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Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by MisterBanny(op):
Greetings to all Nairalanders, this year and even beyond, I've promised myself to focus more on developing myself and family. I will Never love any Nigerian lady until I'm ready for marriage. I also vowed that any of my male friends who come up with any relationship issues will lose our friendship cos I hate it.
A Friend has been pestering me, he needs advice as to the behavior of his girlfriend who he's dated for over Two years who he intends settling down with. Here are his complaints:

1. She doesn't allow my guy access to her phone. This guy doesn't intentionally check his woman's phone except he wants to send movies and pictures, but anytime he wants to do so, the girl gets instantly Nervous and starts fidgeting. She becomes restless & would come closer to see what the guy is actually doing with her phone.

2. They haven't had penetrative Sex since they started dating. The girl says she's a virgin. She claimed she's a Virgin even during the toasting period without allowing my guy to find out by himself. She's 28yrs old while my guy is 33. They play, kiss, romance, he gives her girl head but the girl doesn't give him head. Even when my guy asks the girl to allow him confirm and verify her Virginity claim, she refused.

3. She hasn't introduced him to any friend or family member. My guy had to beg & beg before she gave out two of her family members Phone numbers to him. Sadly, these two persons don't take him serious. If my guy calls to greet them, they hardly pick and then they miss his calls, they don't call back.

4. She doesn't post my guy on the social media, but my friend posts her always and even write romantic stuffs.

5. She has lots of male friends who call her everyday even on Video calls. She said she prefer male friends to female friends. Why should a guy be calling u everyday even during the midnight, like 1am, 2am and 3am? Is that proper?

6. She claimed her ex maltreated her, yet the ex still calls her and when she misses the call, she calls back or flash him to call. Is that right?

7. She traveled in December 2022 and ghosted my friend the very moment she took off from the park. She stopped picking his calls and never called back, for no reason. My friend gave up and moved on. After 5 months, she came back & asked for reconciliation and they started again & continued. My friend ask her to tell him exactly why she did that, but she said "Nothing". She promised never to do it again. She traveled again last December and she repeated same. This time, she picks my guy's calls but she hasn't called or chatted with my friend. My friend has moved on.

8. My friend had once read her WhatsApp chat with a guy. She pleaded for mercy and my guy forgave her.

9. She came to visit my guy, my guy helped her to lose her hair that day. I mean he losed everything while the girl was busy Playing with her phone. After he finished losing the hair, this girl couldn't even sweep my guy's room. It was my friend who slept the room after she had left. He swept it for days. U know how women's hair can be in the room. This girl has never swept or done any domestic chores for my guy before.

10 There is a Facebook friend of hers, a white guy who sends her lots of Pornographic videos, they chat and also do video calls. My friend asked her why she's always involved in such unwholesome act but she claimed she never asked the white guy to send those videos. So why can't she block the white guy even when my friend had told her to block him?

This is the weirdest relationship I have ever seen all my life.
This is same girl that each time my guys wants to breakup with her, she will cry and cry and apologize and he will forgive her. My guy doesn't cheat and he loves the girl too much. She misbehaves a lot yet, she continues to claim love. Her actions betray her words. I feel very sorry for the emotional entanglement. My guy is traumatized cos he has been so good to this girl. I feel pity for him. Pls advise a brother now, before it gets late
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by Zonefree(m): 11:40am On Jan 06, 2024
They haven't had penetrative Sex since they started dating. The girl says she's a virgin. She claimed she's a Virgin even during the toasting period without allowing my guy to find out by himself. She's 28yrs old

Two years relationship and you never confirm if your beloved girlfriend is truly a virgin? undecided

Wetin go carry me stay in two years relationship with a Nigerian girl and she no go allow me stick my glorious finger in her orifice to feel the alleged blockage of Red sea? undecided

Some niggggars just dey disgrace themselves in the name of relationship.


As a man, in whatever you do in this life, never revolve your life around one kpekus.
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by Rizzputin(m): 11:55am On Jan 06, 2024
If red flag was a person, your friend's girl would be it.

The short version is that she doesn't have enough sexual attraction for your friend. And she is clearly using him

2 years without sex is completely unacceptable. Going off for months without calling is also unacceptable.

And to top it off, she doesn't go down on her knees to sùck the life out of this dìck

Some girls tell me they like me and want my heart... I tell them good, suck it out my dìck.

A girl going on all fours for doggy OR on her knees to suck your dìck is the ultimate sign of submission.

This might sound clichè but yes, another nigga is fùcking your friend's girl.

When a girl goes off like that then comes back after 5 months and her answer is "nothing" just know it's always something (I should write a thread on this)

Bottom line, your friend's girl should be an ex by the time you show him this post.

She's NOT sexually attracted enough to him. When a girl is hòrny for you, not only will she beg to take your dìck, she'll want you to hit it raw.

PS: She's not a virgin. Someone is fùcking her. She sees your guy as husband/boyfriend material when he should be seen as a HOOKUP material.

She's giving him just a taste to keep around but not enough to own her completely like a hook up material man would

And trust me, someone else is def hitting her good
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by Animegirl(f): 11:56am On Jan 06, 2024
undecided
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by Jeon(f): 11:57am On Jan 06, 2024
Wentin you want take confirm?
You want burst am for her future husband ?
You know nonvirgin lady is a threat to your gender.
😂

Even when my guy asks the girl to allow him confirm and verify her Virginity claim, she refused.
Chaii, wentin I no go read.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂



Men like your friend hardly get a good partner, why?.
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by Omuuvwie(m): 12:00pm On Jan 06, 2024
Your guy is a spare and not the real guy, that is why the girl is treating him like that, like what most nairaland guys will say your guy is a simp.
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by JealousCobra(m): 12:18pm On Jan 06, 2024
MisterBanny:
Greetings to all Nairalanders, this year and even beyond, I've promised myself to focus more on developing myself and family. I will Never love any Nigerian lady until I'm ready for marriage. I also vowed that any of my male friends who come up with any relationship issues will lose our friendship cos I hate it.
A Friend has been pestering me, he needs advice as to the behavior of his girlfriend who he's dated for over Two years who he intends settling down with. Here are his complaints:

1. She doesn't allow my guy access to her phone. This guy doesn't intentionally check his woman's phone except he wants to send movies and pictures, but anytime he wants to do so, the girl gets instantly Nervous and starts fidgeting. She becomes restless & would come closer to see what the guy is actually doing with her phone.

2. They haven't had penetrative Sex since they started dating. The girl says she's a virgin. She claimed she's a Virgin even during the toasting period without allowing my guy to find out by himself. She's 28yrs old. They play, kiss, romance, he gives her girl head but the girl doesn't give him head. Even when my guy asks the girl to allow him confirm and verify her Virginity claim, she refused.

3. She hasn't introduced him to any friend or family member. My guy had to beg & beg before she gave out two of her family members Phone numbers to him. Sadly, these two persons don't take him serious. If my guy calls to greet them, they hardly pick and then they miss his calls, they don't call back.

4. She doesn't post my guy on the social media, but my friend posts her always and even write romantic stuffs.

5. She has lots of male friends who call her everyday even on Video calls. She said she prefer male friends to female friends. Why should a guy be calling u everyday even during the midnight, like 1am, 2am and 3am? Is that proper?

6. She claimed her ex maltreated her, yet the ex still calls her and when she misses the call, she calls back or flash him to call. Is that right?

7. She traveled in December 2022 and ghosted my friend the very moment she took off from the park. She stopped picking his calls and never called back, for no reason. My friend gave up and moved on. After 5 months, she came back & asked for reconciliation and they started again & continued. My friend ask her to tell him exactly why she did that, but she said "Nothing". She promised never to do it again. She traveled again last December and she repeated same. This time, she picks my guy's calls but she hasn't called or chatted with my friend. My friend has moved on.

8. My friend had once read her WhatsApp chat with a guy. She pleaded for mercy and my guy forgave her.

9. She came to visit my guy, my guy helped her to lose her hair that day. I mean he losed everything while the girl was busy Playing with her phone. After he finished losing the hair, this girl couldn't even sweep my guy's room. It was my friend who slept the room after she had left. He swept it for days. U know how women's hair can be in the room. This girl has never swept or done any domestic chores for my guy before.

This is same girl that each time my guys wants to breakup with her, she will cry and cry and apologize and he will forgive her. My guy doesn't cheat and he loves the girl too much. She misbehaves a lot yet, she continues to claim love. Her actions betray her words. I feel very sorry for the emotional entanglement. My guy is traumatized cos he has been so good to this girl. I feel pity for him. Pls advise a brother now, before it gets late
Your friend indeed, lol.



For your own good, leave that daughter of Jezebel alone!
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by Nemesis0147(m): 12:26pm On Jan 06, 2024
Tell your friend to commit suicide.
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by Aaaaarghmed(m): 12:27pm On Jan 06, 2024
Ur friend na simp
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by ikeno(m): 12:48pm On Jan 06, 2024
Tell your guy say na mannequin him dey date,even sex doll better pass her at least, he will be having penetration every now or then
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by OKOATA(m): 1:23pm On Jan 06, 2024
This a simp story, read about the red pill and get emancipated.
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by Rexymania(m): 1:40pm On Jan 06, 2024
Thunder ⚡ fire 🔥 that your friend. What nonsense
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by Sonnobax15(m): 1:46pm On Jan 06, 2024
lipsrsealed
Op,you know too much about ypur friends GF to the extent that I just wanna ask if you're sure you aren't that your friend?
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by MisterBanny(op): 1:46pm On Jan 06, 2024
Rexymania:
Thunder ⚡ fire 🔥 that your friend. What nonsense
.

No be small thunder I swear. I've slapped him because of this nonsense and I have also warned the girl to stay off my friend
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by MisterBanny(op): 1:48pm On Jan 06, 2024
Sonnobax15:
lipsrsealed
Op,you know too much about ypur friends GF to the extent that I just wanna ask if you're sure you aren't that your friend?
I'm not the one Sir but I feel so sad for my friend. This guy is my Best friend and we've known for over twenty years. We live together, schooled together and do almost everything together
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by Sonnobax15(m): 1:50pm On Jan 06, 2024
MisterBanny:
I'm not the one Sir but I feel so sad for my friend. This guy is my Best friend and we've known for over twenty years. We live together, schooled together and do almost everything together
. Ok....

Well,tell your friend that that Banny of his belongs to all of us and there's no way he's gonna privatize a whole community property.....no way undecided
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by MisterBanny(op): 2:27pm On Jan 06, 2024
Sonnobax15:
. Ok....

Well,tell your friend that that Banny of his belongs to all of us and there's no way he's gonna privatize a whole community property.....no way undecided
Lmfao 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Na Mumu dey fall in love I swear. I can only love my wife to be, and not some useless assholes
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by Dexy4yah(m): 2:41pm On Jan 06, 2024
I for like knack that girl cuz she is for the street.

Op you and your friend are mor0n...no offense
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by talk2hb1(m): 2:42pm On Jan 06, 2024
MisterBanny:
Greetings to all Nairalanders, this year and even beyond, I've promised myself to focus more on developing myself and family. I will Never love any Nigerian lady until I'm ready for marriage. I also vowed that any of my male friends who come up with any relationship issues will lose our friendship cos I hate it.
A Friend has been pestering me, he needs advice as to the behavior of his girlfriend who he's dated for over Two years who he intends settling down with. Here are his complaints:


This is same girl that each time my guys wants to breakup with her, she will cry and cry and apologize and he will forgive her. My guy doesn't cheat and he loves the girl too much. She misbehaves a lot yet, she continues to claim love. Her actions betray her words. I feel very sorry for the emotional entanglement. My guy is traumatized cos he has been so good to this girl. I feel pity for him. Pls advise a brother now, before it gets late
When GOD decided to forgive you of your sin, you will move on.
I guess one day you will discover that, dating some girls are punishment from GOD and you will call it love.
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by rickleye: 2:52pm On Jan 06, 2024
MisterBanny:
Greetings to all Nairalanders, this year and even beyond, I've promised myself to focus more on developing myself and family. I will Never love any Nigerian lady until I'm ready for marriage. I also vowed that any of my male friends who come up with any relationship issues will lose our friendship cos I hate it.
A Friend has been pestering me, he needs advice as to the behavior of his girlfriend who he's dated for over Two years who he intends settling down with. Here are his complaints:

1. She doesn't allow my guy access to her phone. This guy doesn't intentionally check his woman's phone except he wants to send movies and pictures, but anytime he wants to do so, the girl gets instantly Nervous and starts fidgeting. She becomes restless & would come closer to see what the guy is actually doing with her phone.

2. They haven't had penetrative Sex since they started dating. The girl says she's a virgin. She claimed she's a Virgin even during the toasting period without allowing my guy to find out by himself. She's 28yrs old. They play, kiss, romance, he gives her girl head but the girl doesn't give him head. Even when my guy asks the girl to allow him confirm and verify her Virginity claim, she refused.

3. She hasn't introduced him to any friend or family member. My guy had to beg & beg before she gave out two of her family members Phone numbers to him. Sadly, these two persons don't take him serious. If my guy calls to greet them, they hardly pick and then they miss his calls, they don't call back.

4. She doesn't post my guy on the social media, but my friend posts her always and even write romantic stuffs.

5. She has lots of male friends who call her everyday even on Video calls. She said she prefer male friends to female friends. Why should a guy be calling u everyday even during the midnight, like 1am, 2am and 3am? Is that proper?

6. She claimed her ex maltreated her, yet the ex still calls her and when she misses the call, she calls back or flash him to call. Is that right?

7. She traveled in December 2022 and ghosted my friend the very moment she took off from the park. She stopped picking his calls and never called back, for no reason. My friend gave up and moved on. After 5 months, she came back & asked for reconciliation and they started again & continued. My friend ask her to tell him exactly why she did that, but she said "Nothing". She promised never to do it again. She traveled again last December and she repeated same. This time, she picks my guy's calls but she hasn't called or chatted with my friend. My friend has moved on.

8. My friend had once read her WhatsApp chat with a guy. She pleaded for mercy and my guy forgave her.

9. She came to visit my guy, my guy helped her to lose her hair that day. I mean he losed everything while the girl was busy Playing with her phone. After he finished losing the hair, this girl couldn't even sweep my guy's room. It was my friend who slept the room after she had left. He swept it for days. U know how women's hair can be in the room. This girl has never swept or done any domestic chores for my guy before.

This is same girl that each time my guys wants to breakup with her, she will cry and cry and apologize and he will forgive her. My guy doesn't cheat and he loves the girl too much. She misbehaves a lot yet, she continues to claim love. Her actions betray her words. I feel very sorry for the emotional entanglement. My guy is traumatized cos he has been so good to this girl. I feel pity for him. Pls advise a brother now, before it gets late
Why are earth are you wasting peoples time when you the friend can see the handwriting on the wall !
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by MisterBanny(op): 2:52pm On Jan 06, 2024
talk2hb1:
When GOD decided to forgive you of your sin, you will move on.
I guess one day you will discover that, dating some girls are punishment from GOD and you will call it love.
Hmmmm... So Deep!
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by MisterBanny(op): 2:54pm On Jan 06, 2024
rickleye:
Why are earth are you wasting peoples time when you the friend can see the handwriting on the wall !
I have already warned the girl severally to stay off. I have even slapped them both cos I knew the girl was just a devil sent from the pit of hell to torment my Friend and hijack his destiny. My friend is weak and can't move on
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by MisterBanny(op): 2:55pm On Jan 06, 2024
Dexy4yah:
I for like knack that girl cuz she is for the street.

Op you and your friend are mor0n...no offense
Why including me? No girl can try dat shit with me cos I will beat the living daylight out of her before I dump her ass
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by Samakus(m): 3:08pm On Jan 06, 2024
Omo, Simps dey suffer for this life o
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by rickleye: 3:11pm On Jan 06, 2024
MisterBanny:
I have already warned the girl severally to stay off. I have even slapped them both cos I knew the girl was just a devil sent from the pit of hell to torment my Friend and hijack his destiny. My friend is weak and can't move on
If he hasn’t done the deed what’s the draw ? Did he eat food cooked by her. Did she put it in drink for him.
You have to get evidence for him to see that she is not worth his time and that she is unfaithful.
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by Bouncing2(m): 3:16pm On Jan 06, 2024
Samakus:
Omo, Simps dey suffer for this life o
Asin eehhh!!

If u ever SIMP,,u go suffer pass!
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by Savedday2: 3:21pm On Jan 06, 2024
Oga! Is not your guy, it is you. Just continue SIMPing a very great result is waiting for you.

9ja girls are useless ashawo. All of them.
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by Namaster: 3:38pm On Jan 06, 2024
Buy your friend a menstrual pad because he's a HUGE pussy.
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Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by Dexy4yah(m): 4:10pm On Jan 06, 2024
MisterBanny:
Why including me? No girl can try dat shit with me cos I will beat the living daylight out of her before I dump her ass
Why i included you is cuz you shud have put sense into your guy's head.
Common, this one don pass red flag and your guy just dey busy dey simp..dey go
Re: Red Flags Everywhere: A young Man & His Deceptive Girlfriend by austine4real(m): 4:32pm On Jan 06, 2024
grin grin

Mumu you are dating yasef
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