I am 31 years old male nurse in my finals and we met 5months back and started dating she is 28years though she look much older than I do
our relationship has been going well but lately she stopped giving me attention and calls and chats diminished but when I complain she would tell me nothing is happening and we are good..now last last 2weeks I called her two times at night but she didn't pick and she later called back once that was the following day ij the evening..but I didn't pick later i called her and she was telling me everything is fine again.but to cut the long story short I chatted her and complained why she is giving me a silent attitude she told me she needed to be for now and wouldn't want to talk to anybody but just want to be alone 😔😔

Up till now she never replied my last chat never cared to call nothing nothing..
Please what does she really mean by that statement cuz I am already worried since she told me it has nothing to do with me that she needs to put somethings in order 😪

You've been sidelined. She's getting attention somewhere else. When she get dumped she'll come back to u...

Please I really need an advice from an experienced fellows who might have gone through same shit..i ghosted her since then..no contact rule but I really feel I should call her to hear from her again what's happening..please should I call her or should I keep cool?

Gentlesoul2021:
You've been sidelined. She's getting attention somewhere else. When she get dumped she'll come back to u...

and she told me severally that she is not doing anything bad at my back that she just needed to put things in order..i am as confused as hell right now

Then, let her be.
If she can't trust you enough to open up to you, then maybe you both shouldn't be in a relationship.
If it's not the first time she's done something like that, I'd advise you to call it off and move on.
Don't let her keep keeping you hanging.
It's not fair.

mariahAngel:
Then, let her be.
If she can't trust you enough to open up to you, then maybe you both shouldn't be in a relationship.
If it's not the first time she's done something like that, I'd advise you to call it off and move on.
Don't let her keep keeping you hanging.
It's not fair.

.she did it after I came to spend time with her and she locked me out of her room telling me to go away that she needs to be alone and think things out..but later she was apologizing and still told me it doesn't have to do with me..

omejeb:


and she told me severally that she is not doing anything bad at my back that she just needed to put things in order..i am as confused as hell right now

Bro, that's mind games don't just bliv that. She's lying just leave her alone and move on.

omejeb:


and she told me severally that she is not doing anything bad at my back that she just needed to put things in order..i am as confused as hell right now

lol.if truely she is doing something behind your back,so you expect her to tell you the true. You are still sleeping bro,when you awake it will occur to you that things has go beyond what you expect.

Gentlesoul2021:


Bro, that's mind games don't just bliv that. She's lying just leave her alone and move on.

Do you think I should call her to know if she is trying to break up with me or not?
Cuz me I really need to know my stand instead if her keeping me like this

Am very sure something is fishy about the space she is demand for

omejeb:

.she did it after I came to spend time with her and she locked me out of her room telling me to go away that she needs to be alone and think things out..but later she was apologizing and still told me it doesn't have to do with me..

Then, the earlier you let go, the better for you, otherwise, she's going to keep doing that to you from time to time.
Your emotions and mental health are at stake here.
Unstable and manipulative people are the most difficult to deal with.
Let her go sort herself out, since she's not ready to open up to you.

Mhizzard:
Am very sure something are fishy about the space she is demand for

What do you really suspect bro?
I really need help here

These are our last chats and her replies 😔😔

and this too

omejeb:

What do you really suspect bro?
I really need help here

Move on.
It might be difficult, but it's what is best for you.

Or do you like your state of mind now, how you're stressed and cannot concentrate?

this too

omejeb:

Do you think I should call her to know if she is trying to break up with me or not?
Cuz me I really need to know my stand instead if her keeping me like this

man,face talk with her.let her reveal what is bothering/what made her asking for space.her respones will determine your action.you are a man and you're not get younger anymore;if moving on is the next option don't hesitate.

omejeb:
These are our last chats and her replies 😔😔

Now, I understand what her problem is.
Dude, just focus on your hustle.

mariahAngel:


Then, the earlier you let go, the better for you, otherwise, she's going to keep doing that to you from time to time.
Your emotions and mental health are at stake here.
Unstable and manipulative people are the most difficult to deal with.
Let her go sort herself out, since she's not ready to open up to you.

Thanks for this 🙂

mariahAngel:


Move on.
It might be difficult, but it's what is best for you.

Or do you like your state of mind now, how you're stressed and cannot concentrate?

I am already affected...no more gym , no more doing well in school and my professional exam is coming up too..God help me

omejeb:

Do you think I should call her to know if she is trying to break up with me or not?
Cuz me I really need to know my stand instead if her keeping me like this

Bro, don't look desperate. Don't call her infact u don't need an explanation or whatsoever. What u need is total silence ND move on.

Modified:
I saw the part of ur chat with her where she ask u of 20k ND u were unable to give her of which u said if u are already making money you would av been more supportive. Bro, this is what u need, focus on ur life and leave this girl alone. The more u force things, the more u loose ur respect and self-worth.

omejeb:
I am 31 years old male nurse in my finals and we met 5months back and started dating she is 28years though she look much older than I do
our relationship has been going well but lately she stopped giving me attention and calls and chats diminished but when I complain she would tell me nothing is happening and we are good..now last last 2weeks I called her two times at night but she didn't pick and she later called back once that was the following day ij the evening..but I didn't pick later i called her and she was telling me everything is fine again.but to cut the long story short I chatted her and complained why she is giving me a silent attitude she told me she needed to be for now and wouldn't want to talk to anybody but just want to be alone 😔😔

Up till now she never replied my last chat never cared to call nothing nothing..
Please what does she really mean by that statement cuz I am already worried since she told me it has nothing to do with me that she needs to put somethings in order 😪

What kind of a man are you? You don't read handwriting on the wall, She have moved on and she expect you to do the same

omejeb:


and she told me severally that she is not doing anything bad at my back that she just needed to put things in order..i am as confused as hell right now

She lying to you, she is seeing another person give her some space she will come back when things go wrong with the other guy

Mhizzard:

man,face talk with her.let her reveal what is bothering/what made her asking for space.her respones will determine your action.you are a man and you're not get younger anymore;if moving on is the next option don't hesitate.

From the chats..she said she needed 20k and that's what is bothering her..but I feel its not really about 20k

omejeb:

Do you think I should call her to know if she is trying to break up with me or not?
Cuz me I really need to know my stand instead if her keeping me like this

This is 2023....Pple hardly break up officially again.....they just leave u in the relationship to figure out ur level .....if u don't...u will be used emotionally and even financially cos they will remember u the mugu begging for attention when they need urgent 7k

Bros...actions speaks very loud than words... This babe is not doing well with you... Why are u stressing urself to hear her words that will likely be lies or worse, manipulations

.besides, its just a few months old relationship so why are u doing as if u have invested your whole destiny in it........

A woman can say yes to dating u without liking u....she can say yes just to enjoy the attention or for plan B.....for money, or to even spite her boyfriend...if woman gbadun you...u no fit dey confused about her feelings ...

Give urself brain......

Qatar2022:

What kind of a man are you? You don't read handwriting on the wall, She have moved on and she expect you to do the same

😢😢😢

Qatar2022:

What kind of a man are you? You don't read handwriting on the wall, She have moved on and she expect you to do the same

She's hanging him there for urgent 20k....and the mumu is waiting to be used.....

advanceDNA:


This is 2023....Pple hardly break up officially again.....they just leave u in the relationship to figure out ur level .....if u don't...u will be used emotionally and even financially cos they will remember u the mugu begging for attention when they need urgent 7k

Bros...actions speaks very loud than words... This babe is not doing well with you... Why are u stressing urself to hear her words that will likely be lies or worse, manipulations

.besides, its just a few months old relationship so why are u doing as if u have invested your whole destiny in it........

A woman can say yes to dating u without liking u....she can say yes just to enjoy the attention or for plan B..or to spite her boyfriend...if woman gbadun you...u no fit dey confused about her feelings ...

Give urself brain......

Thanks dude..oil dey your head..i go screenshot this write up and read it like Bible every day

omejeb:

From the chats..she said she needed 20k and that's what is bothering her..but I feel its not really about 20k

move on bro
it is an excuse;is that how she ask for money from you before now?
don't let her waste your precious time you have got many things to do.there are many girls outside there that is best for you

advanceDNA:


She's hanging him there for urgent 20k....and the mumu is waiting to be used.....

to be honest she has been giving me money knowing I am still not working yet..

omejeb:

to be honest she has been giving me money knowing I am still not working yet..

Knowing u don't work ??...
she nor say make u cough 20k for am?
She nor know say u nor dey work??

advanceDNA:


Knowing u don't work ??...
she nor say make u cough 20k for am?
She nor know say u nor dey work??

if truely she loves the guy,it could be that the girl don't want to stress him.from what he said,she do give him money.that could make her think that the guy may not have the ability/source to provide the money.