I got into a relationship with a 22 year old girl who's turning 23 by January.

Along the line, she got pregnant. We kept the pregnancy away from her people until after four months.

I have already made a visit to her family to register my interest in marrying the girl and have asked for date for introduction and traditional marriage.

But when she told the mother that she's pregnant, the first question the mother asked her is if she had told me.

When she said yes, the mother was shouting at her that why did she tell me. The mother didn't know that I was with the daughter when she made that call.

Few days after, the mother asked her to return home. A day before the girl left, I have already registered her for antenatal. But I remember when I was paying for the antenatal, the girl asked me not to waste my money.

I didn't know that she has already agreed with the mother to kill and remove a four months old pregnancy.

Immediately the mother learnt that she was pregnant, she asked her to cut all communications with me or she will lay a curse on her.

So, every other communication we were having, the mum didn't know about it.

She left Lagos on Wednesday and today, the mother called me that the baby in her daughter's womb is dead due to stress that the girl was going through while in Lagos. That no one was attending to her, bla bla bla. Not knowing that I have been taking the girl to the hospital all along. She said that they are waiting for a doctor to evacuate the baby.

I feel so terrible right now. This girl is the first daughter and the first to have anything to do with marriage and child bearing. The mother has the gut to kill the first unborn child that was coming into their family.

The mother didn't know that I have all the evidence with me. That I have the test results and the scan results. The baby was doing very well as at the scan we did a day before she left.

I told her that I am willing to take responsibility for her and the child. I am capable. I am willing to marry her. Why then does the mother still go ahead to terminate a 4 months old pregnancy?

The mother attends mountain of fire church. So, I don't know if it's the shame of what people will say about a supposedly murderous Christian home.

I told her that she can remain in Lagos until she delivers if she doesn't want anyone to know that she took in but no, the mother wants to soil her hands in blood.

From my chat with the girl, she's preparing to undergo the abortion. So, it's like the mum called me ahead to inform me that they are about to take the child off her womb. Somebody that a baby died in her womb wouldn't be strong enough to be replying me WhatsApp messages.

I am tempted to take a legal action

Sorry, she didn't want her daughter to be a single mother.


Willing to marry her doesn't count @ all.

I feel so terrible right now. This girl is the first daughter and the first to have anything to do with marriage and child bearing.

The mother sense that it will be miserable life for the girl to be lockdown in marriage that happened in a mistake or likely abandoned to become a single mother, which sounds like a threat according to your gender.

The mother has the gut to kill the first unborn child that was coming into their family.

I don't understand @bolded .How is the child theirs? thought man is said to own a child cuz the woman is a stranger?.

My pain is the murder of the innocent baby.

As for you, your girlfriend and her mother, you people are morally bankrupt. Talking to you is like flogging a dead horse because you won't take any preaching of mortality. You will only change when you personally decides to do so.

Only silly people get married because of pregnancy. You never wanted to marry her. The pregnancy is what put marriage in your mind. This means you will easily divorce because of any little issue. You indulge in premarital sex to an extent of impregnating a girl. You even waited for the pregnancy to be 4 months old before you made a move for marriage.

Jeon:
Sorry, she didn't want her daughter to be a single mother.


Willing to marry her doesn't count @ all.

If you support this as a woman, then there's a problem.

We can fix date and get married. People have been doing it for ages. I love this girl and she loves me too.

She wanted the baby, reason she has agreed to keep it until this time

Abstain from premarital sex next time.


Take your bride to the altar, pure and clean in mind, body and soul.

What kind of nonsense.
Ask your parents right now to call hers and give her parents a date to come for introduction.
There is a wrong stigma attached to single motherhood.
You know exactly what to do to fix it.
Four months was enough time to have gone to see her parents yet you opted to take her to the hospital.

Yes, I supported it. However "Men don't benefit anything from Marriage " ,but it's the other way round.


Marriage by mistake more like trapped marriage . And you will always remember her that you did her a favor by marrying her because of pregnancy, when the 5sec love fade away
.

Brokendad:


If you support this as a woman, then there's a problem.

We can fix date and get married. People have been doing it for ages. I love this girl and she loves me too.

She wanted the baby, reason she has agreed to keep it until this time

Why did you not use your real moniker?. You don't want to disappoint you redpills clans?.

Personal I don't support what your mother-in-law did, but you cursed it.

Why will you impregnate a girl you have not paid her dowry not to talk of marriage and you happy talking trash online.
If she is your sister you will clap for her.

Jeon:
Yes, I supported it. However "Men don't benefit anything from Marriage " ,but it's the other way round.


Marriage by mistake more like trapped marriage . And you will always remember her that you did her a favor by marrying her because of pregnancy, when the 5sec love fade away
.



Why did you not use your real moniker?. You don't want to disappoint you redpills clan?.

You obviously have a problem with men. Bye.

We were in a relationship already.

Shokoloko:
What kind of nonsense.
Ask your parents right now to call hers and give her parents a date to come for introduction.
There is a wrong stigma attached to single motherhood.
You know exactly what to do to fix it.
Four months was enough time to have gone to see her parents yet you opted to take her to the hospital.

Did you read the entire article? I have gone to see her parents already. The girl just confirmed to me that she never wanted the baby.
So, I guess I don't have anything to fight for again.

Jeon:




Why did you not use your real moniker?. You don't want to disappoint you redpills clan?.

hahaha

Brokendad:


You obviously have a problem with men. Bye.

We were in a relationship already.

No, you have a problem with yourself.
You thought you are wise,by impregnating a girl and refused to talk about marriage for almost 4months not until the mom step in.And you were encouraging the girl to go into hiding ..... Why? thats means it was a mistake from the beginning.

securitywatch50:
Personal I don't support what your mother-in-law did, but you cursed it.

Why will you impregnate a girl you have not paid her dowry not to talk of marriage and you happy talking trash online.
If she is your sister you will clap for her.

If she was my sister and she loves the guy and the guy loves her and he is willing and capable of taking care of mother and child, I will let the marriage hold.

Oizee:
hahaha

THIS IS HOW THEIR YNASH WILL BE EXPOSING.

Jeon:
Sorry, she didn't want her daughter to be a single mother.


Willing to marry her doesn't count @ all.



The mother sense that it will be miserable life for the girl to be lockdown in marriage that happened in a mistake or likely abandoned to become a single mother, which sounds like a threat according to your gender.





I don't understand @bolded .How is the child theirs? thought man is said to own a child cuz the woman is a stranger?.

Hmm......Nairaland has become a war zone.

In the Politics section, it is ethnic/religious fight...

In the Family/Romance section, it is fight between Redpillers/Alpha Male wanna be and Feminists/Woke Women....SMH

That's why you shouldn't engage in pre-marital sex. If you want to be doing that, then you should've at least been using condom. I know you're going to quote me and lie that you did but you were probably not using any with her.

As for taking legal action, lol, who would you take legal action against? Imagine taking legal action against a woman's body. As if that's how it works, unless you want to go and lose. Move on, and stop engaging in pre-marital sex, or get married first to avoid this kinda wahala again.

OP ,leave those roaches advising you on this thread.If you told her to abort it,the foolish roaches will still be here blaming you,but you accepted responsibility and you ate also ready to go all the way ,but the nairaland roaches still post stupid posts just because you are a man.Since the girl doesnt want the baby.let her do what's in her mind.I faced this issue long ago ,when I was also ready to take responsibility. But the girl did not want it.but today, it's her biggest regret in life.she keeps telling me that.leave those immatured ladies talking from their clit.

Will you still marry her? That's the main question.
If you don't, you never loved her
If you do... You're a foolish man.

Next time, be wise and do the right thing

Legal action is a waste of time and resources because you don't have enough evidence. The mother already has an alibi that the child died of distressed and was evacuated. The stress of traveling from Lagos to wherever is enough to kill the child.

You can't blame the girl, not too many 22 years old girls can stand their grounds against their mum. Especially, a Christian mum.

Know that the girl is not truthful enough with you because she followed her mum to the hospital leaving her phone at home with only one purpose, to terminate the pregnancy.

You have two choices, forgive the girl and her mum and go ahead with the wedding. This decision may boomerang because delay in pregnancy later may end the marriage.

Or, block the girl and her mum.

Fornicator... Like boyfriend, like girlfriend-like the mother of girlfriend...

Brokendad:


If you support this as a woman, then there's a problem.

We can fix date and get married. People have been doing it for ages. I love this girl and she loves me too.

She wanted the baby, reason she has agreed to keep it until this time

Tomorrow when you both have issues,then you will abuse her of tying you down. The mother did well,don't marry because of pregnancy.

Brokendad:


If you support this as a woman, then there's a problem.

We can fix date and get married. People have been doing it for ages. I love this girl and she loves me too.

She wanted the baby, reason she has agreed to keep it until this time

Shut up, you don't read A BIBLE TOO...? Birds of the same feathers...including the same weathers/in the same weather... You would soon run hither&thither,helter skelter,etc:...until you withers... At the end of the day, you have no feather; let alone feathers... Is that how to become a father...?...

Sophiemama:
Tomorrow when you both have issues,then you will abuse her of tying you down. The mother did well,don't marry because of pregnancy.

Shut up, you too!...

Brokendad:


If she was my sister and she loves the guy and the guy loves her and he is willing and capable of taking care of mother and child, I will let the marriage hold.

Kill yourself and the girl too...finish... Lobatan...

Emmanuel30a:
Shut up, you too!...

I so much pity your wife.

Sophiemama:
I so much pity your wife.

Come and be my wife... Come and marry me...

Your girlfriend is complicit because she is not a minor so she can decide what happens to the pregnancy as a legal adult.

Wo, na una sabi.

My guy move on. Most mothers wont do abortion for their daughter. That's a potentially bad mother inlaw. Even if u get to marry her daughter then you wont enjoy the marriage. Thank your God.

Na that small money wey you think say you get dy shack you….rejoice bc you just dodged a bullet and moreover getting married bc of pregnancy no dy always end well.

If you guys love each others so much…why did you wait until she got pregnant before thinking of wifying her.

So is this the reason why you tagged your name brokendad

Abeg move on