My elder sister is in her early thirties and never married. She seems so depressed because we,her junior ones are married.
She is currently in a dilemma. She has four suitors presently. The one that is ready to marry her is a federal worker in his forties. But the problem she has is that he impregnated a lady 10 years ago and he bore him a son. She is concerned that marrying a man that already has a son might be a problem in the future. The second suitor resides far away from her location but he is scared of coming home because of insecurity in the Eastern part of Nigeria. He told her to wait a bit,that he will come to perform marital rites if things cool off.
The third one is the one she loves but she is concerned that he is not yet financially buoyant, he is a civil servant ( a teacher).
And the last one is a nursing student who plans to travel out after his nursing degree but the problem is that he told her he will marry her after he graduates next two years.
She has been studying those suitors and has never been intimate with any of them. Most of them knew her through recommendations from colleagues. Who do you think she should go for if you were in her shoes?

Wow, you know all the details about this your "elder sister's" relationships!

She no fit marry any of them.

Lily90:
My elder sister is in her early thirties and never married. She seems so depressed because we,her junior ones are married.
She is currently in a dilemma. She has four suitors presently. The one that is ready to marry her is a federal worker in his forties. But the problem she has is that he impregnated a lady 10 years ago and he bore him a son. She is concerned that marrying a man that already has a son might be a problem in the future. The second suitor resides far away from her location but he is scared of coming home because of insecurity in the Eastern part of Nigeria. He told her to wait a bit,that he will come to perform marital rites if things cool off.
The third one is the one she loves but she is concerned that he is not yet financially buoyant, he is a civil servant ( a teacher).
And the last one is a nursing student who plans to travel out after his nursing degree but the problem is that he told her he will marry her after he graduates next two years.
She has been studying those suitors and has never been intimate with any of them. Most of them knew her through recommendations from colleagues. Who do you think she should go for if you were in her shoes?

Your elder sister has "four" different suitors?

I will go straight to the point on this one... the first one seems to be a better option... his son shouldn't be of any hindrance since he's not even with a partner currently... and also he's ready, your sister's options are getting limited, sooner or later, there won't be no options available and she will have to settle with just anything...

I don't know if she has used good men in the past, but this is usually how it turns out for them... even Regina marry man wey don get 6 wives before, so?

the first and last option seems viable, but the first one is still the best in these options available, you can never tell if the person that told her to wait till she graduates later get attached to someone else even before that time... one advice I will give your sister is that, she shouldn't be intimate with any of this men until they take the necessary steps... or else, she will become a thing to be used and dump because of how desperate to get married she will look to them... so anything they promise her will easily sway her off even when she's being deceived... she should also seek God's guidance..

but I hope your sister is also marriageable and has qualities men would want in their woman? and also, she shouldn't just look only at the financial aspect when choosing the right man for marriage... it's her poison, if she chooses wrong, she will have herself to blame if she makes herself blind towards what's really necessary..

The day men would understand that they are the prize, that’s the day they conquered the spirit of Simping.
Las las na ur sister kpekus go suffer am. E sure for me say those 4 suitors go dey knack her steady to keep the relationship going. Even d ones wey dey far away go still knack her if dem come see her, and at the end of everything non of them go even marry her.

Abeg tell ur sister if I be her 5 suitors? Let me have my own share of her KUKUNASE.

I noticed the common thread here is the man’s money so go for the highest bidder.

Brandiebird:
I noticed the common thread here is the man’s money so go for the highest bidder.

Thanks for the observation!

Nothing about compatibility, vision or even personal traits but MONEY AND MORE MONEY!!


She must make that decision herself. She already is focused on money and time. Good luck!!!

She never ready marry be dat! She has 4 suitors yet she's doing LUCKY SPIN with dem. Dey play

Lily90:
My elder sister is in her early thirties and never married. She seems so depressed because we,her junior ones are married.
She is currently in a dilemma. She has four suitors presently. The one that is ready to marry her is a federal worker in his forties. But the problem she has is that he impregnated a lady 10 years ago and he bore him a son. She is concerned that marrying a man that already has a son might be a problem in the future. The second suitor resides far away from her location but he is scared of coming home because of insecurity in the Eastern part of Nigeria. He told her to wait a bit,that he will come to perform marital rites if things cool off.
The third one is the one she loves but she is concerned that he is not yet financially buoyant, he is a civil servant ( a teacher).
And the last one is a nursing student who plans to travel out after his nursing degree but the problem is that he told her he will marry her after he graduates next two years.
She has been studying those suitors and has never been intimate with any of them. Most of them knew her through recommendations from colleagues. Who do you think she should go for if you were in her shoes?

Every sensible Nairalander knows you're the one and not any so-called sister

But what do these bannies even want?

You said you're in dilemma and still being selective?

Na the teacher own even make me laugh . So simply because he's a teacher and isn't financially buoyant means she can't settle down with him abi? . Confused banny

She should keep on waiting for one nurse to graduate and come back and marry her, that's if she hasn't already had an encounter with meno-stop by then.

Arrrrrrrh

Honestly, your sister isn't prepared for marriage. At 30, she's dwelling on irrelevant factors. The reality is that men in their 30s are entering their prime, while women at 30 are finishing theirs. Men at 30 have a 90% chance of marrying any kind of woman as long as she is of age, whereas women have a 30-50% chance of marrying the men they love at that age. This is a bitter truth to swallow. A man at 30 is believe to have settled down and established himself, because at 20-29, he's typically hustling while she's not making the most of her prime years and acting haughty. Some of them at 20 - 28 have enjoyed life that can never have at your 20s. When this men disappoint them, they will start looking for guys to settle down with.

She should appreciate that she still has suitors at this age. Complaining about a man's child at 30? Seriously? I thought only younger women make such excuses.

As for the second man and the issue of distance, she's being unreasonable. A woman who can't handle some distance isn't ready to fully commit. If a man invites you to his home, he must have provide your security, unless he's not man enough.

She should forget about the remaining suitors. Regarding the teacher, if it is not a government job with a decent salary (around 50-60k), she should know that things won't be easy if she's pursuing him for love.

As for the nurse, he seems like a lightweight. Giving a 30-year-old a 2-year timeframe? When he goes abroad, he'll find younger women to be with. It's hard to take your sister seriously if she's considering a student nurse.

Read my lips none of those men would marry your sister because at 30plus shes busy selecting men.when her kpekus is getting dried gradually and her menopause approaching.she selecting not on the basis of character but on monetary basis.She would tarry longer looking for ribh husband.tell her i said so.

Lily90:
Who do you think she should go for if you were in her shoes?

Only one is ready and u don't love him..u also don't want him cos he's got a kid...

The one u love has no money...

The other two are not serious for now....

Madam,u are not technically ready 4 marriage

So,u can still wait for the other two that are not also ready like you... With luck...the nurse that wants to jappa may come back for u..as we have come to know that wife is not easy to get in uk

Wonderful!

FRANCISTOWN:

Your elder sister has "four" different suitors?