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ceejay80s:
He plays bet9ja and wins little not all the time

He might be working somewhere, he saw no need to go and stay there till 4 or 5. So he sign in the morning and come back home. Or give perfect excuse not to go there for weeks. But he is supposed use the free time to engaged with something productive.

You know, most organisations in Nigeria are redundant, because corruption is deeply entrenched. Productivity is kind of low. Economic activity paralyzed and disrupted across many sectors.

She wants the lawyer who is a skilled professional to do these unskilled jobs, just like that.

Luckysbab:
Why are you bothered about getting married, when una don say marriage isn't an achievement?

Marry your work and enjoy your life. Leave marriage for the "pickmes"

Did she tell you she's bothered or you can't read simple English?

Jewessgratitud3:
Resent him because he went for my sis? You're high. If this is all you could pick from the story then you're no different from the lazy blob

I can see you have no manners, I guess you're not married up till now . Because of your bad behaviour.

tiswell:
This story will have a very different narrative if we hear the 'lazy" man's side of it.


All I see here is emotional vibrations,selectively trying so hard for the man to appear all shades of wrong.


We all know that normally,in most marriages, women hardly go 'wrong" cos they always use their naturally gifted weapon of emotional blackmail and victim mentality against men.

Hmmm....On Point!!!

brutustech:
You are a MAN, use your head. From her narration, the MAN looks like the victim

You be mumu

So because he's a man so he should support his fellow men? You no get shame

1,2,3 children, he’s not useless after all

cjudy:
Madam leave husband and wife alone. Go and marry your own husband.

are you the irresponsible man OP is talking about?

Our females like to follow happening guys instead of gentle and responsible guys.
See how her sister married to a "tough" but lazy guy that can build with his mouth the third mainland bridge.
A lazy man.

Instead of marrying a teacher that should have helped her to strengthen her school.
Mistake has been made.
Let her go and live with her children.
Then she should go to justice court to demand for monthly upkeep and school fees from the husband. She will surely get some money through justice court.

cjudy:
See Mumu. Faceless forum. Well I’m well married with kids and we are living now comfortable in Canada.
I’m not useless like you.

Go and marry, you’re getting old. Maybe my son will marry you but my fear is that you’re already evening newspaper

Clean your mouth Mr Canadian🤣

Miracle2020:
are you married? If not, go and marry first before insulting someone. Secondly we have not had from the guy side of the story so we can't judge.

are you the irresponsible man OP was referring?

Kingcalls:
Don't u have hands legs and a brain...aren't u educated....y wait for a man to be providing for ur needs ...while u sit doing nothing like a family dog

it is your responsibility as a man to make provisions while the woman takes care of the house and support in a little way.

You gain nothing as a lazy person.
Time is money. Use your time wisely.
There is lot of money out there.
Join other people doing what they are doing to get money.
A lazy person is useless to the society.
Lazy person gives all kind of excuses why they are lazy.

Think sensibly, dont be a lazy person.

Jewessgratitud3:
Right now she needs advice on what to do and I'm also going to be sharing what I have advised her so far.

This man has used his foolishness to implicate my sister and their lovely kids. Before I go into details of what happened recently, I'll like to give a quick backstory of how all these came to be and how she even got herself into this mess

Backtrack to 2014 when she broke the news that someone was coming to see the family for her hand, I asked her who the person was but she refused to tell me saying I'll meet him when he comes. I was now like ha... This one you're hiding it. I never knew it was one useless guy that was living in our former area in the early 2000s that all he does then was stand at junctions disturbing girls. He also disturbed me one period like that and I so much dislike him because of his behavior plus he's fair and I dont fancy fair guys.

The day came and we started cooking. Already I had gotten a hint from my eldest sister that it's the guy and I said was that why she was hiding it? What's my own there. We move. As the day was approaching, my idowus husband called and told me to warn my sister that that guy she's pulling with is not it. That if she's trying to have something serious with him she'll be making a big mistake. I said, she's an adult and can make choices for herself.


He came with his people and we did everything and she moved in with him. Now, this guy doesn't do anything. He claims he's a lawyer but never goes to work. Most times he'll go for early morning training by 6am and after everyone has gone to work, he'll come home and be sleeping. initially my sister was covering him up that he's doing something but anytime I visit after school, I'll always meet him at home sleeping. I knew my sis was just covering him.

Before they married my sister owned a school that was doing well. After her first child the school was still doing well but they started having issues because she was the one bearing most of the financial burden in the house. Sometimes she would come to school with bruises on her face. Since she refused to talk, me I didn't bother asking because if I do she'll bark at me.it continue like that until she could no longer bear it and started opening up to me that the guy doesn't do anything. Just goes about from one junction to the other.

She took in for her second child and fell sick. The school suffered mismanagement and folded up. That was when the guy showed her his true color. They fought to the extent she left her kids and went to my sister's house. My elder sisters husband settled them and she went back.

She had her third child and the guy started his madness again. This time he would leave them and go for hours without food. When he's coming at night he'll buy food and call his children to come eat and leave my sister hungry. So anytime I go there I'll just find her something to eat. Sometimes not always.
The day I said enough is enough and decided to pull her out of that nonsense was the day she called me, I was in a bus and she said for two days now she has not eaten anything and she's having headache. That the guy said he'll deal with her. I told her to hold on and sent her the little I could that I'll come and see her.

I got there and told her she can't continue like this . I told her to start following me to school to learn how to do what I'm doing and I'll be giving her small small daily pay any day she goes with me and later she can start sourcing for her own schools and be making her own money. I put her through and took her to a school immediately and assigned her to some classes after watching me for a few mins.

We did that for a few weeks and I was giving her the small thing I could after each day. She started going out to look for schools and two schools called her. She now said she can't be following me again , I said no problem. God helped her, She now got more schools and started selling books too and making money.
When this guy saw it, he left feeding and only buys food for the children once in a while. Meanwhile their fighting continued.

Fast-forward to last year, the landlord called my sister that he has given the husband quit notice, not because he was owing but because he was always disrespecting the landlord. My sister tried to plead but he said it's not because of my sister but the husband. Now this guy's is so troublesome and brags a lot. He quarrels with the landlord a lot and always goes against the rules of the compound. I on the other hand have been telling my twin now that she has the money to get her own apartment and leave the lazy thing but she remained there.


Last two weeks Tuesday. during that heavy downpour, the landlord came with some police men and threw their things out in the rain as she was preparing her children for school. It was one of the police men that now had pity on her and said they should leave the things in the compound instead of throwing outside in the rain and helped my sister to bring then inside the gate. The husband ran away. After everything he called my sister to bring the children somewhere. When she got there it was a friend's house. He begged them to let his family stay the night and till now he's still there. I told my sister, shey I've been warning you about this guy. Bett look for a place and move in before this one's change their mind. Could you believe this man continued his laziness there? When everyone has gone out he'll go there and start sleeping till they come back from work and meet him. My sister said he has started quarrelling the man's wife . Someone who's squatting you you're challenging them.

he's talking about moving them to Mowe but my sister is not buying the idea and says she wants to get an apartment here on the mainland because of her job and move with only her children but I'm of the opinion that she should leave the children with him because if she goes with the children he'll run from his responsibility and never pay their school fees again.

What should she do because the guy travelled for his brothers burial now and the owner of the house was heard asking the wife why the guy and my sister are still in their house and said let him come back first . Meaning they are tired.

I've told her to get an apartment now o.

I would advise her stay there and watch how the husband would handle the situation when they are sent packing. The man needs to grow by letting him pick his responsibility and face the consequences of his actions. Your sister should not say a word and watch him make decisions but she should be prepared for the worse without letting him to know. I wouldn't advice her to leave as long as he is not beating her. She should just ensure she is saving enough and the kids her not hungry even if it means feeding them secretly.

Godssplan:
You are a very bad person, why are trying so hard to separate your sister from her family.. Stop hating her husband as you too are not perfect.. Are you married?

are you the irresponsible man?

ozoono:
pls ma or sir, permit me to ask WHY ARE YOU SO PAINED?

are you the irresponsible man OP was referring to?

Jewessgratitud3:
Right now she needs advice on what to do and I'm also going to be sharing what I have advised her so far.

This man has used his foolishness to implicate my sister and their lovely kids. Before I go into details of what happened recently, I'll like to give a quick backstory of how all these came to be and how she even got herself into this mess

Backtrack to 2014 when she broke the news that someone was coming to see the family for her hand, I asked her who the person was but she refused to tell me saying I'll meet him when he comes. I was now like ha... This one you're hiding it. I never knew it was one useless guy that was living in our former area in the early 2000s that all he does then was stand at junctions disturbing girls. He also disturbed me one period like that and I so much dislike him because of his behavior plus he's fair and I dont fancy fair guys.

The day came and we started cooking. Already I had gotten a hint from my eldest sister that it's the guy and I said was that why she was hiding it? What's my own there. We move. As the day was approaching, my idowus husband called and told me to warn my sister that that guy she's pulling with is not it. That if she's trying to have something serious with him she'll be making a big mistake. I said, she's an adult and can make choices for herself.


He came with his people and we did everything and she moved in with him. Now, this guy doesn't do anything. He claims he's a lawyer but never goes to work. Most times he'll go for early morning training by 6am and after everyone has gone to work, he'll come home and be sleeping. initially my sister was covering him up that he's doing something but anytime I visit after school, I'll always meet him at home sleeping. I knew my sis was just covering him.

Before they married my sister owned a school that was doing well. After her first child the school was still doing well but they started having issues because she was the one bearing most of the financial burden in the house. Sometimes she would come to school with bruises on her face. Since she refused to talk, me I didn't bother asking because if I do she'll bark at me.it continue like that until she could no longer bear it and started opening up to me that the guy doesn't do anything. Just goes about from one junction to the other.

She took in for her second child and fell sick. The school suffered mismanagement and folded up. That was when the guy showed her his true color. They fought to the extent she left her kids and went to my sister's house. My elder sisters husband settled them and she went back.

She had her third child and the guy started his madness again. This time he would leave them and go for hours without food. When he's coming at night he'll buy food and call his children to come eat and leave my sister hungry. So anytime I go there I'll just find her something to eat. Sometimes not always.
The day I said enough is enough and decided to pull her out of that nonsense was the day she called me, I was in a bus and she said for two days now she has not eaten anything and she's having headache. That the guy said he'll deal with her. I told her to hold on and sent her the little I could that I'll come and see her.

I got there and told her she can't continue like this . I told her to start following me to school to learn how to do what I'm doing and I'll be giving her small small daily pay any day she goes with me and later she can start sourcing for her own schools and be making her own money. I put her through and took her to a school immediately and assigned her to some classes after watching me for a few mins.

We did that for a few weeks and I was giving her the small thing I could after each day. She started going out to look for schools and two schools called her. She now said she can't be following me again , I said no problem. God helped her, She now got more schools and started selling books too and making money.
When this guy saw it, he left feeding and only buys food for the children once in a while. Meanwhile their fighting continued.

Fast-forward to last year, the landlord called my sister that he has given the husband quit notice, not because he was owing but because he was always disrespecting the landlord. My sister tried to plead but he said it's not because of my sister but the husband. Now this guy's is so troublesome and brags a lot. He quarrels with the landlord a lot and always goes against the rules of the compound. I on the other hand have been telling my twin now that she has the money to get her own apartment and leave the lazy thing but she remained there.


Last two weeks Tuesday. during that heavy downpour, the landlord came with some police men and threw their things out in the rain as she was preparing her children for school. It was one of the police men that now had pity on her and said they should leave the things in the compound instead of throwing outside in the rain and helped my sister to bring then inside the gate. The husband ran away. After everything he called my sister to bring the children somewhere. When she got there it was a friend's house. He begged them to let his family stay the night and till now he's still there. I told my sister, shey I've been warning you about this guy. Bett look for a place and move in before this one's change their mind. Could you believe this man continued his laziness there? When everyone has gone out he'll go there and start sleeping till they come back from work and meet him. My sister said he has started quarrelling the man's wife . Someone who's squatting you you're challenging them.

he's talking about moving them to Mowe but my sister is not buying the idea and says she wants to get an apartment here on the mainland because of her job and move with only her children but I'm of the opinion that she should leave the children with him because if she goes with the children he'll run from his responsibility and never pay their school fees again.

What should she do because the guy travelled for his brothers burial now and the owner of the house was heard asking the wife why the guy and my sister are still in their house and said let him come back first . Meaning they are tired.

I've told her to get an apartment now o.

" He is fair and I don't fancy fair guys", this statement shows how immature you are. Just say you don't like him period. N him create himself

UnfairLife7:
are you the irresponsible man OP was referring to?

yes I am, but with eat, I am still fucking ur fish smelling pussy

UnfairLife7:
you're mad. You want her to die in silence like Osinachi? You must be very mad

can't you make your comment without insult IMG me?
You have bad manners

This is a recipe for high blood pressure, watch it.

She is giving a one sided narrative/account about the family predicament.

Nothing bad in voicing out, she should try and be objective and balanced in her reportage.

Jewessgratitud3:
It s not me and it will never be me I reject that kind of man. If and when I decide to marry, I'll marry a sensible and hardworking man by the grace of God.

Are you a male or female?

Besides you're saying rubbish.

You rejected him initially and dude went for your sister who opened her legs wide for him. So why are you complaining? Madam allow your sister to enjoy her marriage in peace. While she was living with you and your family she has been knacking that guy. So which one is your own inside?

ozoono:
yes I am, but with eat, I am still fucking ur fish smelling pussy

are you a gay that you're fucking your fellow guy?

Jewessgratitud3:
Korkor.. I no get mind. If I say I'll never ever interfere in her matter again, once she calls like this, my mind will melt again. No mama, no papa, we only have each other. That's why.

When we say women are attracted to bad boys, your type will rush to debunk it.

The fact you rejected him does mean your sis will. So chill and relax. Besides she has taken in already and will give birth again next year

UnfairLife7:
are you a gay that you're fucking your fellow guy?

oh I don't do dat, I am not mad, but since u need it I wud call my dog KILLER to help you since you really needs it

Jewessgratitud3:
It s not me and it will never be me I reject that kind of man. If and when I decide to marry, I'll marry a sensible and hardworking man by the grace of God.

Madam, You're MADDD!

ozoono:
oh I don't do dat, I am not mad, but since u need it I wud call my dog KILLER to help you since you really needs it

Then Why are you talking as one? Fvcking your fellow guy is gayish.

UnfairLife7:
Then Why are you talking as one? Fvcking your fellow guy is gayish.

pls re read my last comment, but this time try to b slow very slow

Mowe? Him go explain tired[color=#006600][/color]

Jewessgratitud3:
Right now she needs advice on what to do and I'm also going to be sharing what I have advised her so far.

This man has used his foolishness to implicate my sister and their lovely kids. Before I go into details of what happened recently, I'll like to give a quick backstory of how all these came to be and how she even got herself into this mess

Backtrack to 2014 when she broke the news that someone was coming to see the family for her hand, I asked her who the person was but she refused to tell me saying I'll meet him when he comes. I was now like ha... This one you're hiding it. I never knew it was one useless guy that was living in our former area in the early 2000s that all he does then was stand at junctions disturbing girls. He also disturbed me one period like that and I so much dislike him because of his behavior plus he's fair and I dont fancy fair guys.

The day came and we started cooking. Already I had gotten a hint from my eldest sister that it's the guy and I said was that why she was hiding it? What's my own there. We move. As the day was approaching, my idowus husband called and told me to warn my sister that that guy she's pulling with is not it. That if she's trying to have something serious with him she'll be making a big mistake. I said, she's an adult and can make choices for herself.


He came with his people and we did everything and she moved in with him. Now, this guy doesn't do anything. He claims he's a lawyer but never goes to work. Most times he'll go for early morning training by 6am and after everyone has gone to work, he'll come home and be sleeping. initially my sister was covering him up that he's doing something but anytime I visit after school, I'll always meet him at home sleeping. I knew my sis was just covering him.

Before they married my sister owned a school that was doing well. After her first child the school was still doing well but they started having issues because she was the one bearing most of the financial burden in the house. Sometimes she would come to school with bruises on her face. Since she refused to talk, me I didn't bother asking because if I do she'll bark at me.it continue like that until she could no longer bear it and started opening up to me that the guy doesn't do anything. Just goes about from one junction to the other.

She took in for her second child and fell sick. The school suffered mismanagement and folded up. That was when the guy showed her his true color. They fought to the extent she left her kids and went to my sister's house. My elder sisters husband settled them and she went back.

She had her third child and the guy started his madness again. This time he would leave them and go for hours without food. When he's coming at night he'll buy food and call his children to come eat and leave my sister hungry. So anytime I go there I'll just find her something to eat. Sometimes not always.
The day I said enough is enough and decided to pull her out of that nonsense was the day she called me, I was in a bus and she said for two days now she has not eaten anything and she's having headache. That the guy said he'll deal with her. I told her to hold on and sent her the little I could that I'll come and see her.

I got there and told her she can't continue like this . I told her to start following me to school to learn how to do what I'm doing and I'll be giving her small small daily pay any day she goes with me and later she can start sourcing for her own schools and be making her own money. I put her through and took her to a school immediately and assigned her to some classes after watching me for a few mins.

We did that for a few weeks and I was giving her the small thing I could after each day. She started going out to look for schools and two schools called her. She now said she can't be following me again , I said no problem. God helped her, She now got more schools and started selling books too and making money.
When this guy saw it, he left feeding and only buys food for the children once in a while. Meanwhile their fighting continued.

Fast-forward to last year, the landlord called my sister that he has given the husband quit notice, not because he was owing but because he was always disrespecting the landlord. My sister tried to plead but he said it's not because of my sister but the husband. Now this guy's is so troublesome and brags a lot. He quarrels with the landlord a lot and always goes against the rules of the compound. I on the other hand have been telling my twin now that she has the money to get her own apartment and leave the lazy thing but she remained there.


Last two weeks Tuesday. during that heavy downpour, the landlord came with some police men and threw their things out in the rain as she was preparing her children for school. It was one of the police men that now had pity on her and said they should leave the things in the compound instead of throwing outside in the rain and helped my sister to bring then inside the gate. The husband ran away. After everything he called my sister to bring the children somewhere. When she got there it was a friend's house. He begged them to let his family stay the night and till now he's still there. I told my sister, shey I've been warning you about this guy. Bett look for a place and move in before this one's change their mind. Could you believe this man continued his laziness there? When everyone has gone out he'll go there and start sleeping till they come back from work and meet him. My sister said he has started quarrelling the man's wife . Someone who's squatting you you're challenging them.

he's talking about moving them to Mowe but my sister is not buying the idea and says she wants to get an apartment here on the mainland because of her job and move with only her children but I'm of the opinion that she should leave the children with him because if she goes with the children he'll run from his responsibility and never pay their school fees again.

What should she do because the guy travelled for his brothers burial now and the owner of the house was heard asking the wife why the guy and my sister are still in their house and said let him come back first . Meaning they are tired.

I've told her to get an apartment now o.

You said he doesn't do anything, where him get money marry? Where him get money rent house and buy stuff when your sister school folded up. Your sister is busy bearing children knowing fully well he does nothing as you said

Curse777:




*and I so much dislike him because he's fair and I can't stand fair guys.

*they started having issues because she was the one bearing most of the financial burden in the house.

Summary of this long epistle

1: He first asked you out and you rejected, as a man he moved on to your sister and you resented him deeply

2: He is currently financially handicap and he irritates you, you hate poor men and poor men neither deserve marriage, or children

3: To you financial burden of a family is exclusive responsibility of a man


PS:

Dear Men, stay completely away from marriage if you are not financially bouyant as you are only rated for your financial strength by Women



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Fact

Curse777:




*and I so much dislike him because he's fair and I can't stand fair guys.

*they started having issues because she was the one bearing most of the financial burden in the house.

Summary of this long epistle

1: He first asked you out and you rejected, as a man he moved on to your sister and you resented him deeply

2: He is currently financially handicap and he irritates you, you hate poor men and poor men neither deserve marriage, or children

3: To you financial burden of a family is exclusive responsibility of a man


PS:

Dear Men, stay completely away from marriage if you are not financially bouyant as you are only rated for your financial strength by Women



.

So, she wants her sister to leave her lover when she introduced him to them. Imagine my sister telling me to leave my wife to be on my introduction day. Then , if I leave her , how would she feel?
I don't take ladies seriously. Bcus my mental health is more important

Skyview01:
Your sister deserves what she gets. I will have no pity for such individuals.

If you deliberately commit blunders with your life, i will never be there for you.

Both deserve each other!

Team !
I wan marry by force!

The only solution is to divorce and move on. If she remains with him, it will be worse 5 years down the lane.

I don't think you are married

2special:
You claimed the husband is Jobless but still pays the children school fees, you're definitely not telling the truth....you just wants people to condemned the husband.

Exactly
I was jobless for 8 month of my life, omo I couldn't eat from 7th month. Jobless person no fit buy diapers self