Matrix137:
I think he needs deliverance

Take him to Mountain of fire. Or connect to Pastor Jerry Eze every morning on NSPPD.

What God cannot do doesn't exist

You'll surely come back with a testimony

Goodluck

U see when theres tough deliverance troubles, una go find MFM but go do Thanksgiving for orthodox church.
I see hypocrisy

Well that your brother is a hard nut to crack and a resident terror. Find out if he's on drugs or perhaps he has a mental disorder.

Eliminate him

Hmmm

Na God dey have mercy on first born sons. They are either very very sharp, responsible in which other siblings look up to OR the total opposite, sluggish, not willing to learn, slower than the rest of his siblings, grossly underperforming or just generally a trouble to the family. I rarely see just a regular first born son.

Why can’t you report him to law enforcement and even pay the police to harass him back.
Na craze dem dey take cure craze! At 40yrs, he cannot be changed again by pacifism, as his character is already set.
You people are spoiling him too much! Consistently settle police or army to get him out of your father’s hair. If he is alone and outside the family , those that will calm him down are waiting for him. Na parents go chase troublesome pikin & not catch him, if you engage a stranger, that pikin go know say khaki no be leather!
Some people were created to deal with people like this… involve them ASAP!

Tetrisbiz:
I never wanted to do this and this is a very embarrassing situation but I need help from nairaland users.

I have an older brother in his early 40s. Since I was a child till this very moment, this person has been a torn on the flesh of my parents and the family in general.

Sometime in 2020, with the help of my elder sister's husband ( the HR) we were able to find a job for him as a supervisor in a factory and then I and my immediate elder brother (another sibling of mine) contributed money and rented an apartment for him in Lagos and then bought some property to furnish the apartment. To our surprise, my elder brother starting forcing his sexual advances on junior female workers and if any of these girls reject his advances he would start threatening the girls that he would get them fired with the help of the HR (My sister's husband). Forunately my sister's husband found out what was going on and rejected my brother's request for the female workers to be sacked. This started a war between my elder brother and my sister and her husband.

My elder brother eventually left that company (note he wasn't fired he LEFT by himself) and went back to the village. When my father heard this he almost collapsed as he knew the trouble that was coming his way.

Since he returned to the village he started assaulting my parents and I had to send money (about 400,000) back to Nigeria for him to rent a flat just so he could leave my parents alone. My brother stayed in that apartment for 3 months then started fighting his landlord and then told his landlord he couldn't stay for the year and demanded some part of his rent back,he took his rent, returned to the village and picked up from where he left by fighting my father ( a very old man). Its so bad that my father sometimes leaves the house (The house that he built as a family house) and stays outside for hours before returning home.

Please do we have restraining order laws in Nigeria and is there a particular police division in the Nigerian police or legal system that can be used to address an issue such as this?

I'm tired and I'm considering taking a drastic and extremely aggressive decision to resolve this situation once and for all.

He needs a psychiatrist. He's battling with some mental issues

RevDesm0ndJuju:



Ibo

Dey play. So na only Ibos have 'resident terrors'!?

talented321:
I don't think so because they even give him a job and apartment, if he is responsible person he would have start from there...

He is fundamentally not responsible, he detests the fact his siblings are doing better and even if his siblings sends him abroad, he will end up in prison there.

How was he raised? Was he always given a preferential treatment and all his request granted?

There is the need for a very deep thinking to identify the source of the problem. Once you identify it, use that as the stepping stone to finding the best way to manage the situation.

You and your parents enabled him.
Goodluck.

omoredia:
Truth be told. The same parent spoiled him from a young age. What you are experiencing is now new and very common with first born males as their mother usually spoils them from a young age giving them that entitlement mentality.

Sensible comment.

@op, check this comment out.

Most first born are like that.

illicit:
Eliminate him

Na wa

sylve11:


Na wa

Yeah

He will kill that old man with time

omoredia:
Truth be told. The same parent spoiled him from a young age.

and you are sure this is the truth because you are a member of their family

Arrange for community boys to touch him briefly and twice...

talented321:
With my loud...
I once has a friend who when he wanted to die fight almost everyday..
Village people dey use ur brother head dance azonto in their temple...
Drastic measure' then involve the police na, and from my observation if u treat that guy carelessly and looseguard, somebody will go down in that family because he is desperate to die and will go down with anybody..

@Op, Read This Very Clearly and Think Carefully Before Acting.


This is Really A Loud Thought.



Why Not Take Your Brother out of The Country instead of Using Police on Him ?



He is Degenerate because He is Deeply Sour and Considers Himself as A Failure When His Younger Ones Are Doing Great and Maybe Abroad.



He Degenerate Brother Obviously thinks of "Travelling Out of The Country as A Great Achievement".


If it takes you to talk to him to take him abroad, you'll see that you'll be able to buy time to make him start behaving righteous again with Family Members.


Let Him know it will just take about 3 to 6 months for his Visa and Necessary Things to be done. He will be calm psychologically.

And He would start to behave well.



Then, You All Find A Way To Advance Him To A Country of His Choice. Things will Change for Him because He Would Be on A Better Frame of Mind in A Saber Environment.

@OP That brother of yours is a drug addict.. na so dem be, complete menace to their family and society.
This is why we condemn drug trafficking and drug abuse in the strongest of terms cos it brings immeasurable pains and trauma to family members of those who take them.. na where Igbo people dey derive joy pass be that.

Mindlog:


His behaviour is "normal" for most eldest sons who messed up in life while they see their younger ones doing well in life.

I beg to disagree. There are tons of first son whose younger siblings are doing pretty fine and they didn't constitute nuisance.

sylve11:


Sensible comment.

@op, check this comment out.

Most first born are like that.

Maybe in your community
in mine the opposite is the case
All the first borns are leaders

Nigerians sometimes reason like subhuman

Very illogical and superstitious.
In your entire life since the day you were born have you followed the lives of 10000 first borns up till age 40? Compared to the billions of first borns in the world?

When you engage your brain you would realise how stupid you sound .

But then using the brain is a habit and most people don't have that habit

Like someone said, if you involve the police, he will be released and he can do something worse that may lead to death of a family member or outsider.

Involve the village and let him be warned that the next time it is reported he laid hands on his parents, he will be beaten to pulp by the village youths and eventually banished from the community never to return.

You can also toe the path of a restraining order claiming he's a threat to life. If he is ever spotted near your parents house, he should be arrested and detained.

Enough is enough.

You guys have been encouraging this behaviour for a long time ...he now feels entitled!! you better deal with it before it gets out of hand i would lock him in a police cell for a day or two as a reality check ...stop encouraging his nonsense

U also need help if you the undegenerated brother do not know after reading this you should start prayer and fasting.

My dear... police like this kind of case... get the nearest police station, call the door and explain... send something for mobilisation... when police pick him up eh... they will just touch him small, he will never disturb ur parents again...

One of my babe elder brother come de misbehave inside her house for estate... around 2am, she called me to hear how her brother was shouting and disturbing the peace of the whole area, telling her to give him money... when I drove down the guy was holding cutlass standing by her room door,

As early as 6am I carry estate police come, they refused us carrying him with car, after couple of hot slaps, they locked him up for two days then walked him to the gate and told him never ever come back to the estate... they told him if he comes back and they see him or her is reported he should take whatever he see... till this day, over 1 yr he never come back to the estate. ..

Kubwa12B:
LEARN (A.I ART AND ANIMATION) AND MAKE MORE MONEY ONLINE.
AI art (Artificial Intelligence art) is a form of digital art created or enhanced with AI tools.  A.I videos are human-like, they are far better than cartoons as they look and perfom like real human/Animals.
A.I art works with tools ( it doesn't require knowledge of programming, painting or drawing skills)
WHAT YOU CAN DO WITH IT:
* Helps in Marketing ( Video ads)
* Content Creator ( like YouTube and Tiktok) etc
* Enhance Teaching Materials
* Comic Book Creator

HOW YOU CAN MAKE MONEY WITH IT:
* Freelance Services (it's highly demanded)
* create and sell video contents
* Promote Your brands
* Have a YouTube channel and focus on a nice niche .
* Advertise for Print on Demand video.
* Atimes sacrifice your time, create promotional videos for big brands, approach them with, I bet you, about 90% of them would compensate you.
* With A.I art skills, you are already an artist. Just think about wall arts
* Create Children books
* As the knowledge is not yet saturated, you can teach others and make money also .
The course consists of 16 detailed videos and they are not heavy. Also, children can learn this.
Price is slashed to N3500
There's certificate

interested in this

Jejely, rent an apartment for your parents and leave him in the village.

He will surely take care of himself!

Tetrisbiz:
I never wanted to do this and this is a very embarrassing situation but I need help from nairaland users.

I have an older brother in his early 40s. Since I was a child till this very moment, this person has been a torn on the flesh of my parents and the family in general.

Sometime in 2020, with the help of my elder sister's husband ( the HR) we were able to find a job for him as a supervisor in a factory and then I and my immediate elder brother (another sibling of mine) contributed money and rented an apartment for him in Lagos and then bought some property to furnish the apartment. To our surprise, my elder brother starting forcing his sexual advances on junior female workers and if any of these girls reject his advances he would start threatening the girls that he would get them fired with the help of the HR (My sister's husband). Forunately my sister's husband found out what was going on and rejected my brother's request for the female workers to be sacked. This started a war between my elder brother and my sister and her husband.

My elder brother eventually left that company (note he wasn't fired he LEFT by himself) and went back to the village. When my father heard this he almost collapsed as he knew the trouble that was coming his way.

Since he returned to the village he started assaulting my parents and I had to send money (about 400,000) back to Nigeria for him to rent a flat just so he could leave my parents alone. My brother stayed in that apartment for 3 months then started fighting his landlord and then told his landlord he couldn't stay for the year and demanded some part of his rent back,he took his rent, returned to the village and picked up from where he left by fighting my father ( a very old man). Its so bad that my father sometimes leaves the house (The house that he built as a family house) and stays outside for hours before returning home.

Please do we have restraining order laws in Nigeria and is there a particular police division in the Nigerian police or legal system that can be used to address an issue such as this?

I'm tired and I'm considering taking a drastic and extremely aggressive decision to resolve this situation once and for all.