12 yrs old is too small to take care of other kids. Maids most times are between 10-20k. Why not take a maid and save yoursef this stress? Ur niece is too small for the tasks you are using her for. U may not need to send her back except feeding additional mouth is too much for u but get a nanny between 20-24yrs to do ur household chores n take care of the kids while u and ur wife are at work

Female Gender and wickedness no be here.

Tụfịakwa.

And your wife has not been maltreating her?

I think that girl is reacting to things based on the way she is being trained while with you.

You and your wife wicked sha.

How do you expect a 12 years old girl to do all those things?
She still be kid na, person wey una suppose dey guide/guard, una expect make she dey guide/guard kids.

Well, that is what you get when a FOO LISH husband get married to a LAZY and WICKED wife.

Note: I didn't say anything about the girls act because I can't tell if her act is a reaction to the actions of you or your wife.
I'm very sure you wouldn't have carried her if she is like that in her parent's house, so I think it is based on you guy's attitude.

She is 12yrs old and still a child herself so what your wife and you are doing is just having to pay nothing for a maid.


Get a maid to look after all 4 kids or send her home.

Show her and write out what is expected of her .


She is probably reacting on how she is being treated and not how she expected to be treated.

Men always sounding helpless when it is child labour and abuse. Your wife put pressure on you to bring your niece. If she puts pressure on you to remain faithful, would you obey that one?

I don't know the obsession some of you Nigerian couples have with child labour. She prayed for you to spoil her, not to turn her into an underaged nanny and dishwasher.

When does she have the time to do her assignments and rest while looking after 3 kids that you and your wife (two adults) couldn't do?

Please return her to her parents before she kills your kids or you guys kill her.

That girl is wicked.
Take her back...
Before she go cook shit or sniper for food for una.
And again, she's a kid...
How do u expect a kid to take care of another kid?
Isn't that wickedness on ur part??
If u want to Train another man's child, help them pay school fees...
Ore ni won ooo... limit ur kindness.
The way this Lil girls are wicked ehn.... you will wonder where they get this traits from

How do you expect a 12 year old that still needs training and supervision to take care of your kids and the chores independently?

Your wife is also wrong for leaving everything for the little girl to the extent she no longer knows when her baby poos or check around untill maggots begin to form in her children's laundry. She see small pikin come hands off her duties. Who does that? That girl still needs her supervision and training big time. So you people should stop pushing all your duties to her or send her back. After all, her parents didn't beg you to carry her in the first place.

She's not even a teenager yet. 12 years old. Hian!

Oga return that girl, immediately I returned the one in my house we have peace.

Get professional nanny.

12 years as a babysitter for a 1 year old baby, not even 18 or 19 sef?

You better get it into your head that the girl is still very much a child. Take her back to her parents if you can't treat her like that.

Wtf!

And Seun, better start fixing your Cloudfare redirection nonsense. it's fûckin pissing me off

To the OP send that girl back to her parents immediately without delay.You should not have yielded to bringing her over in the first place.

TheBillyonaire:
One person should be home. Both parents can not chase money and leaver toddlers for another child. Why are both of you working? Are you not aware that nursing kids is a full time job?

Your niece can be there at your home and be trained as you promised but you need a nanny or a parent at home.

Their sole reason for bringing in his niece was to takecare of his kids . She is still a child for FS. I dont know why the goverment won't step up their effort to punish people who engage in child labour. If you cant take take of any , dont adopt them . Where you bringing a 12 years kid to take care of her fellow kids lol . Some so called grown up can be so stupid.

“Because you listened to your wife’s voice..." - Genesis 3:17

I'll advise u to keep ur promise to the little girl by taking care of her! Cos wat u did to her was bad! U and ur wife personally made a become a bitter and bad person at her young age! By depriving her off her own childhood for the sake of ur own children! From wat u said the gal loves u as her uncle but the ill treatments she's getting made her vent her angers and pains on ur kids! Take care of her and get a nanny to look over them all ! In few years time u'll see she'll grow to love ur kids and will treat them as her own! Just give it some time!

Omoawoke:
This is why I’m working hard day and night, improving myself daily to build a world for my children. A world where they will never be disrespected, a world where they have most of what it takes to live a good life and never lack.
I can bet your niece came from a humble background and the parents are not doing too well and that’s why your wife could treat her badly.

In summary, try get money for this life

bro such is life, everyone has ur type of dream, no one asked God for poverty, but life throws at us what ever it likes and not what we desire most times comes to us, u think the girls parents wants their daughter to go do maid?

She is still a kid bro, some time is needed for her to adjust and mature, have patience and exert some discipline in her too, things are not smooth in life always..

Zeewirld:
..Your niece is a wicked person... Inasmuch as she might be dissatisfied that you brought her to your house without enrolling her in any school...She is a wicked person and might end up harming your family.

You know the issues with men most times is that they are always slow in taking decision most especially when it involves such matters.

Kindly scout for another nanny...

You and the OP are wicked and heartless!! So you want to turn a 12 years old to a mother or Nanny?? Is this the help they promised her parents? God will surely punish people like you!

I am 100% sure this is an igbo family. Una nor dey tire of using children as house helps? You went to get a 12 years old child to come look after your children. Someone that needs to be looked after.

I hope your wife has not been maltreating the girl? We don't want to hear any news of that girl dying or beaten so badly with bodily injuries o. E nor dey hard Igbo women to do.

Return that child to her parents.

Quite patient with 12yrs old kid?

DesChyko:
Your wife is quite patient.

These small children. She is not happy bout something. Find out

NapoleonHill:


There is no answer in what you wrote and the 12 years old girl is not heartless. She's also a baby that needs parental care and training herself. She can only support, not assume the role of a mother.

@OP, please, return the girl to her parents. The moment your wife begins to complain, just know the girl is now in danger of being maltreated.

If she remains with you, see her as your daughter and correct her with love while remembering how foolish we all were at 12 years.

The guy you replied was not wrong because the 12 year old is actually heartless. However, she also needs to be taken care of because she's still a child. I suspect they are IIGB0S

The 12-year old girl is too young to baby sit and help with your kids. It's obvious you ain't interested in the training or wellbeing of the innocent girl, but the selfishness of your wife for comfort on your kids and home management drove you to bringing the kid.

Please allow the little niece enjoy her childhood.

I usually do not like to comment, especially when using my phone to type.
1.you promised to train her as your child, which I do not think you are doing.
2. I don't think you have enrolled her in a school, and if you haven't enrolled her in a school she would not be happy knowing the other kids are in school.
3. You should get a mature nanny for all of them including your niece if your heart is genuine to train her as you said.
If you can not do these for her then send her packing so this matter would not end up being tragic.

Acidosis:
I wonder why some people continue to take in their nieces and nephews. Even if your intentions are genuinely good, would your niece or nephew perceive it that way? There's a Twitter thread where Nigerians shared their experiences of living with an uncle or aunt; I believe you should take a look at that thread to reconsider your decision as 99.9% had terrible things to say. In fact, you can't read that thread and allow anyone's child grow under your roof.

Believe it or not, this arrangement never ends well. If this girl spends any more time with your family, the kind of stories she'll share about you as she grows up will shock your generation. And no, she won't only share it on twitter but also to her husband, her children... And that's how we continue to raise a highly toxic generation.

Let her go now. Nieces and nephews typically receive the best love and care under their parents' roof and mistakes made by someone else's child can be challenging to overlook.

Finally, only your own children tend to view "discipline" as a part of their upbringing. Disciplining someone else's child under your roof is often perceived as wickedness. Even people who their mama nearly killed them with beating end up buying cars for their mothers. You won't get such privilege.

NaijaRealtor

Listen closely to what this poster said

complexstuffs:



The guy you replied was not wrong because the 12 year old is actually heartless. However, she also needs to be taken care of because she's still a child. I suspect they are IIGB0S

The girl is not heartless IMO. Remember when we were 12? When I was around that age, my parents brought an elderly person to look after me and my siblings.

We were being guided at what we did. We will do even stupider things and our parents will forgive us.

A 12 year old doesn't have a mature mind and incapable of seeing the long term danger of what they do. That would continue until they are young adults.

You claimed you wanted to train the niece but in ur words the niece is the one training your children..
You no show love.. Your wife want a maid

A112:
You claimed you wanted to train the niece but in ur words the niece is the one training your children..
You no show love.. Your wife want a maid

You can imagine.

NaijaRealtor:
1. Right from when she was about three years old, she would always pray for me to make it so she can come stay with me.

2. Been married for like 7 years and we have 3 kids. My wife was on my neck to bring my niece to come stay with us so she can assist with helping to look after the kids once they all return from school.

3. Because I know how many ladies treat children that aren't theirs, I refused to bring my niece over. So after much pressure from my wife, I approached my sister and her husband and pleaded to allow me train her as she'd always prayed.

4. Weeks after her arrival, my wife started complaining about her attitude and stuff. I refused to yield to my wife's suggestions that I take my niece back. It almost caused quarrel between us.

I felt it was too early to judge her. She's just 12 years old.

Her Attitudes:

A. She would fold and keep pants stained with my 1 year old poop in the laundry basket until it starts bringing out maggots, then we would search the whole house for the source of the foul smell until we find it and throw away affected clothes, disinfect the house and all.

B. She, yesterday wiped my 6 years old son with iron buckle on the belt and his head nearly burst open. He complained of severe headache and we are still treating him.

C. Final straw was, while we were in the office today, my 6 years old started to throw up. He was sick. This girl just laid on the couch and instructed a 6 years old to go fetch the broom, mopping stick and packer to clean the mess.

My son was very weak, but he went to fetch these items and cleaning the vomit. Because he was very sick, he kept on throwing up and cleaning at the same time. All these while, this girl laid there relaxing until my wife came home and washed my son up and cleaned the floor.

When I came back this evening and learnt about the stuff, I quietly asked her why she'd behaved like that and she said it was nothing.

I really don't know whether to let her stay while I try to coach her or take her back to her parents.

I seriously need advice.

Sorry for the long epistle.

Take your niece back to her own parents, she does not love your family, and this detrimental to you all.

Your niece is still a very small child of 12years. A child cannot take care of a fellow child like an adult would have done.

You are robbing the girl of her childhood by this act of telling her to babysit your children.

Before your niece used an iron belt on your son's head, I strongly believe your son was the aggressor here. First to do no dey pain.

My verdict, please return your niece to her parents. She should only be coming for weekends visit if need be.

Tell your wife to stay back and take good care of her children.

Selah.

jaeyking:
Why bother to have kids
If you won't train them yourselves and be there to look after them

New generation parents
This question is for you

If you feel you are too busy to do so
Then get a professional nanny to do such duty and not someone's child who might feel maltreated.

Bottom line
Send your niece back to her mother
That's all

Train your child yourself or get a professional (registered) nanny

God bless u.i have been using different nannies at different time for over years cos I won't allow.my kids in the hands of families that will.maltreat them.the guy had money and want cheap labour.were ahun

Return that child to her parents.

Both of you suspended your parental duties and handed them over to a 12-year old abi...

A 12-year old kid to manage 3 kids of yours. You guys are not serious. Return that child now

chauvinist:
You are a wicked human

How can you expect a 12 years old child to be rasing your child? That's child abuse and cheap labor

I have no pity for you

Either employ a professional nanny or get either of your mothers or your wife stay at home

And when the wife stays at home, fast forward later, we will hear she contributed nothing to the growth of the family afterall she was ordinary house wife.

NaijaRealtor:
1. Right from when she was about three years old, she would always pray for me to make it so she can come stay with me.

2. Been married for like 7 years and we have 3 kids. My wife was on my neck to bring my niece to come stay with us so she can assist with helping to look after the kids once they all return from school.

3. Because I know how many ladies treat children that aren't theirs, I refused to bring my niece over. So after much pressure from my wife, I approached my sister and her husband and pleaded to allow me train her as she'd always prayed.

4. Weeks after her arrival, my wife started complaining about her attitude and stuff. I refused to yield to my wife's suggestions that I take my niece back. It almost caused quarrel between us.

I felt it was too early to judge her. She's just 12 years old.

Her Attitudes:

A. She would fold and keep pants stained with my 1 year old poop in the laundry basket until it starts bringing out maggots, then we would search the whole house for the source of the foul smell until we find it and throw away affected clothes, disinfect the house and all.

B. She, yesterday wiped my 6 years old son with iron buckle on the belt and his head nearly burst open. He complained of severe headache and we are still treating him.

C. Final straw was, while we were in the office today, my 6 years old started to throw up. He was sick. This girl just laid on the couch and instructed a 6 years old to go fetch the broom, mopping stick and packer to clean the mess.

My son was very weak, but he went to fetch these items and cleaning the vomit. Because he was very sick, he kept on throwing up and cleaning at the same time. All these while, this girl laid there relaxing until my wife came home and washed my son up and cleaned the floor.

When I came back this evening and learnt about the stuff, I quietly asked her why she'd behaved like that and she said it was nothing.

I really don't know whether to let her stay while I try to coach her or take her back to her parents.

I seriously need advice.

Sorry for the long epistle.

The last point is dangerous. If you don't want to lose your kids, let her go in peace. Listen to your wife. The signs are there now, she might do something that will make you regret ever bringing her to your home if you don't send her away now