in a village where there is no light, no hospitals, no good schools, in the hand of strange people we don't know.

Remember I said we were moved when I was 4years. Now at 5years in the village, daddy never visited, mummy never visited, so I had to start tapping Palmwine just to raise money to start my Primary school in the village. After a year or so, I was able to get some money to pay for my Primary school. I decided that I can't continue with this Palmwine tapping at this year, so I work hard and raise some money to start selling bottles of kerosene to sponsor myself from Primary to Secondary school.

When I was in JSS3 , my Elder Sister got pregnant for a guy out of frustration and betrayal from the path of our Parents who abandoned us for years. Our Uncle in the village who never care about us , informed my daddy that his daughter is pregnant for a guy ooh, then my daddy said the guy must marry her . Finally the guy agreed, then my daddy who never visited us for over 15years came down to the village because of the money he will collect.

After marriage rites, I was taken to Lagos by my elder brother.

Note: my Mummy whom I never see for over 15years knicked me out of the house after spending just 1week with her in the house. Her complain was that I believe like a bush boy.

My elder Sister is still married to the guy in the village and she can't even express herself in English, and this is a lady that was born here in Lagos.

Tell me how I will forgive them after going through hell because of selfish Parents.

My mummy died 4years ago but I didn't even know where her grave is because we were never in good terms and till tomorrow, I will not forgive her not even my daddy.

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peretei2024:
My fellow Nairalanders,

Tell me why I must forgive my daddy and my Late Mummy.

I was 4years while my elder Sister was 6years when my daddy and my Mummy had a serious misunderstanding, so few weeks later, my daddy was transferred to Kaduna from Lagos being a Solder ( who knows I he was the on that requested for that).

On one fateful day, my Mummy went to the market to buy some stuffs in the Market, then here com my Daddy's younger Sister( Aunt) with a vehicle. She forced I and my elder Sister to the vehicle and moved is straight to my Daddy's village in Ondo State. We cried, cried ,
and cried but our tears couldn't saved us.

Finally we landed in a village where there is no light, no hospitals, no good schools, in the hand of strange people we don't know.

Remember I said we were moved when I was 4years. Now at 5years in the village, daddy never visited, mummy never visited, so I had to start tapping Palmwine just to raise money to start my Primary school in the village. After a year or so, I was able to get some money to pay for my Primary school. I decided that I can't continue with this Palmwine tapping at this year, so I work hard and raise some money to start selling bottles of kerosene to sponsor myself from Primary to Secondary school.

When I was in JSS3 , my Elder Sister got pregnant for a guy out of frustration and betrayal from the path of our Parents who abandoned us for years. Our Uncle in the village who never care about us , informed my daddy that his daughter is pregnant for a guy ooh, then my daddy said the guy must marry her . Finally the guy agreed, then my daddy who never visited us for over 15years came down to the village because of the money he will collect.

After marriage rites, I was taken to Lagos by my elder brother.

Note: my Mummy whom I never see for over 15years knicked me out of the house after spending just 1week with her in the house. Her complain was that I believe like a bush boy.

My elder Sister is still married to the guy in the village and she can't even express herself in English, and this is a lady that was born here in Lagos.

Tell me how I will forgive them after going through hell because of selfish Parents.

My mummy died 4years ago but I didn't even know where her grave is because we were never in good terms and till tomorrow, I will not forgive her not even my daddy.

Your mummy kicked you out coz you behave like bush boy🙄

Not because of that, she still sees your dad in you, maybe you resemble your dad.

At times, you forget about people's mistake and focus on yourself. Let me tell you a short story. There was this woman that always brings her two sons to my house every Saturday, she comes to wash clothes and clean up the house. I like her kids coz they are smart and intelligent. I always allow the kid to come inside to play with my kids, eat and when they are leaving, I will give them gifts. She came one day without the kids, I asked her and she told me that she had issue with her husband, and the husband took her kids to village without her knowledge.

She is from akwa ibom, the husband is from Benin. She did everything possible to have her kids back but the husband's family refused. She reported to police station, but she don't have funds to mobilize them. They even threaten her with juju. Now she gave up, she settled with her husband but the husband still refused to bring back the kids.

The husband story was that both of them are struggling, can't afford to feed, the reason he conclude to take the kids to his parents in the village for proper feeding and care.

You see ehn life happens, if you scale through, forgive all the parties involved so that you will have peace of mind to enjoy your life, and also have no case to answer before the Almighty God.

Forgive your dad if he is still alive, make peace with him. When you close to him, you will see clearer pictures of what really happened that leaders to sending you and your sis to village. I wish you all the best in life

When you don't have cash as a woman and there is nothing u can do to survive at the moment'' many women get into relationship to ease the stress and in that process it may lead to pregnancy''
I don't think u will understand this because u seems like somebody raised in developed evinroment''
Frustration bad'' sama

Samantha124:
But you should be angry with your aunt, she's the one who forcefully took the two of you away from your mother for no reason and you don't know the reasons why your mother never bothered to visit you guys... What if your aunt threatened her?

And what do you mean your sister got pregnant as a result of frustrations? Are you saying your sister decided to add more frustrations into her life by getting pregnant just because she was frustrated with your parents?

That's your problem, not mine. Who your forgiveness epp?

You'll go and meet them there, you hear?