₦airaland Forum

Slaveman343:
I'm getting good ones and laughing at online miscreants like you. Your girl(If you can get any) will leave you for me in a heart beat. There are levels to these things, loser!!

realG101:
I'm sure the category of women you have worked with are in the minority.

It is the regular nigerian woman that is under reference here not the few of them doing exploits in their fields.

Your reference to biology is out of context as society has changed since the primitive times.

And speaking of the African man's responsibilities. Be reminded that societies progress by learning and assimilating from other more advanced cultures.


A tribe in Africa was know to kill twins before the whites told them better. And that tribe has eradicated the practice since then if not we will not be enjoying psquare today.

And if you thing majority of nigeria women don't bother their men will bills, you are living under a rock.
Even south africans woman know that nigerian men are overly generous. And that generosity is a result of the entitlement mentality from nigerian women.

Slaveman343:
opo-Nu. The only thing is that I'm the providing boyfriend and potential husband who gets girls you can never get even if you come to this world a million times.

I'm happy, you are a sad troll. Big difference

realG101:
No society in the world has work for everyone. But I will admit that Nigeria is a particularly tougher environment for a common person to plug in to a job. The more reason women who depend on their husbands should let their men breathe. Women in this category should learn to at least live within their husbands' means if they can't support the men. Not to be comparing their husbands to other richer men. If e easy, those wives too should go out and hustle for the money (without monitizing their bodies).

iamtardey:
Y’all take a moment to flex na burn something forget this woman matter for once. Ahn Ahn

BigIyanga:
You’re mistaken…most Naija women want guys to provide a better life for them… which their biological parents cant provide.

A typical Naija girl with street BF wants her man to buy 50k-100k phone based on her class . A lagos mainland girl wants her bf to buy N100k-200k phone based on her class. A VI girl wants 300k-500k from her bf based on class…To them, relationship is a poverty alleviation

advanceDNA:
Most Nigerian women can never stop being parasites....forget it.... Most of them are broke and always dream of making it life through men....if most women were given a wish that will come true... they would rather wish for a man that is rich, instead of wishing for their own truck load of money....

men are the ones that need to up their standard to stop dating broke, stingy, jobless women.

realG101:
No society in the world has work for everyone.

But I will admit that Nigeria is a particularly tougher environment for a common person to plug in to a job.

The more reason women who depend on their husbands should let their men breathe. Women in this category should learn to at least live within their husbands' means if they can't support the men.

Not to be comparing their husbands to other richer men.

If e easy, those wives too should go out and hustle for the money (without monitizing their bodies).

advanceDNA:
If most Nigerian women were given a wish that will come true... they would rather wish for a man that is rich, instead of wishing for their own truck load of money....

Magnoliaa:
No o. We will not. We cannot.


It is a gendar fight until death.

ednut1:
If you start feeding wild animals like lion, hyenas , tiger etc . They will lose their ability to hunt. Nigerian men were the one that spoilt the women with money till they became entitled. If you hammer today you will still use your money to snatch another man babe. Why blaming the women

Nigerian men have also carried that useless culture outside and using money to entice women in other african countries. A female friend from mali/france was doing uber food delivery with her bike in Toronto part time. Guess what Nigerian men she has met are telling her. That a fine babe like her should not be doing such hustle, she should come date them so they can take care of her.

advanceDNA:
Most Nigerian women can never stop being parasites....forget it.... Most of them are broke and always dream of making it life through men....if most women were given a wish that will come true... they would rather wish for a man that is rich, instead of wishing for their own truck load of money....

men are the ones that need to up their standard to stop dating broke, stingy, jobless women.

realG101:
Though, I've never been outside nigeria and have no personal information about how relationships are run in the western world. I believe romantic relationships are generally more refined and stress free (for the man) outside nigeria and Africa as a whole.

I don't want to be misunderstood, this is not me trying to hold nigerian relationships to foreign standards as this will be unfair due to cultural differences.

However, certain factors should remain globally constant as far as human relationships are concerned.

We are given to understand that in the usa and other advanced climes, both partners in a relationship are at liberty and usually willing to share financial responsibilities and provision generally is not a fixed responsibilities of the man.

Women abroad are generally open to split financial responsibilities with their men according to their capability and unlike their nigerian counterparts, they are not programmed to expect a man to foot all the bills.

Against this background, I'm of the opinion that it is inappropriate for a woman to make demands for personal items in a relationship.

It is very common and almost a norm in Nigeria for a woman to ask a man to buy her a phone or pay for her hair or even pay her rent.

Don't get me wrong, if you have an emergency as a woman, you can ask your boyfriend for help once in a while. But not to make the boyfriend your source of livelihood and maintenance.

Also, it is expected and perfectly normal for a man to buy his girlfriend a phone (maybe on her birthday), or pay for her hair. But I believe such expenses should be at his own discretion not upon demand by the girlfriend.

It is no classy for a girlfriend to make financial demands when it's not an emergency or a crisis.

But also, a classy boyfriend is expected to gift his girlfriend nice items once in a while to spice the relationship and to bond more.

If a boyfriend doesn't send you gifts occasionally, it is likely he is not comfortable financially or he is stingy. In this cases, the lady is required to engage him in order to discover the reason and decide whether she can cope.

Again, a woman is not mean to make financial demands for her personal needs. It's fine if the demand is for household maintenance when you two get married.

Moreso, it is expected that adults should be able to take care of their own personal needs.

Any person, man or woman, who cannot buy their own personal stuff or whose taste or lifestyle is beyond what they can afford by themselves, run from them. They are problematic people and can never be loyal to you.

In addition, any woman who make habitual financial demands when there's no emergency is either a runs girl or has a serious relationship elsewhere.

I am not oblivious of the fact that there are less privileged women out here who actually need to marry men who are capable of giving them a better life. This is an exceptional situation and I personally see nothing wrong in it as life is dynamic and is about people helping people.

What is unacceptable here is the narrative that women are okay to be entitled to men's money even when the woman has her own money.

It is key to note that unlike some decades ago, especially after the several industrial revolutions the world has witnessed, money making is no longer about muscle or masculinity but about brainpower.

There is no scientific evidence that a random man is smarter than a random woman which means money Making is not particularly easier for the man in today's world.

This is just a call to our ladies to up their game and do better so that we can see better and more successful and less problematic relationships and marriages in the coming generations.

Do you agree with these views?

Hydroxide:
That's why Nigerian girls are so cheap, you can easily have sex with them cos they don't have any thing to offer apart from sex. Girls/ladies in western world, even some African countries like South Africa, it is a bit difficult to have sex cos they know their worth and if they wanna have sex, it is willingly unlike naija girls, na them go even offer you sex once cos them see you as their means of livelihood

Did you read the write up at all?

cooooooks:
In Nigeria, many, probably most couples, share expenses.

Let us not spread false ideas.

True!

Sometimes I wonder where these narratives come from

Magnoliaa:
So, EQUALITY?!

Haha, I loveeee this!


Like this what we've been saying for ages o. This is what we've been saying for ages. People aren't smarter or more intelligent than another on the basis of their sex.

Thank you!

And let's take it a notch further then to agree that the concept of headship in marriage is bollocks since a man is no more better at being sensible or using common sense, etc., than a woman is.

realG101:
■ We are given to understand that in the usa and other advanced climes, both partners in a relationship are at liberty and usually willing to share financial responsibilities and provision generally is not a fixed responsibilities of the man.
Women abroad are generally open to split financial responsibilities with their men according to their capability and unlike their nigerian counterparts, they are not programmed to expect a man to foot all the bills.
■ Against this background, I'm of the opinion that it is inappropriate for a woman to make demands for personal items in a relationship. It is very common and almost a norm in Nigeria for a woman to ask a man to buy her a phone or pay for her hair or even pay her rent. Don't get me wrong, if you have an emergency as a woman, you can ask your boyfriend for help once in a while. But not to make the boyfriend your source of livelihood and maintenance. Also, it is expected and perfectly normal for a man to buy his girlfriend a phone (maybe on her birthday), or pay for her hair. But I believe such expenses should be at his own discretion not upon demand by the girlfriend.
■ It is no classy for a girlfriend to make financial demands when it's not an emergency or a crisis. But also, a classy boyfriend is expected to gift his girlfriend nice items once in a while to spice the relationship and to bond more. If a boyfriend doesn't send you gifts occasionally, it is likely he is not comfortable financially or he is stingy. In this cases, the lady is required to engage him in order to discover the reason and decide whether she can cope. Again, a woman is not mean to make financial demands for her personal needs. It's fine if the demand is for household maintenance when you two get married. Moreso, it is expected that adults should be able to take care of their own personal needs. Any person, man or woman, who cannot buy their own personal stuff or whose taste or lifestyle is beyond what they can afford by themselves, run from them. They are problematic people and can never be loyal to you. In addition, any woman who make habitual financial demands when there's no emergency is either a runs girl or has a serious relationship elsewhere.
I am not oblivious of the fact that there are less privileged women out here who actually need to marry men who are capable of giving them a better life. This is an exceptional situation and I personally see nothing wrong in it as life is dynamic and is about people helping people.
■ What is unacceptable here is the narrative that women are okay to be entitled to men's money even when the woman has her own money. It is key to note that unlike some decades ago, especially after the several industrial revolutions the world has witnessed, money making is no longer about muscle or masculinity but about brainpower. There is no scientific evidence that a random man is smarter than a random woman which means money Making is not particularly easier for the man in today's world. This is just a call to our ladies to up their game and do better so that we can see better and more successful and less problematic relationships and marriages in the coming generations. Do you agree with these views?

uuzba:
In the US, white people deprived black people of Education, ability to read and write. And that made the white people in control of the whole country and the black people as slaves, dependent on them.
But things have turned around now. Black people have education, can read and write and demand their rights.
Well in Nigeria, women were not educated only men. And that put men in control of their villages and tribes. Marrying 4, 5 wives. The wives just shut up and stay one place and be fully dependent on the men.
But eduction had been given to women now. They can now be independent also. But they need a man to be able to have children and remain in a decent lifestyle.

So did Nigerian men spoil the women by giving them Education?
The more people are educated, the less they are dependent on each other and the machines/automation will take away all the jobs. More education equals less jobs.
So we are all jobless and men have no money to cater to women like olden days.
Men didn't spoil women. Education got people jobless and unable to earn money at all..

realG101:
■ Lol, this is hilarious but true. The difficulty in men upping their standard as you advised is that, the percentage of women who are in the working class is very minimal compared to the demand for women by men. If I may take a guess, the ration of working class women to men is like 1/80. That's the reason nigerian men are forced to settle with leechy women so far the woman can at least look attractive. And that is the reason many of them get abused by their rich husbands in marriage. The recent trend now is young girls preferring to become a 2nd or 3rd wife to a rich guy instead of starting and growing with a promising young man.