henrimoto:
I understand your write up, I'm not doubting it.

My friend, there is more (On the positive side) to life than this ill treatments you passed through in the hands of the family of the woman you called your wife.

For the pass years, you made yourself to be subjected to this kind of treatment because you want peace and want the right things to be done.

When will you wake up to reality, to understand that you are dealing with the wrong and wicked set of people/family as in-law to be ?
Is it when you enter the grave before you realized this?

On top of your own hard earned resources, a family is treating you like a nobody, like you don't have self worth...and you are taking it like your life depends on their daughter.

My friend, wake up! You won't die if they take back their daughter and the children.

You are a man, for crying out loud.

You deserve better than this

remember u said ur going to tell me something am still waiting

OP, how old are you now?

Start acting strong. Make a decision and stand on it.

They can't keep passing you around like a ball. Ask them what they really want from you. To pay a dowry or to take back their daughter & the kids.

Anyone they choose should determine your next line of action.

If they choose to take their adult daughter and your kids, let them go. Trust me, when your kids are of age, they'd come looking for you. Meanwhile you should look for another woman to pay her bride price and have more kids.

Yashita:
OP, how old are you now?

Start acting strong. Make a decision and stand on it.

They can't keep passing you around like a ball. Ask them what they really want from you. To pay a dowry or to take back their daughter & the kids.

Anyone they choose should determine your next line of action.

If they choose to take their adult daughter and your kids, let them go. Trust me, when your kids are of age, they'd come looking for you. Meanwhile you should look for another woman to pay her bride price and have more kids.

thank u sir...am not hiding anything here I am 36 years..

Guy I am very sorry to say that you are a mad man, fine I understand the fact that you don't want what happened to your father to happen to you, but you are not careful enough to choose a partner for yourself, how on earth will a sense able man will be trying so hard to marry a woman that doesn't have single respect for him, the truth is am short of what to tell you.

Yashita:
OP, how old are you now?

Start acting strong. Make a decision and stand on it.

They can't keep passing you around like a ball. Ask them what they really want from you. To pay a dowry or to take back their daughter & the kids.

Anyone they choose should determine your next line of action.

If they choose to take their adult daughter and your kids, let them go. Trust me, when your kids are of age, they'd come looking for you. Meanwhile you should look for another woman to pay her bride price and have more kids.

remember I got into this marriage at the age of 24 I was trying everything possible to make marriage work out.. cus I hate divorce or separation... But all of my efforts was invain

Omuuvwie:
Guy I am very sorry to say that you are a mad man, fine I understand the fact that you don't want what happened to your father to happen to you, but you are not careful enough to choose a partner for yourself, how on earth will a sense able man will be trying so hard to marry a woman that doesn't have single respect for him, the truth is am short of what to tell you.

thank u my friend.. I know I have made a big mistake.. but can I die because of this mistake? I asked for way forward and solution ... Thanks

vinexe:
thank u sir...am not hiding anything here I am 36 years..

My brother I read through your story and understand your pain. I have been there trust me. Your Inlaw’s have taken you for granted. Well the way forward is your wife now. Where is her position in all of this. If she is with you well fine if she isn’t, you need to be tough and send her nack to her God forsaken father asap

vinexe:
remember I got into this marriage at the age of 24 I was trying everything possible to make marriage work out.. cus I hate divorce or separation... But all of my efforts was invain

You never state the position of your wife in all these travails, how is she feeling with the mischief her family member are are practicing with you?

You should have make friend with that Your brother-in-law that defended you when your father-in-law denied you, He would have mediate between you and your father-in-law because it's very obvious, The man doesn't like you.

vinexe:
thank u my friend.. I know I have made a big mistake.. but can I die because of this mistake? I asked for way forward and solution ... Thanks

See believe me the way forward is your wife. If she is disrespecting you please don’t kill yourself cut your losses and send her out of your house and life move on and start afresh with your life.

okerekingsley90:


My brother I read through your story and understand your pain. I have been there trust me. Your Inlaw’s have taken you for granted. Well the way forward is your wife now. Where is her position in all of this. If she is with you well fine if she isn’t, you need to be tough and send her nack to her God forsaken father asap

sir I have decided to carry this Cross.. but get. Tied on my wife character... How on earth would Ur wife come to Ur place of work to come and ask her husband for money... And start making noises in my place of my work...

vinexe:
sir I have decided to carry this Cross.. but get. Tied on my wife character... How on earth would Ur wife come to Ur place of work to come and ask her husband for money... And start making noises in my place of my work...

Chai when you put a ring on a woman finger, you have chosen your destiny in life automatically. My brother chase that woman away if possible relocate/ change your residence or something

vinexe:
Please 🙏... Sorry for my English... This take me long to type..

Sorry for what you are passing through, the worst mistake you will make is to use your father standards to set for your self i.e because your father divorced your mum, then you don't want divorce even when your wife and her family don't want you, see let me tell you the truth, your happiness should matter much to you, take care of your kids, move on with your life, if I may tell you the truth, leave that woman.

Village! Wetin concern me with village and a backward tradition? I have never been to.my wife village and have no reason to.
Nobody tells me what to do and I am known for that.
Backward outdated traditions of extortions used to take advantage of weak minds.

Asquare84:


Sorry for what you are passing through, the worst mistake you will make is to use your father standards to set for your self i.e because your father divorced your mum, then you don't want divorce even when your wife and her family don't want you, see let me tell you the truth, your happiness should matter much to you, take care of your kids, move on with your life, if I may tell you the truth, leave that woman.

thank u sir

Honestly I sympathize with the OP for what he's going through. Marriage shouldn't be this difficult nau. Perhaps it's because you didn't have anyone to guide you when you started the process.

Me wey my Papa don give me correct OT, my In-laws them gan know sey I be gangster. All the million naira list that they wrote, I didn't even beat it down, I just paid the important ones and whyne them for the rest. Before them go realize, we don fix wedding date already.


As it stands, there are two solutions to your problem. Firstly, reach out to your village's King/Chief to intervene or reach out to your In-law's village King/Chief to intervene on the matter. A respected traditional ruler intervening on the matter will help resolve the matter since it bothers on tradition. However, let me warn you that it will involve money o. Those traditional chiefs/King like egunje.


Secondly, if that doesn't work, please and please, send their daughter back to them. But be sure to hold on to your kids. That's your only gain from the failed union. Do not listen to anyone who will advice you to surrender your kids o. Fight them with all you can if they dare come for your kids. That's your last battle, be sure not to lose it.

Still waiting for the next episode

vinexe:
thank u my friend.. I know I have made a big mistake.. but can I die because of this mistake? I asked for way forward and solution ... Thanks

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Bro please don't be offended which state are you from, and which state is your wife?

Omuuvwie:
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Bro please don't be offended which state are you from, and which state is your wife?

some one have asked me this question before.. but I say if I began to mention the state and village some may feel bad. About it

Please 🙏... Sorry for my English... This take me long to type..Please 🙏... Sorry for my English... This take me long to type.....

Lol... My guy wife go visit her Father for village....when she was supposed to come back, the family started all this dowry bullshit.

My guy just tell d lady..."if by tomorrow I no see you for house...then forever no come my house again".
By the time we got home, Mama don cook pounded yam and one kind native soup wait us.

This guy nah very busy guy, him no time for rubbish.

fyzaila:
To be honest, i struggled to read all this your story to the end. Ha my head please this your back and forth marriage is not by force. If after two kids they are still dangling with dowry been paid or not, then something is definitely wrong with that your wife people and her village

I don go buy Booska for headache wey I get from the werey English.

2special:
No need continuing the discussion, please quit the marriage jaree

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

advanceDNA:
I can't believe I read this shiit....fvnny as fvck..

Ur English was giving me migraine....but funny like maaaaaaddd....

Gangster inlaw...awon wèrèy wants to collect dowry twice and 2.5Million naira worth of good.....u supposed don dump their daughter for them since.....them be domestic terrorists

I like ur first uncle that followed u to ur inlaws village.....the guy na confirm street ....he don know say Dem be werey for that the guy exit sharpally without telling anybody...

I also like the priest that told u to record the werey Father inlaw.....another gangster in the story

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U see that first Uncle, na street guy and OP wey suppose code, no come gree code. Dem say wetin elder see from bench, werey pikin no fit see on top palm tree.

samwash:
Well I gather mind to comprehend this story. This mata tie rapper.
After all the wahala you want still shock head for where they nor want you, my brother there's more to the story when you just narrate but you failed to understand waytin dey play.
In all these waytin be the stand of your wife ?

Leave am. Fly wey no wan hear word go shook e head and full body with deadi bodi enter grave

CockPit:
Village! Wetin concern me with village and a backward tradition? I have never been to.my wife village and have no reason to.
Nobody tells me what to do and I zm known for that.
Backward outdated traditions of extortions used to take advantage of weak minds.

Baba agbalagba👊👊👊👊👊👊

vinexe:
sir I have decided to carry this Cross.. but get. Tied on my wife character... How on earth would Ur wife come to Ur place of work to come and ask her husband for money... And start making noises in my place of my work...

Jus dey play. Na that woman go end u

vinexe:
some one have asked me this question before.. but I say if I began to mention the state and village some may feel bad. About it

Please tell me the state, you and ur partner is from, that could be a saving grace to someone, you never can tell

Omuuvwie:


Please tell me the state, you and ur partner is from, that could be a saving grace to someone, you never can tell

please chart me privately I will tell u the state and village...

vinexe:
thank u sir...am not hiding anything here I am 36 years..

You are hiding somethings bro. Answer the above questions about your wife.

Also, a woman that doesn't respect you and leaves the house at will for no good reason is who you are struggling to officially get married to, to what end? Instead of you to see these obstacles as signs for you to get out of that entanglement.

Stevenbright:


You are hiding somethings bro. Answer the above questions about your wife.

Also, a woman that doesn't respect you and leaves the house at will for no good reason is who you are struggling to officially get married to, to what end? Instead of you to see these obstacles as signs for you to get out of that entanglement.

please can u repeat the above questions about her . I did not get the question ⁉️ before

Omuuvwie:


Please tell me the state, you and ur partner is from, that could be a saving grace to someone, you never can tell

When he tells you, come and comment it here. No point hiding it.

vinexe:
please can u repeat the above questions about her . I did not get the question ⁉️ before

The very one you have refused to answer and telling people to chat you privately.