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marsup:
Can I have your number?
What kinda illness is your dad suffering from?
Which of the prisons is your bro in?

Hey, before you answer me, pls be sure you are real.

he has been complaining migraine headache, weaknesses and body pain. He hardly sleep at night sometime

I send you a mail

Neptunium:
It's no curse but lack of money. 5 children from 2 parents who don't have the financial means to fend for them.

Why do you people like to act as if having many children is the cause of people who have (financial) problems in life?

What about the people with many children who don't have that problem? Having fewer children is not the solution to lifes problems, so please, stop looking down on and bashing such people.

There are homeless people who have never been married and have no children, living rough on the streets. Which "5 children" do you blame for that happening?

JaskTime7:
he has been complaining migraine headache, weaknesses and body pain. He hardly sleep at night sometime

I send you a mail

Has he been tested for common ailments in older people, eg. High blood pressure, diabetes?

Lifeinlight:
does changing of environment guarantee success?

Different things work for different people. A change of location is always a good shift.

BRATISLAVA:
Has he been tested for common ailments in older people, eg. High blood pressure, diabetes?

No. He has not done any test yet.

JaskTime7:
No. He has not done any test yet.

He should. I believe blood pressure tests are free.

Lifeinlight:
does changing of environment guarantee success?

Not really but a great decision to start fresh life with a fresh hustle because it's better to start any dirty mistake where no one know ur story ..
Unlike where u are known

Kingrshd3:
Not really but a great decision to start fresh life with a fresh hustle because it's better to start any dirty mistake where no one know ur story ..
Unlike where u are known

I agree with you to start afresh where people don't know you, but that doesn't guarantee success. Also, what if someone doesn't have anyone in the so called new environment. Expecially for a guy. How do you expect him to get accommodation and settle down?

BRATISLAVA:
He should. I believe blood pressure tests are free.

blood test is not free in Nigeria o

Lifeinlight:
I agree with you to start afresh where people don't know you, but that doesn't guarantee success. Also, what if someone doesn't have anyone in the so called new environment. Expecially for a guy. How do you expect him to get accommodation and settle down?

Yes u are right life life life doesn't have a valid manual like a car.

May God direct us in the right path 🙏

BRATISLAVA:
Why do you people like to act as if having many children is the cause of people who have (financial) problems in life?

What about the people with many children who don't have that problem? Having fewer children is not the solution to lifes problems, so please, stop looking down on and bashing such people.

There are homeless people who have never been married and have no children, living rough on the streets. Which "5 children" do you blame for that happening?

in context of Nigeria, aside the fact that government improvished the masses for their selfish interest. The major cause of poverty is having too many children as a poor man. The little resources meant for 1 or two kids will have to be shared among half a dozen kids. Most of these poor parents depends on their children later for survival. This has led so many children into crime as a result of family responsibility. Take OP situation as a case study. He's from a poor background, his elder brother couldn't hold it anymore he resorted ito stealing before he was caught. Why do we have much of our youths as Yahoo Yahoo today? Go and check their families. They're all from poor home. Government is not the only cause of poverty in Nigeria, we also have our share too.

ecolime:
Keep job hunting aggressively and be prayerful as well.

He has been doing that already but nothing to show for it yet. Only through referral or connection one can get job easily in this country. He got to the final stage and even medical but he didn't get the job

FarmPlanetNG:
If you want farm job with feeding and accomodation, let me know

please where is this located?

LalastiklaIa:
I love the way you said his parents misused their primetime

If I were him and he believes in the curse. I'd rather not father any kid than give birth to children to continue the lineage of poverty

Nigerians will not agree with this, but this is the reality

It's not a curse

Look at the abject poverty setting

Your dad is not financially stable and he married a petty trader. Now as if that is not enough he had 5 children. What is he doing with 5 children. 2 children should have been enough.

Lack of proper planning especially when one is coming from a poverty background will lead to a frustrating and miserable life.

Poverty is deadly and limits people for several generations until someone breaks the chain by doing something different in the family. It takes special talent sometimes to do that like music, football (or a bad boys - yahoo, drugs not advocating this pls).

Scholace:
I know it's lack of money majorly but family curse maybe part of it.

Nothing like curse, it's purely the crippling effect of poverty.

Poverty can chain a family for several generations until someone breaks it.

If someone sends OP to USA to stay, within 10 years he will banish poverty in their family, then he will know it is not a curse.

Rule 1 - A man from a poor family should not marry early esp when he is not financially independent and should have few (say 2) children when he does.

VTJN:
He has been doing that already but nothing to show for it yet. Only through referral or connection one can get job easily in this country. He got to the final stage and even medical but he didn't get the job

No offer after medicals? What could be the reason? Hepatitis B?

You may reach out to the company for status update on your application and reason for the lack of feedback.

While at it, be very prayerful. Pray and fast without ceasing as it could be a generational curse like you said.

ogawisdom:
Nothing like curse, it's purely the crippling effect of poverty.

Poverty can chain a family for several generations until someone breaks it.

If someone sends OP to USA to stay, within 10 years he will banish poverty in their family, then he will know it is not a curse.

Rule 1 - A man from a poor family should not marry early esp when he is not financially independent and should have few (say 2) children when he does.

i didn't say the family is not suffering from poverty. POVERTY is written all over them, but from OP story even their father's family are completely poor. Don't you think family or generational curse might be affecting them also?

In simple term, your dad failed!! There is no point crying over split milk.

You are educated, what did you study? What’s your Gpa?What phone do you use? Do you have a laptop? What do you currently do? Which area do you stay?

If you have a phone , a laptop maybe , dedicate the next 7 months and learn python like your life depends on it, heck your life and your siblings depend on it.

For daily income to survive, start a small akara frying at your junction if it relatively busy, you can learn python 6 hrs and fry akara at night.

This might not be exactly what you want to hear, you are not caused, that is a loser mindset

JaskTime7:
Good day all..

Trust we're all doing great?

I am from a nuclear family of seven, five children and my two parents. I and my siblings grew up in Lagos. My dad is a land surveyor while my mum a petty trader. We all attended public school in Lagos (elementary and high school) I'm the third child of 5 children. I and my elder siblings had to hawk immediately we returned back from school before we could eat. Including my mum. My dad wasn't getting job but we had to survive. We were a laughing stock then in our neighborhood. We later advised our mum to put her goods in bag instead of tray, then supply to her customers. We were selling quick oat, butter, toothpaste et al. We got the goods on credit through someone and pay back after sales. We realized the profit wasn't sustainable, then we consider alternative means. We hawk during weekdays and wash cars and motorcycle weekend. With that we were able to pay our accommodation fee (a single room), put food on our table to some extent and other miscellaneous fee.

We've been on this for years. The landlord later gave us quit notice having realized we could no longer put up with the accommodation fee. My family moved into a friend's house. He lived in a room and palor. He gave us a room to live while him and his family lived in the other room. We were able to raised money after two years and rented an apartment (a single room) then moved in

My eldest brother (first child) was hit by a car when he was washing a customer's bike, he was rushed to a nearby hospital but we eventually lost him. We had to stopped the work because of that particular iccident. After several months of searching, i and my elder brother were able to get a factory work. I had plan of saving all my money with the hope of furthering my education, but family responsibility wouldn't allow me save. I later had a change of mind going to police academy, from my research, it was a free school and one would be absorbed as an ASP officer, that's automatic employment. I sat for jamb and the school post jamb at police college Ikeja, Lagos. I was shortlisted for final screening at wudil Kano. Unfortunately, i couldn't make it. I don't have much money to get the needed materials and transportation fee. It was a sad experience for me.

I continued working, but this time around, i wasn't supporting the family with all my money. I had some savings. My supervisor advised me to further my education. He claimed i can't continue this job throughout my lifetime. I took jamb the following year and got admission. I bought bike (motorcycle) with the little savings i had after paying my tuition fee and other necessity. I gave out the bike as Higher purchase. The bike man delivered six thousand naira weekly until the bike become his. I didn't get accommodation in school because i couldn't afford it. I was squatting with friends. My elder brother enrol for part time program. During holiday i often rushed down home to find something doing that could fetch me some money.

I realized my elder brother was stealing company's goods with his friends. I gave him serious warning to stop that but he wouldn't listen. I was forced to tell my parents but he denied it. I was in school when my younger brother called me that my elder brother has been arrested with his friends. After the investigation, police demanded for a million naira before he would be released. I learnt the company management has let go the case. My elder brother has been behind bar for more than 7 years now without a way out. We can't say if he's alive or dead. I saw one of his friends mid last year, and he told me most of his friends had been released having met the condition of the police officers. I'm done with school but couldn't secure a job. I've gotten to the final stage of some organization, I've done medical test but i wasn't called up. My younger brother has finished his high school since 2019 but couldn't further his education. He's very talented in playing football. My little sister finished her high school last year and the little girl was asking if she could take jamb. My dad has been seriously ill for some days now but no means of getting him drugs nor taking him to the hospital. I fear for my dad at this moment. My family struggled daily before we could have a square meal. My mum has prayed, cried, fasted nothing changes. She was saying it could be a family course. My family is gradually going into extinction.

There's nothing like family curse here, bros.

You have a poor background caused by your dad.

It's usually very difficult to break away from such cycles, unless something extraordinary is done.

Besides, the unemployment you're currently facing is what so many other Nigerian youths are facing too.

In summary, you guys are just unlucky people with a poor family background living in a poor country

Your challenges are understandable and shouldn't be attributed to any curse or spiritualism

The only thing to do here is to keep working hard and praying for better opportunities to get your way

ChybuzzDD:
There's nothing like family curse here, bros.

You have a poor background caused by your dad.

It's usually very difficult to break away from such cycles, unless something extraordinary is done.

Besides, the unemployment you're currently facing is what so many other Nigerian youths are facing too.

In summary, you guys are just unlucky people with a poor family background living in a poor country

Your challenges are understandable and shouldn't be attributed to any curse or spiritualism

The only thing to do here is to keep working hard and praying for better opportunities to get your way

you're right at bolded. It is a serious problem in Nigeria. The government feel less concern about the menace. Most of these youths are already into cyber fraud (Yahoo) only few percentage of them are not into it despite the hardship.

mrjojo:
In simple term, your dad failed!! There is no point crying over split milk.

You are educated, what did you study? What’s your Gpa?What phone do you use? Do you have a laptop? What do you currently do? Which area do you stay?

If you have a phone , a laptop maybe , dedicate the next 7 months and learn python like your life depends on it, heck your life and your siblings depend on it.

For daily income to survive, start a small akara frying at your junction if it relatively busy, you can learn python 6 hrs and fry akara at night.

This might not be exactly what you want to hear, you are not caused, that is a loser mindset

no vez o, what do you intend to do with his GPA?

Scholace:
i didn't say the family is not suffering from poverty. POVERTY is written all over them, but from OP story even their father's family are completely poor. Don't you think family or generational curse might be affecting them also?

Generational poor decisions, actions and poverty habits not spiritual curse.

Wealth is mostly earned not given. All his problems are that of generational poverty.

Until a member of that family does something drastically different he will not escape the poverty chain in their generation

Lifeinlight:
no vez o, what do you intend to do with his GPA?

he might be able to get into a full funded msc if his course is STEM related and with a good GPA

JaskTime7:
please where is this located?

Message me on WhatsApp number. Check my number on the signature

mrjojo:
he might be able to get into a full funded msc if his course is STEM related and with a good GPA

how possible could that be, for someone who barely feed?

Lifeinlight:
how possible could that be, for someone who barely feed?

trust me sir, it is!!!

mrjojo:
trust me sir, it is!!!

Sorry, Is it US that will get him passport, application fee, flight ticket and other fees?

Scholace:
I think you should help OP out on that. Then he can give us the outcome here

He has not responded to my question

JaskTime7:
Good day all..

Trust we're all doing great?

I am from a nuclear family of seven, five children and my two parents. I and my siblings grew up in Lagos. My dad is a land surveyor while my mum a petty trader. We all attended public school in Lagos (elementary and high school) I'm the third child of 5 children. I and my elder siblings had to hawk immediately we returned back from school before we could eat. Including my mum. My dad wasn't getting job but we had to survive. We were a laughing stock then in our neighborhood. We later advised our mum to put her goods in bag instead of tray, then supply to her customers. We were selling quick oat, butter, toothpaste et al. We got the goods on credit through someone and pay back after sales. We realized the profit wasn't sustainable, then we consider alternative means. We hawk during weekdays and wash cars and motorcycle weekend. With that we were able to pay our accommodation fee (a single room), put food on our table to some extent and other miscellaneous fee.

We've been on this for years. The landlord later gave us quit notice having realized we could no longer put up with the accommodation fee. My family moved into a friend's house. He lived in a room and palor. He gave us a room to live while him and his family lived in the other room. We were able to raised money after two years and rented an apartment (a single room) then moved in

My eldest brother (first child) was hit by a car when he was washing a customer's bike, he was rushed to a nearby hospital but we eventually lost him. We had to stopped the work because of that particular iccident. After several months of searching, i and my elder brother were able to get a factory work. I had plan of saving all my money with the hope of furthering my education, but family responsibility wouldn't allow me save. I later had a change of mind going to police academy, from my research, it was a free school and one would be absorbed as an ASP officer, that's automatic employment. I sat for jamb and the school post jamb at police college Ikeja, Lagos. I was shortlisted for final screening at wudil Kano. Unfortunately, i couldn't make it. I don't have much money to get the needed materials and transportation fee. It was a sad experience for me.

I continued working, but this time around, i wasn't supporting the family with all my money. I had some savings. My supervisor advised me to further my education. He claimed i can't continue this job throughout my lifetime. I took jamb the following year and got admission. I bought bike (motorcycle) with the little savings i had after paying my tuition fee and other necessity. I gave out the bike as Higher purchase. The bike man delivered six thousand naira weekly until the bike become his. I didn't get accommodation in school because i couldn't afford it. I was squatting with friends. My elder brother enrol for part time program. During holiday i often rushed down home to find something doing that could fetch me some money.

I realized my elder brother was stealing company's goods with his friends. I gave him serious warning to stop that but he wouldn't listen. I was forced to tell my parents but he denied it. I was in school when my younger brother called me that my elder brother has been arrested with his friends. After the investigation, police demanded for a million naira before he would be released. I learnt the company management has let go the case. My elder brother has been behind bar for more than 7 years now without a way out. We can't say if he's alive or dead. I saw one of his friends mid last year, and he told me most of his friends had been released having met the condition of the police officers. I'm done with school but couldn't secure a job. I've gotten to the final stage of some organization, I've done medical test but i wasn't called up. My younger brother has finished his high school since 2019 but couldn't further his education. He's very talented in playing football. My little sister finished her high school last year and the little girl was asking if she could take jamb. My dad has been seriously ill for some days now but no means of getting him drugs nor taking him to the hospital. I fear for my dad at this moment. My family struggled daily before we could have a square meal. My mum has prayed, cried, fasted nothing changes. She was saying it could be a family course. My family is gradually going into extinction.

I appreciate you sharing your family's challenging journey. It's truly inspiring to see your resilience in the face of adversity. Your determination to support your family, pursue education, and overcome obstacles is commendable. I hope that brighter days are ahead for you and your loved ones.

BRATISLAVA:
Why do you people like to act as if having many children is the cause of people who have (financial) problems in life?

What about the people with many children who don't have that problem? Having fewer children is not the solution to lifes problems, so please, stop looking down on and bashing such people.

There are homeless people who have never been married and have no children, living rough on the streets. Which "5 children" do you blame for that happening?

Yes their are homeless people without children but it would be worse if those homeless people now have so many children to constitute nuisance in the future.

ChybuzzDD:
There's nothing like family curse here, bros.

You have a poor background caused by your dad.

It's usually very difficult to break away from such cycles, unless something extraordinary is done.

Besides, the unemployment you're currently facing is what so many other Nigerian youths are facing too.

In summary, you guys are just unlucky people with a poor family background living in a poor country

Your challenges are understandable and shouldn't be attributed to any curse or spiritualism

The only thing to do here is to keep working hard and praying for better opportunities to get your way

thank you