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Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by EreluRoz: 9:10pm On Jan 26 |
chidiokay:So she didn't help you kos you got drinks for fridge hmm let me just keep shut. Well for me I can appreciate a genuine little kind gesture for as long as I can. I just think it's the right thing to do |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Demigod22: 9:30pm On Jan 26 |
Offpointng: Does she allow her brother to ask before helping out? When you guys eventually get married, as a family, she expects you to ask before she contribute? She is stylishly been stingy in the name of you didn't ask. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by chidiokay: 9:35pm On Jan 26 |
EreluRoz: I don't see it as she doesnt want to help, according to her she wasnt just convinced, i don't blame her... If you say you are Broke, people expect to see some changes, atleast your lifestyle should drop at that moment, but when they don't see that many will just hold back, If you ask her for help directly and she still failed to help then it clear she is not the supportive type |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by anozie33146: 10:48pm On Jan 26 |
She's stingy, selfish and doesn't love you. Love is sharing.She's stingy, selfish and doesn't love you. Love is sharing.... |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Abolodje: 11:05pm On Jan 26 |
Offpointng:As humans we’re not all wired the same way especially concerning women. But the fact that she’s aware you won’t be getting paid for three months she should’ve showed some form of concerns to how you’ve been getting by and handling financial issues. This alone might not be enough reasons to break up but it’s damn enough to be on the list. Be wise bro🫵🏽 |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Ed12(m): 11:09pm On Jan 26 |
Date your woman right, Feminity is malleable |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Anguldi(m): 11:24pm On Jan 26 |
Offpointng:Now you know Bro, treat a lady the way she does to you. Their heart can be numb |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Anguldi(m): 11:31pm On Jan 26 |
Red flag, stop taking this girls serious NL ladies will be laughing at you. Man na donkey oOoOO This Hausa proverb goes like this '' na Wawa àke ci, na mai wayo àke jari '' meaning '' a fools resources is for lavishing and a wise persons own is for investment '' Use your head 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by galantjoe(m): 11:32pm On Jan 26 |
Oga, demand for some cash from her. Someone like me will not give any money untill you requested for it |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by missjekyll: 2:12am On Jan 27 |
Tester. She ll dump you once she finds out. Better start managing your heart now. The audacity of some people. |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Fiscus105(m): 4:42am On Jan 27 |
If you don't address the issue critically now, my friend, he would come back to hunt you. Man must marry a woman who is ready to loyal with him not because Money and other benefits comming from her man, she too must be ready to reciprocate the same gesture. My then girlfriend, who is now my wife, voluntarily gave me all passwords she has, (ATM, phone, Facebook etc). Meanwhile, that doesn't make me to abandon my responsibilities at home for her or turn me to hunter watching over her social media o |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by adeememman(m): 5:45am On Jan 27 |
Offpointng:Men and women are wired differently except in some rare cases. Men are naturally givers, the other gender on the other hand believe her money is her money while his money is our money. Know this and know peace. You can only act differently if you ask or complain about a bill you want to settle and she turn deaf ears. Another POV is that women believe we men will always find ways of sorting ourselves no matter what. So do small lamentation about a bill you want to settle and see her reaction. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Lance008(m): 5:53am On Jan 27 |
Omo Na so he be Girls generally stingy |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by anochuko01(m): 6:21am On Jan 27 |
Odin13: Whats the prove of the love and care if she can't ask how her fiance is coping with life after not being paid for 2 months. Love is characterized by how much we're willing to give and sacrifice, and sadly, in this part of the world, we've taken the giving part to be only the man's responsibility. Each day I hear women talk about how much they want intentional men lol. Here's an opportunity to be one but she's waiting to be told. I found myself in a similar situation during covid-19 when they stopped paying me because we couldn't work. This girl I had been giving money never for once asked how I was coping. The girl is a nurse and was still working and getting paid during the heat of covid-19, but she never thought of send 500 naira airtime. Many times I'd intentionally tell her I didn't have airtime to call just to see her reaction but nothing came out of it. My submission is that the fiancee has shown signs of selfishness which is common amongst most ladies. "Jis money is our money, but my money is my money" mentality might be playing out here. I'd personally not date anyone who wouldn't be excited about helping me when she's got the means. Both men and women deserve care and intentional partners. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Karleb(m): 6:37am On Jan 27 |
What I'm reading on this thread is really awful. God will help those of you that are involved o. |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by BALLOSKI: 7:43am On Jan 27 |
Offpointng:The fact that she no de bill you, it's a good sign. She really might not be feeling you need money - she's thinking you have saved and it hasn't gotten to that extent for her to help you. Now, what you should do is, ask her to lend you some money to fix something and they'll pay in 6 months time, and tell her your IPPIS issues won't be resolved until january of 2025 to see her reaction. Then you'd know who she truly is. |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Aklee4994(m): 8:25am On Jan 27 |
galantjoe:Then you’re not sensitive about other life 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by descartes400: 8:28am On Jan 27 |
chidiokay: The emboldened is like saying women are not wired to fart when they eat beans or women are not wired to to commit murder 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by chidiokay: 8:53am On Jan 27 |
descartes400: Oga your analogy no add up, what as murder got to do with "giving" For these NL, people wey head dey pain plenty gan |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by advanceDNA: 8:53am On Jan 27 |
Odin13: So what is love when the so called love u feel did not let it occur to you that your partner needs help in an actual time of help... This is something women cannot take if the tables turn..... Offpointng Now u have seen one redflag....she's not a naturally thoughtful or kind person...u shouldn't have to ask her before she will look out for you your welfare..... 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Offpointng: 9:02am On Jan 27 |
BALLOSKI: If it's the case of lending, She will lend me cuz she knows I'll pay back. lending wouldn't be a problem for her. just disappointed as to how she never thought for once to support me with anything. |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by drimzsmoke(m): 9:06am On Jan 27 |
Offpointng: Offpoint, please try and do what I suggested and see the outcome |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by STYCNig(m): 9:13am On Jan 27 |
LET ME HELP YOU BROTHER... NATURALLY, LOVE, SACRIFICE AND GIVING ARE TOGETHER BY DEFAULT! ii.e YOU CANT SEPARATE THE THREE OF THEM! Who taught you how to give her? The natural Love you have in your heart for her... What taught her NOT to give to you? The lack/emptiness of love, concern or passion in her heart for you... NOTE: There are folks she's giving presently without those people asking her! Why? because she value them! DON'T BE CONFUSED BY THE CONCEPT OF ASKING BEFORE GIVING... It does not correlate in all circumstance. This is someone who practically have not given you any gift before. Those are signs to detect who places value for you. Don't be manipulated by you did not ask syndrome! I am not saying you should End the relationship, but she has failed the Test and you can't promote her to the next stage. Since relationship is about mentoring and training them, you can start training and mentoring her giving and caring life - If she improves, then promote the relationship to the next level, if she doesn't, then do what you wish. Offpointng: 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by benqo01(m): 9:18am On Jan 27 |
Naturally women are not givers,so why carry out the test even a blind man will know she has failed the test. But OP why using ION? that is girlish |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by descartes400: 9:23am On Jan 27 |
chidiokay: You erroneously and conclusively posited that women are not wired to render financial support to their partners...in other words women cannot offer financial support to their men if and when the said partner is in need,since they (women)are not capable of such an act, because they are not wired to But of course you would rather throw tantrums. |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by chidiokay: 9:46am On Jan 27 |
descartes400: Posit ke! was it also me that me authored "Her money is her money but a Man money is our Money" .. even women don't argue these things I clearly stated "Exceptions to Few" .. the biggest money i ever got from a friend came from a woman. i didnt even ask her she heard something nd called me When i say women aint wired to give financial support to their boyfriend, i meant it is something they rarely do, that you rarely do something doesnt mean you can't do it or don't do it. Simple reality |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by chidiokay: 9:55am On Jan 27 |
Offpointng: Stop feeling disappointed, it is mostly likely Your situation wasnt convincing enough ... what if you don't appear like someone who needs "support", maybe if you complain about gifts you might generate a "Fuss" |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by Uptheante(m): 10:18am On Jan 27 |
OKOATA:You have low self esteem |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by johnog4sure: 10:54am On Jan 27 |
As a married man, it is better to have a wife who can carry the family when u are down, but love covereth all things. |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by OKOATA(m): 10:58am On Jan 27 |
Uptheante:How I take get low self esteem, na because you never date most Naija girls much na why I no blame you. So make he leave him GF no be your advice be that? No be everything be just break up. If you like let him break up he might meet someone better or worse. It's a 50/50 thing. |
Re: My Fiancee Failed My Test, Am I Overreacting?? by meetme01: 11:19am On Jan 27 |
STYCNig: Don't always assume and conclude text with this your analogy. Background is the first thing we check when issues like this arise. Is that her first bf? Was she jilted before coming into this relationship or what really happened? Probably, she assisted with all he got with her ex and lost all. Here, she wants to be careful not be a victim again. See, coming to a conclusion on text is not worth it at all. Ask questions. There you will find answers. Op is testing her right? It's good but at the same, as he considered why she's not doing such hence, the need to ask. Let him ask, she will bulge her mind and OP will realize why she's not doing what he wants. We are and can never be the same because we are wired differently with different life experiences. Don't be judgemental if you don't ask questions to understand what the other party is going through. |
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