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Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by JaskTime7: 9:08am On Jan 20
Good day all..

Trust we're all doing great?

I am from a nuclear family of seven, five children and my two parents. I and my siblings grew up in Lagos. My dad is a land surveyor while my mum a petty trader. We all attended public school in Lagos (elementary and high school) I'm the third child of 5 children. I and my elder siblings had to hawk immediately we returned back from school before we could eat. Including my mum. My dad wasn't getting job but we had to survive. We were a laughing stock then in our neighborhood. We later advised our mum to put her goods in bag instead of tray, then supply to her customers. We were selling quick oat, butter, toothpaste et al. We got the goods on credit through someone and pay back after sales. We realized the profit wasn't sustainable, then we consider alternative means. We hawk during weekdays and wash cars and motorcycle weekend. With that we were able to pay our accommodation fee (a single room), put food on our table to some extent and other miscellaneous fee.

We've been on this for years. The landlord later gave us quit notice having realized we could no longer put up with the accommodation fee. My family moved into a friend's house. He lived in a room and palor. He gave us a room to live while him and his family lived in the other room. We were able to raised money after two years and rented an apartment (a single room) then moved in

My eldest brother (first child) was hit by a car when he was washing a customer's bike, he was rushed to a nearby hospital but we eventually lost him. We had to stopped the work because of that particular iccident. After several months of searching, i and my elder brother were able to get a factory work. I had plan of saving all my money with the hope of furthering my education, but family responsibility wouldn't allow me save. I later had a change of mind going to police academy, from my research, it was a free school and one would be absorbed as an ASP officer, that's automatic employment. I sat for jamb and the school post jamb at police college Ikeja, Lagos. I was shortlisted for final screening at wudil Kano. Unfortunately, i couldn't make it. I don't have much money to get the needed materials and transportation fee. It was a sad experience for me.

I continued working, but this time around, i wasn't supporting the family with all my money. I had some savings. My supervisor advised me to further my education. He claimed i can't continue this job throughout my lifetime. I took jamb the following year and got admission. I bought bike (motorcycle) with the little savings i had after paying my tuition fee and other necessity. I gave out the bike as Higher purchase. The bike man delivered six thousand naira weekly until the bike become his. I didn't get accommodation in school because i couldn't afford it. I was squatting with friends. My elder brother enrol for part time program. During holiday i often rushed down home to find something doing that could fetch me some money.

I realized my elder brother was stealing company's goods with his friends. I gave him serious warning to stop that but he wouldn't listen. I was forced to tell my parents but he denied it. I was in school when my younger brother called me that my elder brother has been arrested with his friends. After the investigation, police demanded for a million naira before he would be released. I learnt the company management has let go the case. My elder brother has been behind bar for more than 7 years now without a way out. We can't say if he's alive or dead. I saw one of his friends mid last year, and he told me most of his friends had been released having met the condition of the police officers. I'm done with school but couldn't secure a job. I've gotten to the final stage of some organization, I've done medical test but i wasn't called up. My younger brother has finished his high school since 2019 but couldn't further his education. He's very talented in playing football. My little sister finished her high school last year and the little girl was asking if she could take jamb. My dad has been seriously ill for some days now but no means of getting him drugs nor taking him to the hospital. I fear for my dad at this moment. My family struggled daily before we could have a square meal. My mum has prayed, cried, fasted nothing changes. She was saying it could be a family course. My family is gradually going into extinction.

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by Freelancerr(m): 9:20am On Jan 20
No uncles or relatives?

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by Scholace: 9:25am On Jan 20
This is really terrible. The world is coming to an end. All these hardship has been written in Bible to befall mankind

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by JaskTime7: 9:42am On Jan 20
Freelancerr:
No uncles or relatives?
My dad had three other siblings. They're all going through their own challenges. This was what made my mum said our family could be cursed.

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by GRACEGLORY: 9:46am On Jan 20
JaskTime7:
Good day all..

Trust we're all doing great?

I am from a nuclear family of seven, five children and my two parents. I and my siblings grew up in Lagos. My dad is a land surveyor while my mum a petty trader. We all attended public school in Lagos (elementary and high school) I'm the third child of 5 children. I am my elder siblings had to hawk immediately we returned back from school before we could eat. Including my mum. My dad wasn't getting job but we had to survive. We were a laughing stock then in our neighborhood. We later advised our mum to put her goods in bag instead of tray, then supply to her customers. We were selling quick oat, butter, toothpaste et al. We got the goods on credit through someone and pay back after sales. We realized the profit wasn't sustainable, then we consider alternative means. We hawk during weekdays and wash cars and motorcycle weekend. With that we were able to pay our accommodation fee (a single room), put food on our table to some extent and other miscellaneous fee.

We've been on this for years. The landlord later gave us quit notice having realized we could no longer put up with the accommodation fee. My family moved into a friend's house. He lived in a room and palor. He gave us a room to live while him and his family lived in the other room. We were able to raised money after two years and rented an apartment (a single room) then moved in

My eldest brother (first child) was hit by a car when he was washing a customer's bike, he was rushed to a nearby hospital but we eventually lost him. We had to stopped the work because of that particular iccident. After several months of searching, i and my elder brother were able to get a factory work. I had plan of saving all my money with the hope of furthering my education, but family responsibility wouldn't allow me save. I later had a change of mind going to police academy, from my research, it was a free school and one would be absorbed as an ASP officer, that's automatic employment. I sat for jamb and the school post jamb at police college Ikeja, Lagos. I was shortlisted for final screening at wudil Kano. Unfortunately, i couldn't make it. I don't have much money to get the needed materials and transportation fee. It was a sad experience for me.

I continued working, but this time around, i wasn't supporting the family with all my money. I had some savings. My supervisor advised me to further my education. He claimed i can't continue this job throughout my lifetime. I took jamb the following year and got admission. I bought bike (motorcycle) with the little savings i had after paying my tuition fee and other necessity. I gave out the bike as Higher purchase. The bike man delivered six thousand naira weekly until the bike become his. I didn't get accommodation in school because i couldn't afford it. I was squatting with friends. My elder brother enrol for part time program. During holiday i often rushed down home to find something doing that could fetch me some money.

I realized my elder brother was stealing company's goods with his friends. I gave him serious warning to stop that but he wouldn't listen. I was forced to tell my parents but he denied it. I was in school when my younger brother called me that my elder brother has been arrested with his friends. After the investigation, police demanded for a million naira before he would be released. I learnt the company management has let go the case. My elder brother has been behind bar for more than 7 years now without a way out. We can't say if he's alive or dead. I saw one of his friends mid last year, and he told me most of his friends had been released having met the condition of the police officer. I'm done with school but couldn't secure a job. I've gotten to the final stage of some organization, I've done medical test but i wasn't called up. My younger brother has finished his high school since 2019 but couldn't further his education. He's very talented in playing football. My little sister finished her high school last year and the little girl was asking if she could take jamb. My dad has been seriously ill for some days now but no means of getting him drugs nor taking him to the hospital. I fear for my dad at this moment. My family struggled daily before we could have a square meal. My mum has prayed, cried, fasted nothing changes. She was saying it could be a family course. My family is gradually going into extinction.




It’s quite a sad experience, but that ordinance can be rewritten.
Sometimes some of us finds ourselves in lineages turn down, downtrodden, cursed, and in abject poverty even before our arrival, some of us may even find ourselves in lineages blessed, merry, and well defended and rich, for some, theirs are in between.
We were created for battles, and it’s because of these battles that we’ve been born. The battle may be within our household to change the foundation, it may even be against the nation that we were born in, it may even be to resolve chaos in another country.
But one thing is certain, by whom or those were born, the country or race is no mistake.

We are all born warriors to destroy what the enemy had done, doing or plans to do. YOU ARE A WARRIOR.

We be born into a family or lineage that bears a curse, all we need to do is switch foundations. These are spiritual truths. For the spiritual controls the physical. There are spiritual foundations.

2 Timothy 2:19
But the firm foundation of (laid by) God stands, sure and unshaken, bearing this seal (inscription): The Lord knows those who are His, and, Let everyone who names [himself by] the name of the Lord give up all iniquity and stand aloof from it.

One of the wonderful truths of Scripture is found in Romans 8:1: “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” (That is, those whose foundations are changed to Christ’s).

Seek Jesus and you’d be exempted.

John 8:32
And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.

John 8:36
If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by Neptunium(m): 9:53am On Jan 20
It's no curse but lack of money. 5 children from 2 parents who don't have the financial means to fend for them.

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by Sangoamadioha1: 9:57am On Jan 20
GRACEGLORY:





It’s quite a sad experience, but that ordinance can be rewritten.
Sometimes some of us finds ourselves in lineages turn down, downtrodden, cursed, and in abject poverty even before our arrival, some of us may even find ourselves in lineages blessed, merry, and well defended and rich, for some, theirs are in between.
We were created for battles, and it’s because of these battles that we’ve been born. The battle may be within our household to change the foundation, it may even be against the nation that we were born in, it may even be to resolve chaos in another country.
But one thing is certain, by whom or those were born, the country or race is no mistake.

We are all born warriors to destroy what the enemy had done, doing or plans to do. YOU ARE A WARRIOR.

We be born into a family or lineage that bears a curse, all we need to do is switch foundations. These are spiritual truths. For the spiritual controls the physical. There are spiritual foundations.

2 Timothy 2:19
But the firm foundation of (laid by) God stands, sure and unshaken, bearing this seal (inscription): The Lord knows those who are His, and, Let everyone who names [himself by] the name of the Lord give up all iniquity and stand aloof from it.

One of the wonderful truths of Scripture is found in Romans 8:1: “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” (That is, those whose foundations are changed to Christ’s).

Seek Jesus and you’d be exempted.

John 8:32
And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.

John 8:36
If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.






Bros all these are just motivational talks and it does nothing to change his situation. What this guy needs is a helper.
Please anybody that is in a position to help this guy either with a job or better start up capital should please help. I wish I was in a position to help, these are the kinds of people that need help and not that Quadri guy that scams people with sob stories using different monikers.
Someone in a position to help should please help this guy.

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by Scholace: 10:02am On Jan 20
Neptunium:
It's no curse but lack of money. 5 children from 2 parents who don't have the financial means to fend for them.
I know it's lack of money majorly but family curse maybe part of it.

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by VTJN(m): 10:19am On Jan 20
GRACEGLORY:





It’s quite a sad experience, but that ordinance can be rewritten.
Sometimes some of us finds ourselves in lineages turn down, downtrodden, cursed, and in abject poverty even before our arrival, some of us may even find ourselves in lineages blessed, merry, and well defended and rich, for some, theirs are in between.
We were created for battles, and it’s because of these battles that we’ve been born. The battle may be within our household to change the foundation, it may even be against the nation that we were born in, it may even be to resolve chaos in another country.
But one thing is certain, by whom or those were born, the country or race is no mistake.

We are all born warriors to destroy what the enemy had done, doing or plans to do. YOU ARE A WARRIOR.

We be born into a family or lineage that bears a curse, all we need to do is switch foundations. These are spiritual truths. For the spiritual controls the physical. There are spiritual foundations.

2 Timothy 2:19
But the firm foundation of (laid by) God stands, sure and unshaken, bearing this seal (inscription): The Lord knows those who are His, and, Let everyone who names [himself by] the name of the Lord give up all iniquity and stand aloof from it.

One of the wonderful truths of Scripture is found in Romans 8:1: “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” (That is, those whose foundations are changed to Christ’s).

Seek Jesus and you’d be exempted.

John 8:32
And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.

John 8:36
If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.


what make you think all these will solve OP and his family problem? How many people problems has it solved?

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by Villa12(m): 10:32am On Jan 20
JaskTime7:
Good day all..

Trust we're all doing great?

I am from a nuclear family of seven, five children and my two parents. I and my siblings grew up in Lagos. My dad is a land surveyor while my mum a petty trader. We all attended public school in Lagos (elementary and high school) I'm the third child of 5 children. I am my elder siblings had to hawk immediately we returned back from school before we could eat. Including my mum. My dad wasn't getting job but we had to survive. We were a laughing stock then in our neighborhood. We later advised our mum to put her goods in bag instead of tray, then supply to her customers. We were selling quick oat, butter, toothpaste et al. We got the goods on credit through someone and pay back after sales. We realized the profit wasn't sustainable, then we consider alternative means. We hawk during weekdays and wash cars and motorcycle weekend. With that we were able to pay our accommodation fee (a single room), put food on our table to some extent and other miscellaneous fee.

We've been on this for years. The landlord later gave us quit notice having realized we could no longer put up with the accommodation fee. My family moved into a friend's house. He lived in a room and palor. He gave us a room to live while him and his family lived in the other room. We were able to raised money after two years and rented an apartment (a single room) then moved in

My eldest brother (first child) was hit by a car when he was washing a customer's bike, he was rushed to a nearby hospital but we eventually lost him. We had to stopped the work because of that particular iccident. After several months of searching, i and my elder brother were able to get a factory work. I had plan of saving all my money with the hope of furthering my education, but family responsibility wouldn't allow me save. I later had a change of mind going to police academy, from my research, it was a free school and one would be absorbed as an ASP officer, that's automatic employment. I sat for jamb and the school post jamb at police college Ikeja, Lagos. I was shortlisted for final screening at wudil Kano. Unfortunately, i couldn't make it. I don't have much money to get the needed materials and transportation fee. It was a sad experience for me.

I continued working, but this time around, i wasn't supporting the family with all my money. I had some savings. My supervisor advised me to further my education. He claimed i can't continue this job throughout my lifetime. I took jamb the following year and got admission. I bought bike (motorcycle) with the little savings i had after paying my tuition fee and other necessity. I gave out the bike as Higher purchase. The bike man delivered six thousand naira weekly until the bike become his. I didn't get accommodation in school because i couldn't afford it. I was squatting with friends. My elder brother enrol for part time program. During holiday i often rushed down home to find something doing that could fetch me some money.

I realized my elder brother was stealing company's goods with his friends. I gave him serious warning to stop that but he wouldn't listen. I was forced to tell my parents but he denied it. I was in school when my younger brother called me that my elder brother has been arrested with his friends. After the investigation, police demanded for a million naira before he would be released. I learnt the company management has let go the case. My elder brother has been behind bar for more than 7 years now without a way out. We can't say if he's alive or dead. I saw one of his friends mid last year, and he told me most of his friends had been released having met the condition of the police officer. I'm done with school but couldn't secure a job. I've gotten to the final stage of some organization, I've done medical test but i wasn't called up. My younger brother has finished his high school since 2019 but couldn't further his education. He's very talented in playing football. My little sister finished her high school last year and the little girl was asking if she could take jamb. My dad has been seriously ill for some days now but no means of getting him drugs nor taking him to the hospital. I fear for my dad at this moment. My family struggled daily before we could have a square meal. My mum has prayed, cried, fasted nothing changes. She was saying it could be a family course. My family is gradually going into extinction.
I sympathize with your family. You guys need to look for your brother and get him out of that place. I hope he's still alive.

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by PlsBanMe: 10:53am On Jan 20
I think your family is cursed but it isn't the kind of curse you think. The curse is from your parents. It is a self made curse.

Giving birth to 5 children when you don't have the resources to cater for 2 is a great curse.

All your problems are from lack of money.

As for you not getting a job, continue to apply. You will eventually get a job. For now do anything legitimate that can fetch you money.

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by NigeriaIsGreat: 11:26am On Jan 20
GRACEGLORY:





It’s quite a sad experience, but that ordinance can be rewritten.
Sometimes some of us finds ourselves in lineages turn down, downtrodden, cursed, and in abject poverty even before our arrival, some of us may even find ourselves in lineages blessed, merry, and well defended and rich, for some, theirs are in between.
We were created for battles, and it’s because of these battles that we’ve been born. The battle may be within our household to change the foundation, it may even be against the nation that we were born in, it may even be to resolve chaos in another country.
But one thing is certain, by whom or those were born, the country or race is no mistake.

We are all born warriors to destroy what the enemy had done, doing or plans to do. YOU ARE A WARRIOR.

We be born into a family or lineage that bears a curse, all we need to do is switch foundations. These are spiritual truths. For the spiritual controls the physical. There are spiritual foundations.

2 Timothy 2:19
But the firm foundation of (laid by) God stands, sure and unshaken, bearing this seal (inscription): The Lord knows those who are His, and, Let everyone who names [himself by] the name of the Lord give up all iniquity and stand aloof from it.

One of the wonderful truths of Scripture is found in Romans 8:1: “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” (That is, those whose foundations are changed to Christ’s).

Seek Jesus and you’d be exempted.

John 8:32
And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.

John 8:36
If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.


I no understand how you religious people dey reason. How will you be preaching to people that have been starving for days? Is that what they need? Your men of God are enjoying while their members are suffering, using Bible verses to decieve them. Is that what Christ did? Didn't Christ feed those that are hungry to their satisfaction? Nawa for una

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by keepingmum: 11:29am On Jan 20
I dont think theres a spiritual element to it. I believe this bores down to money and a clear lack of plan.

Your dad had no stable source of income, no real business or steady side hustle and your mum, for lack of better words was unemployed. Petty trading cannot even yield profit enough to pay Nepa bills nor feed a family of 4 for a week

Yet rather than stop procreating at 2 children, your parents continued to give birth to 5.

Its possible that if they had stopped at 2 children, they ll still be poor however not at the level of poverty they are in and therefore your siblings would not need to experience the hardship they have experienced.

Your oldest brother choose a life of crime. Poverty is no excuse. Thats why we have rich kids and even politicians stealing from parastatals and positions of power. A criminal minded person will always have a "valid" reason to perpetuate crime. For example, imagine if the owner of the company that employed your brother (in good faith), took out a loan to start that business and relied on the profit off that business to not only sustain the business, pay back the loan, look after his own children's tuition, parents rent etc but he couldn't meet up because your brother choose to steal off him. Would that be fair?? (I also did not see where you said your brother used the proceeds of his crime to elevate your family/support your tuition in sch/set up your parents a new business).

Again, neither your parents appear to have any good business acumen nor hustling spirit because i didnt see where your dad went pick up driving work to support his family not your mum set up fry pan to fry akara at the bus stop to support her family. Your parents appear to havr the mentality of "i have given birth to you , its now your turn to look after me and your siblings".
This type of mentality often puts unnecessary pressure on young minds and children with little direction can be easily swayed especially if there arent decent role models in their lives.

Despite what life has thrown at you, i am glad you realised that to save people from a burning car, you need to get out first......hence the step you took to reduce the support you were sending home until u achieved your own milestones. I am afraid you will need to continue to do that for a while until your finances improve.

Keep praying, keep striving hard, stay away from crime and ALWAYS be in charge of your destiny. Dont forget where you are coming from but use that as a reminder of all the mistakes to avoid in order to get to your desired destination.

Good luck and God bless you

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by IceColdVeins(m): 11:51am On Jan 20
JaskTime7:
Good day all..

Trust we're all doing great?

I am from a nuclear family of seven, five children and my two parents. I and my siblings grew up in Lagos. My dad is a land surveyor while my mum a petty trader. We all attended public school in Lagos (elementary and high school) I'm the third child of 5 children. I am my elder siblings had to hawk immediately we returned back from school before we could eat. Including my mum. My dad wasn't getting job but we had to survive. We were a laughing stock then in our neighborhood. We later advised our mum to put her goods in bag instead of tray, then supply to her customers. We were selling quick oat, butter, toothpaste et al. We got the goods on credit through someone and pay back after sales. We realized the profit wasn't sustainable, then we consider alternative means. We hawk during weekdays and wash cars and motorcycle weekend. With that we were able to pay our accommodation fee (a single room), put food on our table to some extent and other miscellaneous fee.

We've been on this for years. The landlord later gave us quit notice having realized we could no longer put up with the accommodation fee. My family moved into a friend's house. He lived in a room and palor. He gave us a room to live while him and his family lived in the other room. We were able to raised money after two years and rented an apartment (a single room) then moved in

My eldest brother (first child) was hit by a car when he was washing a customer's bike, he was rushed to a nearby hospital but we eventually lost him. We had to stopped the work because of that particular iccident. After several months of searching, i and my elder brother were able to get a factory work. I had plan of saving all my money with the hope of furthering my education, but family responsibility wouldn't allow me save. I later had a change of mind going to police academy, from my research, it was a free school and one would be absorbed as an ASP officer, that's automatic employment. I sat for jamb and the school post jamb at police college Ikeja, Lagos. I was shortlisted for final screening at wudil Kano. Unfortunately, i couldn't make it. I don't have much money to get the needed materials and transportation fee. It was a sad experience for me.

I continued working, but this time around, i wasn't supporting the family with all my money. I had some savings. My supervisor advised me to further my education. He claimed i can't continue this job throughout my lifetime. I took jamb the following year and got admission. I bought bike (motorcycle) with the little savings i had after paying my tuition fee and other necessity. I gave out the bike as Higher purchase. The bike man delivered six thousand naira weekly until the bike become his. I didn't get accommodation in school because i couldn't afford it. I was squatting with friends. My elder brother enrol for part time program. During holiday i often rushed down home to find something doing that could fetch me some money.

I realized my elder brother was stealing company's goods with his friends. I gave him serious warning to stop that but he wouldn't listen. I was forced to tell my parents but he denied it. I was in school when my younger brother called me that my elder brother has been arrested with his friends. After the investigation, police demanded for a million naira before he would be released. I learnt the company management has let go the case. My elder brother has been behind bar for more than 7 years now without a way out. We can't say if he's alive or dead. I saw one of his friends mid last year, and he told me most of his friends had been released having met the condition of the police officer. I'm done with school but couldn't secure a job. I've gotten to the final stage of some organization, I've done medical test but i wasn't called up. My younger brother has finished his high school since 2019 but couldn't further his education. He's very talented in playing football. My little sister finished her high school last year and the little girl was asking if she could take jamb. My dad has been seriously ill for some days now but no means of getting him drugs nor taking him to the hospital. I fear for my dad at this moment. My family struggled daily before we could have a square meal. My mum has prayed, cried, fasted nothing changes. She was saying it could be a family course. My family is gradually going into extinction.
Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by JaskTime7: 11:58am On Jan 20
keepingmum:
I dont think theres a spiritual element to it. I believe this bores down to money and a clear lack of plan.

Your dad had no stable source of income, no real business or steady side hustle and your mum, for lack of better words was unemployed. Petty trading cannot even yield profit enough to pay Nepa bills nor feed a family of 4 for a week

Yet rather than stop procreating at 2 children, your parents continued to give birth to 5.

Its possible that if they had stopped at 2 children, they ll still be poor however not at the level of poverty they are in and therefore your siblings would not need to experience the hardship they have experienced.

Your oldest brother choose a life of crime. Poverty is no excuse. Thats why we have rich kids and even politicians stealing from parastatals and positions of power. A criminal minded person will always have a "valid" reason to perpetuate crime. For example, imagine if the owner of the company that employed your brother (in good faith), took out a loan to start that business and relied on the profit off that business to not only sustain the business, pay back the loan, look after his own children's tuition, parents rent etc but he couldn't meet up because your brother choose to steal off him. Would that be fair?? (I also did not see where you said your brother used the proceeds of his crime to elevate your family/support your tuition in sch/set up your parents a new business).

Again, neither your parents appear to have any good business acumen nor hustling spirit because i didnt see where your dad went pick up driving work to support his family not your mum set up fry pan to fry akara at the bus stop to support her family. Your parents appear to havr the mentality of "i have given birth to you , its now your turn to look after me and your siblings".
This type of mentality often puts unnecessary pressure on young minds and children with little direction can be easily swayed especially if there arent decent role models in their lives.

Despite what life has thrown at you, i am glad you realised that to save people from a burning car, you need to get out first......hence the step you took to reduce the support you were sending home until u achieved your own milestones. I am afraid you will need to continue to do that for a while until your finances improve.

Keep praying, keep striving hard, stay away from crime and ALWAYS be in charge of your destiny. Dont forget where you are coming from but use that as a reminder of all the mistakes to avoid in order to get to your desired destination.

Good luck and God bless you
My mum at some point was into cleaning. She worked as a cleaner in different houses and also help some people with their laundry. She later fell sick and couldn't put up with that anymore, probably age is already taking a toll on her. She's 64 years now. My dad was into farming then, he do farm on people's vacant land. I and my younger ones do help him often, then later the land owners took over their lands for building.

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by Lifeinlight: 1:18pm On Jan 20
GRACEGLORY:





It’s quite a sad experience, but that ordinance can be rewritten.
Sometimes some of us finds ourselves in lineages turn down, downtrodden, cursed, and in abject poverty even before our arrival, some of us may even find ourselves in lineages blessed, merry, and well defended and rich, for some, theirs are in between.
We were created for battles, and it’s because of these battles that we’ve been born. The battle may be within our household to change the foundation, it may even be against the nation that we were born in, it may even be to resolve chaos in another country.
But one thing is certain, by whom or those were born, the country or race is no mistake.

We are all born warriors to destroy what the enemy had done, doing or plans to do. YOU ARE A WARRIOR.

We be born into a family or lineage that bears a curse, all we need to do is switch foundations. These are spiritual truths. For the spiritual controls the physical. There are spiritual foundations.

2 Timothy 2:19
But the firm foundation of (laid by) God stands, sure and unshaken, bearing this seal (inscription): The Lord knows those who are His, and, Let everyone who names [himself by] the name of the Lord give up all iniquity and stand aloof from it.

One of the wonderful truths of Scripture is found in Romans 8:1: “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” (That is, those whose foundations are changed to Christ’s).

Seek Jesus and you’d be exempted.

John 8:32
And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.

John 8:36
If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.


How many Nigerians has these save from poverty? Has it save you, neighbors, Families?

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by FarmPlanetNG: 1:45pm On Jan 20
JaskTime7:
My mum at some point was into cleaning. She worked as a cleaner in different houses and also help some people with their laundry. She later fell sick and couldn't put up with that anymore, probably age is already taking a toll on her. She's 64 years now. My dad was into farming then, he do farm on people's vacant land. I and my younger ones do help him often, then later the land owners took over their lands for building.


If you want farm job with feeding and accomodation, let me know

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by arcnomec(m): 4:07pm On Jan 20
JaskTime7:
Good day all..

Trust we're all doing great?

I am from a nuclear family of seven, five children and my two parents. I and my siblings grew up in Lagos. My dad is a land surveyor while my mum a petty trader. We all attended public school in Lagos (elementary and high school) I'm the third child of 5 children. I am my elder siblings had to hawk immediately we returned back from school before we could eat. Including my mum. My dad wasn't getting job but we had to survive. We were a laughing stock then in our neighborhood. We later advised our mum to put her goods in bag instead of tray, then supply to her customers. We were selling quick oat, butter, toothpaste et al. We got the goods on credit through someone and pay back after sales. We realized the profit wasn't sustainable, then we consider alternative means. We hawk during weekdays and wash cars and motorcycle weekend. With that we were able to pay our accommodation fee (a single room), put food on our table to some extent and other miscellaneous fee.

We've been on this for years. The landlord later gave us quit notice having realized we could no longer put up with the accommodation fee. My family moved into a friend's house. He lived in a room and palor. He gave us a room to live while him and his family lived in the other room. We were able to raised money after two years and rented an apartment (a single room) then moved in

My eldest brother (first child) was hit by a car when he was washing a customer's bike, he was rushed to a nearby hospital but we eventually lost him. We had to stopped the work because of that particular iccident. After several months of searching, i and my elder brother were able to get a factory work. I had plan of saving all my money with the hope of furthering my education, but family responsibility wouldn't allow me save. I later had a change of mind going to police academy, from my research, it was a free school and one would be absorbed as an ASP officer, that's automatic employment. I sat for jamb and the school post jamb at police college Ikeja, Lagos. I was shortlisted for final screening at wudil Kano. Unfortunately, i couldn't make it. I don't have much money to get the needed materials and transportation fee. It was a sad experience for me.

I continued working, but this time around, i wasn't supporting the family with all my money. I had some savings. My supervisor advised me to further my education. He claimed i can't continue this job throughout my lifetime. I took jamb the following year and got admission. I bought bike (motorcycle) with the little savings i had after paying my tuition fee and other necessity. I gave out the bike as Higher purchase. The bike man delivered six thousand naira weekly until the bike become his. I didn't get accommodation in school because i couldn't afford it. I was squatting with friends. My elder brother enrol for part time program. During holiday i often rushed down home to find something doing that could fetch me some money.

I realized my elder brother was stealing company's goods with his friends. I gave him serious warning to stop that but he wouldn't listen. I was forced to tell my parents but he denied it. I was in school when my younger brother called me that my elder brother has been arrested with his friends. After the investigation, police demanded for a million naira before he would be released. I learnt the company management has let go the case. My elder brother has been behind bar for more than 7 years now without a way out. We can't say if he's alive or dead. I saw one of his friends mid last year, and he told me most of his friends had been released having met the condition of the police officer. I'm done with school but couldn't secure a job. I've gotten to the final stage of some organization, I've done medical test but i wasn't called up. My younger brother has finished his high school since 2019 but couldn't further his education. He's very talented in playing football. My little sister finished her high school last year and the little girl was asking if she could take jamb. My dad has been seriously ill for some days now but no means of getting him drugs nor taking him to the hospital. I fear for my dad at this moment. My family struggled daily before we could have a square meal. My mum has prayed, cried, fasted nothing changes. She was saying it could be a family course. My family is gradually going into extinction.


Check your mail and drop your phone contact let us talk.

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by Nice2023(m): 6:28pm On Jan 20
This is what NBS termed as multi dimensional poverty.

Crazy.



Yours isn't cursed.

Pls,change ur environment now...even if it means to relocate to the North,south or Eastern Nigeria.

The earlier u decide to this,come next year,u will thank me.

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by LalastiklaIa(m): 7:40pm On Jan 20
People blame ancestral curse over their own mistakes and doing. Why breed 5 children in poverty. When you can get 1 and give him the best with your limited resources

Imagine losing your life as a youngman hustling because of poverty. Kai

The children of the G.O you go to their church to shout amen to have their kids in UK with British accent grin

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by NSNO(m): 7:48pm On Jan 20
I pray you find the help you need.

But you shouldn't have brought this to nairaland because we have a lot of children here who don't know when to stop joking. They will definitely make fun of you.

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by frozen70(f): 8:00pm On Jan 20
JaskTime7:
Good day all..

Trust we're all doing great?

I am from a nuclear family of seven, five children and my two parents. I and my siblings grew up in Lagos. My dad is a land surveyor while my mum a petty trader. We all attended public school in Lagos (elementary and high school) I'm the third child of 5 children. I am my elder siblings had to hawk immediately we returned back from school before we could eat. Including my mum. My dad wasn't getting job but we had to survive. We were a laughing stock then in our neighborhood. We later advised our mum to put her goods in bag instead of tray, then supply to her customers. We were selling quick oat, butter, toothpaste et al. We got the goods on credit through someone and pay back after sales. We realized the profit wasn't sustainable, then we consider alternative means. We hawk during weekdays and wash cars and motorcycle weekend. With that we were able to pay our accommodation fee (a single room), put food on our table to some extent and other miscellaneous fee.

We've been on this for years. The landlord later gave us quit notice having realized we could no longer put up with the accommodation fee. My family moved into a friend's house. He lived in a room and palor. He gave us a room to live while him and his family lived in the other room. We were able to raised money after two years and rented an apartment (a single room) then moved in

My eldest brother (first child) was hit by a car when he was washing a customer's bike, he was rushed to a nearby hospital but we eventually lost him. We had to stopped the work because of that particular iccident. After several months of searching, i and my elder brother were able to get a factory work. I had plan of saving all my money with the hope of furthering my education, but family responsibility wouldn't allow me save. I later had a change of mind going to police academy, from my research, it was a free school and one would be absorbed as an ASP officer, that's automatic employment. I sat for jamb and the school post jamb at police college Ikeja, Lagos. I was shortlisted for final screening at wudil Kano. Unfortunately, i couldn't make it. I don't have much money to get the needed materials and transportation fee. It was a sad experience for me.

I continued working, but this time around, i wasn't supporting the family with all my money. I had some savings. My supervisor advised me to further my education. He claimed i can't continue this job throughout my lifetime. I took jamb the following year and got admission. I bought bike (motorcycle) with the little savings i had after paying my tuition fee and other necessity. I gave out the bike as Higher purchase. The bike man delivered six thousand naira weekly until the bike become his. I didn't get accommodation in school because i couldn't afford it. I was squatting with friends. My elder brother enrol for part time program. During holiday i often rushed down home to find something doing that could fetch me some money.

I realized my elder brother was stealing company's goods with his friends. I gave him serious warning to stop that but he wouldn't listen. I was forced to tell my parents but he denied it. I was in school when my younger brother called me that my elder brother has been arrested with his friends. After the investigation, police demanded for a million naira before he would be released. I learnt the company management has let go the case. My elder brother has been behind bar for more than 7 years now without a way out. We can't say if he's alive or dead. I saw one of his friends mid last year, and he told me most of his friends had been released having met the condition of the police officer. I'm done with school but couldn't secure a job. I've gotten to the final stage of some organization, I've done medical test but i wasn't called up. My younger brother has finished his high school since 2019 but couldn't further his education. He's very talented in playing football. My little sister finished her high school last year and the little girl was asking if she could take jamb. My dad has been seriously ill for some days now but no means of getting him drugs nor taking him to the hospital. I fear for my dad at this moment. My family struggled daily before we could have a square meal. My mum has prayed, cried, fasted nothing changes. She was saying it could be a family course. My family is gradually going into extinction.

What a teary story of a family who struggles to meet up

You guys are not cursed, the only problem I see there is poverty, which your parents couldn't brake during their prime time

But God will Make away soon for your family

As for your brother in jail, his stubbornness put him there because you warned him before now

Let him serve his jail term and he will be out soon

For you and others try not to have much children so that you can care for their future and education no matter the income

I appreciate your efforts to raise yourself to the point you are
Pls don't give up

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by Lifeinlight: 8:08pm On Jan 20
Nice2023:
This is what NBS termed as multi dimensional poverty.

Crazy.



Your isn't cursed.

Pls,change ur environment now...even if it means to relocate to the North,south or Eastern Nigeria.

The earlier u decide to this,come next year,u will thank me.


does changing of environment guarantee success?

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by EreluRoz: 8:09pm On Jan 20
Very sad story.

Go and ask your dad to trace his root and get to the source of the problems.

Look for an anointed man of God to follow your process to deliverance.

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by ecolime(m): 8:11pm On Jan 20
Keep job hunting aggressively and be prayerful as well.
Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by Nice2023(m): 8:12pm On Jan 20
Lifeinlight:
does changing of environment guarantee success?



It does 100% it worked for me and that is why I am advising.

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by LalastiklaIa(m): 8:16pm On Jan 20
frozen70:


What a teary story of a family who struggles to meet up

You guys are not cursed, the only problem I see there us poverty, which your parents couldn't brahe during his prime time

But God will Mahe away soon fir your family

As fir your brother in jail, his stubbornness put him there because you warned him before now

Let him serve his jail term and he will be out soon

For you and others try not to have much children so thst you can care for their future and education no matter the income

I appreciate your efforts to raise yourself to the point you are
Pls don't give up

I love the way you said his parents misused their primetime

If I were him and he believes in the curse. I'd rather not father any kid than give birth to children to continue the lineage of poverty

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by ceeceeuwa: 11:30pm On Jan 20
Scholace:
I know it's lack of money majorly but family curse maybe part of it.
If you are based in Lagos i will like to direct you to a prophet of God. It will be your last bus stop trust me.
Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by marsup: 12:39am On Jan 21
Can I have your number?
What kinda illness is your dad suffering from?
Which of the prisons is your bro in?

Hey, before you answer me, pls be sure you are real.

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by ednut1(m): 4:07am On Jan 21
This is a self inflicted issue by your parents. If they had just 2 kids things maybe have turned out better. Dont give up breakthrough fit happen anytime

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by JaskTime7: 6:28am On Jan 21
arcnomec:



Check your mail and drop your phone contact let us talk.
I have replied your email

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Re: Is My Family Truly Cursed Or Not? by Scholace: 6:32am On Jan 21
ceeceeuwa:

If you are based in Lagos i will like to direct you to a prophet of God. It will be your last bus stop trust me.
I think you should help OP out on that. Then he can give us the outcome here

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