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Re: What Should I Do by zakkxx: 9:57pm On Jan 15, 2024

Bongadu:
I impregnated my ex girlfriend when I was young and relocated because at time I was young and stupid, I gave her money for abortion but she disagreed on removing it , so I had no choice but to flee as I was irresponsible and poor
My ex girlfriend put to bed months after I left and raised the child living with her parents
I relocated back last year December , I'm trying to get back with my daughter but my ex won't let me be near me even I want to take responsibility and care for my daughter
She's getting me frustrated, I'm thinking of suing her for not letting me be a presence in my daughter's life

may thunder fire your stupid mouth, the same daughter you wanted death

Re: What Should I Do by Father4all: 10:11pm On Jan 15, 2024

You are a Fooooool

Re: What Should I Do by Switinthemiddle(m): 10:36pm On Jan 15, 2024

VULCAN:
I'm happy for you.
Since Nigeria has one of the highest paternity fraud rates on the planet....
I'm sure you did a DNA test so as not to be a statistic in years to come.

bros if u see me and my daughter u go understand

Re: What Should I Do by Lagyaovye33: 11:07pm On Jan 15, 2024

Zonefree:

Small pikin talk.

😂😂😂

Re: What Should I Do by Ewroghene1(m): 11:14pm On Jan 15, 2024

Bongadu:
I impregnated my ex girlfriend when I was young and relocated because at time I was young and stupid, I gave her money for abortion but she disagreed on removing it , so I had no choice but to flee as I was irresponsible and poor
My ex girlfriend put to bed months after I left and raised the child living with her parents
I relocated back last year December , I'm trying to get back with my daughter but my ex won't let me be near me even I want to take responsibility and care for my daughter
She's getting me frustrated, I'm thinking of suing her for not letting me be a presence in my daughter's life

Listen to your self mr relicator

Re: What Should I Do by Melagros(m): 11:21pm On Jan 15, 2024

mariahAngel:
He was never a father to the child.
He lost that right the day he gave money to have the child aborted.
Whatever chance he gets after that is by grace.

Only God knows why he wants the child now.

Maria i know you as our 'nairaland yummy yummy mama' i don't know that you are legally sound like this grin

Re: What Should I Do by sharone21(f): 4:19am On Jan 16, 2024

Bongadu:
I impregnated my ex girlfriend when I was young and relocated because at time I was young and stupid, I gave her money for abortion but she disagreed on removing it , so I had no choice but to flee as I was irresponsible and poor
My ex girlfriend put to bed months after I left and raised the child living with her parents
I relocated back last year December , I'm trying to get back with my daughter but my ex won't let me be near me even I want to take responsibility and care for my daughter
She's getting me frustrated, I'm thinking of suing her for not letting me be a presence in my daughter's life

Truth is that u want only the child and NOT her mum and the mum has from far sensed your usual selfishness. She might even have a new man in her life and wouldn't want a persona non grata to come disrupt her relationship or work- life balance in the name of wanting to see your child. U claim to love the child but if u really loved her, u wouldn't have ran away and gradually have given her a proper home/ family with Daddy and Mummy.

The way u wanted both dead is how they already see u: DEAD.

DONT allow any hungry, baby Lawyer deceive u.... Even if u win in court, who go dey allow u come visit the girl or take her to a place to meet u? Even fiery Lawyer Festus K had to forget about custody battles when he divorced his wife.

By now, I guess the mum would have made the child to bear her family's name on her birth certificate.

Candid advice: Just see how u can be sending money to them- no talk say only for your daughter because it will worsen the hurt, be wise. Better still, wait till she is 18 yrs and IF she chooses to come KNOW u( NOT necessarily for u to be part of her life), then be glad.

Thank God Nairaland men no fight about this and most agreed including Zonefree that doesn't believe in gifting a woman.

Re: What Should I Do by Munzy14(m): 4:35am On Jan 16, 2024

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Zonefree:

Small pikin talk.

This your mouth no good at alllllllllll.🤣🤣🤣

Re: What Should I Do by Juliearth(f): 5:19am On Jan 16, 2024

Bongadu:
I impregnated my ex girlfriend when I was young and relocated because at time I was young and stupid, I gave her money for abortion but she disagreed on removing it , so I had no choice but to flee as I was irresponsible and poor
My ex girlfriend put to bed months after I left and raised the child living with her parents
I relocated back last year December , I'm trying to get back with my daughter but my ex won't let me be near me even I want to take responsibility and care for my daughter
She's getting me frustrated, I'm thinking of suing her for not letting me be a presence in my daughter's life

The same child you pressured her to abort and when she refused you fled? The only option you can tow is that of peace. You will lose woefully in court. You have no idea the trauma you made your ex go through. Your best bet is to reconcile with her.

Re: What Should I Do by BALLOSKI: 5:40am On Jan 16, 2024

Bongadu:
I impregnated my ex girlfriend when I was young and relocated because at time I was young and stupid, I gave her money for abortion but she disagreed on removing it , so I had no choice but to flee as I was irresponsible and poor
My ex girlfriend put to bed months after I left and raised the child living with her parents
I relocated back last year December , I'm trying to get back with my daughter but my ex won't let me be near me even I want to take responsibility and care for my daughter
She's getting me frustrated, I'm thinking of suing her for not letting me be a presence in my daughter's life

I don't want to use expletives on you, but you deserve some of that.

You're irresponsible and should be ashamed of yourself.

Re: What Should I Do by BALLOSKI: 5:44am On Jan 16, 2024

Bongadu:
English wasn't my first language

That's not what he meant. He's saying you're selfish. Everything is about "you" and not "them" or "we".

Re: What Should I Do by Druss(m): 6:09am On Jan 16, 2024

How old are you? If you can't understand why she won't let you near the kid .... Then you need to sit down and reason.

Re: What Should I Do by EteBabaagba222(m): 6:11am On Jan 16, 2024

Nazgul:
Are you ready to get married to her? If yes, take an elderly person from your side to go and meet her parents to apologize. Her parents would call her and resolve the matter. And you'll have your daughter and a wife. Case close.

If no, let her be. You can be calling and sending her messages once in a while to soften her up. If she insists that she doesn't want you in her life, there's nothing you can do than to move on.

Going to court would just be a waste of time and money for you, cos how on Earth would you explain to members of the jury that you want to claim a child whom you abandoned for years. And expect them to reach a favourable Verdict for you to claim her. Knowing fully well that if you get married tomorrow, your new wife might start maltreating her. It's impossible. You'd loose miserably.

Oga, warn yourself o. I be lawyer, let him contact me, 1 B naira. I tak up d case

Re: What Should I Do by linearity: 6:47am On Jan 16, 2024

Bongadu:
I've tried to be friends but she won't agree

Sending her money , she refuses

Buying gifts for my daughter, she says no

Be patient, very very patient; she still hurt, you know say you self Bleep up big time, so this is the period for you to receive am.

With time she will soften up and become receptive, but my guy forget that court matter, given the age of the baby, it will not favor you.

Just use this golden God given opportunity to increase your hussle so as to provide a better future for you and your daughter.

Re: What Should I Do by linearity: 6:48am On Jan 16, 2024

linearity:
Be patient, very very patient; she is still hurt and justifiably so. You know say you self Bleep up big time, so this is the period for you to receive am wotowoto.

With time she will soften up and become receptive, but my guy forget that court matter, given the age of the baby and the fact that it is out of wedlock, it will not favor you.

Just use this golden God given opportunity to increase your hussle so as to provide a better future for you and your daughter.

Re: What Should I Do by pansophist(m): 6:53am On Jan 16, 2024

The girls family are obviously kind people.

Because at the moment you mention suing instead of begging, at that point, you've lost any possibility for reunification with the child (and I deliberately said "the child", instead of "your child" ).

And by begging, it's not just by words, words are meaningless. It's by action, and at a start, what you'll get is a privilege to see the child, not a right. Don't forget it's the girl you paid to be killed via abortion. Remember that.

I mean, you think because you can hire a lawyer, then instantly you're right and will win? Ten thousand lawyers can't win this case when you're at the wrong side (well, maybe in a corrupt justice system like naija but still).

Start appeasing, begging, buying gifts, with a clear path that you want to be part of their life, and WALK THE TALK. Don't just talk, make sure you DO. Action. So start paying school fees, upkeep, even caregiver allowances to her mother.

You think parenting is easy abi? I take care of kids myself and that shit is hard as fork. If you can't do this, then you're not worthy to be in their life. Just fork off.

And most importantly, the second real fight is loading in the future, and that's the main fight. Her mother's fight with you is a warm up, but the real one is between you and the child. You better have a good explanation why you were not present in her life for the first seven years.

Also, better have a good explanation why you paid for her to be killed via abortion. Also have better explanation why you dumped her mum when she was pregnant, at her most vulnerable state and needed you the most.

So to salvage this impending war, better start making appeasement from now, and you'll need a lot of CASH. MONEY. And also presence. Thankfully, she is still a kid, and the Window to impress her is still widely open.

Start creating memories with her, and be present in her life. Otherwise, as you keep fooling yourself with suing and unwarranted tyranny, you're giving them more evidence why you're an idiot and should never be allowed back into their life.

And it's all your fault.

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Re: What Should I Do by HRMK: 7:39am On Jan 16, 2024

YOU ARE NOT SERIOUS AT ALL!WHO SAYS SHE IS YOUR DAUGHTER?DNA CAN ONLY PROVE THAT!

Re: What Should I Do by Gerrard59(m): 8:47am On Jan 16, 2024

When I talk say baby mama no good, e get why.

Impressive comments by Nairalanders. I am quite surprised at the unison behind the criticism of OP.

Sha, it cannot be because I would have you buried alive. No jokes. I don't forgive nor do I forget. I will ensure you get dealt with ruthlessly, thoroughly and mercilessly.

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Re: What Should I Do by Kukutente23: 9:42am On Jan 16, 2024

QVicky10:
Seeing as this is how you reason currently; it is no wonder, she wants nothing to do with you!

He really wrote that?

Re: What Should I Do by Sleekfingers: 11:21am On Jan 16, 2024

fyzaila:
See bros, another condition that i think might soften her broken heart is for you to tell her to Calculate all she has spent on your behalf on that baby girl. Let her calculate from the conceiving of the child till now that she is 7 years. Present her with the money then you can start begging from there. If not, you're just wasting your time.

You dare not try it with my daughter. Oku ni eleja n ta. ......
I will deal with you spiritually....No mercy. ..

Re: What Should I Do by Swaelyf(f): 11:54am On Jan 16, 2024

i dare you to sue her okuko, youd pay damages and still not get access, you provided funds for the abortion and ran and think you hv a case?im sure its her fathers name she put on tht childs birth cert and if is just go back to where youre coming from

Bongadu:
I impregnated my ex girlfriend when I was young and relocated because at time I was young and stupid, I gave her money for abortion but she disagreed on removing it , so I had no choice but to flee as I was irresponsible and poor
My ex girlfriend put to bed months after I left and raised the child living with her parents
I relocated back last year December , I'm trying to get back with my daughter but my ex won't let me be near me even I want to take responsibility and care for my daughter
She's getting me frustrated, I'm thinking of suing her for not letting me be a presence in my daughter's life

Re: What Should I Do by Swaelyf(f): 11:58am On Jan 16, 2024

id rather my daughter is fatherless than introduce her to a father that may abandon her tomorrow again

GboyegaD:
Is that enough to deny her of her father? She is not been fair to the daughter. I understand her pains but she needs look past that for the sake of her daughter.

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Re: What Should I Do by Abelino(m): 1:05pm On Jan 16, 2024

No the reason back ward... No be the same once suggested for abortion huh

Hypocrites Everywhere

GboyegaD:
Is that enough to deny her of her father? She is not been fair to the daughter. I understand her pains but she needs look past that for the sake of her daughter.

Re: What Should I Do by Abelino(m): 1:07pm On Jan 16, 2024

Na mouth u dey make ... Mtchewwww

Sleekfingers:
You dare not try it with my daughter. Oku ni eleja n ta. ......
I will deal with you spiritually....No mercy. ..

Re: What Should I Do by QVicky10(f): 1:15pm On Jan 16, 2024

Kukutente23:
He really wrote that?

Yes, he did. A glance through his profile will make one empathize more and more with his ex.

Re: What Should I Do by Kukutente23: 1:23pm On Jan 16, 2024

QVicky10:
Yes, he did. A glance through his profile will make one empathize more and more with his ex.

Dude is mad o
And I was even supporting the werey's right to see his daughter

Re: What Should I Do by Cheeryfeet: 1:39pm On Jan 16, 2024

Bongadu:
I've tried to be friends but she won't agree

Sending her money , she refuses

Buying gifts for my daughter, she says no

Bros this things take time. you have still not grown up after many years. You must truly care for her before you can make any head way with her. And if you truly want them back, you mut be very patient. You also seem not to understand her, you dont have any right to the child , you aborted the baby, who even said the child is yours? Give her time, care for them, be patient.

Re: What Should I Do by tollyboy5(m): 2:52pm On Jan 16, 2024

Bongadu:
I impregnated my ex girlfriend when I was young and relocated because at time I was young and stupid, I gave her money for abortion but she disagreed on removing it , so I had no choice inking of suing her for not letting me be a presence in my daughter's life

You dey crase! As a guy I will say that to you to your face.
Pikin wey you wan murder got her life saved by her mum now you as a beast want to claim fatherhood.

You better carry your parent to her parent to beg her

Re: What Should I Do by Mom007(f): 12:06am On Jan 17, 2024

Bongadu:
I've tried to be friends but she won't agree

Sending her money , she refuses

Buying gifts for my daughter, she says no

Ngwanu rest na...
You have forfeited your claim to the child after you gave her money to kill the baby ok... angry

Re: What Should I Do by benjanny(m): 3:51am On Jan 17, 2024

You are very stupid
and you still sound irresponsible

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