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I don't know your whole situation right now but from what I understand from your post i will advice

1. Renew there rent and allow them stay with your sister and mother in the village so they can learn morals and realities of life.

2.Make it a routine to visit them from time to time without informing your sister, DONT ONLY SEND THEM THINGS THEY NEED.

3.Focus on your job and make future plans and arrangements on uniting with them when they come of certain age as I don't know how old they are already.

4. Make them understand your LOVE for them necessities your make money to take care of their needs.

NOTE: All ethics and morals i know today as a man was inculcated in me by my father's sister (Aunty) whom i also called mom till today. I lived with her for 9yrs in the village too from while i was 3 till my 12yr even though my parents were living together with my other 6 siblings in the city but my dad comes home from time to time to check on his Lasborn, LOL. I learned to respect,cook, clean and also to farm in the village. The advantage is enormous.

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So, people dey rent room for village❓❓


You didn't say how old they are, but
it's probably better for them to come
stay with you accompanied by your
sister, so that they live & school under
you & you put your sister under a monthly
stipend until you stabilize.


Don't let your kids become village boys
with local village orientation & reasoning
in this modern era..⭕️⭕️⭕️⭕️⭕️

Wahala no too much. Nairaland don turn Family Meeting Forum. I feel some of you guys bringing your private life here are just looking for attention cause I see no reason why you bring something like this here

ChybuzzDD:
Women and their crazy bias.

Who told you their problems are reconcilable?

Are there no reasons for divorce again?

You dey mind those insensitive nitwits on nairaland
...and it is these same set of people that will be screaming "divorce is better if it's not working" upandan.
Una see divorce now and una still dey screaming, they need their mother, chai woman being wetting una really want 😂

Op , if you know that you won't have good time with them with you in the city , that possibly your new lover may be victimizing them, leave them in village, just make sure they attend good school since money isn't your problem and make sure you visit them regularly.

It is sad to know that kids are always the victim of divorce no matter what and this scenario mostly make or break many kids

Prospertochu:
I am a single father of triplets only 2 are with me but we are not living together due to the nature of my job. My boys are in the village with my mother and sister. The house I rented for them the rent will be expiring in March. Please I need your help with these two options.
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1. Should I relocate them with me in my base in March. Right now I am staying in a single self cont because I am alone. But if they have to relocate I will get a 2 bedroom and parlour. Money isn't a problem.

2. Or I should renew the rent and allow them to stay in the village.

I am confuse and I don't know which one is the best.

What option will be better please help me pick the right one for the sake of my boys

OP, ignore those saying you should bring their mother in if you don't want to regret.
You are stable and able to function and reasoning well now because she's not there to give you headache, the moment she come to add her whahala, your job will suffer and more responsibility has come, no one will care for you like your mother, is your mother complaining? You don't need any woman in this economy, you already have 3boys, train them well and enjoy your life

For me, a stable mind and my peace of mind is most paramount, a woman palaver will ruin you, you already have enough kids.

Be alone and hustle hard to raise them well with the help of your mother

Kobojunkiee:
Some sort of deficiency? The one with the deficiency is that man who is not able to cater to his own kids and had has them locked up in the village with his mother and sister --- single-mother-like situation going on there too.

Ideally, the woman should have custody, unless she doesn’t want to.
If a man chooses not to be with a woman, even children cannot make him change his mind. Men too can take care of children alone.

PlsBanMe:
He is conversant with the case because he is smart enough to check out previous posts from OP. All OP's life is in his previous threads and he doesn't strike me as a responsible person at all. He should call back his wife and apologize. He thinks because of 125k job, he is on top of the world. What's 125k salary in this economy? Those children need their mother.

125k job with their irresponsible mother will increase his expenses. If he’s not comfortable with her excesses, there are other options he can explore with the children living with him.
Whatever gives you the impression that men are incapable of raising children alone is deceiving you.

AllahOfBlood:
One yeye stupid boy go just de type nonsense on nairaland and the yeye admin will push it to front page, it's like some of these nairaland admins are high on Tunibu substance.

As for the yeye boy wey type this nonsense, you are proud to tell nairaland that u are a single father of triplets and took the two boys and abandon the other cos it's a female. You abandoned them to ur mom's care and come to nairaland to announce to us. My dear mugu u are not just a mugu, u are shameless. I advise you reunite those innocent children with their mom and sister. Those children are blessings to this world don't let them suffer cos of ur stupidity and pride, you can't take care of them neither can a nanny do. The best thing now is to unite them with their mother

See how childish you sound. Insulting a full grown adult you don’t even know. Can you say these nonsense if he was standing in front of you. Don’t ever open your mouth to give any advice here.

Prospertochu:
I am a single father of triplets only 2 are with me but we are not living together due to the nature of my job. My boys are in the village with my mother and sister. The house I rented for them the rent will be expiring in March. Please I need your help with these two options.

1. Should I relocate them with me in my base in March. Right now I am staying in a single self cont because I am alone. But if they have to relocate I will get a 2 bedroom and parlour. Money isn't a problem.

2. Or I should renew the rent and allow them to stay in the village.

I am confuse and I don't know which one is the best.

What option will be better please help me pick the right one for the sake of my boys

Relocate them they need you around them and besides who will be looking after them if you relocate them?

Ulunne777:
None.
They need their mom and their sister.

Leave your pride and whatever the mother did to you and unite those triplets.

They need a family.yoi,their mom and 3 of them.

Sometimes I wonder if someone like you have sense or not, what if the woman want to kill him ?

Xscape1993:
These wonderful children need care from you and their mother.

Even if he will die in the marriage? Stop this madness

Kobojunkiee:
Stop allowing your ego cause you to torture those kids for no fault of theirs. Send them to their mother and let her take care or them since you don't seem to have the time or will to give them the care and attention their need at this time in their lives. What you are doing to them is likely to cause them damage they may never be able to resolve. Stop damaging yours kids with your own hands for the sake of your egos.

Did you know what happened between them?

Ulunne777:
None.
They need their mom and their sister.

Leave your pride and [/b]whatever the mother did to you[b] and unite those triplets.

They need a family.yoi,their mom and 3 of them.

I have a serious problem with the bolded. If it happens to be a woman posting this, your reply will be different. What is the offence of the male gender? It's okay for woman to leave a dysfunctional marriage but it's not okay for a man to do same. Nawa for you o

Even if she cheated? Threatened their lives?
How do you even know she didn't walk out on them?

Ulunne777:
None.
They need their mom and their sister.

Leave your pride and whatever the mother did to you and unite those triplets.

They need a family.yoi,their mom and 3 of them.

Didn't see that part in what he wrote plus like I stated it's my personal opinion with emphasis on personal. Thanks for the clarity though

advanceDNA:
Nobody can love a child more than mom??

, but she left them because their father has financial challenges... Welldone.....

Yankee101:
Relocate all of them including your mother and sister to live with you and help you care for your kids

It’s cheaper to run one household and you can put your kids in good schools and watch them grow


You’ll bond and shape them into good humans with God’s help

Thank you

leisuretym:
OP, ignore those saying you should bring their mother in if you don't want to regret.
You are stable and able to function and reasoning well because she's not there to give you headache, the moment she come to add her whahala, you job will suffer and more responsibility has come, no one will care for you like your mother, abi is your mother complaining? You don't need any woman in this economy, you already have 3boys, train them well and enjoy your life

For me, a stable mind and my peace of mind is most paramount, a woman palaver will ruin you, you already have enough kids.

Be alone and hustle hard to raise them well with help of your mother

Thank you

Qatar2022:
Relocate them they need you around them and besides who will be looking after them if you relocate them?

My mother and sister will relocate too

BondRiv:
The way some of you make assumptions and strong statements without adequate information is sickening.

Ulune777 has been seeing the OP's previous posts on his family matters over the years till his marriage ended. The 'adequate information' can be viewed in his previous posts.

Prospertochu:
Thank you

You’re welcome

MrBroke:
Wahala no too much. Nairaland don turn Family Meeting Forum. I feel some of you guys bringing your private life here are just looking for attention cause I see no reason why you bring something like this here

It baffles me as well. When you go through his previous posts since 2020 when he married his wife, it might dazzle you a bit why a family man would bring his family affairs here for even the unmarried, immature to play around with.

I may be drawing a wrong conclusion but going from the way he's been posting about it for years now, he probably let the opinions of others ruin his own marriage. I only hope he becomes wiser.

Fountainofyouth:
Tossing 3 year old triplets about as if they are play things, at this formative time they need motherly and fatherly love, you won't let them be cared for by thier mother, you are not even physically there with them, you left them with your mum and sister in an environment that will limit them, yet you still came here to ask stupid questions if they should stay with you, be like say dumb men are in huge numbers lately, they are adults but adults without sense, because I'm yet to understand why a grown aśs man will come here to ask us if his kids should live with him, nonsense.

It is painful and sad.

komzy589:
See how childish you sound. Insulting a full grown adult you don’t even know. Can you say these nonsense if he was standing in front of you. Don’t ever open your mouth to give any advice here.

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My friend you are as good as trashes, stop exalting urself on social media.

If I meet you I go punch ur face

If money is not the problem, Ur boys should be living closely to you... Or are you afraid of them seeing you bringing many pro$titutes Ashawo as u did in the pass before impregnating ...........

hopeforcharles:
Single mother children always have some sort of deficiency, it's better they are with him and he employs a matured woman to take care of them.

OP's mother and sister are only duplication of "single mother" Likewise, whoever is employed. CHILDREN need the attention of BOTH PARENTS AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE.

leisuretym:
OP, ignore those saying you should bring their mother in if you don't want to regret.
You are stable and able to function and reasoning well now because she's not there to give you headache, the moment she come to add her whahala, your job will suffer and more responsibility has come, no one will care for you like your mother, is your mother complaining? You don't need any woman in this economy, you already have 3boys, train them well and enjoy your life

For me, a stable mind and my peace of mind is most paramount, a woman palaver will ruin you, you already have enough kids.

Be alone and hustle hard to raise them well with the help of your mother

So you know that no one would care for him like his mother as a full grown adult that he is but in the same vein, you are against 4 year old vulnerable boys being cared for by their own mother. You think a grown up man needs his mother but kids do not? make it make sense please. People are so wicked ehn, and I pity the gullible op, your boys will grow up to thoroughly hate you, Emeka Ike is a perfect example of that, that one is even rich o, talk more of you that can barely feed your family.

Anyways, na una sabi.

Prospertochu:
I am a single father of triplets only 2 are with me but we are not living together due to the nature of my job. My boys are in the village with my mother and sister. The house I rented for them the rent will be expiring in March. Please I need your help with these two options.

1. Should I relocate them with me in my base in March. Right now I am staying in a single self cont because I am alone. But if they have to relocate I will get a 2 bedroom and parlour. Money isn't a problem.

2. Or I should renew the rent and allow them to stay in the village.

I am confuse and I don't know which one is the best.

What option will be better please help me pick the right one for the sake of my boys

You have already disconnected yourself from your family especially your children

The more you keep them away from you the more they don't feel connected and they don't feel your presence

You may say they are too small but I bet you that they may grow up to be loyal to whomever that are growing up with

Since you say money is not your problem, then what's your problem bringing them under your roof and watch them grow

I know you still provide for them where you are, but the difference is cleared

Qatar2022:
Did you know what happened between them?

It doesn't matter since the kids have nothing to do with it.

komzy589:
■ Ideally, the woman should have custody, unless she doesn’t want to.
■ If a man chooses not to be with a woman, even children cannot make him change his mind. Men too can take care of children alone.

Ideal situation would be shared custody of the children.

2. The same goes for the woman so fortunately, we have courts where common sense still reigns. Now if only they can both drag themselves there at least for the sake of the kids.