They resemble their mother's

Lack of fear of God and proclivity to fulfilling fleshy desires.

The secret is this, if the hallmark of a marriage is patriarchy, it can Never... I repeat NEVER survive in an equal view environment.

luminouz:


I'm a redpiller, you are a pūssy!!!

We are not on the same wavelength....

Na so. Myron/tete repill freak! Carry on. You'll learn the hard way

optimusprime2:
The secret is this, if the hallmark of a marriage is patriarchy, it can Never... I repeat NEVER survive in an equal view environment.

Simple and short.

EvangelistChuks:
Lack of fear of God and proclivity to fulfilling fleshy desires.

Why do men expect women to have fear of God when they don't??

ednut1:
There is one major characteristic of those men. They used money to entice the woman in Nigeria. You are a 29 years old man doing well, na 19 years old babe you go date or marry. Sponsor her through school, pay her parents rent and siblings bills. Now the bad part- emotionally and physical abuse, her opinions don’t matter, during NYSC you quickly marry and give her belle and prevent her getting a career. you know she cant leave because she is dependent on you.

But when you reach abroad, she can enter lucrative fields like nursing and tech. Starts earning good money and contributing to the bills. With her workload, child care . Many Nigerian men refuse to adjust to the realities and demand she cooks, does all the chores like in Nigeria. You still carry cheating come abroad. With time she begins to see there is no need for you and sends you packing. Many times its payback for patriarchy in Nigeria. Marriages where the man was a good man in Nigeria mostly still waxing strong abroad.

My sister's husband that used to be macho and abusive is now as loyal as a dog abroad. He loves his children and realizes he can't do the bull shit he used to do in Nigeria anymore because she can live without him now

YourKarma:


this is totally false

The OP’s narrative is not only bogus but false!

sukkot:
So guys we need to understand that women are drawn to protectors and alpha and strong men. It is how they are wired.

Something happens to a Nigerian man when he gets abroad and the women notice it. The man gets emasculated by society.

He goes from being a strong figure of authority in Africa to an unwanted disrespected black man in the west.

Even a 17 year old white boy on the job can almost slap that 40 year old naija man on the job and he will be shaking and calling the 17 year old boy, Sir.

The man is emasculated by society. Goes from being an alpha dog in naija to a puppy in the west.

Our women sense these things and to a woman if you are not an alpha dog you are just useless.

You start emptying the trash and making breakfast and washing dishes now as the man. Jobs that you used to hire maids to do for you in naija.

Not only can a 17 year old white boy disrespect you on the job but you are now a dishwasher at home. You have no value in society.

Anywhere you turn up you are not celebrated but tolerated.

After a while the woman starts to see that this guy is truly worthless to me, why do I need to coexist with this emasculated societal reject ?

I am better off by myself and I can get a better job than him here as a nurse.

He has become a burden to me.

This is why most women chase their husbands away from home after they both relocate abroad

False hope

Reason is simple, women are raised to see men as providers hence the gender gap in Nigeria helps as they earn more in our society which makes them the primary providers plus it's only money that they bring to the marriage/table.

When they relocate, the woman is able to earn as much of if not more than the man hence the man's invisibility is no longer there and she realises that she wants more than just a provider as husband cos she can provide and man realises that he has nothing unique to offer hence they start drifting apart

pocohantas:
It is the truth in most cases and even the men know it. They know their wives are not happy with them here, but they also know she is incapacitated to leave. Nigerian men do not care about the quality of the marriage. They just want to own the woman, while she ENDURES. They know the truth.

That's very much interesting, but sadly so.


Omo. My heart goes out to those women, sha. 😥


Especially the ones who do not have the means to leave or seek other pleasure options. Imagine living the rest of their married life not knowing what an enjoyable marriage feels like, ontop bring aware of the men they're with not liking them in the slightest.

I am just reading some comments and shaking my head.


Toor. Life will be waiting for everyone sha.

ednut1:
There is one major characteristic of those men. They used money to entice the woman in Nigeria. You are a 29 years old man doing well, na 19 years old babe you go date or marry. Sponsor her through school, pay her parents rent and siblings bills. Now the bad part- emotionally and physical abuse, her opinions don’t matter, during NYSC you quickly marry and give her belle and prevent her getting a career. you know she cant leave because she is dependent on you.
Thank you…
No woman treats a good man poorly,only wicked women

But when you reach abroad, she can enter lucrative fields like nursing and tech. Starts earning good money and contributing to the bills. With her workload, child care . Many Nigerian men refuse to adjust to the realities and demand she cooks, does all the chores like in Nigeria. You still carry cheating come abroad. With time she begins to see there is no need for you and sends you packing. Many times its payback for patriarchy in Nigeria. Marriages where the man was a good man in Nigeria mostly still waxing strong abroad.

No woman treats a good man poorly….

YelloweWest:

Na so. Myron/tete repill freak! Carry on. You'll learn the hard way

See this one wey dey talk to me as of na jjc you dey yarn.... So you don't know my antecedents here. Try and check na. You ain't talking to a green kid nigga

sukkot:
So guys we need to understand that women are drawn to protectors and alpha and strong men. It is how they are wired.

Something happens to a Nigerian man when he gets abroad and the women notice it. The man gets emasculated by society.

He goes from being a strong figure of authority in Africa to an unwanted disrespected black man in the west.

Even a 17 year old white boy on the job can almost slap that 40 year old naija man on the job and he will be shaking and calling the 17 year old boy, Sir.

The man is emasculated by society. Goes from being an alpha dog in naija to a puppy in the west.

Our women sense these things and to a woman if you are not an alpha dog you are just useless.

You start emptying the trash and making breakfast and washing dishes now as the man. Jobs that you used to hire maids to do for you in naija.

Not only can a 17 year old white boy disrespect you on the job but you are now a dishwasher at home. You have no value in society.

Anywhere you turn up you are not celebrated but tolerated.

After a while the woman starts to see that this guy is truly worthless to me, why do I need to coexist with this emasculated societal reject ?

I am better off by myself and I can get a better job than him here as a nurse.

He has become a burden to me.

This is why most women chase their husbands away from home after they both relocate abroad

Not really true. It's a combination of different factors though. Marriage doesn't work as well as it should in the West, not just for blacks but even for the Westerners themselves.
Marriage is instituted and guided by God, or if you are more convenient with the word religion. You will notice that people(immigrants) who stay true to their religion and culture do not suffer this fate as much. Prime example being the Indians, followed by muslims. Why, because they have the mindsets not to be "westernised", but instead to conquer the land and impose their own ideas, cultures, festivals and religion. The average nominal christian on the other hand is largely directionless and not rooted. So they become 'westernised'.

The core concept of marriage sees a woman as the homekeeper and the husband the breadwinner. This is totally incongruent with current Western values and realities, where even the wife may be more of the breadwinner or co-breadwinner. In the West, the woman is 'king' and at better advantage. So you see her working same or more hours and jobs, same education if not more, more opportunities. A man is not created to "take this". THEREFORE, there will be conflict in the home. An average man, any nationality or race, would rather his wife resign or reduce work/business commitment and make the home priority.
Where this balance is lacking, there WILL be friction. It then depends on how both parties handle the friction and make compromises. Most white people divorce, many black people separate or break their homes.

letout:


If it’s about emptying the trash, washing plates, cooking food, cleaning the house I do that from time to time on a regular basis and my wife hasn’t left me, and we are in Nigeria

The reason why the women left is because Nigerian men used the society to control their wives period.

if Dem born your papa well carry that your wife go abroad if your eye no go peel

tuale

luminouz:


Be with a woman who chooses and listens to you. Maintain your frame and vet her properly before making her your wife!!!

luminouz:

Before I marry anyone ... Trust me I would have really dealt with her and trained her to my taste. She would have seen me at my worst and STAYED. So New York won't be an issue with her.

Or I wouldn't marry her in the first place.

I laugh I Swahili. You think say ma dog u de train

luminouz:

Before I marry anyone ... Trust me I would have really dealt with her and trained her to my taste. She would have seen me at my worst and STAYED. So New York won't be an issue with her.

Or I wouldn't marry her in the first place.

Hehehe see stupid mindset lol

You have really damaged your sense of rationality and reality, you can't be normal again, your sanity is almost 90% gone and I mean it literally.

vickydevoka:

I laugh I Swahili. You think say ma dog u de train

Leave am na

Saw his comment and had a big laugh, delusion is really bad for his health 🤣

ednut1:
There is one major characteristic of those men. They used money to entice the woman in Nigeria. You are a 29 years old man doing well, na 19 years old babe you go date or marry. Sponsor her through school, pay her parents rent and siblings bills. Now the bad part- emotionally and physical abuse, her opinions don’t matter, during NYSC you quickly marry and give her belle and prevent her getting a career. you know she cant leave because she is dependent on you.

But when you reach abroad, she can enter lucrative fields like nursing and tech. Starts earning good money and contributing to the bills. With her workload, child care . Many Nigerian men refuse to adjust to the realities and demand she cooks, does all the chores like in Nigeria. You still carry cheating come abroad. With time she begins to see there is no need for you and sends you packing. Many times its payback for patriarchy in Nigeria. Marriages where the man was a good man in Nigeria mostly still waxing strong abroad.

the undiluted gospel of a brainless simp

luminouz:


I'm a redpiller, you are a pūssy!!!

We are not on the same wavelength....

You are delusional, even your fellow males are advising you yet you prefer to be arrogant, continue, if only you will come back to tell bitter tales of how the nonsense you typed up there bite you big hard in the aśs with bitter unending lessons, you sound like a child at this point.

vickydevoka:
■ Most Igbo men no de ever bring their partner come europ until kids are a bit grown. All my friends dad then where in Europe but their dad do visit.
Men should know that in Europe a woman Will cheap more than Nigeria. I know how many married men my guy the fk for UK.
Most UK boys will make money the next thing na to carry woman come UK. No savings , no plan , nothing nothing. Na make woman come hustle complete your school fees. Everyone has priority in life. Me na billionaire I want be. If na woman be your priority follow.

Do you equally know how many married men his wife for Naija don do same with?

YelloweWest:
■ My sister's husband that used to be macho and abusive is now as loyal as a dog abroad. He loves his children and realizes he can't do the bull shit he used to do in Nigeria anymore because she can live without him now

The man is no longer a boy it seems!

letout:


If it’s about emptying the trash, washing plates, cooking food, cleaning the house I do that from time to time on a regular basis and my wife hasn’t left me, and we are in Nigeria

The reason why the women left is because Nigerian men used the society to control their wives period.

their are still controlling men abroad and patriarchy still exists in yhr west.

The OP nailed it perfectly. When a woman finds the husband has lost value in western society she doesn't feel protected.

Stop trying to push your own narrow , false perspective here

BadBradley:
their are still controlling men abroad and patriarchy still exists in yhr west. The OP nailed it perfectly. When a woman finds the husband has lost value in western society she doesn't feel protected. Stop trying to push your own narrow , false perspective here

The women who choose such men do so knowing this. they are not cajoled into such situations as is the case in Nigeria. Such men are like a fetish in the West as opposed to what you find in Nigeria where such men are the norm and the law allows them to roam free.

Kobojunkiee:
The women who choose such men do so knowing this. they are not cajoled into such situations as is the case in Nigeria. Such men are like a fetish in the West as opposed to what you find in Nigeria where such men are the norm and the law allows them to roam free.

nope. There are a billion simp in Nigeria. And women have taken over in Nigeria as well.

There are many homes now being run by women. There are also many instances where women marry men.

Nigerian women rebellion abroad is 100% tied to the timid and suppressed condition they find their once dominant husbands.

Black skin, strange accent, little professional skills. You're at the mercy of your new environment making you unable to protect your wife.

The women simply morph into their true nature

BadBradley:
■ nope. Their are a billion simp in Nigeria. And women have taken over on Nigeria as well. There are many homes now being run by women. There are also many instances where women marry men. Nigerian women rebellion abroad is 100% tied to the timid and suppressed condition they find their once dominant husbands. Black skin, strange accent, little professional skills. You're at the mercy of your new environment making you unable to protect your wife. The women simply morph into their true nature

So, una patriarchal society don dey fail una, abi? The war has been won by the women... so why you dey complain?

1Sharon:


No stats. Observational reality.

Why do you think single Nigerian men come to the West and get sex starved? It's because they aren't able use money to control women. Because they already have their own.

You will agree with me that this is very bias. Different couples have their challenges and they can always work it out. I am not sure most Nigerian men try to control women with money.

ednut1:
There is one major characteristic of those men. They used money to entice the woman in Nigeria. You are a 29 years old man doing well, na 19 years old babe you go date or marry. Sponsor her through school, pay her parents rent and siblings bills. Now the bad part- emotionally and physical abuse, her opinions don’t matter, during NYSC you quickly marry and give her belle and prevent her getting a career. you know she cant leave because she is dependent on you.

But when you reach abroad, she can enter lucrative fields like nursing and tech. Starts earning good money and contributing to the bills. With her workload, child care . Many Nigerian men refuse to adjust to the realities and demand she cooks, does all the chores like in Nigeria. You still carry cheating come abroad. With time she begins to see there is no need for you and sends you packing. Many times its payback for patriarchy in Nigeria. Marriages where the man was a good man in Nigeria mostly still waxing strong abroad.

You nailed it. Marriages in a situation the man was a good man, still doing super great abroad. Absolutely.

letout:


If it’s about emptying the trash, washing plates, cooking food, cleaning the house I do that from time to time on a regular basis and my wife hasn’t left me, and we are in Nigeria

The reason why the women left is because Nigerian men used the society to control their wives period.

Can you be more elaborate on 'men using the society to control their wives' please?

GboyegaD:


You will agree with me that this is very bias. Different couples have their challenges and they can always work it out. I am not sure most Nigerian men try to control women with money.

Okay, so your own perspective?

i swear, i dont understand its getting much