₦airaland Forum

Nengiraw:
how can I like someone I’ve never met? I don’t like him. I’m just being open minded, hoping that if I see him in person, I could change my mind. His red flags right now are too much for me to handle

Ofadaman:
If you see all this garbage and still go ahead, then I feel sorry for you. For now, collect as much monetary support that you can and move on..
Take the money as reward for wasting your time

IconicR:
Chop his money if he's rich and dust his hypocritical ass when you are done.

Zero pity on married men who don't allow single ladies to rest

GO0DHardDick:
Typical behavior from a Nigerian girl. Chop his money and pay back with your used pussy!

When we say you Nigerian girls are parasites and liabilities your type will start barking like bulldog.

A virgin girl can never have this kind of mentality of yours. Ur body count must be numerous by now

Nengiraw:
Hello nairalanders, please I need help on this situation. So I’m a lady in her mid 20’s. I’m actually very much set for marriage in the eyes of my family, since society deem it fit to place marriage as an achievement for women, and always bring up your age to remind you to. Anyways, it’s not a priority for me to get married now, as I feel like I’m not ready mentally,and I have a lot of trauma to work on, but I’m also open to it, if it’s in my face and ready. I don’t stay in Nigeria, so my family don’t know if I have a man in my life, so they decided upon themselves to introduce me to a man who is my uncle’s friend that stays in the same country as me. They were more focus on the fact that he comes from a neighboring village from us and that he was a doctor. (Meanwhile he’s actually a nurse, but he told them, that he was a doctor, he also never mentioned to them that he was married and had a child, before they decided to introduce him to me)

So we eventually started talking on WhatsApp, he saw some of my pictures already and he was mesmerized. In fact he was already kind of making me his wife in that moment. So one day he called me and we were just talking,and I heard like a toddler crying so bad and needed his attention, I asked him who was that , he told me it was his daughter, there was this awkward silence for almost five minutes of us not saying anything, so I told him I’ll call him back. I called my mother that day and was mad as hell, that they didn’t disclose such information to me, but from my mother’s reaction she had no idea, and she was also mad and she told me, she will call me back, so she could verify from my uncle, since that’s his friend. Even my uncle too had no idea. To cut the whole story short, he later called me the next day on a video call, and he started telling me about his wife( Yes! She’s still his wife, because I don’t think he has divorced her yet)and how abusive she was, and how he tried to make it work, but she was so crazy and stuff like that. That he’s actually trying to get shared custody of the child. That he’s no longer married to her. I was not really having it, because I just felt like he wasn’t being honest with certain things and on top of that his wife is still in the picture, and I don’t know if I want to settle for that. Also he just turned 40, and I’m 25. So the age gap is too much for me. Also I have not met him in real life, cause he stays in a different state from me, my family still wanted me to be open minded until I see him in person, then I could make a decision if I want him or not. He always sends me pictures of his daughter, and he recently sent me one with his first wife and daughter, I was surprised that he did, and he said he wanted to show me the daughter instead. I still felt like I didn’t need to see a picture of her. I started seeing the red flags of him that I couldn’t settle with. Also the way he talked about the wife was vulgar, and I felt like he didn’t need to tell me about her in that manner.

Now the most recent thing he started doing was sending me random stuff about marriage to my WhatsApp. I usually glance at it,and don’t reply, cause I don’t know why he’s sending me that. The one that gave me a major big red flag from him, is when he sent where Regina daniels( the actress who married Ned nwoko) was talking about marrying her husband a virgin and how it’s important to be a virgin. He then asked me if I was one. Honestly I felt really numb, because I don’t know why he will be asking me stuff like that, when he didn’t really get a respond back from me, he proceeded to send another message telling me, “No mind them sha, virgin no sabi. With a heart eye emoji. I was dumbfounded, I didn’t know how to reply to him anymore. I stopped picking up his calls and I have no intention to meet up with him anymore. Now my family is mad at me, saying that at least I should see him in person, but I don’t want to. In fact I’m no longer interested in him. Please am I wrong for feeling the way I feel? Thanks.

IconicR:
Shut up

Dshocker:
Tell that to your father, you sadist.

IconicR:
Chop his money if he's rich and dust his hypocritical ass when you are done.

Zero pity on married men who don't allow single ladies to rest

franchasofficia:
Ewo

IconicR:
Take your time to address the married men who don't respect their vows at all as well.
And Yes I said what I said body count or not

frankson1:
You have a clear understanding but chose to pick out what I'd call, the list of the issues

Her "PLIGHT" should have been more important to you than the age but it's obvious you don't even understand the word you used.

Nengiraw:
Thank you!! I felt the age gap was too much and he was already coming for me in a weird manner. if I missed his calls. When I call him back, he starts being mad that I missed his calls, and it was not just normal calls, it was video calls, and I told him I didn’t like video calls, yet he will be blasting my phone unannounced with it.

GO0DHardDick:
Tell us if you're an olosho or into hookup? And how much do you charge for a night?

Nengiraw:
Hello nairalanders, please I need help on this situation. So I’m a lady in her mid 20’s. I’m actually very much set for marriage in the eyes of my family, since society deem it fit to place marriage as an achievement for women, and always bring up your age to remind you to. Anyways, it’s not a priority for me to get married now, as I feel like I’m not ready mentally,and I have a lot of trauma to work on, but I’m also open to it, if it’s in my face and ready. I don’t stay in Nigeria, so my family don’t know if I have a man in my life, so they decided upon themselves to introduce me to a man who is my uncle’s friend that stays in the same country as me. They were more focus on the fact that he comes from a neighboring village from us and that he was a doctor. (Meanwhile he’s actually a nurse, but he told them, that he was a doctor, he also never mentioned to them that he was married and had a child, before they decided to introduce him to me)

So we eventually started talking on WhatsApp, he saw some of my pictures already and he was mesmerized. In fact he was already kind of making me his wife in that moment. So one day he called me and we were just talking,and I heard like a toddler crying so bad and needed his attention, I asked him who was that , he told me it was his daughter, there was this awkward silence for almost five minutes of us not saying anything, so I told him I’ll call him back. I called my mother that day and was mad as hell, that they didn’t disclose such information to me, but from my mother’s reaction she had no idea, and she was also mad and she told me, she will call me back, so she could verify from my uncle, since that’s his friend. Even my uncle too had no idea. To cut the whole story short, he later called me the next day on a video call, and he started telling me about his wife( Yes! She’s still his wife, because I don’t think he has divorced her yet)and how abusive she was, and how he tried to make it work, but she was so crazy and stuff like that. That he’s actually trying to get shared custody of the child. That he’s no longer married to her. I was not really having it, because I just felt like he wasn’t being honest with certain things and on top of that his wife is still in the picture, and I don’t know if I want to settle for that. Also he just turned 40, and I’m 25. So the age gap is too much for me. Also I have not met him in real life, cause he stays in a different state from me, my family still wanted me to be open minded until I see him in person, then I could make a decision if I want him or not. He always sends me pictures of his daughter, and he recently sent me one with his first wife and daughter, I was surprised that he did, and he said he wanted to show me the daughter instead. I still felt like I didn’t need to see a picture of her. I started seeing the red flags of him that I couldn’t settle with. Also the way he talked about the wife was vulgar, and I felt like he didn’t need to tell me about her in that manner.

Now the most recent thing he started doing was sending me random stuff about marriage to my WhatsApp. I usually glance at it,and don’t reply, cause I don’t know why he’s sending me that. The one that gave me a major big red flag from him, is when he sent where Regina daniels( the actress who married Ned nwoko) was talking about marrying her husband a virgin and how it’s important to be a virgin. He then asked me if I was one. Honestly I felt really numb, because I don’t know why he will be asking me stuff like that, when he didn’t really get a respond back from me, he proceeded to send another message telling me, “No mind them sha, virgin no sabi. With a heart eye emoji. I was dumbfounded, I didn’t know how to reply to him anymore. I stopped picking up his calls and I have no intention to meet up with him anymore. Now my family is mad at me, saying that at least I should see him in person, but I don’t want to. In fact I’m no longer interested in him. Please am I wrong for feeling the way I feel? Thanks.

IconicR:
I'll drag you by your balls if you don't maintain your lane

Omo radarada

IconicR:
You full ground remain for this table 😂😂😂😂

Infact you own this table 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Dshocker:
You even have the effrontery wanting to drag your biological father by his balls, it is a pity.

Hate will consume you like wide fire #Tribalist #Sadist #Slow.

Reminderz:
ehn na her choice because I nor know how the matter con dey pain you pass person wey wan marry lmao... if she's not mentally ready, she should stay single na, afterall the man nor dey force am..

sooner or later she will have to make a choice, and I hope she doesn't regret the person she later ends up with due to the "trauma and not mentally ready"... lol it's not that she's not mentally ready, it's because of the fact that he's married and her mother is against it, not because of the man's character... I don't see where the red flags you pointed out is located... tell me one red flag you noticed aside from the fact that he's already married which is not a red flag to me...

and besides, didn't you see where I said she should ask herself those questions in the post you quoted or you didn't read to comprehend?

GO0DHardDick:
Typical behavior from a Nigerian girl. Chop his money and pay back with your used pussy!

When we say you Nigerian girls are parasites and liabilities your type will start barking like bulldog.

A virgin girl can never have this kind of mentality of yours. Ur body count must be numerous by now

Nengiraw:
Thank you!! I felt the age gap was too much and he was already coming for me in a weird manner. if I missed his calls. When I call him back, he starts being mad that I missed his calls, and it was not just normal calls, it was video calls, and I told him I didn’t like video calls, yet he will be blasting my phone unannounced with it.

franchasofficia:
No be small thing, but the irony is that single ladiesss like mwaaah so so much

GO0DHardDick:
What is your real moniker on nairaland?

Are you jennyclay, Obembet ukaface or who exactly?

Come out plainly and tell us your real nairaland account. No dey disguise again. Awon wannabe feminist! I thought we all agreed feminist don't need men? Why then are you talking about marriage?

IconicR:
Let's assume I'm what you tagging me you would have to do rituals and kill every member of your family and village people before you can afford me.
Alagbaoshi

Mcslize:
The problem is from you. Always listen to instructions. I stated it that I was only interested in correcting an old age impression. I was interested in only that and not the main subject of the matter.

You can't hold me accountable for being interested in only an aspect of the main topic. I don't want you and few other persons to make the same mistake of thinking a 25 yrs old lady is too young for an agile young man of 40 who can even marry a lady of 20.

Will you say that this Nolly wood actor called Bolanle Ninalowo who is 43yrs old is too old to marry a lady of 25 yrs if he was to re marry?

That's the impression I corrected in her write up and I wasn't interested in commenting in the main subject.