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Jeon:
Yes, I supported it. However "Men don't benefit anything from Marriage " ,but it's the other way round.


Marriage by mistake more like trapped marriage . And you will always remember her that you did her a favor by marrying her because of pregnancy, when the 5sec love fade away
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Why did you not use your real moniker?. You don't want to disappoint you redpills clans?.

madam
E be like say you don dey wait for a day like this

Please reduce the pepper🤣🤣🤣

Brokendad:
I got into a relationship with a 22 year old girl who's turning 23 by January.

Along the line, she got pregnant. We kept the pregnancy away from her people until after four months.

I have already made a visit to her family to register my interest in marrying the girl and have asked for date for introduction and traditional marriage.

But when she told the mother that she's pregnant, the first question the mother asked her is if she had told me.

When she said yes, the mother was shouting at her that why did she tell me. The mother didn't know that I was with the daughter when she made that call.

Few days after, the mother asked her to return home. A day before the girl left, I have already registered her for antenatal. But I remember when I was paying for the antenatal, the girl asked me not to waste my money.

I didn't know that she has already agreed with the mother to kill and remove a four months old pregnancy.

Immediately the mother learnt that she was pregnant, she asked her to cut all communications with me or she will lay a curse on her.

So, every other communication we were having, the mum didn't know about it.

She left Lagos on Wednesday and today, the mother called me that the baby in her daughter's womb is dead due to stress that the girl was going through while in Lagos. That no one was attending to her, bla bla bla. Not knowing that I have been taking the girl to the hospital all along. She said that they are waiting for a doctor to evacuate the baby.

I feel so terrible right now. This girl is the first daughter and the first to have anything to do with marriage and child bearing. The mother has the gut to kill the first unborn child that was coming into their family.

The mother didn't know that I have all the evidence with me. That I have the test results and the scan results. The baby was doing very well as at the scan we did a day before she left.

I told her that I am willing to take responsibility for her and the child. I am capable. I am willing to marry her. Why then does the mother still go ahead to terminate a 4 months old pregnancy?

The mother attends mountain of fire church. So, I don't know if it's the shame of what people will say about a supposedly murderous Christian home.

I told her that she can remain in Lagos until she delivers if she doesn't want anyone to know that she took in but no, the mother wants to soil her hands in blood.

From my chat with the girl, she's preparing to undergo the abortion. So, it's like the mum called me ahead to inform me that they are about to take the child off her womb. Somebody that a baby died in her womb wouldn't be strong enough to be replying me WhatsApp messages.

I am tempted to take a legal action

The girl and her mother owe you nothing...there is no where it is written that the girl should keep a child for you, whether you wanted to do introduction or not, the parents have the right to accept or reject you...you were wrong from day one...you have no right what so ever to do anything..just move on

Brokendad:
I got into a relationship with a 22 year old girl who's turning 23 by January.

Along the line, she got pregnant. We kept the pregnancy away from her people until after four months.

I have already made a visit to her family to register my interest in marrying the girl and have asked for date for introduction and traditional marriage.

But when she told the mother that she's pregnant, the first question the mother asked her is if she had told me.

When she said yes, the mother was shouting at her that why did she tell me. The mother didn't know that I was with the daughter when she made that call.

Few days after, the mother asked her to return home. A day before the girl left, I have already registered her for antenatal. But I remember when I was paying for the antenatal, the girl asked me not to waste my money.

I didn't know that she has already agreed with the mother to kill and remove a four months old pregnancy.

Immediately the mother learnt that she was pregnant, she asked her to cut all communications with me or she will lay a curse on her.

So, every other communication we were having, the mum didn't know about it.

She left Lagos on Wednesday and today, the mother called me that the baby in her daughter's womb is dead due to stress that the girl was going through while in Lagos. That no one was attending to her, bla bla bla. Not knowing that I have been taking the girl to the hospital all along. She said that they are waiting for a doctor to evacuate the baby.

I feel so terrible right now. This girl is the first daughter and the first to have anything to do with marriage and child bearing. The mother has the gut to kill the first unborn child that was coming into their family.

The mother didn't know that I have all the evidence with me. That I have the test results and the scan results. The baby was doing very well as at the scan we did a day before she left.

I told her that I am willing to take responsibility for her and the child. I am capable. I am willing to marry her. Why then does the mother still go ahead to terminate a 4 months old pregnancy?

The mother attends mountain of fire church. So, I don't know if it's the shame of what people will say about a supposedly murderous Christian home.

I told her that she can remain in Lagos until she delivers if she doesn't want anyone to know that she took in but no, the mother wants to soil her hands in blood.

From my chat with the girl, she's preparing to undergo the abortion. So, it's like the mum called me ahead to inform me that they are about to take the child off her womb. Somebody that a baby died in her womb wouldn't be strong enough to be replying me WhatsApp messages.

I am tempted to take a legal action

You don't have to conclude very fast. An unborn baby can still die in the womb, and the dead foetus will be evacuated


Can you tell your age? Do you have a good job?
Can you take care of a family?

So your game plan is to become a father through the back door. If I were your girl's father, nothing on earth will stop you from being jailed.

The girl did well.

I support married women to have abortions when their husbands are misbehaving and showing signs of irresponsibility. Talkless of a man who has not even married the girl he has impregnated. Women if you make a mistake in this life, society will not give you the grace to get a second chance.

Op move on with your life and stop whining. That girl owes you absolutely nothing!

I for cut ur gbola join

U look like an unserious man that want to use pregnancy to take a lady.
Be serious with your life such that wen a woman hears you are the father they will be happy not d reverse..

TheWinterBird:
That's why you shouldn't engage in pre-marital sex. If you want to be doing that, then you should've at least been using condom. I know you're going to quote me and lie that you did but you were probably not using any with her.

As for taking legal action, lol, who would you take legal action against? Imagine taking legal action against a woman's body. As if that's how it works, unless you want to go and lose. Move on, and stop engaging in pre-marital sex, or get married first to avoid this kinda wahala again.

You are a foolish winter bird!!! Na cold go kee you las las

If he had gone for abortion, you,jeon and the other Feminazis fuuls would have crucified him alive. Yet he wanted to do the right thing and marry her but she aborted it and you still blame him?

Una matter taya me abeg...confused gender

Jeon:
No, you have a problem with yourself.
You thought you are wise,by impregnating a girl and refused to talk about marriage for almost 4months not until the mom step in.And you were encouraging the girl to go into hiding ..... Why? thats means it was a mistake from the beginning.

He impregnated a girl

Do you ladies know how backward and dumb this always sound.

Brokendad:
I got into a relationship with a 22 year old girl who's turning 23 by January.

Along the line, she got pregnant. We kept the pregnancy away from her people until after four months.

I have already made a visit to her family to register my interest in marrying the girl and have asked for date for introduction and traditional marriage.

But when she told the mother that she's pregnant, the first question the mother asked her is if she had told me.

When she said yes, the mother was shouting at her that why did she tell me. The mother didn't know that I was with the daughter when she made that call.

Few days after, the mother asked her to return home. A day before the girl left, I have already registered her for antenatal. But I remember when I was paying for the antenatal, the girl asked me not to waste my money.

I didn't know that she has already agreed with the mother to kill and remove a four months old pregnancy.

Immediately the mother learnt that she was pregnant, she asked her to cut all communications with me or she will lay a curse on her.

So, every other communication we were having, the mum didn't know about it.

She left Lagos on Wednesday and today, the mother called me that the baby in her daughter's womb is dead due to stress that the girl was going through while in Lagos. That no one was attending to her, bla bla bla. Not knowing that I have been taking the girl to the hospital all along. She said that they are waiting for a doctor to evacuate the baby.

I feel so terrible right now. This girl is the first daughter and the first to have anything to do with marriage and child bearing. The mother has the gut to kill the first unborn child that was coming into their family.

The mother didn't know that I have all the evidence with me. That I have the test results and the scan results. The baby was doing very well as at the scan we did a day before she left.

I told her that I am willing to take responsibility for her and the child. I am capable. I am willing to marry her. Why then does the mother still go ahead to terminate a 4 months old pregnancy?

The mother attends mountain of fire church. So, I don't know if it's the shame of what people will say about a supposedly murderous Christian home.

I told her that she can remain in Lagos until she delivers if she doesn't want anyone to know that she took in but no, the mother wants to soil her hands in blood.

From my chat with the girl, she's preparing to undergo the abortion. So, it's like the mum called me ahead to inform me that they are about to take the child off her womb. Somebody that a baby died in her womb wouldn't be strong enough to be replying me WhatsApp messages.

I am tempted to take a legal action

What legal options?
I mean if your supreme court could rule in favour of BAT on a technicality. Are we not all still in the same Nigeria ?

I know you’re hurt ! Hurt deeply but you are partly at fault. You put the cart before the horse.

The process usually is the following
1. Boy meets girl
2. Girl likes Boy .
3. Boy meets girls parents.
4. Boy parents meet Girls parents.
5. Parents plan marriage.
6, Marriage occurs
7. Children arrive.

You jumped all the way to step 7.
As long as she is living in her parent’s house and eating their food. Their rules reign.

Your gf - if your girl was okay and matured about being pregnant she would have kept it a surprise . She put her parents in a difficult position . Nonetheless she could have put her foot down and said she doesn’t want to kill her child. Her body her rules.

The parents - you and their daughter shattered the dreams and hopes they had for their daughter. She knew that her parents are old school . She knew that unprotected sex would produce a child. She knew her parents would not want a child out of wedlock. The mother just couldn’t reconcile telling her friends that her daughter is having a child out of wedlock.

So some parents would have their daughter live with their “mistake” while others have decided to ask for forgiveness and abort.

My advice - drop the legal threat.

If you still love the girl then do things the right way with these parents.

Brokendad:
I got into a relationship with a 22 year old girl who's turning 23 by January.

Along the line, she got pregnant. We kept the pregnancy away from her people until after four months.

I have already made a visit to her family to register my interest in marrying the girl and have asked for date for introduction and traditional marriage.

But when she told the mother that she's pregnant, the first question the mother asked her is if she had told me.

When she said yes, the mother was shouting at her that why did she tell me. The mother didn't know that I was with the daughter when she made that call.

Few days after, the mother asked her to return home. A day before the girl left, I have already registered her for antenatal. But I remember when I was paying for the antenatal, the girl asked me not to waste my money.

I didn't know that she has already agreed with the mother to kill and remove a four months old pregnancy.

Immediately the mother learnt that she was pregnant, she asked her to cut all communications with me or she will lay a curse on her.

So, every other communication we were having, the mum didn't know about it.

She left Lagos on Wednesday and today, the mother called me that the baby in her daughter's womb is dead due to stress that the girl was going through while in Lagos. That no one was attending to her, bla bla bla. Not knowing that I have been taking the girl to the hospital all along. She said that they are waiting for a doctor to evacuate the baby.

I feel so terrible right now. This girl is the first daughter and the first to have anything to do with marriage and child bearing. The mother has the gut to kill the first unborn child that was coming into their family.

The mother didn't know that I have all the evidence with me. That I have the test results and the scan results. The baby was doing very well as at the scan we did a day before she left.

I told her that I am willing to take responsibility for her and the child. I am capable. I am willing to marry her. Why then does the mother still go ahead to terminate a 4 months old pregnancy?

The mother attends mountain of fire church. So, I don't know if it's the shame of what people will say about a supposedly murderous Christian home.

I told her that she can remain in Lagos until she delivers if she doesn't want anyone to know that she took in but no, the mother wants to soil her hands in blood.

From my chat with the girl, she's preparing to undergo the abortion. So, it's like the mum called me ahead to inform me that they are about to take the child off her womb. Somebody that a baby died in her womb wouldn't be strong enough to be replying me WhatsApp messages.

I am tempted to take a legal action

Bro there is nothing like legal action here just that u ain't lucky with the kind of family u impregnated their daughter because.same thing happened to me but we did the normal things before she gave birth and till date nothing was wrong
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So base on going to police or whatever lawyer.my brother it's a waste of time and money since u haven't paid her bride price before impregnating her 🤔

So just take it as ur fate that u are unlucky and besides she might still be testing your fate other way round though ..

Sophiemama:
Tomorrow when you both have issues,then you will abuse her of tying you down. The mother did well,don't marry because of pregnancy.

You are a fuullish mama. He loved the girl and wanted to do the right thing. If he had aborted it, na una go still blame him. I can't imagine you lots supporting a woman who took her own child's life.

Accountability no be una strong suit sha.

immortalcrown:
My pain is the murder of the innocent baby.

As for you, your girlfriend and her mother, you people are morally bankrupt. Talking to you is like flogging a dead horse because you won't take any preaching of mortality. You will only change when you personally decides to do so.

Only silly people get married because of pregnancy. You never wanted to marry her. The pregnancy is what put marriage in your mind. This means you will easily divorce because of any little issue. You indulge in premarital sex to an extent of impregnating a girl. You even waited for the pregnancy to be 4 months old before you made a move for marriage.

Easy bro. We know he did the wrong thing via pre-marital sex with his girlfriend but he is willing to own up and right his wrong. What the mother did by brainwashing her daughter to commit abortion is a more grievous and wicked act.

I hate when people are claiming righteous but their secret is worse.

Jeon:
Sorry, she didn't want her daughter to be a single mother.


Willing to marry her doesn't count @ all.



The mother sense that it will be miserable life for the girl to be lockdown in marriage that happened in a mistake or likely abandoned to become a single mother, which sounds like a threat according to your gender.





I don't understand @bolded .How is the child theirs? thought man is said to own a child cuz the woman is a stranger?.

From your submission it shows the kind of parent that raised you. Only God knows how many abortion you have done. Later you will be crying that your village people are after you when you are ready to give birth and it’s not forthcoming. I pity that guy dating you or the guy that’s planing to tie the knot with you Ewu. Ara agbala

The owner destroyed the result of what you stole, you are here talking trash. Legal action because they refuse to let you terminate the future plans for their child. Suppose the girl now says you rapped her ? With one sound slap your brain will go back to factory setting.

luminouz:
You are a foolish winter bird!!! Na cold go kee you las las

If he had gone for abortion, you,jeon and the other Feminazis fuuls would have crucified him alive. Yet he wanted to do the right thing and marry her but she aborted it and you still blame him?

Una matter taya me abeg...confused gender

Waiting for a woman to get pregnant before marriage is a huge gamble. It has led to most of the single mothers you see today. Are you willing to marry a single mother? Why should she just take his word as a guarantee for her future? Being a single mother has ruined the destiny of so many women. What happens to the men? Nothing. She made the right decision. Op should move on with his life.

Brokendad:
You obviously have a problem with men. Bye.

We were in a relationship already.

You are a very stupid fellow.

Why will you impregnate a girl you're not married to?

Will you be happy if an idiot Like you impregnates your daughter or sister?

You talk about taking responsibility makes you sound more stupid.

This should be the end of your relationship with that girl I hope.

What an idiot you are.

Oga boyfriend
Sisi girlfriend
Madam mama girlfriend

Pls all of you, repent because Jesus is coming soon.

Brokendad:
If she was my sister and she loves the guy and the guy loves her and he is willing and capable of taking care of mother and child, I will let the marriage hold.

It's easier said than done, you never approached her

Jeon:
Sorry, she didn't want her daughter to be a single mother.


Willing to marry her doesn't count @ all.



The mother sense that it will be miserable life for the girl to be lockdown in marriage that happened in a mistake or likely abandoned to become a single mother, which sounds like a threat according to your gender.





I don't understand @bolded .How is the child theirs? thought man is said to own a child cuz the woman is a stranger?.

Good one.

Op is very funny ,you want to take legal action as WHO ? YOU want a baby but you don't want to marry,no be juju be that

Brokendad:
If she was my sister and she loves the guy and the guy loves her and he is willing and capable of taking care of mother and child, I will let the margriage hold.

Are you a defender, or a defensive midfielder, or attacker, or striker?
Just answer this question first.

You were so quick to judge the mother as a murderer but couldn't see what you and the girl did as a sin.

So your game plan is to cut corners and become a father through the back door. If i were your girl's father, nothing on earth will stop you from being jailed.

olabrinks:
Waiting for a woman to get pregnant before marriage is a huge gamble. It has led to most of the single mothers you see today. Are you willing to marry a single mother? Why should she just take his word as a guarantee for her future? Being a single mother has ruined the destiny of so many women. What happens to the men? Nothing. She made the right decision. Op should move on with his life.

Did you read where he went to see her parents? Or you just decided to overlook that part. That dude wanted to do the right thing.

So single mothers are now your problem and she should KILL A HUMAN BEING. See how una dey rationalize murder!! If he was the one to suggest abortion, y'all will go.mad!!!

Olabrinks, YOU ARE A MURDERESS!!!

luminouz:
You are a fuullish mama. He loved the girl and wanted to do the right thing. If he had aborted it, na una go still blame him. I can't imagine you lots supporting a woman who took her own child's life.

Accountability no be una strong suit sha.

It is my opinion and it doesnt have to suit you. Wise man.

WorldRichest:
This one is mentally unstable

nothing is wrong with her, but you.

Brokendad:
Did you read the entire article? I have gone to see her parents already. The girl just confirmed to me that she never wanted the baby.
So, I guess I don't have anything to fight for again.

The first responsibility was getting married before getting her pregnant and you failed that.

You will take responsibility? How many ladies and kids have had their lives messed up because a random joe got them pregnant and claim he will take responsibility only to disappear along the line.

And responsibility is not just about sending money to take care of the care, emotional and physical support is also essential.

Bottomline is your are part responsible for the situation.

Saying you will marry her and a marriage date could be fixed does not equate commitment.

This thread already showed y'all how women are. They only cry and wail if it doesn't favour them.

Not ONE FEMALE went against the abortion. They didn't see any wrong in it, because na female initiate am. But it were to be a guy, they will all go MAD.

Y'all should pray her womb is still intact. Or you will still blame the boy again.


No matter how redpill I am, I go against abortion. Nawa for una bald heads

Sophiemama:
It is my opinion and it doesnt have to suit you. Wise man.

Murderess geddifok jor. Clifford Orji's sister!!!

Resurgent2016:
The first responsibility was getting married before getting her pregnant and you failed that.

You will take responsibility? How many ladies and kids have had their lives messed up because a random joe got them pregnant and claim he will take responsibility only to disappear along the line.

And responsibility is not just about sending money to take care of the care, emotional and physical support is also essential.

Bottomline is your are part responsible for the situation.

Saying you will marry her and a marriage date could be fixed does not equate commitment.

luckily girls don dey wise up aswear.

Brokendad:
I got into a relationship with a 22 year old girl who's turning 23 by January.

Along the line, she got pregnant. We kept the pregnancy away from her people until after four months.

First of all, she is a woman and not a girl. As an adult, who from your narrative is not dependent on her mother for financial support, I cannot place the blame on the mother. She can think for herself and also refuse to go to the hospital with her mother but as you later posted, she does not want to keep the child. If this will affect your replationship in the future, I suggest you move on and let her be.