See tears, a man knows what he wants. Idiots think everything is about superficial beauty, big brezz and buttocks. They’ll keep learning 😆

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AlphaNugget:

You should have corrected him.

Has - Singular
Have - Plural

*Karlifate

Moreover, that might just be a mistake because he was trying to type fast

LMAO! 😆😆


So, a troll is getting you worked up

A very foolish troll at that


When referring to a scenario (description of events which might probably occur again), has in that context is correct.


When referring to past possession(s), had might be correct in that context.


Side note: Google the line "many trolls has come and gone"

bolabizzle:


Cold Approach? Hmm...🤔

Anyway, the above advice is applicable and proven to work in third world countries only

In other highly developed countries, you MUST be a lucky winner in the genetic department before you can think of cold approach. Yes, believe it or not, It is that bad no thanks to many reasons, one of which is the numerous dating apps that allows a woman select and reject with just a swipe.

That is why today, we here of passport broos, a group predominantly made up of average looking men, leaving their country to seek "love" in third world countries.

Personally, I am of the opinion that cold approach is not for every Tom, Dick and Harry. It is for a choose few. Those with natural DNA embedded traits that are desirable to women.

Do you qualify as such? If no, then avoid cold approach and save yourself from the burden of a low self-esteem and inferiority complex which many men suffer from today, hence the mass simping we see all around us.

Some modern day pick up artists will tell you that those desirable traits can be learned or gotten if you do this and do that , but it all fails miserably. That's the power 💪 of genetic determinism.

Of course, those that lost the genetic lottery could decide to use money, societal status, and material possessions as a cloak and decide to cold approach. It works. If it's all for fun and games, But if it is for something serious, it won't save you from that eerie feeling of despair each time you introduce your girl to your handsome buddy.

You got good points, man. I concur.

1. The cold approach has always been a man sacrificing himself on the boiling altar of a woman's emotional scrutiny.

Once you cold approach a woman, she is already the prize. In her mind, you are here for her body.

2. I don't have much success when it comes to straight cold approaching. However, if there is something like "slow cold approaching": establishing minutes of rapport before requesting her number or a date, that's what I've been successful with.

3. Good looks are a genetic lottery. Women + the average human will always be victims of the halo/horn effect.

However, having good grooming will still bolster your esteem if you know game.

4. Regardless, since women have a cascade of men approaching them 24/7 even though the majority are 5 and 6 on the beauty scale, they will hold you to the standard of the previous men they've encountered.

That's, she will prefer a bicycle rider man to a trekking man; a saloon car rider to a bicycle man; a sport car rider to a saloon car; and a jet owner to a sport car rider.

She isn't going to drop her standard even though she has nothing and the standard with which she holds or sees herself isn't present. She thinks she is because of her proximity to the men who brought her to their space.

5. However, cold approaching is paradoxical: it tests your confidence level, shames it, and at the same time, builds it.

Many men do come up with a lot of rationalizations when meeting women. So, to quench those rationalizations, it's advisable to cold approach women.

6. Those not favored by genetics or being of higher status can't just sequester themselves completely from the dating zone. They can still do well to groom themselves and make possible upgrades.

7. The problem is that most guys want baddies as girlfriends when they have goodies waiting for a proposal.

The same reason why women yearn and wait for celebrity males rather than enter a relationship with a guy in the friend zone.

8. In all, men should endeavor to meet many women. I don't care about the method. Go out and meet women. Only in abundance can you have fun and get the woman you desire.

Attend social events. Go to parties you can afford. Go to the library. Go to church. Just go to places you'll meet people.

9. Nature does not leave any man or woman empty. As far as biology is concerned, nature has already made provisions for sex and reproduction.

It now depends on what the man and woman can do.

No excuse.

Thanks.

luminouz:
Pukkalolo... Kindly ignore that asslicker crying for your attention. Don't let IT derail the thread.

Who but a dîngbat would ask someone to provide evidence of his success with women so he can send Xmas money? Dem tell you say we be smellos for here?

Mumu

luminouz, here is the interesting and counterintuitive thing...

Those trolls always dropping hate comments on this threads are actually playing an important role in making this thread successful...

Here's why... please read carefully. There's a big lesson to be learned here:

We are in "attention age".

Meaning, in this current age and time, getting attention is the secret sauce to being relevant and successful, and sadly it doesn't even matter if it's positive or negative attention.

Nairaland algorithm doesn't give a shit about negative comment/attention; as long as there's engagements, it will keep pushing the thread to the top.

I watched an interview with an American rapper who get millions of view on his songs and cash out on them. He said something very interesting. He said that, "half of the people that watch his music videos on youtube and stream his songs are mostly his haters..."

That's basically saying, "half of his music revenues and income are coming from his haters."

Most Celebrities understand that attention, both negative and positive attention, is the secret to staying relevant in the industry.

Think of it: Andrew Tate became a billionaire and became one of the most googled man on Earth strictly from his ability to garner attention to himself. The funny thing is, many of the attention are even negative attention, i.e criticism and hate...

Your ability to handle trolls, haters criticism, negative reactions is the secret to your success in any areas of life.

Using interaction with women as example, one of the major differentiators between me and the nice guy is that the nice guy is so much scared of being criticize, disliked or rejected by the women he desires, while I on the other hand I'm very "comfortable" with getting criticism or rejection.

How do the women cash out on the nice guys? Because when a nice guy is getting criticize by a girl or he sense that he might be losing a girl, he assumes he is the cause. So he try is best to impress her and do more and more bigger nice things for her.

I embrace criticism, rejection, drama, tension, randomness, uncertainty that why I'm never lacking pussy....

The nice guy is scared of criticism, rejection and being disliked.... and that's why women easily manipulate and exploit him.

It doesn’t matter how smart, intelligent or educated you are . The difference between the winnner and the loser is the ability to handle criticism, haters, trolls, rejection, failure and negative reaction.

I'm not affected emotionally by criticism, rejection, setbacks, trolls, negative reactions because I already expects those things to happen. I've already included them in my calculations for getting success..

You have to lose the battle to win the war. If you want to be admired by some people, then you must be willing to be disliked by some other people. No two ways about it.

Running from criticism and negative reactions only means that when you finally lay your head down at the end of your journey on earth, your life would be empty and filled with regrets. In order to prevent that, you need to ride above trolls, rejection and negative opinion of people -- and live life on your terms.

Anytime you choose to do something that is worthwhile, and you begin to climb up the ladder of accomplishments, the amounts of individuals who wish to bring you down increases. You'll certainly upset some people by trying to move higher.

Youll upset some people by trying to improve yourself. Some people would feel threatened when they see that you are making moves to upgrade yourself; they would criticize your moves.


One of my mentor once told me, "the best way to kill something or make it irrelevant is to simply ignore it."

Our goal is to continue ignoring the trolls but also to make sure they don't ignore us, because in a counterintuitive way, the more hate comments they drop and the more they don't ignore us, the more they make me, you and this amazing thread even more relevant and bigger.

Happy new year to everyone and God bless you all.

Karlifate:


So many trolls has come and gone, since the inception of the thread.


They gather like car parts waiting to be assembled, but fizzle out like the waste coming out of a car exhaust

In this life they come and they go. Story of their lives.

Pukkalolo:


luminouz, here is the interesting and counterintuitive thing...

Those trolls always dropping hate comments on this threads are actually playing an important role in making this thread successful...

Here's why... please read carefully. There's a big lesson to be learned here:

We are in "attention age".

Meaning, in this current age and time, getting attention is the secret sauce to being relevant and successful, and sadly it doesn't even matter if it's positive or negative attention.

Nairaland algorithm doesn't give a shit about negative comment/attention; as long as there's engagements, it will keep pushing the thread to the top.

I watched an interview with an American rapper who get millions of view on his songs and cash out on them. He said something very interesting. He said that, "half of the people that watch his music videos on youtube and stream his songs are mostly his haters..."

That's basically saying, "half of his music revenues and income are coming from his haters."

Most Celebrities understand that attention, both negative and positive attention, is the secret to staying relevant in the industry.

Think of it: Andrew Tate became a billionaire and became one of the most googled man on Earth strictly from his ability to garner attention to himself. The funny thing is, many of the attention are even negative attention, i.e criticism and hate...

Your ability to handle trolls, haters criticism, negative reactions is the secret to your success in any areas of life.

Using interaction with women as example, one of the major differentiators between me and the nice guy is that the nice guy is so much scared of being criticize, disliked or rejected by the women he desires, while I on the other hand I'm very "comfortable" with getting criticism or rejection.

How do the women cash out on the nice guys? Because when a nice guy is getting criticize by a girl or he sense that he might be losing a girl, he assumes he is the cause. So he try is best to impress her and do more and more bigger nice things for her.

I embrace criticism, rejection, drama, tension, randomness, uncertainty that why I'm never lacking pussy....

The nice guy is scared of criticism, rejection and being disliked.... and that's why women easily manipulate and exploit him.

It doesn’t matter how smart, intelligent or educated you are . The difference between the winnner and the loser is the ability to handle criticism, haters, trolls, rejection, failure and negative reaction.

I'm not affected emotionally by criticism, rejection, setbacks, trolls, negative reactions because I already expects those things to happen. I've already included them in my calculations for getting success..

You have to lose the battle to win the war. If you want to be admired by some people, then you must be willing to be disliked by some other people. No two ways about it.

Running from criticism and negative reactions only means that when you finally lay your head down at the end of your journey on earth, your life would be empty and filled with regrets. In order to prevent that, you need to ride above trolls, rejection and negative opinion of people -- and live life on your terms.

Anytime you choose to do something that is worthwhile, and you begin to climb up the ladder of accomplishments, the amounts of individuals who wish to bring you down increases. You'll certainly upset some people by trying to move higher.

Youll upset some people by trying to improve yourself. Some people would feel threatened when they see that you are making moves to upgrade yourself; they would criticize your moves.


One of my mentor once told me, "the best way to kill something or make it irrelevant is to simply ignore it."

Our goal is to continue ignoring the trolls but also to make sure they don't ignore us, because in a counterintuitive way, the more hate comments they drop and the more they don't ignore us, the more they make me, you and this amazing thread even more relevant and bigger.

Happy new year to everyone and God bless you all.

My Guy very true

Why are pussies dry these days

See the mega simp encouraging basic girls and mostly non virgins to self destruct again, see what that delusional female wrote, it’s funny how modern women think many guys are very rich in a third world country as this, they’ll learn.. 😆

..

Haha 😆 ..

heartofcity12:
Haha 😆 ..

I prefer keeping my foam on the floor.

spencekat:
I prefer keeping my foam on the floor.

..

Pukkalolo:


luminouz, here is the interesting and counterintuitive thing...

Those trolls always dropping hate comments on this threads are actually playing an important role in making this thread successful...

Here's why... please read carefully. There's a big lesson to be learned here:

We are in "attention age".

Meaning, in this current age and time, getting attention is the secret sauce to being relevant and successful, and sadly it doesn't even matter if it's positive or negative attention.

Nairaland algorithm doesn't give a shit about negative comment/attention; as long as there's engagements, it will keep pushing the thread to the top.

I watched an interview with an American rapper who get millions of view on his songs and cash out on them. He said something very interesting. He said that, "half of the people that watch his music videos on youtube and stream his songs are mostly his haters..."

That's basically saying, "half of his music revenues and income are coming from his haters."

Most Celebrities understand that attention, both negative and positive attention, is the secret to staying relevant in the industry.

Think of it: Andrew Tate became a billionaire and became one of the most googled man on Earth strictly from his ability to garner attention to himself. The funny thing is, many of the attention are even negative attention, i.e criticism and hate...

Your ability to handle trolls, haters criticism, negative reactions is the secret to your success in any areas of life.

Using interaction with women as example, one of the major differentiators between me and the nice guy is that the nice guy is so much scared of being criticize, disliked or rejected by the women he desires, while I on the other hand I'm very "comfortable" with getting criticism or rejection.

How do the women cash out on the nice guys? Because when a nice guy is getting criticize by a girl or he sense that he might be losing a girl, he assumes he is the cause. So he try is best to impress her and do more and more bigger nice things for her.

I embrace criticism, rejection, drama, tension, randomness, uncertainty that why I'm never lacking pussy....

The nice guy is scared of criticism, rejection and being disliked.... and that's why women easily manipulate and exploit him.

It doesn’t matter how smart, intelligent or educated you are . The difference between the winnner and the loser is the ability to handle criticism, haters, trolls, rejection, failure and negative reaction.

I'm not affected emotionally by criticism, rejection, setbacks, trolls, negative reactions because I already expects those things to happen. I've already included them in my calculations for getting success..

You have to lose the battle to win the war. If you want to be admired by some people, then you must be willing to be disliked by some other people. No two ways about it.

Running from criticism and negative reactions only means that when you finally lay your head down at the end of your journey on earth, your life would be empty and filled with regrets. In order to prevent that, you need to ride above trolls, rejection and negative opinion of people -- and live life on your terms.

Anytime you choose to do something that is worthwhile, and you begin to climb up the ladder of accomplishments, the amounts of individuals who wish to bring you down increases. You'll certainly upset some people by trying to move higher.

Youll upset some people by trying to improve yourself. Some people would feel threatened when they see that you are making moves to upgrade yourself; they would criticize your moves.


One of my mentor once told me, "the best way to kill something or make it irrelevant is to simply ignore it."

Our goal is to continue ignoring the trolls but also to make sure they don't ignore us, because in a counterintuitive way, the more hate comments they drop and the more they don't ignore us, the more they make me, you and this amazing thread even more relevant and bigger.

Happy new year to everyone and God bless you all.

Nice take!!! 💯

this thread is getting down this 2024

Oga Seun, I know you will see this here. According to PLATO
As there are misanthropist or haters of men, so also ARE there misologists, or haters of ideas

I would advise you approach nairaland based on the above quote from Plato. Most of those posts on romance sections are ideas, Rich ideas that tells the challenges male folks face dealing with relationships and the society.

Right from the beginning of creation, there has been haters of men, serpent and the advocates of the serpent always manipulating men "to a fall".

Don't let those females manupulate you to think those threads and ideas are against them. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and such opinions must be shared.

Threads like the redpill and several of its kind are a gentle gift to all men lucky enough to come across it.

abba190:
this thread is getting down this 2024

Why do you care so much about this thread. Is it because we're not feminists. This is four years in the making since 2020.

Blacklion3:
Oga Seun, I know you will see this here. According to PLATO
As there are misanthropist or haters of men, so also ARE there misologists, or haters of ideas

I would advise you approach nairaland based on the above quote from Plato. Most of those posts on romance sections are ideas, Rich ideas that tells the challenges male folks face dealing with relationships and the society.

Right from the beginning of creation, there has been haters of men, serpent and the advocates of the serpent always manipulating men "to a fall".

Don't let those females manupulate you to think those threads and ideas are against them. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and such opinions must be shared.

Threads like the redpill and several of its kind are a gentle gift to all men lucky enough to come across it.

Some pages back, Mr Seun Osewa made some comments on this thread & he was duly informed about the purpose of this thread, which has not been derailed and which he also noted.


I am writing this to bring it to his remembrance.



Reference: Pages 1964 to 1969

Karlifate:



LMAO! 😆😆


So, a troll is getting you worked up

A very foolish troll at that


When referring to a scenario (description of events which might probably occur again), has in that context is correct.


When referring to past possession(s), had might be correct in that context.


Side note: Google the line "many trolls has come and gone"

in the balance of pain and pleasure, pain is more painful than pleasire is more pleasurable.

when you dissappear, dont look for more things to do that would make you stand out as a man. LOOK FOR THINGS TO END IN YOUR LIFE THAT MAKES YOU SIMP. ie putting others first in an ugly bid to make them like you. backbiting, addictions revealing a lack of discipline etcetera etcetera

ie instead of reading books about self confidence, why not try putting a stop to your addiction. ( ive written about how to end your addiction like i ended mine in a post of mine:
https://www.nairaland.com/7939213/one-guide-end-addiction)

instead of doing kegals or learning about the latest viagra pills in a bid to last longer in bed, why not start eating and drinking healthy. the inside reflects the outside

instead of wasting time and tears in church, why not try to actually be good to the least amongst us while asking for nothing back

instead of wasting your existence jogging your whole local govt, why not figure out that jogging is equivalent to pressups/Skipping + squats @ home. the exercise is for you not to come to my whatsapp to post about calories you burned or millions of steps you took today

pain is more painful than pleasure is more pleasurable. Dont do more things that makes you happy. STOP what hurts you first. Thats the equation to True Happiness

AlphaNugget:
Advice for Young Men:

Disappear for some time, focus entirely on yourself, return unrecognizable.

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When you take time for yourself, you grow in ways others can't imagine.

Rediscover your passions, set ambitious goals, and showcase the new you confidently.

---- MasculinePeak -----

a king can have sex with an outsider but any offspring from such relationship would be called an outsider. ie Jon snow from game of thrones

while a queen can have sex with an outsider and such offspring gotten from such relationship COULD BE PINNED AS THE LEGITIMATE CHILD. ie of jaime lannister and cersei lannister children, joffrey lannister became king.
jaime lannister is cersei lannister BLOOD BROTHER not king. the illegitimate child was pinned as king. THAT WAS WHAT TRIGGERED THE GAME OF THRONES IN THE SERIES. someone( Ned Stark) found out and was killed. then begun the plottings and what have you.


understand thag in cheating, MEN CHEAT PHYSICALLY FIRST, WHILE WOMEN CHEAT PHYSICALLY LAST!!

if a lesbian can fvck numerous dicks to prove to herself that dick is not for her, then if a girl is having feelings for two different guys, SHE tends to fvck the two different guys to prove which guy she feels the most for. its compare and contrast by putting herself in the front line

thats why andrew tate advised to make the girl youre dating choose between you, the boyfriend or her male friends. ***hee choosing you means you gotta man up and then bear responsibility FOR ALL HER EMOTIONAL WHIMPS AND DIMPS. its a task you gotta be prepared for if you ask her to make that choice and she ends up choosing you. but hey, thats a topic for another day***


i explained this in a post of mine: Emotions are fickle. Test it https://www.nairaland.com/7955538/emotions-fickle-test-it#127735994

AlphaNugget:
When a man cheats on his woman...
The relationship can still be saved.

When a woman cheats on her man...
The relationship is over instantly.

Few will understand why.

---

If she ever cheats on you, she doesn't love you.

Never accept her back.

Women cheat to end relationships.

Help her end it.

---- MasculinePeak -----

Long Post Alert;

Please pardon the multiple grammatical errors and disorganization, i wrote this with difficulty in my heart. Please read it and advice me.
Hello everybody. Happy New Year.

I'm in a dilemma and I need help. I have been feeling down and almost depressed for the past few days.

There's this girl that I met in school last semester. I go to a university in the US. So, I met her in like September. It was a school event and someone introduced us together. She's mixed, Nigerian and Asian (blasian). She's also relatively tall and she's older than me. She'll be 22 this year and I just turned 19 a few days ago. but i told her i was 21 as well She's also noticeably taller than me. She was a first year student and I'm in a higher year (or should be).

When I met her, we just introduced ourselves and talked for a few minutes. I told her I was 18 then when she told me my age but she kinda forgot down the line. But basically I saw she was kind of attractive but I was not really interested. I didn't even try to get her socials or anything.

A week or two later, I was on campus and came to the residence dorms because I was bored. It was night and I lived in apartment off campus. I met her in the lobby of a building and she was leaving to go to her room. This was around midnight or past midnight. I decided to go to her room with her but I didn't ask directly. I just told her to use her keys to open the common lounge for me so we walked to her part of the residence and she opened the lounge. Some people were inside and I was like there's too many people. So we came out and I found myself walking to her building. We got in and she took me to her room, offered me drinks of my choice ( I picked shots of vodka), and we both took shots while we chatted. I didn't want to make a move because I was nervous and it was the first time. I left to my apartment later. But I got her snap here.

I didn't put too much interest in the situation because at first I genuinely wasn't that interested. We met again during another event and I sat beside her and we talked. She vapes and I picked up the habit during the summer so we vaped as well when we were in her room. I noticed that she asked me about two or three times to go buy vapes together. I wanted to go but I was kind of broke back then and also I wasn't sure if those were signals (how wrong i was). But basically, i kind of turned her down. I just told her how to get it because it was a new town for her as a first year while I've been schooling there for some time.

Skip, skip.... we were sending snaps and she sent me pictures of shots she was having. I asked her where mine was and she responded and said "COME!!!!!" enthusiastically. i was like okay, I'm in. So, I went to her to her room and took some more alcohol and she showed me some videos on her computer and we talked about a bunch of things. She even asked what kind of girls I was interested in and all that. I knew that I should have made a move on her but I was shy and nervous (story of my life).

i'll back track here to give you some background info. I've always been a nice guy with girls for the most part. I have these idea that they are like innocent and I should take things very slow with them. But, on average despite being short I've not had problems getting girls attracted to me. I always seem to Bleep things up though. Also, my first experience with a girl in uni in my first year went badly so I had some kind of trauma that I needed to unpack. Basically, it was the first time i got high off weed and it was with this girl in her room. I tried making a move when we were under the covers watching a show on her laptop but she removed my hand from her thighs the first time and I freaked out. I started imagining sexual assault charges and I actually started pleading with her in the room. She was giving me reassurances but the effect of being high amplified everything in my head. I couldn't leave my room for three days because I told she told everyone i tried to rape her. it was fine at the end though, she didn't tell anyone but that bleeped me up for a long time. i was always afraid to make a move on girls because i didn't want to come off as creepy and all. There was also another girl i used to hang out with. we'll be on my bed or hers watching but i never made a move or tried even though i wanted to.

Also, I used to watch a lot of porn and became insecure about my dick. erect size is 5'7 inches and 4'7 in girth. I always thought it would be too small and thin and girls would be dissapointed. so that also factored into my insecurity and anxiety.


Back to where I was. So, after about four hours in her room (yes, i know i was such a pussy) she made the first move. She faced me and put her legs in between mine and was basically giving me the greenest green light ever. In my head, i was like okay she wants it. so i put my hands on her thighs and started caressing it. after some time she went to her bed and called me to her bed. she told me to come to the bed. I laid beside her and after some time we started kissing and making out. at some point she went on top of me and was rubbing her pussy against my dick but we were wearing clothes. i was also a virgin too so i wasn't confident to have sex because I knew i would be rusty and coupled with my insecurity too. but we basically made out for a while and i touched her and all but we didn't have sex. i think she tried giving me a Mouth Action but i didn't react so she didn't do much. i was still insecure about my dick size and that's why i didn't whip it out.

I left and I went back to tell my best friend about it. he was saying i finally scored some and said he was happy for me and all. we're actually very close and share almost everything with each other, we share texts with girls we're talking to, ask for advice and run strategies and all. we talk about everything and everyone knows we're close. i'll link this later on.

So, i found out that i wouldn't be able to take classes for last semester because i had some unpaid tuition debt. so, i would be going to the nearby city to stay with a family friend until the fees were paid i could register for classes. this was last semester (september to december). i told her about it and i was sad because i actually to spend more time with her in school and all. she told me to stay a few more days and i did but i left finally.

i should have seen the signs, she drinks a lot of alcohol and has daddy issues. she actually hates her father. this will make sense soon.

i visited her twice while she was in school. i came to campus to meet her the first time. at first, she said nothing would happen but i still wanted to come cos i felt something would happen. And if nothing happened, i would just hang out with my other friends.

when i came i told her i wanted to see her. at first she said only in the day time and in a public place lol but at night when i texted her i told her i wanted to come see her. she went drinking with some friends but i later met her room and we hung out in her room and she gave me some weed that she bought. we got high and had sex that night. i think it wasn't special and i didn't do a fantastic job. i even couldn't come but i think she liked it because when we talked the following morning she said she enjoyed it.

but before i left, she told me we have to stop having sex and all that because she wanted to focus on another guy (he's taller and has beards and she likes beards, i don't have beards). she did tell me when we first kissed that she kissed another guy and that was him. i was surprised but i just assumed that maybe the sex wasn't good enough. i didn't tell her i was a virgin and i told her my body count was like 4.

When she said that to me, i was like okay. i told her my real age was 18 and she said she felt like i liked her and she didn't want to lead me on. she was interested in someone else. she was surprised about my real age but she said it was fine that her best friend that was the same age had a boyfriend who was 19 too.

i left and went back to the other city. we were still talking on imessage and facetime. and i discovered that things didn't go too well with the other guy because she kept telling me she was single and nothing happened.

So some weeks later she asked me to come see her. she wanted me to come and i said okay and i made some time. i came and we had sex again but i think this was worse than the first time. i was very lethargic and i didn't last very long. it seemed like she was disappointed and i tried going for a second round but i was too lazy and ended up not doing it. she wore her clothes and we slept together (we've slept together like three times). the following morning, after disturbing her sleep lol we did it again but i didn't last very long again. i was angry with myself but i knew it was a mental thing and also because i didn't have much experience. i knew if i was on campus with her taking classes and seeing her frequently the sex would be much better because there would be room for improvement and learning since we'd do it multiple times. but just doing it once in while places more importance on the sex and for me to deliver. i was honestly inexperienced and still insecure about my dick. we did it raw the two times i had sex with her too (thought i'd mention that). when i was leaving i asked if we'd still have more sex cos i remember the last time when she said we wouldn't but we ended up doing it again. she said yes.

another thing concerning the sex was that she liked me fingering her and she stops me multiple times when i do it because she says she doesn't want to squirt and mess the sheets. she also told me she likes rough sex and being submissive, dirty talk and all that. she even calls me daddy when we have sex but because i'm inexperienced and was a virgin before i met her it's not easy to do all that. i treat her gently and give her the girlfriend treatment but i think it's the nice guy in me. it was hard for me to treat her roughly but now i realize my mistakes. i remember telling her that at first i thought she was innocent but she laughed and said no. i also told her i liked bdsm and there's a chance that i would do it when next we Bleep.

Now, the point of this post is that she is dating my best friend now. i don't know how to feel. he knew every single thing about me and her but he still made a move. he's said he wanted to hit her but i didn't expect them to be dating. i know all this is happening because i wasn't in school so i barely even knows what goes on. to be fair, i didn't tell my best friend i liked her but even if he shouldn't have gone behind my back to date her. i don't even know how long he's been planning this behind my back and he didn't even tell me they were dating. usually if it was any other girl i would know but he kept quiet about this one and stopped talking to me much.

i noticed something was off but i didn't know this was the reason. and also her, i remember when she used to tell me when my best friend would hit on her but she told me she was never interested. there was even a time when she asked me if she should accept his invite to watch a movie in his apartment and i said no. but at the end of the day, we weren't dating so she's free to do whatever but it still hurts. she didn't know that he (my bf) knew about us having sex but the guy knew and still went to Bleep her and cuff her. This is soemone that used to advice me on how to move to her and all that. No, it hurts like hell. I used to consider this guy my blood and i trust him becuase since i'm not in school he's with my ps5 and tv. that's how much i trust him. we tell each other everything (him more than me tbh) but i can't believe he would do this. i haven't even talked to him about it and i don't know if i should. i asked him and he said they are dating but he never goes into detail.

another sad thing is that i can't come to school this semester as well becuase i have unpaid fees but they would be paid before next session in september. so, it makes sense if she's fucking someone else especially since i'm not around in school. I'm in the UK with my family now and I have to stay for about four/five months before going back to the US in the summer but it's like hell because that's all i think about. and since i'm with my parents and can't really talk to other girls i can't move on. i'm stuck with these thoughts.

like why did she have to date my best friend (she knew we were close), it would have been any one else and i wouldn't have cared as much and the guy is a snake because he knew about all my movements with the girl and still did this. he knew my intimate details about the sex with her and still made a move. when i told the girl about how he knew we were fucking, she said it was her fault for going for best friends and she was ass. Basically, she's sticking with him. I wish I was in school because this wouldn't have happened. It's all because I'm not in school but I'll be back in a few months.

At this point, i need advice on multiple things:

1. I'm tired of being a nice guy and insecure. I want to be more confident and improve my frame. Some girls i've messed with in the past say I'm too emotional and can't be a fuckbody because I attach emotions to it. This blasian girl said something similar, she said i was a loverboy. She's also told me to be more confident, stop second guessing myself and when we text, and i get pissed or something she says i act like a girl.

I need to stop being this nice guy. How do I erase it from the fabric of my soul because I've struggled with it for years and it has hindered me multiple times. That's also why I couldn't Bleep her the way she wanted even after she told me.

2. How do I improve my sex game? Genuinely like how to Bleep (do we use the waist/hips to control thrusts or it's the full body) properly. How do I last longer and get better erections ( I know this is cliche but i need something that works for you), how do i stop being insecure about my dick size (already told you measurements earlier)? But, if i bleeped her three times, that means it should be fine. I want to get good sex game so when i Bleep a girl she would always want me back.

3. How do I handle this situation? She was asking me how to make me feel better and asking if i was mad when she told me she was dating him. at first i thought it was a joke but they are serious but not too many people know about it. i messed up yesterday and let my emotions get a hold of me and i blocked her. but i unblocked her and she started acting angry to me and cold but i apologized. i've been acting needy though and doing too much and she complained today so I said i'll back off. if she doesn't text me first, i'll talk to her when i get back to the US in a few months. I'll still see my best friend (or ex best-friend) when I come back because we have the same friend groups and I can't avoid him.

4. How do I remedy this situation and still Bleep her again? I know it sounds stupid but my mind is made up. She's my first and she was actually good and I enjoy spending time with her when we Bleep. i don't necessarily want to date her but at least I still want to hit that. Also, it's a matter of pride to me because if they're still dating when i come back and i can Bleep her while she's dating some of my hurt will reduce. Also, i know i'm attached to her but I also want to right my wrongs and give her mind blowing sex to redeem myself and my sanity. How do I remedy the situation and still keep her on the cards? To be honest, even if you say not to try to Bleep her my mind is made up. I have to try at least, so please advice me accordingly.

5. How do I stop being emotional and acting like a girl. I react to things too much, take things personally and I'm insecure.

6. How can I keep myself sane and stop thinking about it? It's hurting my soul and staying here for months basically doing nothing is going to be torture for me?

7. Give me some general advice about game? How do I improve and go on from here.

Please I need comprehensive responses, I don't need a band aid on my wound but a full body surgery. I want to change this few months I'm here before I go back.

Thank you again for reading and forgive the errors and improper structure. I've been writing straight for two hours.

thats where you get it wrong. men love sex and women love attention

the problem of genders today is this: social media(attention galore) for women and porn sites(sex galore) for men.

in porn sites, men settle for the best of the best EVEN WHEN THEY KNOW THE GIRL THEYRE DATING IN REAL LIFE ISNT UP TO THEIR FANTASY

in socail media sites, women settle for the best of the best men even when they know the men theyre hanging with in real life doesnt meet up.

IN THE REAL.WORLD, EVERYONE HAS A CHANCE...BOTH EXTRAORDINARY AND AVERAGE!!
but on social media and porn sites, ONLY the best of the best has a chance cus when overflooded with many options, the ONLY OPTION BECOMES THE BEST OPTION. no one settles for average on porn sites and social media cus of availability of TOO MUCH CHOICE. now take away that excessive choice in the real world dot dot dot

cold approach still stands.
if theres physical strenght, then theres emotional strenght

building physical strenght means You going to the gym TO PUT YOURSELF THROUGH PHYSICAL STRESS
building emorional strenght means you BEING IN SITUATIONS OR PUTTING YOURSELF IN SITUATIONS that breaks you down emotionally via MULTIPLE rejection and few hits and miss...just like the gym does...tear muscles to build muscles.

but just lifting heavy weight doesnt give you muscles. YOUR FOOD AND REST COMES TO PLAY.

so the million dollar question on everyones lips: WHATS THE FOOD FOR BUILDING EMOTIONAL STRENGHT. after facing rejection FROM BOTH BEAUTIFUL AND UGLY GIRLS, what do you do or tell yourself to build yourself and get back to still approaching random girls. after being rejected and told youre not enough by numerous girls, how do you recover from such emotional pain to become stronger emotionally

A MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION DESERVES A MILLION DOLLAR ANSWER

ps: and if you show your girl your handsome friends and she falls, YOURE ONE LUCKY MAN
at least you know the kind of girl shes is with that. isnt it better you find out first hand or you prefer to wait after 7years to find out your only two children(a boy and a girl) belongs to a stranger out there. failed "boyfriend/girlfriend thingy" is better than a failed marriage.

most guys advocate for hiding their handsome friends from their girl. lolzzzz. me i advocate for creating a lil social dynamics experiment bringin ma beakers/conical flasks n dem lab coats

bolabizzle:


Cold Approach? Hmm...🤔

Anyway, the above advice is applicable and proven to work in third world countries only

In other highly developed countries, you MUST be a lucky winner in the genetic department before you can think of cold approach. Yes, believe it or not, It is that bad no thanks to many reasons, one of which is the numerous dating apps that allows a woman select and reject with just a swipe.

That is why today, we here of passport broos, a group predominantly made up of average looking men, leaving their country to seek "love" in third world countries.

Personally, I am of the opinion that cold approach is not for every Tom, Dick and Harry. It is for a choose few. Those with natural DNA embedded traits that are desirable to women.

Do you qualify as such? If no, then avoid cold approach and save yourself from the burden of a low self-esteem and inferiority complex which many men suffer from today, hence the mass simping we see all around us.

Some modern day pick up artists will tell you that those desirable traits can be learned or gotten if you do this and do that , but it all fails miserably. That's the power 💪 of genetic determinism.

Of course, those that lost the genetic lottery could decide to use money, societal status and material possessions as a cloak and decide to cold approach. It works. If it's all for fun and games, But if it is for something serious, it won't save you from that eerie feeling of despair each time you introduce your girl to your handsome buddy.

All her tests are to see if you are banging other girls or you are only option.

---- MasculinePeak -----

heartofcity12:
See tears, a man knows what he wants. Idiots think everything is about superficial beauty, big brezz and buttocks. They’ll keep learning 😆

If you check well, most of them commenting bad on her are not even married lol.

abba190:
this thread is getting down this 2024

I don't think it ever will. Despite this thread's controversial nature, it has been a big blessing to men on this platform (including myself). Even the mods are low key on the thread learning game and how the woman operates. Shutting it down will mean shooting themselves in the foot.....with a SHOTGUN.

machote:

I don't think it ever will. Despite this thread's controversial nature, it has been a big blessing to men on this platform (including myself). Even the mods are low key on the thread learning game and how the woman operates. Shutting it down will mean shooting themselves in the foot.....with a SHOTGUN.

This thread IS VERY VERY IMPORTANT
because it explains inter gender relations, human nature and sexuality
which are some of the basics of humanity.
I learn many things from this thread.
Every one needs to know how to relate with the opposite gender.
Pastors even need it as we need to understand why women are attracted to religious figures
and how pastors can run away from this temptation.
Even women (who may criticize the thread) need it because it explains their nature and pathologies to them.
By the way UBUNJA writings are VERY VERY IMPORTANT. They are not misogynistic as some people may
claim but shows both genders for what they are. It explains so many things to me and i learnt a lot.
THIS THREAD IS HERE TO STAY.
I once told a female friend of mine about the ideas in this thread and she said it is true.
It takes a radical feminist or extremist to take down this thread

CaveAdullam:
There's a higher rate of rejection when you cold approach women on motion.

To minimize the rejection rate, approach women in stationery positions more.

Examples:

That girl buying groceries.
That girl waiting for a bus.
That girl sitting with her phone.

Friends were strangers once upon a time.

On motion, you can compliment, suggest and then, escalate.

Move.

Well said bro.

Situational engagement.

There must be an event that should cause a natural conversation between you and that girl you find attractive.

When a guy engages in conversation with a girl simply based on attraction,the polarity of the sexual dynamic shifts further in her favour.

Learn to read your environment and engage in conversation normally.

Stop basing interactions solely on attraction.

Learn.

But they want you to take them out on an expensive first date if roles were reversed. It’s why they say that gender is redpilled by default, emulate them..

heartofcity12:
But they want you to take them out on an expensive first date if roles were reversed. It’s why they say that gender is redpilled by default, emulate them..

It is because of your women hating posts that this thread will be closed soon by Seun. How can a man be so pained for so long because women don’t find him attractive? You better go and work on yourself. Chronic masturbator like you.