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Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by nairalanda1(m): 3:25pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Mikelarteta: Best advice for now |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by Spirit247: 3:25pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Immorality has destroyed too many wonderful families. 5 Likes |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by Absuchat(m): 3:25pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
God save us from randy parents. Indeed, if the foundation is faulty what can the righteous do? 4 Likes |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by phkka1(m): 3:26pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Too long a story to be understood. Is your father a Christian? |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by nairalanda1(m): 3:27pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
millstone: Don't mind the guy. Also if you have Jesus, problem is half solved Ask Him to be your parent, and it will go well from there 2 Likes |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by killsmith(f): 3:27pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
I did not read your long epistle. I can only tell you that family is overrated. |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by nairalanda1(m): 3:28pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
phkka1: I think OP dad has long since abandoned Christianity. 2 Likes |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by adspelite(m): 3:30pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
You had good jobs your lil sis wasn't trained, you invested badly, you got yourself back on track your baby bro is a snare to you. *Bro* Even You need JESUS 2 Likes |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by diamondbody(m): 3:33pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Your dad is an occultist, ritualist. You may not believe this but the fruits speak. Okay. A man without self-control is like a city with walls. Deal with your lust, and control the pride of life that is manifesting itself in you. Become the light you wish to see In your family, otherwise there will never be light even down to the coming generation. Be responsible and quit bitching about your dad, a time is coming when even you will lead him to the light . Bless you 4 Likes |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by duro4chang(m): 3:33pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Jahwinaboy:Me too 1 Like |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by yahoodetector: 3:39pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Hmmm! Having read your story, I have made my deduction thus: Street runs in your family among the males...a lion cannot give birth to a goat. Na him fellow lion e go born! So like father like sons. Your introduction into alcoholism, drug use and prostituting rings no be your papa attitude lead you into am...e dey run for your family! That is why that your 19 year old brother join cos he was watching your father run things. Your papa like fast life but he carry church and being minister of gospel dey cover him iniquities... reason why I don't go to any damn church! Your dad's concubine (his secretary) knew fully well that he is a married man and was still opening kpekus for him and even travelled out with him. Wetin woman dey do woman. Now she don receive her own karma. In short, Devil just carry your family play 10sure odd and all enter. The only advice I will give you is to amend your ways, cut off entirely from your old man...pray that God blesses you and become successful...take care of that poor old woman who is your mother and make her proud...then marry and have kids but don't be abusive to your wife like your father. 8 Likes |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by Clashhh1: 3:43pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
See better family wey prick wan destroy! This story na "Omo". It's just sad how your dad allowed his third leg take the lead in his life cus it's very obvious he's got no control over it. He ruined everything and the sad reality is that you CANNOT completely cut them off. I'll suggest you keep your distance and respond to anything from afar. Take care of your mom and look after your immediate siblings + disregard whatever your dad says or does cus your papa na Manipulator wey sabi play mind game with people not considering the mental damages they go through. Pastor for that matter? Well na title wey anybody fit give himself sha. And lastly, cut down on alcohol/drugs, focus on your business/Job I hope you heal from this trauma 6 Likes |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by MrHighSea: 3:45pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
I'd learnt to cut off negatively energized people from my life. In many ways, I can relate. I was just gunning for independency. God has been kind. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by Myer(m): 3:49pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
millstone: So sorry about all you've been through. You're simply a product of a marriage of 2 unequally yoked people. You've not said much about your mom but I perceive she is a true child of God (wheat) but married a tare. Your dad is not even a Christian to begin win. He may be a believer but not a Christian. The difference is in the fruits they bear. I'm glad you're in a better place but, more importantly this salvation thing is a personal race. We simply have to pray for others and do our part in preaching to them. You need to cut off your dad for now. Forgive him for the pain he's caused you, your mom and your siblings. Intercede for him if perhaps God will have mercy on him and he still has a shot at salvation. Love your mom. She has really tried. She will make a good marriage counsellor now because she will be preaching and counselling from wealth of experience, if she has indeed learnt the needed lesson. And not preaching from regret and bitterness. She should find a place in her heart to forgive your dad too even if she doesn't talk to him. She can pray for him too. It will bring her inner peace. Let her know that him leaving her was actually God setting her free from the bondage she got herself into. Please re-dedicate your life to Christ. Ensure you are baptised in the Holy Spirit. The absence of the Holyspirit indwelling is why we often resort to substances to fill the void. You are the Son of a Pastor (your mom) certainly you have a calling even though it might not be the pulpit. Be intentional to know Christ personally, not as a religion but as your LORD and Savior- Your guide and teacher through life. I'm sure being a pastors son, you know these things. When you receive the baptism of the Holy Spirit, Word will become Flesh in you. It goes from being a head knowledge to a reality and lifestyle. Give yourself time to grow. Don't be in a hurry to be successful, to be a pastor, to marry. Pressure will come but the Prosperity of your soul is primary. Thanks for sharing your story, this honesty will by God's grace help others speak out too. I pray by this time next year, we will hear a good testimony concerning you and your household in Jesus name. Amen. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by Elsueno: 3:49pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Mr millstone, it seems to me, U are just to desperate for LOVE & affection from ur toxic papa..And him dey use am to manipulate u well well as u seem not to be able to think for yourself. Wetin be ur problem sef...why u dey chuvk ur head for ur pops business & him family despite him showing no sign of changing his ways dat destroyed ur family & divorced ur mom. Anyways ur an adult sha, u go learn from experience 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by nautybride: 3:50pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
When a man believes he is called and doesn't have a broken heart and a contrite spirit, It will be so hard to change while functioning in that call whether fake or real. Your pop needs prayers, including the family as a whole. The altar of generational curses has been set before you were born. To destroy it requires strong altar of prayers. It's well with you. Physically, you should give a distance as you battle in the spirit. 3 Likes |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by seuncyrus(m): 3:51pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
okayy |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by rickleye: 3:57pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
I’ll be Frank as some other have its TLDR everything . I understand it’s long because you have had this on your chest for a long time. My two cents - You need to focus on yourself and relationship so that you don’t perpetuate your dads nasty insecurities into your life. You have got to fast and pray and read some self help books. Once that is done - cut of every family member. Look for an elder or senior figure and ask if they can be your mentor or father figure for advice and someone you can share precious moments with. I suspect in time that person would introduce you to his family . If your dad is ready to reconcile he will reach out to you. But do not go looking for it . Usually such people only do so on their death bed or when sick. 1 Like |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by portplus: 4:00pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
For your own peace and prosperity..... ignore that man...He seems to be doing well(meeting his own needs) Focus on yourself and you mum.... make peace with your siblings. millstone: 1 Like |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by Iseoluwani: 4:02pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
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Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by theophorus(m): 4:04pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
millstone: He's Right. Sit and evaluate your Life and actions and You will realize you only went to Church but was never a Christian. If you are a Son of God, definitely the Holy Spirit will lead you into the Will of the Lord. #Selah. 1 Like |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by judility(m): 4:13pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Your Dad's lifestyle is also in you and your sibling's DNA, Please run from any habit you saw your Dad entangled with, because is just like a magnet and iron. Is only your mum's DNA that is helping you guys, your younger brother had been entangled too, is well my dear, So your foundation is polluted, It won't be easy but is well. Just hold onto God. 1 Like |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by AllBlack: 4:14pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
millstone: As we grow older we realize that Father, Brother, sister, mother and all those titles are just sentiments we bestow upon those that deserve them and that is why a man you know from no where can become your brother or even a father to you while the one who gave birth to you is actually a STRANGER. You are a grown man now and I hope you will be able to draw more clearer lines to prevent confusion and further unnecessary torment that comes with attaching yourself with people who don't deserve it. 4 Likes |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by emmancipated(m): 4:14pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Quite a story. Like I often advise people, you are the most important character in this game of life. Stay true to yourself and whatever gives you peace of mind. If cutting off relationship with your father brings you this peace of mind, do it without looking back. 4 Likes |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by millstone(m): 4:14pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
GboyegaD:My younger sister is doing very fine now thank you. She has her business running and finally went back to school trained by my mother and elder sister. For my brother I'm giving him and my father the much needed space 1 Like |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by millstone(m): 4:15pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Aremwayne:Kpele o |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by Geekop: 4:15pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Your story is so touching... Sorry man... You will be fine. Just try to keep calm, maintain sanity and trust God to guide and help you... Peace. 2 Likes |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by BinamRex: 4:16pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Anyone that doesn't add value to your life should be kept at arm's length. May God continue to be with you. |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by millstone(m): 4:16pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
MISTAICEY02288:The honesty is very much appreciated. Thank you for this 1 Like |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by millstone(m): 4:18pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
tiswell: Lol I've asked myself this in the past and even after this incident but looking at my father's behavor it is understood. He don't even have a relationship with his own siblings and kinsmen 1 Like |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by millstone(m): 4:19pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
Solsix: I mentioned I have stopped and working on it. It's an addiction I was introduced to for over 10 years and I've been working on it |
Re: My Father Is Destroying My Brother And My Family!!! by millstone(m): 4:20pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
TheFacelessMan: Dude believes he's a god. He don't listen to anyone but the god that asks him to marry these women |
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