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DenreleDave:
I guess we all knew what Nigerian ladies do there and her parents know that she is also doing such

I think that is why they took the 3 years kid away so that she won't her corrupt body to infect the kid...

Or what do you think my boss?

Good afternoon sir

Shut up you're a criminal

Kobojunkie:
They can explain all that to the police then.

Period.
U have said it all. They should explain to the police.

You really are a troublemaker! From your stories on here, you parents are poor and were born in poverty themselves yet they were able to raise 5 children in that same poverty.

You come along and decide you must blow, but instead of you to use your head, your youth and your strength, you chose to use your body to do better than your poor parents.

You got pregnant in poverty and to make it worse you became some poor man’s baby mother! Rather than lift your family out of poverty all you did was add another mouth to feed.

You’re trouble and no wonder even your siblings won’t “cooperate” with you. Go back to your plan of fucking your way out of poverty because your daughter has probably been sent to work as a housemaid somewhere far away.

You can’t afford police assistance, if you arrest your parents you will be ostracised and your whole family will attack you. Everyone knows you went to do 2 years of prostitution in your family and they are not impressed with you at all! Instead of having some shame you walk around all self righteous and important.

Your story is a pathetic one and you better humble yourself and work with and within your family instead of thinking you’re better than them.

izonborn098:
you first line is just the truth.. Her parents know where the kids is but they are angry with her... Las las everything dey okay no need of police they just need to talk...

We need to make sure that this is true before we can conclude. Someone has to set eyes on that child to confirm if the kid is alive

duro4chang:
Which money? The place was not palatable for her. She said she could not communicate regularly. Where would she get money to send home. She is economical with the truth.

But she did send money, didn't she?

shantti:
But she did send money, didn't she?

She said it but someone who had no money to make phone call. Before I can believe everything she said I must hear from her parents. It is dangerous to just jump into conclusion like that

12biligi:
Shut up you're a criminal

Why is he a criminal?

duro4chang:
She said it but someone who had no money to make phone call. Before I can believe everything she said I must hear from her parents. It is dangerous to just jump into conclusion like that

So she can't send money when she has money on hand. Is that it. Aren't there times when you lack money, does that means money don't eventually comes so you could settle your bills.

If you really want to hear both sides of a story, don't judge one side already like you've done. Keep mute and process things in your mind till you actually hear both sides.

Brandiebird:
■ You really are a troublemaker! From your stories on here, you parents are poor and were born in poverty themselves yet they were able to raise 5 children in that same poverty. You come along and decide you must blow, but instead of you to use your head, your youth and your strength, you chose to use your body to do better than your poor parents. You got pregnant in poverty and to make it worse you became some poor man’s baby mother! Rather than lift your family out of poverty all you did was add another mouth to feed.
You’re trouble and no wonder even your siblings won’t “cooperate” with you. Go back to your plan of fucking your way out of poverty because your daughter has probably been sent to work as a housemaid somewhere far away. You can’t afford police assistance, if you arrest your parents you will be ostracised and your whole family will attack you. Everyone knows you went to do 2 years of prostitution in your family and they are not impressed with you at all! Instead of having some shame you walk around all self-righteous and important. Your story is a pathetic one and you better humble yourself and work with and within your family instead of thinking you’re better than them.

Please dead this your particular self-righteous bullsheet abeg!

The lady was born in poverty and made up her mind to escape it at all costs. Along the way, she made her share of mistakes but still wishes to fight her way out of poverty, and away from parents who see nothing wrong with it. What is wrong with that? Una go just open mouth dey spew epistle from nowhere at absolute strangers whom you pretend to have all figured out, for what?

This thread is about finding her child, and not for you to bastardly analyze her life like say you even know her. Leave her and focus on what matters...

shantti:
So she can't send money when she has money on hand. Is that it. Aren't there times when you lack money, does that means money don't eventually comes so you could settle your bills.

If you really want to hear both sides of a story, don't judge one side already like you've done. Keep mute and process things in your mind till you actually hear both sides.

You may however not be able to hear the other side of the story but I can boldly tell you there is more to what she wrote here.

GEEBITE:
Of course my post can only make sense to real human beings not internet BOT.
There is no missing 3yr old in the article, the child being asked after by her wayward mother would definitely be a 5yr old now.

The parents and her siblings are playing the card well. Stress the shameless absentee mother well and see what her breaking point would be.

Her expectation is to return like the biblical prodigal son and have feast thrown on her behalf with her daughter she didn't bother to care for robed in colourful dress. That's the grand delusion .

How do u know all these, pls tell me I would like to learn. You just hear a story and you have already spun a strange narrative even without carrying out an investigation. How can you make assumptions on a sensitive issue that require concrete evidence.

There are humans with cancer, but that does not mean that every human you encounter have cancer.

There are vehicles with suspension problems, but that doesn't mean that every vehicle you encounter has suspension problem.

There are ladies who abandon their kids and flee to Togo to engage in prostitution, but that doesn't mean that every lady whose kid is is Nigeria while she is in Togo abandoned that kid to engage in prostitution.

The problem with hasty generalization is that the innocent usually take the brunt.

Kobojunkie:
Please dead this your particular self-righteous bullsheet abeg!

The lady was born in poverty and made up her mind to escape it at all costs. Along the way, she made her share of mistakes but still wishes to fight her way out of poverty, and away from parents who see nothing wrong with it. What is wrong with that? Una go just open mouth dey spew epistle from nowhere at absolute strangers whom you pretend to have all figured out, for what?

This thread is about finding her child, and not for you to bastardly analyze her life like say you even know her. Leave her and focus on what matters...

Be arguing with everyone on the internet, you have lived a life well lived!

Ps. I never read your comments and this one and subsequent ones will be no different.🤪

duro4chang:
You may however not be able to hear the other side of the story but I can boldly tell you there is more to what she wrote here.

What gave you that boldness, I would like to know. Have you met the op before. Have u seen her engage in prostitution before. How did u come to this conclusion. This is why thousands of innocent Nigerians are in prison today; because the police could boldly tell that there is more to what these innocent people said, and therefore judged them based on previous experiences even though their case might be unique

Should we safetly conclude that any Nigerian female that goes to Togo go there to engage in prostitution. Like, all Nigerian females currently in Togo are prostitutes. Like there aren't Nigerian female teachers there, there aren't Nigerian female tailors there, there aren't Nigerian female traders there, there aren't Nigerian female event decorators there, please enlighten me.

Beverlyjean:
Why would u leave ur child behind...u are a very irresponsible person... u certainly got pregnant out of Wedlock and that was not enough for u hurting ur parents...u now dumped the baby on them and fled despite telling u not to leave

Said by a very responsible person.
Wear yhur crown!

Bennysam:
You're indeed a useless child , what do you mean hurt your dad? Is he the only one in that house? Why can't you calm down and take things easy , A responsible woman won't left such child in the care of another person and go as far as Togo

How about telling us yhur gross with this particular lady?
God forbid i have a relation like yhu.

Chizzy7890:
I traveled to Togo against my parents wish in the year 2021 for a greener pasture I left behind my 3 years old daughter with my parents , although the reality I have seen in Togo was not as expected, but I was at least working and sending something home to my parents.

Communication was less because I couldn't afford to calls more often. I returned back home this august the 7th and my daughter was nowhere to be found.

My parents first lied to me that she was with my mum's sister that they will send someone to pick her up but to no avail. So myself I went to my mum sister house and my daughter wasn't there and she doesn't know where she was.

I asked my parents over and over again all I could get is insults from my dad , he is angry whenever i bring the subject and my siblings are not cooperating and they've refusing to tell me the truth.

I am sick and tired of asking and no getting any answers I am trying to be calm to avoid disrespecting my parents but I am loosing patience.

So many things is going throught my head I will have no option but to take things into my own hands and hurt my dad the outcome may be deadly ,

Please no insult how do I handle the situation without disrespecting my parents or do you think I should take the matter to the police ?

Some please call 911

Brandiebird:
Be arguing with everyone on the internet, you have lived a life well lived! Ps. I never read your comments and this one and subsequent ones will be no different.🤪

Again.... Please dead this your particular self-righteous bullsheet abeg!

The lady was born in poverty and made up her mind to escape it at all costs. Along the way, she made her share of mistakes but still wishes to fight her way out of poverty, and away from parents who see nothing wrong with it. What is wrong with that? Una go just open mouth dey spew epistle from nowhere at absolute strangers whom you pretend to have all figured out, for what?

This thread is about finding her child, and not for you to bastardly analyze her life like say you even know her. Leave her and focus on what matters...

Call family meeting
Or
Report to police

Chizzy7890:
I traveled to Togo against my parents wish in the year 2021 for a greener pasture I left behind my 3 years old daughter with my parents , although the reality I have seen in Togo was not as expected, but I was at least working and sending something home to my parents.

Communication was less because I couldn't afford to calls more often. I returned back home this august the 7th and my daughter was nowhere to be found.

My parents first lied to me that she was with my mum's sister that they will send someone to pick her up but to no avail. So myself I went to my mum sister house and my daughter wasn't there and she doesn't know where she was.

I asked my parents over and over again all I could get is insults from my dad , he is angry whenever i bring the subject and my siblings are not cooperating and they've refusing to tell me the truth.

I am sick and tired of asking and no getting any answers I am trying to be calm to avoid disrespecting my parents but I am loosing patience.

So many things is going throught my head I will have no option but to take things into my own hands and hurt my dad the outcome may be deadly ,

Please no insult how do I handle the situation without disrespecting my parents or do you think I should take the matter to the police ?

frozen70:
Seat your family down ams ask them where your daughter is

Do that politely

If they can't explain anything

Then you can make a report at the police station

That will make them to bring your daughter out wherever she is

But take note, as you are going back, drop that child with anyone you know that can look after that child

Better still take that child to her dad

But that child is best with your parents

How can the child be better with her parents that cannot account for its whereabouts? What is wrong with you people? The husband and his family may be good people but bitterness and wickedness will not let her leave the child with them. I am sure that she knew exactly the kind of people that her parents are yet she went ahead to drop a poor 3 year old with them without monitoring.

Chizzy7890:
I traveled to Togo against my parents wish in the year 2021 for a greener pasture I left behind my 3 years old daughter with my parents , although the reality I have seen in Togo was not as expected, but I was at least working and sending something home to my parents.

Communication was less because I couldn't afford to calls more often. I returned back home this august the 7th and my daughter was nowhere to be found.

My parents first lied to me that she was with my mum's sister that they will send someone to pick her up but to no avail. So myself I went to my mum sister house and my daughter wasn't there and she doesn't know where she was.

I asked my parents over and over again all I could get is insults from my dad , he is angry whenever i bring the subject and my siblings are not cooperating and they've refusing to tell me the truth.

I am sick and tired of asking and no getting any answers I am trying to be calm to avoid disrespecting my parents but I am loosing patience.

So many things is going throught my head I will have no option but to take things into my own hands and hurt my dad the outcome may be deadly ,

Please no insult how do I handle the situation without disrespecting my parents or do you think I should take the matter to the police ?

Straight to the police, followed by a petition to the welfare department of the ministry of youth and social development, so that if they’ve sold the child they could face the consequences.

FreeStuffsNG:
The truth is not hidden They are scared stiff of how she will take the news. She may go again and never come back . That will wreck her already devastated father. Her father is already grieving and don't want to lose his daughter again. Counselling can help all of them especially OP.
She should calm down and let them see she has improved in her mental health

You are saying that they're hiding her daughter from her because they don't want her go back again? Or, you're saying that they're punishing her? What is wrong with her mental health because I didn't read her saying anything about that? Or, you just assumed that just because she came back from outside the country, something is wrong with her mental health?
You can't hide someone's daughter from her and still claim that you are protecting the person. Jail time is staring them in the face.

Thank you for your brilliant submission devoid of insults.
I know how to read between the lines especially when it concerns narratives coming from women, that comes out of lived experiences.
Except very rare cases(like academic pursuit, temporary relocation of job,custodial sentences etc),good women can never abandon their child especially at that tender age. Not to talk of cutting contacts for over 2 years.
Also from her owns words she is obviously a recalcitrant child which even points towards waywardness. The poster thinks she is snart with words while narrating her story but anybody with deep insight can easily read between the lines.
No child is missing I am certain, the family just wants to teach her some lessons.

shantti:
How do u know all these, pls tell me I would like to learn. You just hear a story and you have already spun a strange narrative even without carrying out an investigation. How can you make assumptions on a sensitive issue that require concrete evidence.

There are humans with cancer, but that does not mean that every human you encounter have cancer.

There are vehicles with suspension problems, but that doesn't mean that every vehicle you encounter has suspension problem.

There are ladies who abandon their kids and flee to Togo to engage in prostitution, but that doesn't mean that every lady whose kid is is Nigeria while she is in Togo abandoned that kid to engage in prostitution.

The problem with hasty generalization is that the innocent usually take the brunt.

FreeStuffsNG:
Where was police when she left home and abandoned a daughter and family behind? How will police help them get her back if she suffers a relapse or bolt away from home again and they never see her again. Omo ku san ju omo so nu lo. Does it not concern you that a mother can travel so far away Togo and kept sending money for the upkeep of her daughter left to the parent? Is the daughter without a father or all the father's family are not alive? Dysfunction is written all over her case and the parents are more stable than her.
Police will only help expose what everyone in the family already knows about her mental health except she wants to quit the denial. Her parents didn't eat or kill the child, that I know she knows and it's clear the parents need help to get over their fears of losing her again

What mental health are you talking about repeatedly because I don't understand? We have seen husband and wife who travelled abroad and left their kids with their grandparents in Nigeria. So, what are you making big deal about here exactly?
You're saying all this "I too know" only because she hasn't involved law. They could even be risking being charged for child trafficking, child labour, kidnapping or whatever the law calls it

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
How can the child be better with her parents that cannot account for its whereabouts? What is wrong with you people? The husband and his family may be good people but bitterness and wickedness will not let her leave the child with them. I am sure that she knew exactly the kind of people that her parents are yet she went ahead to drop a poor 3 year old with them without monitoring.

You need to go back to her previous post

Then read and comprehend what she wrote there very well

Read from page one to the last page

Now you go back to this her current post or new post

You will see the link between this post and the very first post

Then you dot the lines

Its obvious you don't know the Genesis of the OP

You dont come into the Middle of conversation and conclude, when you don't know how it got to that point

Even if you think you read very well

Did you see where she mentioned husband.?

If you don't understand a post ask questions

Bennysam:
She's going insane now

Yeah. Because when she was abroad, they never informed her that something bad happened to her kid. She has returned now, it is either they provide her kid or tell her what happened to the kid she left in their care. Even if you leave your ordinary item in someone's care, you have every right to ask about it later, not to talk about kid.

but she abandoned the same child and left for almost three years

The child was left in her parents care, they didn't reject the kid when she was travelling. All what they said was that she shouldn't travel. At the time, they were concerned about her, not her kid.

IamAsiri:
A baby that is barely turned 5 or going to turn to 5? What will that one know how to do?

Okay. Good observation. I'm just confused about the parents intention

Jovialjune1:
So leaving her child with her parents is abandonment? Someone that sends money for upkeep how exactly is she irresponsible? Are you okay? She should meet extended family members when her child, a human life, is missing instead of the police? Are you normal at all?

Ask yourself if you are normal.

Since your brian could comprehend what was written.

maasoap:
That's far from being irresponsible dear friend. Kids stay or live with their grandparents all the time whether their parents travel abroad or living in the same country with the grandparents. Besides, she was sending money home to them.


Like the receipt they issued her at the time? Lol. You think it is easy "to turn the table" most especially when it is centred around a missing kid?

Hmmm...i wrote that from some deep thoughts...why would a lady's parent denied her access to her child?

Dead or alive, she should have been informed even before she comes back. Not to now talk of asking them where the child his repeatedly.

The relative she said she thought might have her baby said she is not aware the baby is even the country.


Think about it again.

shantti:
Entrusting your daughter to somebody who you trust so much is now abandonment. Wow, we learn everyday. Thanks


I just went back to the story to see that he was even sending money to cater for the upkeep of this abandoned child , wow, never know it was possible to cater for a child while you have already abandoned him, we learn everyday. Thanks

In all, she never mentioned the real circumstances that led to leaving the child with the parents. She never said she had issues with her parent.

You sef think am, if all was well, why will her parents not want her to know where her child is, dead or alive!

Exodus15v11:
You shouldn't have left your child. A 3-year old at that. Nonetheless, involve the police on them to have them talk. I hope they've not done anything to her and that she's still alive. Call the Police.

Taking a 3yrs old child to Togo without knowing what she would do to survive makes no sense.

Leaving her with her parents seemed the best choice then.

I hope the child is alive and they are just being mean.

abobote:
Maybe the father of the child has carried his daughter.

I don't know why Nigerian girls like going to all these neighbouring countries for ashawo work, especially after having one or two child out of wedlock.

They full everywhere, from benin to Senegal

Hmmmm

Triplerg:
How did she abandon her? Didn't you read the part that said she was sending something home every month? She didn't abandon her daughter; her parents owe her every explanation.

U saying d wrong thing. She didn't mention monthly.

Look, u can deduce sth not said using sth said.
Inasmuch I wouldn't wanna crucify her, but I think she really made a big blunder!

From her story, I could deduce she's a single parent still leaving in her parents house, likely she got d daughter outside wedlock.
Dats already some kind of dishonour to d family. If her parents are against her leaving, certainly she never left the child in their care(dey would not accept to take care of d baby), she clearly abandoned her daughter and absconded to far Togo.

She claimed she was sending something home, to who exactly? She could afford sth to send home yet she couldn't afford calling home, how? Likely this gal never called her people throughout her stay in Togo, and I'm forced to believe she never sent anything to anybody too. To who exactly did she send those things? ...the father, mother, siblings, who exactly?

She abandoned her child and family. After flirting around, she's now forming a responsible mother...? I refuse to buy into dat!

If I should sound like FalseProphet;
I see d gal going along to act rashly, and I see her family disowning her entirely!