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Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by Hassanmaye(m): 4:24pm On Sep 15, 2023
Nonexisting1:
Once she is vile, mean and wicked, then she is likely a single mother or divorcee whose husband has moved on. No traumatic symptoms is bigger than what triggers the attitude seen in single mothers and divorcees. Nothing is worse than having a good man and then lose him to another vaginarian out of foolishness.
Hahahaha bad guy I don't know what women did to you
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by Opanka44(m): 4:25pm On Sep 15, 2023
Rayban25:
No matter how traumatized a lady is, if she truly likes you she will open up to you. Shes just not comfortable with you. And you already said your relationship is platonic so why trying to go the extra mile? She go soon cast you to your girlfriend
No mind that guy. A lady u claim is your platonic friend, you're playing with her Hair? What type of playing is that?
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by Opanka44(m): 4:27pm On Sep 15, 2023
iammo:
Are we talking about making moves or physical touch and being scared?!

What exactly do you think we are talking about

And both my Girlfriend and my cousin are in the same place whenever I engage her

Be like say some Nairalander just go dey look for stupid arguement up and down

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I wonder why you should be touching and playing with her hair. As per what please? You're overstepping your boundaries Sir.
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by 6ixT8: 4:29pm On Sep 15, 2023
Purvan:
When they're virgins and don't have boyfriend nor girlfriend
Spot on.

How then would you describe such traumatic issue. You seems experienced.
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by sonnie10:
People who are traumatized have certain triggers that remind them of past experience. They must have witnessed or been a victim of either rape, heavy bodily injury, burnt or violent death.
The sound, smell, sight of that incident is embedded in their memory.
For instance, a soldier who was traumatized by war experience would be triggered by a bursted car tire or a bursted ballon in birthday party.
Same thing could occurs if he smells the burning of a goat or cow skin. It will trigger that memory of burnt human remains in the war front.
This is a condition known as PTSD. They are hyperactive to certain events.
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by pocohantas(f): 4:41pm On Sep 15, 2023
Hassanmaye:
Hahahaha bad guy I don't know what women did to you
Definitely a traumatic past too. grin
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by thinkmoney(m): 4:41pm On Sep 15, 2023
labake1:
What immediately tells you that a person had a traumatic past?
If you support Tinubu I automatically feel you must have been scared or raised by some scared parents. It takes someone with some mental issues to support somebody with a character like Tinubu.
Just look at SammyLarry and Naira Marley, you will get the impression of people that have seen a lot of bad things
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by Nobody: 4:42pm On Sep 15, 2023
Opanka44:
No mind that guy. A lady u claim is your platonic friend, you're playing with her Hair? What type of playing is that?
Na am sabi oo
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by Nobody: 4:44pm On Sep 15, 2023
thinkmoney:
If you support Tinubu I automatically feel you must have been scared or raised by some scared parents. It takes someone with some mental issues to support somebody with a character like Tinubu.
Just look at SammyLarry and Naira Marley, you will get the impression of people that have seen a lot of bad things
I wont say its trauma.

I'll just call that sheer stupidity.
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by Emeka71(m): 4:49pm On Sep 15, 2023
Nonexisting1:
Once she is vile, mean and wicked, then she is likely a single mother or divorcee whose husband has moved on. No traumatic symptoms is bigger than what triggers the attitude seen in single mothers and divorcees. Nothing is worse than having a good man and then lose him to another vaginarian out of foolishness.
And too much demands.
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by jeromestarks: 4:50pm On Sep 15, 2023
Zonefree:
There's nothing as traumatic as being born in Nigeria.
Shut the fvck up!
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by Ennypoker: 4:53pm On Sep 15, 2023
She's too stingyhuh?
You no get sense

galantjoe:
I just dished out one girl like that. She was boasting that she has had sex before. Behold, when I wanted to enter, she will close her legs and fridgeting as if I was touching her open wound. after many failed attempts. So I told her she is suffering from vaginismus. Which is as a result of post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) she might have in her sxxual encounters. She denied that nothing like that existed.

So, I have to break up with her. After then She told that happened when she was in her 1st year in university. That a guy, her boyfriend friend wanted to rape her. Hmm, your boyfriend wanted to rape you, which made you to develop PTSD. Nawaoo, I told her you re too stingy. I can't date such your type,
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by rex21: 4:58pm On Sep 15, 2023
Rayban25:
No matter how traumatized a lady is, if she truly likes you she will open up to you. Shes just not comfortable with you. And you already said your relationship is platonic so why trying to go the extra mile? She go soon cast you to your girlfriend
Make una dey talk from a point of knowledge. Some people are like that. Maybe from past experience, nor be all this 'she is not into you' bruhaha. I know someone with very similar experience.
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by GodWrites: 5:11pm On Sep 15, 2023
Adewale1603:
introverts are also quite and reserved and antisocial.
Majority of them became introverted after a traumatic event.
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by Badmashii(m): 5:13pm On Sep 15, 2023
Fahvvy:
With the way Rayban25 and iammo are going about this, I believe they must have had a traumatic past grin cheesy...
Guy why na? See as people don dey look as if I don craze becos of laff. grin
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by mvem(m): 5:16pm On Sep 15, 2023
Rayban25:
No matter how traumatized a lady is, if she truly likes you she will open up to you. Shes just not comfortable with you. And you already said your relationship is platonic so why trying to go the extra mile? She go soon cast you to your girlfriend
this is bullshit you wrote...you don't understand trauma
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by King3urna(m): 5:34pm On Sep 15, 2023
galantjoe:
I just dished out one girl like that. She was boasting that she has had sex before. Behold, when I wanted to enter, she will close her legs and fridgeting as if I was touching her open wound. after many failed attempts. So I told her she is suffering from vaginismus. Which is as a result of post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) she might have in her sxxual encounters. She denied that nothing like that existed.

So, I have to break up with her. After then She told that happened when she was in her 1st year in university. That a guy, her boyfriend friend wanted to rape her. Hmm, your boyfriend wanted to rape you, which made you to develop PTSD. Nawaoo, I told her you re too stingy. I can't date such your type,
Crazy dude 😜
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by addexx: 5:44pm On Sep 15, 2023
She's a good person .very generous and caring. I love her so much. But she gets angry at unexpected and trivial things. She keeps things in her mind so much. I'm becoming so careful around her in what I say or do. It feels like manipulation. I'm gradually beginning to withdraw after trying to correct her severally. I wonder why a pretty lady like her would have such anger and vengeful spirit. Probably something in her past huh
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by adebayo987: 5:48pm On Sep 15, 2023
labake1:
What immediately tells you that a person had a traumatic past?
Phobia and response to things
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by addexx: 5:48pm On Sep 15, 2023
Rayban25:
Oga she dosent like you and shes not feeling you.
There are many ladies that dislike physical touch. Even from their partners. They get so uncomfortable and may even threaten to end a relationship because of unnecessary touching. No matter how much they love the person.
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by OnlyFiction: 5:56pm On Sep 15, 2023
Eriokanmi:
How much experience do you have with ladies? Nothing in this world would excite a lady so much that she'd tell you of her past or secrets, be it awry past relationships, trauma, just name it. If you like, build her a mansion on the sea and spread millions of dollars on the floor as her bed to sleep on, its whatever she feels like letting you know, that you'd know.

Meanwhile, a man can open his heart to ladies, even over issues he has vowed never to let her know about, when he's happy. Ladies keep deep secrets, no matter how much they love you. It's the way they're, not their fault
I think it's the opposite.as "overtalking is more common among ladies
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by SweetDipBenny(m): 5:56pm On Sep 15, 2023
iammo:
There is this girl when I try touching her, or holding her hands perhaps touch her hair to remove a dirt, she gets jumpy , and later feel embarrased
She's a rape victim..
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by SweetDipBenny(m): 6:02pm On Sep 15, 2023
1Sharon:
He is bitter because a girl said she didn't like his igbo accent.
U r mad grin
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by Oluwademilade: 6:02pm On Sep 15, 2023
When I see Rufai Oseni talking
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by JustPowerApps(m): 6:02pm On Sep 15, 2023
When he/she supports APC
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by Fujiyama: 6:09pm On Sep 15, 2023
Zonefree:
There's nothing as traumatic as being born in Brasil Nigeria.
^^^

grin

Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by FuckTheMod: 6:09pm On Sep 15, 2023
labake1:
What immediately tells you that a person had a traumatic past?
For a girl, I THINK THEIR BODYCOUNT.

ANY GIRL WITH MORE THAN 2 BODYCOUNT CAN NEVER BE A NORMAL GIRL.
OLOSHO NA OLOSHO
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by Fearyourcreator: 6:28pm On Sep 15, 2023
Zonefree:
There's nothing as traumatic as being born in Nigeria.
For you
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by PrinceofAgoAre(m): 6:30pm On Sep 15, 2023
please could someone kindly help me with 2k
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by Myer(m):
Rayban25:
Did we say you shouldn't do whatever?You're speaking long grammar. This is not about feeling macho.im talking about her cousin you're saying another thing.Let your girlfriend know that you're making moves at her cousin and see
You clearly had a traumatic past and still experiencing a traumatic present.
Better own up and seek help now before you have an even more traumatic future.
Your triggers pass kalashnikov.
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by PepeXKermit: 6:35pm On Sep 15, 2023
Ybnl princess.
Re: What Immediately Tells You That A Person Had A Traumatic Past? by nairamaniac: 6:38pm On Sep 15, 2023
iammo:
There is this girl when I try touching her, or holding her hands perhaps touch her hair to remove a dirt, she gets jumpy , and later feel embarrased
what is your end game intention when you try to hold her hands or touch her?

For u to finally feel embarrassed, it means your mind wasn't clear.

Why would you want to touch her hair to remove dirt?

Can't u tell her the location of the dirth and allow her dust it off herself?

Is she handicap?

We don't understand



I later read that she's close to you and your gf.


All the same, there are better ways of communicating with someone you are not dating.
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