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Samantha124:
Of enduring your nonsense.

Back in the olden days women were expected to endure a lot of crap from men because they were seen as inferior beings with nothing to say, but things have changed now.

Never knew you hold this kind of view about men. Disappointed.

casualobserver:
When I say power below, I am referring in you ability to attract the best in the opposite sex.

A woman’s power ends by the time she is 35. A man’s power begins in his mid twenties starts to fade 55-60. At that age if you have not secured a good man, the men you rejected at 25 will toss you around because you are of no use to them. At 35 you will struggle to find a life partner of the caliber you turned down in your twenties, at 40 it is almost impossible. At 35 you will realize you need a man but at 35+ you will have to marry below your status, or put up with things you thought you would never do to find a husband. 90% of the single reasonably attractive single women out there are side chicks to married men. I am a married man, I know. Many of them from good homes and I always ask myself how did a girl like this end up a side chick. The answer is usually poor mindset. At that age there are not many options for a single woman. The marryable men are married, if you want a single man, odds are he is struggling and will continue struggling, probably the type of man you rejected when you had power.

God did not design this thing by accident. The purpose of a woman having power in her youth at a time when a man is weak is 1) to have choice of the best suitors 2) to secure the gratitude, loyalty and eternal love of a man at his weakest knowing full well that is what will sustain her when her beauty/ fertility fades and other women come after her husband. It is more difficult for a man to value a woman he that came into his life at his peak.

Don’t waste your youth, don’t waste your power or you will be the one doing the begging. If you know what single mature women go through in the hands of married men, you will not abuse your power. We dont have time for you, we have families, we say come when it is convenient, we say go when we are done. We call you when it is convenient, we dont pick your calls, some of us pass you around. You are a convenience and not a priority….the worst thing from your point of view is you know but you can’t do anything about it, if you leave one married man you will jump into another married man. it is even worse for those of you from decent homes because you don’t want people to know so you take it or endure loneliness or go to single men lesser than the men you rejected in your youth. The Beyoncé and all others that are deceiving all you women with “independent women” are married.

Not finding a life partner is not a threat to me
Besides I will be married before I’m 26 so what you’re saying is nonsense
Power in a relationship belong to women
Don’t beg and see

mascot87:
Na guys wey no know there worth girls they treat anyhow.

Abi. But some guys see that thing as food and they can die if the lady quit. Like one mumu man that got married to olosho in my area, even after the warning from all angle, he still went ahead marrying her n claimed the lady already got pregnant for him. 1234. Just one morning, d mumu man woke up n realised the woman was gone. D mumu man cried n cried and all effort to get his wife back was aborted. Now the lady comes to the area and Bleep another man and come to think of it, the mumu man still believes the olosho will come back to him even after he discovered that the last two kids out of the four are not his. What makes you think the first two are his biological child either. Some men mumu for where women dey like dis mumu man I just talk about. Come to think of it, I'm still thinking of how to tell the mumu man that her wife came to Bleep my friend all because she wanted to borrow phone to a party, come to think of it, na my small phone my guy borrowed her. This one no be tails by moon light, it is true story

Dickcap:
I have been curious about this thought for some weeks now. It happened that two of my guys reached out to me last week about their girlfriend initiating a breakup. I'm now wondering why is that now ladies are initiating breaks instead.

Instead of who? Is initiating breakups reserved for a particular gender?

Dickcap:
I have been curious about this thought for some weeks now. It happened that two of my guys reached out to me last week about their girlfriend initiating a breakup. I'm now wondering why is that it now ladies initiating breaks instead.

Habbaaa..

If anyone is not happy in a relationship,, he should just initiate the quit.

Meanwhile, I saw a video where a guy put gun in his mouth and shot himself dead - just because his girlfriend quit their relationship.

Samantha124:
But this has nothing to do with my father and I don't have any brother.

Even if I did have a brother, still, this would have nothing to do with him.

your reaction shows you love your father. I like woman that love their father. No vex for what I said about him.

Samantha124:
Can you use pure English? Because you keep confusing me.

sorry about that ,I mean I would like to add u on my WhatsApp app,we could meet there .

Samantha124:
We're tired...😏😏😏

You have talked about ur guy on this forum... Are you tired of him as well?

Why would I be tired of him when he's been a gentleman and treating me like a queen?

DREAMHOMES6970:
You have talked about ur guy on this forum... Are you tired of him as well?

Well, last time I checked, I wasn't here to please anyone and it's not my fault that some of you guys refuse to grow and would still continue with your childish behaviors even in your adulthood.

So expect to be disappointed some more.

professore:
Never knew you hold this kind of view about men. Disappointed.

I don't know what you're talking about.

Clearly you're the one who has issues, not me.

lordnkem000:
Ofcourse u know what feminism these days means, HATE against men. It has everything to do with it

Samantha124:
Why would I be tired of him when he's been a gentleman and treating me like a queen?

Lols ... You see life! You hold ur guy strong oo! but you are expressing solidarity n' support to other girls to dump their own relationships just to score a point which may backfire on them.
That's how a girl I loved, did everything for to my ability sent me a message one evening that she was breaking up.. I was pained though but I manned up and said okay. After 9 months she started calling me to beg me. For two years now she still begging me. I don't block people but because of her disturbing messages I blocked her on all platforms... Recently a month ago she used another number to chat me on Whatsapp. Really it was a big relief to me parting ways with her

Well, I'm holding him strong because he deserves to be held strong, I can't be encouraging a girl to stay in a fruitless relationship where the guy is treating her like trash just because I'm in a relationship myself... You make it seem like all men treat women like they're nobodies.

Because immediately he changes and starts treating me somehow despite me being vocal about my dislike with his new behavior, I'll have no choice but to part ways with him too... And I'm not saying it's going to be easy.

You can love someone, but still break-up with him due to some circumstances at that moment... Maybe your girlfriend tried to give you signals of the things you did that she didn't like, but you couldn't read between the lines... The least you could've done is asked why was she breaking up with you, but I'm guessing you allowed your emotions and pride to take control of you because you Nigerian guys are way too emotional and prideful.

DREAMHOMES6970:
Lols ... You see life! You hold ur guy strong oo! but you are expressing solidarity n' support to other girls to dump their own relationships just to score a point which may backfire on them.
That's how a girl I loved, did everything for to my ability sent me a message one evening that she was breaking up.. I was pained though but I manned up and said okay. After 9 months she started calling me to beg me. For two years now she still begging me. I don't block people but because of her disturbing messages I blocked her on all platforms... Recently a month ago she used another number to chat me on Whatsapp. Really it was a big relief to me parting ways with her

I think many of them lack ability to build a good home.

Samantha124:
Well, I'm holding him strong because he deserves to be held strong, I can't be encouraging a girl to stay in a fruitless relationship where the guy is treating her like trash just because I'm in a relationship myself... You make it seem like all men treat women like they're nobodies.

Because immediately he changes and starts treating me somehow despite me being vocal about my dislike with his new behavior, I'll have no choice but to part ways with him too... And I'm not saying it's going to be easy.

You can love someone, but still break-up with him due to some circumstances at that moment... Maybe your girlfriend tried to give you signals of the things you did that she didn't like, but you couldn't read between the lines... The least you could've done is asked why was she breaking up with you, but I'm guessing you allowed your emotions and pride to take control of you because you Nigerian guys are way too emotional and prideful.

In this context the girls clamoring to break up with their partners this Xmas never gave their reasons, I guess it's just to score cheap points, or put the guy into pressure of spending more on them or perhaps an abroad guy is coming home.. Lols. I feel you shouldn't be in the WhatsApp group of those in solidarity with the idea since you own relationship is intact, moreover they didn't pinpoint any reason breaking up this Xmas... So it's like you are supporting 'em blindly.
@ d bolded I did she came up with so many flimsy reasons one of which was she ain't feeling the love again. During that period she was in school in another state and I was taking care of some of her school bills. I later discovered Tru her Facebook account she had another relationship in school

At bolded, then you have the answer to your question... She fell out of love with you because of the distance... Some people are like that, they can't do long distance relationships, I'm one of them... You can fall out of love with someone but still love him and in her case, the distance was the reason she fell out of love with you.

And if you ask me, her reason was valid... Rather than cheat on you, she preferred to end things with you and that alone shows how much she loved and respected you... She didn't tell you the truth from the beginning because she didn't want to hurt your feelings and that shows that she still cared about your feelings.

Would you have preferred that she continued with the relationship while cheating on you?

DREAMHOMES6970:
In this context the girls clamoring to break up with their partners this Xmas never gave their reasons, I guess it's just to score cheap points, or put the guy into pressure of spending more on them or perhaps an abroad guy is coming home.. Lols. I feel you shouldn't be in the WhatsApp group of those in solidarity with the idea since you own relationship is intact, moreover they didn't pinpoint any reason breaking up this Xmas... So it's like you are supporting 'em blindly.
@ d bolded I did she came up with so many flimsy reasons one of which was she ain't feeling the love again. During that period she was in school in another state and I was taking care of some of her school bills. I later discovered Tru her Facebook account she had another relationship in school

Samantha124:
Well, last time I checked, I wasn't here to please anyone and it's not my fault that some of you guys refuse to grow and would still continue with your childish behaviors even in your adulthood.

So expect to be disappointed some more.

Samantha I have always liked you. Why? Because you understand humour. I will not say more than that.

That's the reason why we suffer moral decay.

Samantha124:
Of enduring your nonsense.

Back in the olden days women were expected to endure a lot of crap from men because they were seen as inferior beings with nothing to say, but things have changed now.

casualobserver:
When I say power below, I am referring in you ability to attract the best in the opposite sex.

A woman’s power ends by the time she is 35. A man’s power begins in his mid twenties starts to fade 55-60. At that age if you have not secured a good man, the men you rejected at 25 will toss you around because you are of no use to them. At 35 you will struggle to find a life partner of the caliber you turned down in your twenties, at 40 it is almost impossible. At 35 you will realize you need a man but at 35+ you will have to marry below your status, or put up with things you thought you would never do to find a husband. 90% of the single reasonably attractive single women out there are side chicks to married men. I am a married man, I know. Many of them from good homes and I always ask myself how did a girl like this end up a side chick. The answer is usually poor mindset. At that age there are not many options for a single woman. The marryable men are married, if you want a single man, odds are he is struggling and will continue struggling, probably the type of man you rejected when you had power.

God did not design this thing by accident. The purpose of a woman having power in her youth at a time when a man is weak is 1) to have choice of the best suitors 2) to secure the gratitude, loyalty and eternal love of a man at his weakest knowing full well that is what will sustain her when her beauty/ fertility fades and other women come after her husband. It is more difficult for a man to value a woman he that came into his life at his peak.

Don’t waste your youth, don’t waste your power or you will be the one doing the begging. If you know what single mature women go through in the hands of married men, you will not abuse your power. We dont have time for you, we have families, we say come when it is convenient, we say go when we are done. We call you when it is convenient, we dont pick your calls, some of us pass you around. You are a convenience and not a priority….the worst thing from your point of view is you know but you can’t do anything about it, if you leave one married man you will jump into another married man. it is even worse for those of you from decent homes because you don’t want people to know so you take it or endure loneliness or go to single men lesser than the men you rejected in your youth. The Beyoncé and all others that are deceiving all you women with “independent women” are married.

you said everything that needs to be said.

Only last month till this moment, I've gotten like 5 proposals , I vetted them and see that 3 out of the 5 only wanted sex and expect me to do the chasing.

For my life I never chase man , na man dey rush me , if you no get my time , I move onto the next 😜😜😜

Samantha124:
We're tired...😏😏😏

We men sef tire for una. Dumb South African fake female profile on nairaland!

casualobserver:
When I say power below, I am referring in you ability to attract the best in the opposite sex.

A woman’s power ends by the time she is 35. A man’s power begins in his mid twenties starts to fade 55-60. At that age if you have not secured a good man, the men you rejected at 25 will toss you around because you are of no use to them. At 35 you will struggle to find a life partner of the caliber you turned down in your twenties, at 40 it is almost impossible. At 35 you will realize you need a man but at 35+ you will have to marry below your status, or put up with things you thought you would never do to find a husband. 90% of the single reasonably attractive single women out there are side chicks to married men. I am a married man, I know. Many of them from good homes and I always ask myself how did a girl like this end up a side chick. The answer is usually poor mindset. At that age there are not many options for a single woman. The marryable men are married, if you want a single man, odds are he is struggling and will continue struggling, probably the type of man you rejected when you had power.

God did not design this thing by accident. The purpose of a woman having power in her youth at a time when a man is weak is 1) to have choice of the best suitors 2) to secure the gratitude, loyalty and eternal love of a man at his weakest knowing full well that is what will sustain her when her beauty/ fertility fades and other women come after her husband. It is more difficult for a man to value a woman he that came into his life at his peak.

Don’t waste your youth, don’t waste your power or you will be the one doing the begging. If you know what single mature women go through in the hands of married men, you will not abuse your power. We dont have time for you, we have families, we say come when it is convenient, we say go when we are done. We call you when it is convenient, we dont pick your calls, some of us pass you around. You are a convenience and not a priority….the worst thing from your point of view is you know but you can’t do anything about it, if you leave one married man you will jump into another married man. it is even worse for those of you from decent homes because you don’t want people to know so you take it or endure loneliness or go to single men lesser than the men you rejected in your youth. The Beyoncé and all others that are deceiving all you women with “independent women” are married.

All these are just for women to settle down with damaged men .

Men are so cheap to get , forget that thing , is not same men that are going for other people's wives .

The only problem affecting women is power of money , even orgasm majority of them can't give.

In as much as I love to settle down, I won't settle down with a damaged man ., if their mama no fit change them , na me go come change them .

A man should be the one afraid of loosing me not the other way round.

Amen...

Padipadi:
We men sef tire for una. Dumb South African fake female profile on nairaland!

Jeon:
To show that we are also in the game.

Lol this Ode sef dey talk

Dickcap:
I have been curious about this thought for some weeks now. It happened that two of my guys reached out to me last week about their girlfriend initiating a breakup. I'm now wondering why is that it now ladies initiating breaks instead.

Good development.

Dickcap:
Some of these ladies broke up with their boyfriends thinking they had seen better substitutes until they realized the truth that Bobo is not even different or worse pass the one she dumped

Females are just confused creature.

High Tension

Samantha124:
Amen...

I ll strangle ya account!
You dz small thing like bedbug!

Samantha124:
At bolded, then you have the answer to your question... She fell out of love with you because of the distance... Some people are like that, they can't do long distance relationships, I'm one of them... You can fall out of love with someone but still love him and in her case, the distance was the reason she fell out of love with you.

And if you ask me, her reason was valid... Rather than cheat on you, she preferred to end things with you and that alone shows how much she loved and respected you... She didn't tell you the truth from the beginning because she didn't want to hurt your feelings and that shows that she still cared about your feelings.

Would you have preferred that she continued with the relationship while cheating on you?

So what's ur advice since she's asking to come back.... What changed?
Not that when she was around we had anything intimate.... Said she was a "V" and she won't have intimacy before marriage... Me am not sex freak so I respected that... But after the breakup somehow I traced the account of the guy she was dating in school. Saw so many loved up photos of them both, she cld'nt post 'em bcuz of me.. infact they were literally living together. That made me doubt everything she said been a "V". That has changed my perspective on ladies and in dealing with them...

You just don't have money.. if u do no girl will breakup with u. Even if u are abusing her. If u give her money she will stay till d day u finally kill her. 🤣🤣🤣 Dat is Nigerian girls for u.

Is this a bedbug

Padipadi:
I ll strangle ya account!
You dz small thing like bedbug!

I can't tell you what to do because you know her better and it's up to you to make a choice that'll best suit you.

DREAMHOMES6970:
So what's ur advice since she's asking to come back.... What changed?
Not that when she was around we had anything intimate.... Said she was a "V" and she won't have intimacy before marriage... Me am not sex freak so I respected that... But after the breakup somehow I traced the account of the guy she was dating in school. Saw so many loved up photos of them both, she cld'nt post 'em bcuz of me.. infact they were literally living together. That made me doubt everything she said been a "V". That has changed my perspective on ladies and in dealing with them...

lildush:
You just don't have money.. if u do no girl will breakup with u. Even if u are abusing her. If u give her money she will stay till d day u finally kill her. 🤣🤣🤣 Dat is Nigerian girls for u.

Probably most girls and ladies from poor and average homes.

You can't try the Shiiit with the ones from Wealthy and Rich backgrounds.