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Kobojunkie:
I disagree with that notion entirely. I mean the notion that children are naturally foolish. The reason we train children is so as to get them to learn the rules of how to conform to society and to grow them socially and emotionally. That in no way means that outside of that training and monitoring, they are foolish beings. No, not at all. Case and point, children born and abandoned out there to be raised in orphanages or under wicked conditions. Many of them still grow up into intelligent and smart beings, teaching themselves how to conform and empathize with others, though they are mostly not always well-adjusted.

2. Yes, there are children who through exposure to certain conditions are stripped of their ability to reason right and wrong and so end up copying whatever is placed in front of them. But not all children are that way. Many children are able to weigh each and every teaching to decide if it is worth adopting or not. I used to be that kind of child myself, and thank God I was that way.

“Life is Short. Make Sure You Spend As Much Time As Possible on the Internet Arguing with Strangers.”

Some women are just too provocative and disrespectful to their husbands.

Same thing as a greedy woman is raised by someone, must of these abuse of a thing started in a relationship but must women pretend as if is normal until when they are lock in marriage before their eyes clear.

Successfulben:
You're wrong. I was raised by a single mum because she left her abusive marriage. I and my younger sister watched our father beats our mother at the most slightest provocation and we would usually rush to save our mother from the beatings with tears in our eyes. We hated our dad so much and I could remember going to challenge when I was just 13. I have never raised my hands on my sister nor my fiance because I know what my mother passed through in the hands of her abusive husbands. Our father comes occasionally to see us and still begs for us to come back to him. I am 30 now with a masters degree and doing well for myself. I wish all good women well.

Thank God you did turn out well. Most don't.

fijihems:
Some women are[b] just too provocative and disrespectful to their husbands[/b].

Isn't that the same with many husbands out there??

essentialone:
Abusive husbands didn't fall from the sky, someone raised a boy wrongly.

Your 3years old son gets angry whenever you give him food he doesn't want and throws it on you, you laugh and say "😃😃 children ehh".

Baby boy will lift his hands and slap you when he wants you to drop him...All you'd say is "you're beating mummy 😃"

No other child in that area messes with him...And you're calling him "A no- nonsense boy"

He picks up things from the ground and hits people whenever he's stopped from doing something...You smile and call him "action boy😃🤾🏿‍♂️🤸🏽‍♂️"

You expose him to all manner of violence and say "He's a man, man suppose get mind"

Few years down the line the teenage boy bullies his sisters, commands them around, shares slaps as souvenirs to anyone that dares to challenge him.
You call him "man of the house"😃

He grew up having his way all through. Now he's a full grown man in the society. And it's not funny anymore.

Abusive husbands didn't fall from the sky, someone raised a boy wrongly.

*IT'S EASIER TO TRAIN A SON THAN TO CORRECT A HUSBAND.*

We could address a lot from the root.

Sorry if you’ve been hurt with this post ?

But! This is just the Fact 👌🤷‍♀️

May Almighty God make it easy for us all AmennN 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

I agree.
It takes a mother and father to raise a good son and great husband

There's sha something innately wrong with the callous, insensitive, abusive, destructive gender; raised "well" or not.

They learnt that from their parents, what do you expect from a child that grew up in an environment full with choas

BloomingDale:
Fathers should please bring up their sons properly and stop the gaslighting of the mothers. Only a father can train his son properly. Instead of watching football on Saturdays, use that time to bond with your sons if you are not often around during the week.

A father should also give partial training to the daughters on how a man is supposed to treat them right. Take your daughters out on dates and show them how a potential partner is supposed to behave if they come calling.

At the bolded, wetin come concern time wey man wan take watch football concern training a child properly?

Thank God my sister

Skyview01:
Thank God you did turn out well. Most don't.

She would have been long dead by now. I do hate my dad for his past actions and love him at the same time cos he is still my dad.

Kobojunkie:
Your mother left, and that helped you lot out a lot. It helped you mentally conclude that what you watched happen to he was indeed wrong and unacceptable. Imagine if she had refused to leave the abusive situation, do you think your story would have turned out the same?

Train your children to realize the realities of life. If one marries an abusive partner, it makes me wonder whether the victim was ignorant to all the pointers towards an abusive person during dating and courtship periods?

I believed this was how the like of Fani kayode was raise through stolen fund from our nation

Skyview01:
They learn from the parents too.

If the dad respects the mom, the boy would likely grow to respect women.

Parents need to set an example for the child.

Ladyclara002:
You're right tho

What of abusive wives or are women now angels

Takes one to know one, punk

Successfulben:
You can't try this in the US except in this Zoo republic. But I put this to you in all humility that you're a MAD MAN.

grandstar:
■ Parents need to set an example for the child.

How can a women enduring a violent/unhealthy marriage be expected to set an example for her children?

Kobojunkie:
How can a women enduring a violent/unhealthy marriage be expected to set an example for her children?

She should leave.

grandstar:
She should leave.

To where? Most have nowhere else to go. Dont you get it?

essentialone:
■ To where? Most have nowhere else to go. Dont you get it?

She is an adult and so should be well able to find herself a place far from present harm for her children. There is no reason good enough for why a woman should remain in an abusive relationship particularly when she has kids to care for.

Okay ooo issoright

grandstar:
■ She should leave.

Her brain should not to do just that.

Who is in a beat position to properly raise a male child? Father or Mother? Please don't say Both.

essentialone:
■ Who is in a beat position to properly raise a male child? Father or Mother? Please don't say Both.

Properly raise a male child? Children are Children, and gender has nothing to do with raising them properly.

Dam im so Hot🤤😭🤧

As a man, don't date a neighbor. Avoid girls in your neighborhood. Avoid girls at your work place or business outlet or environs. Don't date or flirt with them.

Do not attempt touching them with your third leg.

And as a boss — don't date your female staffs. No jokes. No gisting. No unnecessary gifts, except on staff special gifting days.

Keep a strong face.

"Good morning Sir"
You; "Good morning Cicilia.

"Good morning sir"
How are you today?

"I'm good sir thanks you"
You are welcome.

Don't ask her —!"How was your night."

I bet you, you don't wanna know. There's nothing special about her night. You are not her boyfriend or relative. She'll not call you when she'll have a fire outbreak in the night at her home.

She'll call her Man, Father or relatives.

Stop plugging yourself into her emotional domains.

She's there to work, get paid and go home.
No unnecessary outings. If they must be an outing, then it should be approved by the company or take the Men out too.

If you must date a colleague, date one from the other branch. Avoid see finish.
Avoid overfamiliarity.

Don't date a neighbor. Avoid area girls. She knows too much about your capabilities, flaws, weakness and strength, you'll suffer in the short or long run.

If you date a neighbor, a girl in your street, or colleague at work — you will always spend above your budget because you would want to impress her.
You may finis spending your salary before the middle of the month.

You will surely regret it.

Change or perish.

Class dismissed.
Till I come your way again.
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