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ahnie

That girl is already sleeping with guys. How i wish she was my relative. She go beg for death with the kind beating she go collect

I wonder what a 14 years old litte girl is doing with smart phone. I guess wokeness and western culture in Africa ba?

UnfairLife7:
ahnie

That girl is already sleeping with guys. How i wish she was my relative. She go beg for death with the kind beating she go collect

I wonder what a 14 years old litte girl is doing with smart phone. I guess wokeness and western culture in Africa ba?

Dealing with some teens na war.
My own is that,she shouldn't trash talk her mother in my presence and she has to be actively involved in all the chores at home.

I still feel she can be remedied...the mum just gatz to be firm with her and set rules for her, firstly by grounding her.

No be only one person dey get pikin o

ahnie:
What has tribe got to do with this?

It's not so much a tribe issue, rather, a family issue. I believe this girl didn't grow up with a strong or effective disciplinary system in place. A child does not just wake up one day and start treating her mum like that.

I appreciate your efforts to set her straight, but you have to start doing it in the presence of the mum and start teaching the mum too to not take rubbish.


There should be serious consequences for her actions (eg phone seizing, food deprivation, increasing her portion of chores and make it known it's because of her misdeed).

She might be too far gone already, but she (the mom) should at least try.

My 2 cents. I really wish you and the family the best o, for the sake of everyone involved

ahnie:
I haven't really had decent sleep for days now,which is the least of my concerns

We housing an ex neighbor and her 2 daughters who for reasons which I wouldn't want to disclose are putting us with my family pending when they secure accomodation.

This lady has 2 daughters one aged 14yrs and the other 12yrs.

M having concerns with how the 14yrs old is treating the mother,i wouldn't say the mum has spoilt her,I just don't know what's wrong with her....maybe youthful exuberance.

This child insults her mother anyhow,throws objects at her,use deteriorating words on the mother like idiot,ewu,nonsense woman.

Yesterday again she did it in my presence,I told was forced to give her some resounding slaps,and told her to get the hell outta my house or I would take her to the barracks to be beaten.

I don't have strength to deal with teenage rascality now,I have 2 lil kids that growing and I wouldn't want them to think it's cool trash treating a mother like that.


This girl just wouldn't want to engage in domestic chores,she seats down and watch people slaves for her.

This morning I woke her up with a stern warning that she has to engage in chores like washing the loo,mopping,and fetching water if she really do not want to see the ugly side of me.

Annoying of them all is...all those small dirty bob Marley boys with dirty dreadlocks are beginning to lurk around in my compound all because of her which I will not entertain.

I understand it's her time...but she should do it with moderation,I have kids that age in my compound and they're cool headed, why's her different?

I just hope she will not fall pregnant soonest,I told the mother she really has alot to do.

And if she fell pregnant will she be the first or last??
U better trend softly.........before the mama go soon accuse u say nah yo hardness cos am.........

Rich4god:
How does this your comment relate to the topic?

I was trying to get the full facts before talking

ONEjoblessGUY:
And if she fell pregnant will she be the first or last??
U better trend softly.........before the mama go soon accuse u say nah yo hardness cos am.........

She knows she has an obstinate child...I have lil kids seeing what she's doing and her actions innocently corrupting their mindsets.

So I m indirectly protecting my kids from copying those vices she's displaying pending when they get their accomodation.

TheRealOwner:
I was trying to get the full facts before talking

Make I hear.... You wan start Una usual banter for here.

Rich4god:
Make I hear.... You wan start Una usual banter for here.

I was surprised he brought tribe into the matter.


Anyways he has cleared himself.

Rich4god:
Make I hear.... You wan start Una usual banter for here.

I've already said what I wanted to say. Click on my username in the quoted post

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ahnie:
I haven't really had decent sleep for days now,which is the least of my concerns

We housing an ex neighbor and her 2 daughters who for reasons which I wouldn't want to disclose are putting us with my family pending when they secure accomodation.

This lady has 2 daughters one aged 14yrs and the other 12yrs.

M having concerns with how the 14yrs old is treating the mother,i wouldn't say the mum has spoilt her,I just don't know what's wrong with her....maybe youthful exuberance.

This child insults her mother anyhow,throws objects at her,use deteriorating words on the mother like idiot,ewu,nonsense woman.

Yesterday again she did it in my presence,I told was forced to give her some resounding slaps,and told her to get the hell outta my house or I would take her to the barracks to be beaten.

I don't have strength to deal with teenage rascality now,I have 2 lil kids that growing and I wouldn't want them to think it's cool trash treating a mother like that.


This girl just wouldn't want to engage in domestic chores,she seats down and watch people slaves for her.

This morning I woke her up with a stern warning that she has to engage in chores like washing the loo,mopping,and fetching water if she really do not want to see the ugly side of me.

Annoying of them all is...all those small dirty bob Marley boys with dirty dreadlocks are beginning to lurk around in my compound all because of her which I will not entertain.

I understand it's her time...but she should do it with moderation,I have kids that age in my compound and they're cool headed, why's her different?

I just hope she will not fall pregnant soonest,I told the mother she really has alot to do.

She is a psychopath

ahnie:
IThis lady has 2 daughters one aged 14yrs and the other 12yrs.
M having concerns with how the 14yrs old is treating the mother,i wouldn't say the mum has spoilt her,I just don't know what's wrong with her....maybe youthful exuberance.
This child insults her mother anyhow,throws objects at her,use deteriorating words on the mother like idiot,ewu,nonsense woman.
Yesterday again she did it in my presence,I told was forced to give her some resounding slaps,and told her to get the hell outta my house or I would take her to the barracks to be beaten.
I don't have strength to deal with teenage rascality now,I have 2 lil kids that growing and I wouldn't want them to think it's cool trash treating a mother like that.
This girl just wouldn't want to engage in domestic chores,she seats down and watch people slaves for her.
This morning I woke her up with a stern warning that she has to engage in chores like washing the loo,mopping,and fetching water if she really do not want to see the ugly side of me.
Annoying of them all is...all those small dirty bob Marley boys with dirty dreadlocks are beginning to lurk around in my compound all because of her which I will not entertain.
I understand it's her time...but she should do it with moderation,I have kids that age in my compound and they're cool headed, why's her different?
I just hope she will not fall pregnant soonest,I told the mother she really has alot to do.

Do you even know the backstory of their family dynamics at all? I think you ought to start their first because kids rarely just turn evil on their parents without reason. Ask that woman and the other child to fill you in on what is in fact probably going on abeg.

Barims:
She is a psychopath

Abeg, try to use words you understand the meaning of.

Did she grew up with her father?

ahnie:
I haven't really had decent sleep for days I just hope she will not fall pregnant soonest,I told the mother she really has alot to do.

ahnie:
The mom is not a weakling, she's the type that tolerate and accomodates every rubbish thrown at her.

That's weakness and she spoilt the girl, pump and plain.

Kobojunkie:
Abeg, try to use words you understand the meaning of.

Lmao! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

ahnie:
The 12yrs old acts normal no issues with that one.


But you see the one I mentioned has already started collecting dicks.

Gbammmmmmmmm!!!
For me I go carry 2by2 plank her mouth
But seriously the mother can't bend that child cos it's too late ..let d girl go and see a councellor

ahnie:
What can be done to correct her at this stage?

Mum still funds her acct,buys her fancy seductive wears and phone.

You see now? Na the mama spoil am

There is absolutely nothing you can do except hasten their exist from your house.
The gmwuicker, the better fir you.
Also, no matter how good you want to be, at your children's stage, it's not good to accept unfamiliar faces around them. It's not always wise to accept people to live with you. Most times, it doesn't end well.

ahnie:
■ The 12yrs old acts normal no issues with that one. But you see the one I mentioned has already started collecting dicks.

Focus on getting information on the Genesis of the problem from that one. Please no abuse that 14-year old abeg.

Where's her father?

Masculinity plays a vital role in raising kids (boys and girls), especially at their formative age, but you people don't listen. This here, is one of the reasons I abhor "single motherhood and divorce". At least, if one parent is being stupid and weak, the other shouldn't.

Solution —: Exercise the use of "TOUGH LOVE". Strip her off all privileges (both needs and wants) she has. Let her understand that, for every action, there's always an equal and corresponding opposite reaction and it can be brutal depending on how she wants the card to be played. She leads, you people follow. If this is the most noble thing you can help her irresponsible mother do whilst being with you, posterity will thank you. OBSTINATE KIDS should be shown the back door. No time to play nicety. It's either you go my way or you get out. SIMPLE.

If symptoms persist, you should swiftly find out how they can get accommodation far from you else she indoctrinate your kids.

She needs discipline.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Where's her father? Masculinity plays a vital role in raising kids (boys and girls), especially at their formative age, but you people don't listen. One of the reasons I abhor "single motherhood and divorce". At least, if one parent is being stupid and weak, the other shouldn't.
Solution —: Exercise the use of "TOUGH LOVE". Strip her off all privileges (both needs and wants) she has. Let her understand that, for every action, there's always a corresponding opposite reaction and it can be brutal depending on how she wants the card to be played. She leads, you people follow. If this is the most noble thing you can help her irresponsible mother do whilst being with you, posterity will thank you. OBSTINATE KIDS should be shown the back door. No time to play nicety. It's either you go my way or you get out. SIMPLE.
If symptoms persist, you should swiftly find out how they can get accommodation far from you else she indoctrinate your kids.

What happens in the case where both parents are weak or the father figure is the weakest link?

Raising a child has little to nothing to do with masculinity but with having good parenting skills. I have seen kids raised responsibly by grandmothers, other relatives, and even strangers. It takes a responsible individual(they don't even have to be two in number) to raise a responsible child.

ahnie:
■ The mom is not a weakling, she's the type that tolerate and accomodates every rubbish thrown at her.

No be everybody suppose born kid abeg! People need to stop raising arseholes.

Styluss:
Did she grew up with her father?

Yes...an abusive father.

She learnt from him, I will advice you habor just for a while longer and let them find their way. My people say, Bami na omo mi, ko de inu olomo.
Simply means A parent who solicits the help of another person to flog his child does not actually mean it.
Let everyone carry their cross! SHalom

ahnie:
Yes...an abusive father.

Styluss:
■ She learnt from him, I will advice you habor just for a while longer and let them find their way. My people say, Bami na omo mi, ko de inu olomo. Simply means A parent who solicits the help of another person to flog his child does not actually mean it. Let everyone carry their cross! SHalom

Ahnie, please do not do what the above suggests as you may just be the only possible hope that girl has to sanity before it is too late for her.

An abusive father and a weak mother, clearly, she needs a strong adult in her life at this point in her development. Sending them away to carry their cross would likely not help her and her future. And yes, she deserves a better future than the one she may be headed straight into with the way she is. That girl likely has a lot of anger boiling inside of her and taking it out on her mother.

Lol, the said child have a living dad. I don't think he needs to saddle himself with another man's responsibilities. If OP beats the child every time in the name of correction, the mother would silently hate him. He should instead let the mom take the lead, she is just 14 she can still be corrected with serious actions. OP please do your best and mind your business. Meddling in it will make her abusive father feels less of a man and will make him hate you even more. This is coming from place of logic rather than sentiments.
Ahnie

Kobojunkie:
Ahnie, please do not do what the above suggests as you may just be the only possible hope that girl has to sanity before it is too late for her.

Kobojunkie:
Ahnie, please do not do what the above suggests as you may just be the only possible hope that girl has to sanity before it is too late for her.

An abusive father and a weak mother, clearly, she needs a strong adult in her life at this point in her development. Sending them away to carry their cross would likely not help her and her future. And yes, she deserves a better future than the one she may be headed straight into with the way she is. That girl likely has a lot of anger boiling inside of her and taking it out on her mother.

We are not sending them away the mother has really bn a shoulder to lean on those ruff days.

She's a good woman.

They ve gotten accomodation and hopefully would move out next week.
But every child is my child....the child just needs little ruffle here n there to be on the right track.fir starters she needs to be strip from some certain things like her phone and means of getting money.

She's not afraid of her mom,but her dad shes scared of him and they don't see eye to eye always at loggerheads.

Styluss:
■ Lol, the said child have a living dad. I don't think he needs to saddle himself with another man's responsibilities. If OP beats the child every time in the name of correction, the mother would silently hate him.
■ He should instead let the mom take the lead,
■ she is just 14 she can still be corrected with serious actions. OP please do your best and mind your business.
■ Meddling in it will make her abusive father feels less of a man and will make him hate you even more. This is coming from place of logic rather than sentiments. Ahnie

1. Am I the only one who got the part that the father is an irresponsible abusive man? Why would you say a child is the responsibility of such a man, a man who probably should be in jail for his criminal acts against his own family?

2. How can she take the "lead" when she clearly hasn't been taking the lead all this while?

3. Sure, the child can be corrected but by whom? The abusive father, the mother who is probably still traumatized from her abusive relationship, or Ahnie who sees and knows something is wrong and needs to be dealt with?

4. I don't understand you at all. So, you want an abusive father to feel more of a man when he is likely the source of the pain and hurt his own 14-year-old daughter is struggling to deal with?

ahnie:
■ We are not sending them away the mother has really bn a shoulder to lean on those ruff days. She's a good woman. They ve gotten accomodation and hopefully would move out next week. But every child is my child....the child just needs little ruffle here n there to be on the right track.fir starters she needs to be strip from some certain things like her phone and means of getting money. She's not afraid of her mom,but her dad shes scared of him and they don't see eye to eye always at loggerheads.

Did you ever have to endure life in an abusive environment as a child? It is one of the worst things that can happen to a child. I speak from experience. All that anger and frustration needs be directed somewhere. Equally bad if they hold it all in in hopes that somehow it will all magically disappear somehow.

That child needs help— both of them do— but the mother and father are obviously unavailable. Where Mindlog dey abeg!