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Matix222:
You day sleep atttol? All around the clock you are on NL

pongwa:
I think you are the bad friend. He referring you for the job you are enjoying higher pay means he is a true friend. If he doesn't want the best for you he wouldn't do that. You have wronged a good person, you better restitute or èlse karma is gonna knock at your door soon

IconicR:
I sleep early and wake early.
Early to bed, early to rise.

Bellotelli:
And you are jobless,.. always on nairaland like a stray 🐕.

pongwa:
I think you are the bad friend. He referring you for the job you are enjoying higher pay means he is a true friend. If he doesn't want the best for you he wouldn't do that. You have wronged a good person, you better restitute or èlse karma is gonna knock at your door soon

MrsTwrite:
Na poor people dey keep friends.

workchopNG:
I don't know if this is the right section for this topic, but then, since it's about relationship/friendship, I decided to post it here.

So, I read a rumour of how a young girl who scored 9 As in her WAEC result was poisoned to death. I can't confirm the authenticity of that story, but it took me to memory lane... Maybe, it was her best friend that poisoned her to death out of jealousy. That led me to create this thread.

Back to the topic. “It is better to be alone, than to be in bad company.” – George Washington.

I had my taste of a very bad friendship which lasted for more than 10 years. We met in school (higher institution). He approached me during my first few weeks in school, and we became friends.

He had some good sides, but the bad sides makes me question the good ones. We study and sit together during exam. We share answers codedly in hall, but I'm now thinking he might have been giving me the wrong answers while I was busy supplying him with the right ones.

All of this guy's effort was to have a better result than mine, and to make over 3.0 CGPA which he eventually succeeded at. There are times I could've gotten an A in some of my courses including a carryover, but this guy blocked it and have me got a C. I don't want to go into details.

Many things happened between us until few years ago when he referred me for a job, I got the job and was made the manager. The same company employed him a month later as a line manager. This is where he couldn't hide his true colour anymore and started being a thorn in my flesh in our work place.

Apparently he was pained that he referred me and I got a higher pay and position than he got. After many years of friendship, it was then I found out how dangerous that guy can be. I had to cut off that friendship few months into the job, and I'm never ready to have anything to do with that guy in my life again.

It's surprising how the same guy you dine with, drink with, party with, even travel to their hometown and sleep for days, has always been in competition with you without your knowledge. Such a person can kill out of jealousy.

We have to be careful of the kind of people we keep as friends. The funny thing is that I'm not even the best student while in school, why competing with me instead of the best students? Abi first class no dey sweet you Some people are perhaps and furthermore 😂🤣, even notwithstanding. 🤣😂😂

Una good morning o jare

workchopNG:
I don't know if this is the right section for this topic, but then, since it's about relationship/friendship, I decided to post it here.

So, I read a rumour of how a young girl who scored 9 As in her WAEC result was poisoned to death. I can't confirm the authenticity of that story, but it took me to memory lane... Maybe, it was her best friend that poisoned her to death out of jealousy. That led me to create this thread.

Back to the topic. “It is better to be alone, than to be in bad company.” – George Washington.

I had my taste of a very bad friendship which lasted for more than 10 years. We met in school (higher institution). He approached me during my first few weeks in school, and we became friends.

He had some good sides, but the bad sides makes me question the good ones. We study and sit together during exam. We share answers codedly in hall, but I'm now thinking he might have been giving me the wrong answers while I was busy supplying him with the right ones.

All of this guy's effort was to have a better result than mine, and to make over 3.0 CGPA which he eventually succeeded at. There are times I could've gotten an A in some of my courses including a carryover, but this guy blocked it and have me got a C. I don't want to go into details.

Many things happened between us until few years ago when he referred me for a job, I got the job and was made the manager. The same company employed him a month later as a line manager. This is where he couldn't hide his true colour anymore and started being a thorn in my flesh in our work place.

Apparently he was pained that he referred me and I got a higher pay and position than he got. After many years of friendship, it was then I found out how dangerous that guy can be. I had to cut off that friendship few months into the job, and I'm never ready to have anything to do with that guy in my life again.

It's surprising how the same guy you dine with, drink with, party with, even travel to their hometown and sleep for days, has always been in competition with you without your knowledge. Such a person can kill out of jealousy.

We have to be careful of the kind of people we keep as friends. The funny thing is that I'm not even the best student while in school, why competing with me instead of the best students? Abi first class no dey sweet you Some people are perhaps and furthermore 😂🤣, even notwithstanding. 🤣😂😂

Una good morning o jare

pongwa:
I think you are the bad friend. He referring you for the job you are enjoying higher pay means he is a true friend. If he doesn't want the best for you he wouldn't do that. You have wronged a good person, you better restitute or èlse karma is gonna knock at your door soon

Please shut up if you can't comprehend. Just shut up because you're one of them. Always support evil. Nonsense!

MrsTwrite:
Na poor people dey keep friends.

RichDaniels:
Your friend is a good friend, he is just being jealous, which is practically human. If he wasn't a good friend, he wouldn't have recommended you for the job.

Psychologically, you both have always been in the same position and he is comfortable with it, you get a "C" and he gets same. The truth is the person who has actually changed is you. You now have gained higher positions and your friend is unhappy with this change. I would give you an example, you may love Wizkid so much because you do not know him but when you've dinned and wined with him in the past, you would hate the progress. It's normal human thinking, even Obama's half brother hates him till this day, two boys born by the same parents, loved by the same father, but one was simply born in America. Remember, the saying says "birds of the same feather flocks together..." You both aren't of the same feather anymore and his fear was that you may no longer flock together.

My advice. If you find yourself in a position to love and help you friend, help him. It make take time but he would come to realize you do not mean bad for him even though you've moved ahead.

IconicR:
I don't believe in friendship or trust people anymore. I use to be so carefree and very generous till I learnt my lessons the very hard way...
... any friend is an acquaintance and they know it.

lexyclasy:
same person referring you to a job when he couldn't even have his own shows that he meant well for you. If you really like him as well, you should have sat him down two of you and put up all the issues at bay, for a possible open up. As you rightly said he got good sides as well, understanding could have made the difference. no perfect being on earth.

brain54:
OP I take it you don’t want to go into details…


So I will leave it at that.

As for your topic most times this is caused by unnecessary competition and jealousy.

I tolerate a lot in relationships with friends/people. But the one thing I can never adapt to or accept is jealousy.

Immediately I get a hint of it I cut the person of and discard him like a piece of trash. No matter how close I was with the person.

I understand people aren’t perfect. Everyone have short comings but a jealous and envious person can go to any length to harm or work against someone. I don’t want such people around me.

I fear a jealous person more than anything!

RichDaniels:
Your friend is a good friend, he is just being jealous, which is practically human.

workchopNG:
Person talk am say I go explain tire and I can see its true.

No he's not a good person. He passed the course but I failed. His friend marked my carryover paper on his (my friend) house and with little cash, I could've gotten an A. He instead hid it from me but I later found out.

I've done business deals that he shortchanged me. I just listed a little about us, we had gone through so many issues that I always let go. It's was the job issue that made me took my decision. He was the one that even threatened the friendship many times as if I can't survive without him, I had to tell him off and it has been a decision I'm proud that I made.

Besides, our boss was toxic so he resigned from the job and I was later sacked, so there's nothing much we gained from that job.

mymadam:
🙏🏽 Same applies here 100%

IconicR:
You own this account as well alagbaoshi

IconicR:
Wait ooo is it not you that promised to be at the inauguration?

workchopNG:
I don't know if this is the right section for this topic, but then, since it's about relationship/friendship, I decided to post it here.

So, I read a rumour of how a young girl who scored 9 As in her WAEC result was poisoned to death. I can't confirm the authenticity of that story, but it took me to memory lane... Maybe, it was her best friend that poisoned her to death out of jealousy. That led me to create this thread.

Back to the topic. “It is better to be alone, than to be in bad company.” – George Washington.

I had my taste of a very bad friendship which lasted for more than 10 years. We met in school (higher institution). He approached me during my first few weeks in school, and we became friends.

He had some good sides, but the bad sides makes me question the good ones. We study and sit together during exam. We share answers codedly in hall, but I'm now thinking he might have been giving me the wrong answers while I was busy supplying him with the right ones.

All of this guy's effort was to have a better result than mine, and to make over 3.0 CGPA which he eventually succeeded at. There are times I could've gotten an A in some of my courses including a carryover, but this guy blocked it and have me got a C. I don't want to go into details.

Many things happened between us until few years ago when he referred me for a job, I got the job and was made the manager. The same company employed him a month later as a line manager. This is where he couldn't hide his true colour anymore and started being a thorn in my flesh in our work place.

Apparently he was pained that he referred me and I got a higher pay and position than he got. After many years of friendship, it was then I found out how dangerous that guy can be. I had to cut off that friendship few months into the job, and I'm never ready to have anything to do with that guy in my life again.

It's surprising how the same guy you dine with, drink with, party with, even travel to their hometown and sleep for days, has always been in competition with you without your knowledge. Such a person can kill out of jealousy.

We have to be careful of the kind of people we keep as friends. The funny thing is that I'm not even the best student while in school, why competing with me instead of the best students? Abi first class no dey sweet you Some people are perhaps and furthermore 😂🤣, even notwithstanding. 🤣😂😂

Una good morning o jare