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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by gidjah(m): 3:55pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
You may be partly right here with your writing defense, But I also think thereare other factors you didn't add up here. It would take married peeps with quite some good years of experience to relate with. If you still have legal or traditional issues you battle with or you and your spouse still dey throw punches here and there over rights of the way in naija,you will need to re consider moving abroad or just peg it down until you two are able to out grow such attitudes. Our Africans will still keep having this 'RIGHTS' issues untill we start understanding that times and tides are fast changing and a quick one at that.We are no longer in the era of "I AM D MAN AND YOU MUST OBEY AS I COMMAND"!! THIS ideas and mentality can never work once such a family leave the shores of this nation to Europe. Then secondly :we still have ladies who are couvetous and greedy all over ,most women crash their marriages due to this factor,you will agree with me that most women have this 'selfish nature'(I want to see it as embedded a Natural design)"so a woman can set up her man even for finding another man who she sees as better than the one that brought her up.Thays the norm in Nigeria ,we see women who dissed their men of years despite all his labor on her so as to make her a better person.if such kind of woman gets abroad she would do same.But I still want to majorly subscribe to this fact; our men must fully plan their homes before leaving or jappa as called, else most men would end up sleeping on the streets of oyibo man's land with no one to attend to them.This mentality of being the BOSS is what most women abroad hate and would forever fight. uthompson2001: |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by richie240: 3:58pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
Sanchez01:@ bolded: Before! Na from clap we dey enter dance. Most men see d red flags in their woman b4 shooking head all bcus of infatuation. The signs are always there! Me o, I'm traditional and cultural to d core, and it will never even happen in d first place say I marry somebody wey 'submission' na 'slavery' for her dictionary. That na (one of d reasons) why I never marry, and I had rather stay this way till eternity than for a 'bleeder' to mess my life up all because she carry pucci. Make everybody dey dia dey in peace Biko. 3 Likes
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Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by luminouz(m): 4:05pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
shadrach77: Just go to the redpill thread on romance section and start from page 1 |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by GboyegaD(m): 4:05pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
1Sharon: Please, where is this statistics coming from? |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by vickydevoka(m): 4:05pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
ednut1:You are a fucking liar. Woman way good don good simple. Stop blabbing. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by vickydevoka(m): 4:06pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
BigBashiru:Exactly |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by luminouz(m): 4:07pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
hkidola00: Be with a woman who chooses and listens to you. Maintain your frame and vet her properly before making her your wife!!! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Yankee101: 4:09pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
This is irrelevant and untrue Lots of African women go abroad and prefer Nigerian men to their own men It’s simply the orientation of greed in the average Nigerian girl, she wants everything The same man she rejected will be accepted by richer and more independent women from other countries. If you don’t know Nigerian men are superstars in South Africa for the women, one of the most successful subsets of immigrants in the United States. So if you’re super successful, but your women want to leave you once you take them abroad, how do you justify your argument if they are jobbing doctors and co? If you don’t know some of these women have strategized from Naija before he even finishes filing for her papers. They’ve discussed with their friends how to do it. Filipino women will marry old men and stay with them and have kids for a very long time. Kenyans are looking for Naija men abroad with prayers You don’t know what corruption and a deprived societal value has done to Nigerian women So you know, most of these women eventually regret their actions once they find out they threw away an asset. If you don’t know most western cultures don’t have men paying all the bills. It’s a traditional and Nigerian value not found everywhere Infact the women are not leaving the poorer guys but the ones they can divorce and get his house, car and child support Divorce akata and see. Some have 3 baby mamas with 7 kids. Your child support no go pass $20 6 Likes |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by zanebaddo(m): 4:12pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
Sanchez01:please can you share what Modern man should be doing for the wive to stay with him I'm curious to know the difference between modern man and the other type of man please |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by descarado: 4:14pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
ednut1:I needed to quote this. Thank you for the submission. When I travelled out of Nigeria and started working, I met some Nigerian guys along the line of my job and it happened they will take order from me and equally report to me. What I saw was shocking. No other black African guy not to talk of other races looked and talked down on me like my brothers. Brothers I defend at work, help behind their back? At a point,I said enough and started treating them like I should have done at first and I never regretted it. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by vickydevoka(m): 4:15pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
luminouz:Why don't you leave her in Nigeria. Most Nigerian men are the cause of their problems |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by descarado: 4:15pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
GloriousGbola:It's insecurity. Nothing more. |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by descarado: 4:17pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
FireUpNow:Don't marry African woman please. 1 Like |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Kobojunkiee: 4:17pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
vickydevoka:Leave her in Nigeria and if she happens to find herself a sickcock in Nigeria same way you find yourself a sidechick on the other side, una go still complain. 1 Like |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by justli: 4:22pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
The thing I see, and a reality most people are yet to catch up to, is that society empowers the women to become more successful than the man today. And this I believe is by design. When you empower the woman to become more successful than the man, you'll destroy the family, and this is happening everywhere. Anyone who is in tech with foreign funding can relate very well. It's all about inclusiveness, and that simply means keeping the man steady as the woman catches up and overtakes. Equity is a dangerous concept. We continue to take from the male child to empower the female child, and them wonder why women are advancing . Men are serial winners. Every notable invention in the world, they invented it. But upon maturity, the establishment treat these men as evil forcing them to put women priority ahead of the men. Just look around and check all the empowerment programs, funds, grants, scholarships and many more dedicated to women. Yet , not a single financial program is exclusively dedicated to men. And this new ideology is worse in Europe. The reason men still lead is just because men are better in engineering, tech, working harder, competing... The weak man has no place in the world ... The establishment will eat him up. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by pocohantas(f): 4:22pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
Magnoliaa: It is the truth in most cases and even the men know it. They know their wives are not happy with them here, but they also know she is incapacitated to leave. Nigerian men do not care about the quality of the marriage. They just want to own the woman, while she ENDURES. They know the truth. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by 1Sharon(f): 4:24pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
GboyegaD: No stats. Observational reality. Why do you think single Nigerian men come to the West and get sex starved? It's because they aren't able use money to control women. Because they already have their own. |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Psammmy(m): 4:28pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
Your written bullshit and attempt to discredit and castigate japa is horrible.. Let who wan travel travel.. First and foremost, not everyone who japa or live abroad do shitty jobs, I for one, has oyinbo people working under me for the past 8 years n counting in Finland.. A yoruba lady, I won't write her here, head one of the biggest healthcare company in Helsinki..(mind you, she wasn't born here, actually did first degree in Ife) I know few Nigerians who own Companies n employ Finnish people( igbo n yoruba extraction) . If people can achieve these in non English speaking country, I believe dey do better in UK, USA etc. Now to your question, nothing like de emasculation or de masculinity, the truth is this, as everyone knows, abroad gives women power, in fact the ratio is 60 percent for women n 40 percent for men, however, oyinbo wey get country, this does not make thier women go crazy. this is not a problem for them as this how thier life as always been.However, nigerian!/African women who the reverse was the case before in Nigeria(where men hold sway over everything) are suddenly expose to these rights n power, they go crazy n throw family values through the window. Also those no good women who have abroad for eternity will enlighten these women on their power play rights etc This is manly responsible for the divorced rate after first few years living abroad.. It has nothing to do with job.. You guys should stop spilling these rubbish.. Less. I forget, if u are bringing your wife abroad, avoid Nigerian churches like the Redeem etc. If not ur marriage go end in one year.. Religious folks can come for me. sukkot: 5 Likes |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by vickydevoka(m): 4:29pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee:Most Igbo men no de ever bring their partner come europ until kids are a bit grown. All my friends dad then where in Europe but their dad do visit. Men should know that in Europe a woman Will cheap more than Nigeria. I know how many married men my guy the fk for UK. Most UK boys will make money the next thing na to carry woman come UK. No savings , no plan , nothing nothing. Na make woman come hustle complete your school fees. Everyone has priority in life. Me na billionaire I want be. If na woman be your priority follow. |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by richie240: 4:33pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
luminouz:You are on point, but majority of us (men) allow ourselves to be blinded by beauty and d 'food' we wan chop. If a man doesn't allow himself to be blinded by these 2, and he doesn't throw money around her such that she pretends to be submissive, it will be hard to fall into their trap. vickydevoka:The right question shd be "why did u marry a jezebel in d 1st place?" If u play ur cards well and don't allow urself to be carried away by d beauty/ 'food', u won't fall! A cantankerous woman in Nigeira cannot become docile/submissive in new york. Impossicant.......it will only get worse. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by gbolahanafm: 4:34pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
Some woke Nigerian married women don't wait for relocation abroad before they throw you out. Once they have one or two kids, they feel the man is a problem and they run away from their marriage with the kids. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by gbolahanafm: 4:40pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
Woke women won't respect you whether home or abroad. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by luminouz(m): 4:50pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
vickydevoka:Before I marry anyone ... Trust me I would have really dealt with her and trained her to my taste. She would have seen me at my worst and STAYED. So New York won't be an issue with her. Or I wouldn't marry her in the first place. |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by ireke(m): 5:00pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
letout: I like your style jare. When they ask you what you bring to the table as a man apart from money, those are valid things. I have said it from when I was young that I don't agree with the saying that "all women want is money". If that is true, women will never cheat on wealthy guys or even leave them totally. Leadership is very important. period. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by YelloweWest: 5:07pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
It's simple, they now have access to finance and money gives you options! So the men must behave! |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Timetravel88: 5:10pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
Sanchez01: I guess you are one of those men who thinks they are safe from the sinister machinations of women who are under the influence that they can do without the man. There are innumerable tales of men like you and how they ended up eating back their words. Women are emotionally malleable and are good baits for the propaganda machine. They spare no one once the switch flips in their head. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by 1Sharon(f): 5:10pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
BrazilianOG: Are you trying to make excuses for murder? 2 Likes |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by YelloweWest: 5:10pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
luminouz:Better remain in Nigeria with her. If you leave her here alone, she'll have a side dude just like you will have abroad. If you go with her.... well... you'll end up in jail or dead with this mentally! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by luminouz(m): 5:13pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
YelloweWest: I'm a redpiller, you are a pūssy!!! We are not on the same wavelength.... 1 Like |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by peacettw: 5:18pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
Nkogheri |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by izadi: 5:23pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
ednut1: Gbam, for this your quote right here eh 👆, wisdom will never depart from you. This is the crux of the matter. If you treat your wife like crap in the name of Patriarchy, better remain in that Naija. No be curse oh but as soon as you touch down in the Abroad, your wife will be planning how to treat your f up. Women have very long memories, can bear grudges and hardly forget even if they tell you they’ve forgiven you. Having said that, all those sweet good men like my own husband have nothing to fear in the abroad as women like me will ride and die with them, both home and abroad even if our money long pass Atlantic Ocean. 1 Like |
Re: Why Women Leave Their Husbands Abroad After They Both Japa by Sanchez01: 5:24pm On Dec 13, 2023 |
zanebaddo:Not like the rules are written in stones. Modern men are just pretty much the opposite of what a traditional man is. The major thing worthy of note is consideration; seeing the woman you married as someone you're meant to love, not just to provide for and as a human and not as a trophy or prize you bought. If you think about everything a traditional man represents, then the direct opposite is a modern man, particularly when it comes to how they see their wife, marriage, and family in general. 3 Likes |
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