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Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by Nobody:
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by Acidosis(m): 1:42pm On Aug 30, 2023
IconicR:
It's not about the man and his wife alone but the elder sister who is his ex
Family is not just you and your wife so never take decisions or do things that may affect others negatively
You'll be surprised this intending feud will eventually be inherited by the kids from these sisters
We must learn to maintain some kind of discipline when dealing with people
Op should leave that family and go far away to pick a wife
The older sister in alliance with her husband and children will leave their marriage to fight her younger sister's marriage with an ex, yeah?

No other definition for witchcraft. If that's how y'all women reason, then na una get problem... Whenever you're in a happy place, face your life and ignore all others.
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by rickleye: 1:43pm On Aug 30, 2023
nairagenone:
As the topic states, I am close friends with a polygamous family of 2 wives.
About 9 years ago while a youth corper I dated the first born of the 2nd wife but we kept it secret, although I think her own mom knew although the mom is late now.

It wasn't a relationship per se as I was just sleeping with her and I knew she had other guys too at the time but she always wanted me to think we were in some sort of relationship just like most ladies would.
Anyway, the whole thing fizzled out when I relocated from that city.

8 years later, I am in a new city and meet her step sister, who is younger than her but from the first wife and we are getting along fine, turns out I really like her and now considering marrying her.

The lady I dated previously is currently not married, in her 30s and I heard she lost a pregnancy recently, I dont have any relation with her other than the fact she calls me occasionally to ask for money for assistance which I render when I have the means but sometimes I don't as I am also trying to put my life together.

I recall that she could be diabolic and wouldn't put it past her to do jazz or something.

Do you think I should go ahead and marry her step sister 9 years after dating her and how should I go about it?

Should I inform the lady I dated in the past out of respect for her cos she will still eventually get to know ?

Should I tell the lady I am planning to marry about the past relationship with her step sister ?

Please advise.
I could possibly turn this into a movie script .
6 episodes 1 season ( miniseries ) .

If I ask Toni Braxton- she would say you were not man enough for her … I already had your man … and wouldn’t mind.

Ogbeni - it’s not worth it. There are many other fishes in the river.
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by eleniyan2020: 1:44pm On Aug 30, 2023
talented321:
The other lady in her late thirties'' the age many of them are very desperate and violent...
Put urself in the older sister's shoe if you was a woman'' it is more likely like a betrayal...
Why of all the women in the world you reject her only to end up with her sister...
shatap!
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by talented321: 1:45pm On Aug 30, 2023
Kid
eleniyan2020:
shatap!
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by ezekieloe(m): 1:47pm On Aug 30, 2023
I wish you the best of luck in your upcoming marriage!
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by Nobody: 1:59pm On Aug 30, 2023
Acidosis:
The older sister in alliance with her husband and children will leave their marriage to fight her younger sister's marriage with an ex, yeah?

No other definition for witchcraft. If that's how y'all women reason, then na una get problem... Whenever you're in a happy place, face your life and ignore all others.
Reality is different from this your online views and whatever
If op goes ahead then he should know he's the architect of an intending family feud which would have been avoided if he respects himself
I repeat he should leave that family
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by Acidosis(m): 2:08pm On Aug 30, 2023
IconicR:
Reality is different from this your online views and whatever
If op goes ahead then he should know he's the architect of an intending family feud which would have been avoided if he respects himself
I repeat he should leave that family
You're trying to get me to validate the spirit of jealousy, anger, and hatred. No, I won't.

I have seen women recommend their exes and male besties to friends for marriage. That's how it should be.
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by Nobody: 2:10pm On Aug 30, 2023
Acidosis:
You're trying to get me to validate the spirit of jealousy, anger, and hatred. No, I won't.

I have seen women recommend their exes and male besties to friends for marriage. That's how it should be.
In a sanner clime it shouldn't be so
God forbids I have anything to do with an aquaintance ex not to talk of a family's ex lailai
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by Acidosis(m): 2:12pm On Aug 30, 2023
IconicR:
In a sanner clime it shouldn't be so
God forbids I have anything to do with an aquaintance ex not to talk of a family's ex lailai
No wahala. Bottom line is majority will end up with someone else's left-over las las.
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by Nobody: 2:14pm On Aug 30, 2023
Acidosis:
No wahala. Bottom line is majority will end up with someone else's left-over las las.
Well, left overs deserve left overs
It's a cycle
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by jaxxy(m): 2:20pm On Aug 30, 2023
Jovialjune1:
Get sense

Why would anyone put themselves in that kind of rubbish shoes? On top wetin? What has hypocrisy got to do with it? Na by force to quote me?

If reverse was the case and a lady is dating a man after dating his brother, won't she also be condemned? Won't you guys have heaped pages and pages of insults on her head?
yeah guys may or will crticize it bt will girls criticize also?

I personally don't see any issues with it especially since one wasn't a public relationship and 2ndly they are step sisters.

I'm basing my opinion on those 2 factors.
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by Nobody: 2:31pm On Aug 30, 2023
jaxxy:
yeah guys may or will crticize it bt will girls criticize also?

I personally don't see any issues with it especially since one wasn't a public relationship and 2ndly they are step sisters.

I'm basing my opinion on those 2 factors.
I do not care if girls criticise it or not, and I do not care what your personal opinion is, I am also basing my opinion on my own personal opinion, so rest.
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by bdon12: 2:38pm On Aug 30, 2023
Why intentionally date her step sister?is there no other family to date?
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by Acidosis(m): 2:40pm On Aug 30, 2023
IconicR:
Well, left overs deserve left overs
It's a cycle
Good... wink wink

So please, if your younger one falls in love with some guy you had something with 10 years ago, please let her be..
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by frozen70(f): 2:48pm On Aug 30, 2023
nairagenone:
As the topic states, I am close friends with a polygamous family of 2 wives.
About 9 years ago while a youth corper I dated the first born of the 2nd wife but we kept it secret, although I think her own mom knew although the mom is late now.

It wasn't a relationship per se as I was just sleeping with her and I knew she had other guys too at the time but she always wanted me to think we were in some sort of relationship just like most ladies would.
Anyway, the whole thing fizzled out when I relocated from that city.

8 years later, I am in a new city and meet her step sister, who is younger than her but from the first wife and we are getting along fine, turns out I really like her and now considering marrying her.

The lady I dated previously is currently not married, in her 30s and I heard she lost a pregnancy recently, I dont have any relation with her other than the fact she calls me occasionally to ask for money for assistance which I render when I have the means but sometimes I don't as I am also trying to put my life together.

I recall that she could be diabolic and wouldn't put it past her to do jazz or something.

Do you think I should go ahead and marry her step sister 9 years after dating her and how should I go about it?

Should I inform the lady I dated in the past out of respect for her cos she will still eventually get to know ?

Should I tell the lady I am planning to marry about the past relationship with her step sister ?

Please advise.
E be like say woman never do you strong thing before

Dey play
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by YUSTECH3(m): 2:48pm On Aug 30, 2023
Stay away from the family if you don't want generational problem...

I experienced such with my wife frnd though we didn't date at all o because I know her before my wife and she generously introduce my wife to me not knowing she has feeling for me but because of his deceiving boyfriend then...this girl Neva marry till now

Their friendship has collapse because of me though I don't want to hear explanation but it somhow... cos the last time my wife call her my wife was crying on phon but I pretend not to be much concern

But I know surely am free from anything whatsoever cos we Neva date not talk of me opening her skirt
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 2:49pm On Aug 30, 2023
May God bless you with the trouble you are looking for in abundance.
Congratulations in advance.
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by Nobody: 2:52pm On Aug 30, 2023
Acidosis:
Good... wink wink

So please, if your younger one falls in love with some guy you had something with 10 years ago, please let her be..
Lailai no one in my family is that stupid to allow somebody's son to start messing around us
Lailai it can't happen, he won't even try it
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by JADEK04(m): 3:03pm On Aug 30, 2023
Brother I have similar experience, I dated this lady about 8 years ago,we are good in our relationship, unfortunately when we are about to get marriage, her mum rejected me due to certain reasons, because I have daughter,she told me to lie to her parents but I refuse, am try to be a good boy to the family, i was rejected ,I crying he'll out of my self that time ,we both moved on ,she married to another man,they do elaborated wedding, not knowing the guy situation was even worse than mine,he package everything to them,now for the past 8 years, it was that lady that's taking care of the house till now, feeding and everything, so 5 years ago,the lady call me,explain everything she was passing through, sometimes I support her but no any affair BTW us,she single handed her steps sister to me to marry, that I was nice and caring, since then I have been dating her step sister ,we are in loved,everyone in the house is aware both her sister and brothers except mum and daddy,now we want to do our marriage, am afraid to confront her parent ,what should I do. We are aggre to denied I was the same guy.....am just in confused stage now.
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by Acidosis(m): 3:12pm On Aug 30, 2023
IconicR:
Lailai no one in my family is that stupid to allow somebody's son to start messing around us
Lailai it can't happen, he won't even try it
cheesy

Is love a joke to you?
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by Nobody: 3:15pm On Aug 30, 2023
Acidosis:
cheesy

Is love a joke to you?
Love in the wrong places na big joke
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by Kemadealadire(f): 4:06pm On Aug 30, 2023
If you didn't sleep with the other sister now, maybe just maybe it would be different. When we preach abstinence, you people will say we are making noise, you see how humans of this world complicate their lives by themselves.

Some ladies are trying seh.
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by Kemadealadire(f): 4:08pm On Aug 30, 2023
IconicR:
Well, left overs deserve left overs
It's a cycle
Gbam😉
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by koladebrainiac(m): 4:08pm On Aug 30, 2023
nairagenone:
As the topic states, I am close friends with a polygamous family of 2 wives.
About 9 years ago while a youth corper I dated the first born of the 2nd wife but we kept it secret, although I think her own mom knew although the mom is late now.

It wasn't a relationship per se as I was just sleeping with her and I knew she had other guys too at the time but she always wanted me to think we were in some sort of relationship just like most ladies would.
Anyway, the whole thing fizzled out when I relocated from that city.

8 years later, I am in a new city and meet her step sister, who is younger than her but from the first wife and we are getting along fine, turns out I really like her and now considering marrying her.

The lady I dated previously is currently not married, in her 30s and I heard she lost a pregnancy recently, I dont have any relation with her other than the fact she calls me occasionally to ask for money for assistance which I render when I have the means but sometimes I don't as I am also trying to put my life together.

I recall that she could be diabolic and wouldn't put it past her to do jazz or something.

Do you think I should go ahead and marry her step sister 9 years after dating her and how should I go about it?

Should I inform the lady I dated in the past out of respect for her cos she will still eventually get to know ?

Should I tell the lady I am planning to marry about the past relationship with her step sister ?

Please advise.
first b e biold

tell the first girl let her know you have met with her sister and somehow you dont know how the whole thing started and you guys are gaving relationships

let her rant and all that. tell her you are planning to tell her about you n her about the whole thing back then if she agree then you have to inform your new babe if not you still have to inform her too. now the way you present will bring success to this plan, one thing be bold and be confident if you can sprinkle a bit of arrogane to it it will help. no allow her bamboze you,if she is trying to be biatch about it, talk sense into her o let her know you were not serious with her back then and now you matured and is ready to face future with her sister . and let her know you cant marry her so make she no allow that stop una relationship
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by lexyclasy: 4:11pm On Aug 30, 2023
nairagenone:
As the topic states, I am close friends with a polygamous family of 2 wives.
About 9 years ago while a youth corper I dated the first born of the 2nd wife but we kept it secret, although I think her own mom knew although the mom is late now.

It wasn't a relationship per se as I was just sleeping with her and I knew she had other guys too at the time but she always wanted me to think we were in some sort of relationship just like most ladies would.
Anyway, the whole thing fizzled out when I relocated from that city.

8 years later, I am in a new city and meet her step sister, who is younger than her but from the first wife and we are getting along fine, turns out I really like her and now considering marrying her.

The lady I dated previously is currently not married, in her 30s and I heard she lost a pregnancy recently, I dont have any relation with her other than the fact she calls me occasionally to ask for money for assistance which I render when I have the means but sometimes I don't as I am also trying to put my life together.

I recall that she could be diabolic and wouldn't put it past her to do jazz or something.

Do you think I should go ahead and marry her step sister 9 years after dating her and how should I go about it?

Should I inform the lady I dated in the past out of respect for her cos she will still eventually get to know ?

Should I tell the lady I am planning to marry about the past relationship with her step sister ?

Please advise.
As a close friend to a polygamous family, just close eye and marry two of them and bridge the gap between the first and the second wife. thank me later.
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by oyoofong(m): 4:17pm On Aug 30, 2023
You are plotting your own demise. Stop acting like a fool!
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by Olushylay1(f): 4:18pm On Aug 30, 2023
Op is swimming in dangerous water..You better run.
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by olisaEze(m): 4:40pm On Aug 30, 2023
Dem bury your placenta for their family house?? Lemme let you in on a little secret since ur medulla is not oblongating properly, everyone in that house knew you was creeping with their sister, fool! That younger half-sister is still competing with her elder half-sister nine years later! You’s about to be a trophy for permanent display in their home! That’s the way with polygamy, a lifetime of who’s better than who! And your wandering eye has gone and dragged your sorry @ss back into their drama! Once the family has even a whiff of 'jazzy fizzle' best begone! It never ends with just the one. undecided undecided
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by Xkale1996(m): 4:43pm On Aug 30, 2023
nairagenone:
As the topic states, I am close friends with a polygamous family of 2 wives.
About 9 years ago while a youth corper I dated the first born of the 2nd wife but we kept it secret, although I think her own mom knew although the mom is late now.

It wasn't a relationship per se as I was just sleeping with her and I knew she had other guys too at the time but she always wanted me to think we were in some sort of relationship just like most ladies would.
Anyway, the whole thing fizzled out when I relocated from that city.

8 years later, I am in a new city and meet her step sister, who is younger than her but from the first wife and we are getting along fine, turns out I really like her and now considering marrying her.

The lady I dated previously is currently not married, in her 30s and I heard she lost a pregnancy recently, I dont have any relation with her other than the fact she calls me occasionally to ask for money for assistance which I render when I have the means but sometimes I don't as I am also trying to put my life together.

I recall that she could be diabolic and wouldn't put it past her to do jazz or something.

Do you think I should go ahead and marry her step sister 9 years after dating her and how should I go about it?

Should I inform the lady I dated in the past out of respect for her cos she will still eventually get to know ?

Should I tell the lady I am planning to marry about the past relationship with her step sister ?

Please advise.
make she no go jazzz that innocent lady

Carry ur wahala comot from that family
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by IamAsiri: 5:19pm On Aug 30, 2023
togifon:
Will there b a coup in Nigeria?
N why is cou spelt coup?
Who da hell silence the p?

This are very crucial questions
Because it is a French word. French always silence consonant letters at the end of words that don't end with "e".
Re: I Dated A Lady 9 Years Ago But Now Planning To Marry Her Step Sister, Should I? by onlyboyson(m): 5:21pm On Aug 30, 2023
Pls sir can you marry the whole family
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