Mindlog:


Like I posted earlier, I will keep reading your posts.....you are interesting for a reason!

hmmm bro just keep an open mind. You will be alright 😄

sukkot:
hmmm bro just keep an open mind. You will be alright 😄

My professional income is tied to "keeping an open mind", so I can't afford not to.

Klass99:


@ The 1st bolded, women desire different things and you guys need to stop lumping all of us into one category, as all being desirous of money, big diicks and good sex. Your big diicks do little to nothing, in getting us to climax in the first place.

@ The 2nd bolded, I speak for myself, but I like to think that women are generally more satiable and content with a good thing, we don't like to rock the boat.

You may find the rogue woman who ruins a good thing for herself, without cause or justification, for sheer stupidity, but we are not foolishly polygamous in nature like our counterparts.

Don't get me wrong I think as women we are polygamous in nature too, but we know how to keep that under wraps, by limiting our desire for another man, to secret admiration, private thoughts and fantasies, without physically or externally acting on what we think or feel about that man.

ok you definitely going in. Well I don’t believe in absolutes so I don’t mean all women. I am sure there are good women as well as good men out there. However I do not believe people are innately created to be restrained but I believe the genuine fear of a more divine power is what restrains good people from experimenting. The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom they say. So I think it’s just a morbid fear of Gods retribution. But yeah that’s funny your comment about big dicks. You don’t like big dicks ? 😄they don’t make you cum ? What you got against big dicks Klass 😆

Klass99:


What exactly is unrealistic on my list? Point it out and let's debate the issue/issues, I may see some wisdom in your POV and perhaps change my stance.

Gum body is exasperating and exhausting. If we are married for instance I don't have to attend or be at every social function with you na! Especially if we have different personas and enjoy different things.

We must not go every where together or do everything together na. For instance I'm not much of a social butterfly and I am more energized from spending time alone, than being with crowds. I'm also not a breakfast person but I can make you breakfast. However I must not eat with you or sit with you, while you have breakfast.

I have a friend who always insists on taking meals with her husband even when he's not ready to eat or he wants to finish work first before eating. She will insist the food is dished in one plate, if it is swallow, so they can eat together. There's nothing wrong with that but for a person like me it will exasperate me very quickly.

We are not siamese twins joined at the hip, abeg. I want to be able to still do things alone travel alone or with a few of my girlfriends just for clean fun. You should be able to chill out with your boys or travel alone, without feeling like marriage is sucking the joy out of our lives.

travel alone or with your friends ? Gurl yo ass ain’t ready for a Nigerian man. You better go marry brad or chad 👀

Mindlog:


My professional income is tied to "keeping an open mind", so I can't afford not to.

hey as they say brother, kachinggggg 👀😄

sukkot:
hey as they say brother, kachinggggg 👀😄

How your mind spins, intrigues me.

Klass99:

I have nothing against big diicks, they are like eye candy, pleasing to the eye, pleasing to hold and play with, they fill you up nicely, but that is as far as the pleasure goes for me. It never gets me to climax, it's hard to fit into the mouth for a good BJ and again it does jack shit (absolutely nothing) in getting me to climax.

You people take too much pride in a tool that doesn't really do much in giving us pleasure. The clitoris is a woman's pleasure point!

Goddamn.... too much imagery.... with each metaphor, the image just dey pop for my mind...

sukkot:
Ok it’s no secret that women in marriages turn to vipers if there is an unfulfilled desire. What do women desire ? Lots and lots and lots of money and great Mandingo long stroke sex . I mean let’s face it those two are all that is desired but you get the rare woman who desires to be intellectually stimulated and desire an intelligent and funny guy. So let’s just add all these qualities in there. So the question is can a woman remain happy forever if she finds a man who ticks all her boxes of desires or is there just that innate self destructive button that triggers boredom after a while and now they are tired of the perfection they have and then go seeking imperfection for that adrenaline rush. Like is a woman insatiable? Like you can be as rich as Dangote and your sex game is like long stroking Adonis and you are intelligent and funny and she can rock with all that for 2 years but then boredom kicks in and the self destructive button kicks in and then the imperfect specimen starts looking more desirable to her , the broke thug on the street who has more swagger etc etc. I guess this can apply to all humans too. Are human beings insatiable?

Firstly, I want you to know that nobody is 100% perfect in this life and nobody gets all they desire 100% because for you to be a living thing you must one side of life you lacking no matter how small it is. You can have money with no good health, you might have good health with no money, you might have money with good health but a bad home etc.
Women look at this things in a man e.g handsomeness, money,is he funny or boring,is he a bad guy or a novice,does he last in bed,is he cute etc
So no woman will find all these in a single man and women are loyal to their feelings irrespective of your sacrifice for them.So no matter how perfect her relationship or marriage seem to look, she will always want to explore outside the part her man is lacking behind in another man.Never let the innocent look of a woman deceive you. She can cheat on you without remorse.
A woman might decide not to sleep with you for a long time in a relationship but she will sleep with that bad guy she met on the first date.

Solofresh2:
Firstly, I want you to know that nobody is 100% perfect in this life and nobody gets all they desire 100% because for you to be a living thing you must one side of life you lacking no matter how small it is. You can have money with no good health, you might have good health with no money, you might have money with good health but a bad home etc.
Women look at this things in a man e.g handsomeness, money,is he funny or boring,is he a bad guy or a novice,does he last in bed,is he cute etc
So no woman will find all these in a single man and women are loyal to their feelings irrespective of your sacrifice for them.So no matter how perfect her relationship or marriage seem to look, she will always want to explore outside the part her man is lacking behind in another man.Never let the innocent look of a woman deceive you. She can cheat on you without remorse.
A woman might decide not to sleep with you for a long time in a relationship but she will sleep with that bad guy she met on the first date.

ok I see you bro and the answer is spot on but I need you to know that the PERFECTION I speak of is hypothetical 😃

Klass99:


Lol 🤣. No sweetheart not every Nigerian man is as close minded as you. And not everyone will want a gum body marriage like you.

hmmm you just may be right because these millennials are built different. They are weird. They would go for that 😆

sukkot:
ok I see you bro and the answer is spot on but I need you to know that the PERFECTION I speak of is hypothetical 😃

Yes I understand your point.She can be feeling comfortable but not really comfortable. A example like Beyonce and Jayz kind of
Isn't it

sukkot:
ok I see you bro and the answer is spot on but I need you to know that the PERFECTION I speak of is hypothetical 😃

Yes I understand your point.She can be feeling comfortable but not really comfortable. An example like Beyonce and Jayz kind of
Isn't it

Klass99:


Your threads are usually engaging, making a person want to go in, coupled with the fact that you keep the conversation friendly and respectful, even when you disagree with a view.

Yes, I think the fear of God plays a part in curbing our excesses, but let's be real, we can't see Him physically and we like to think, we can sin now and repent later. I think what holds me back personally is;

1. A genuine desire for a right and sincere, two way relationship with God.

2. Life is just sweeter, neater and simpler with one man or fewer people. I have cut out some people in my life recently and felt more at peace. I believe life is the same when dealing with one man and not multiple men

I have nothing against big diicks, they are like eye candy, pleasing to the eye, pleasing to hold and play with, they fill you up nicely, but that is as far as the pleasure goes for me. It never gets me to climax, it's hard to fit into the mouth for a good BJ and again it does jack shit (absolutely nothing) in getting me to climax.

You people take too much pride in a tool that doesn't really do much in giving us pleasure. The clitoris is a woman's pleasure point!

hey we all civilized adults here I like to think so it’s only natural to keep the conversation that way. For me anyway cuz I see many people also lack manners on here.

And I agree less is more with regards to associations. You have more time to yourself and it’s a peaceful existence and less chaotic. You also don’t exhaust yourself and age faster. It’s good to spend time alone meditating and pampering yourself and enjoying your own company. It’s classy

Ok so you like big dicks but they don’t make you cum. Well you better teach your man how to multitask then 🤣🤣 you do know everything can all be done at once right ? Multitasking. Stroking and clit massaging and Breast play all at once. You better ask somebody 👀

Solofresh2:
Yes I understand your point.She can be feeling comfortable but not really comfortable. An example like Beyonce and Jayz kind of
Isn't it

like everything is just so perfect and has being perfect for so long that it’s now boring. You need adrenaline rush. Something new and different. Something more dangerous 😄

sukkot:
like everything is just so perfect and has being perfect for so long that it’s now boring. You need adrenaline rush. Something new and different. Something more dangerous 😄

Yes it happens. It is possible.

Solofresh2:
Yes it happens. It is possible.

people get bored. I understand it. But don’t destroy your whole life because you are bored. That’s my own thing with it

Mindlog:


How your mind spins, intrigues me.

hehe bro it’s this tinubulation that is affecting my mind 😆😄

sukkot:
people get bored. I understand it. But don’t destroy your whole life because you are bored. That’s my own thing with it

That's human for you.Always wanting to explore new things

Solofresh2:
That's human for you.Always wanting to explore new things

🤣🤣 Awon mungo park. Explorers 🤣

sukkot:
🤣🤣 Awon mungo park. Explorers 🤣

sukkot:
Ok it’s no secret that women in marriages turn to vipers if there is an unfulfilled desire. What do women desire ? Lots and lots and lots of money and great Mandingo long stroke sex . I mean let’s face it those two are all that is desired but you get the rare woman who desires to be intellectually stimulated and desire an intelligent and funny guy. So let’s just add all these qualities in there. So the question is can a woman remain happy forever if she finds a man who ticks all her boxes of desires or is there just that innate self destructive button that triggers boredom after a while and now they are tired of the perfection they have and then go seeking imperfection for that adrenaline rush. Like is a woman insatiable? Like you can be as rich as Dangote and your sex game is like long stroking Adonis and you are intelligent and funny and she can rock with all that for 2 years but then boredom kicks in and the self destructive button kicks in and then the imperfect specimen starts looking more desirable to her , the broke thug on the street who has more swagger etc etc. I guess this can apply to all humans too. Are human beings insatiable?

Humans are generally insatiable!

But in marriage, a woman or a man can be in the situation you described. That is the tendency to become bored/unfulfilled in a marriage that was initially full of fun/ satisfaction.

Now, what causes this situation? It is in most cases caused by unrealistic expectations and entitlement. This usually happens when one partner expects too much from the other and hence becomes disappointed when the expectations are not met.

Solution: When you discovered that your partner has become disillusioned as a result of too much expectations which you can't meet, balance it up by putting him/her on a similar scale, that is telling the partner about your expectations and how they are not being met and that you do want to see them work it out. By so doing, the idleness and boredom that fuels the partner's inordinate expectations will die a natural death and he/she will understand the real dynamics of life.

Stevenbright:


Humans are generally insatiable!

But in marriage, a woman or a man can be in the situation you described. That is the tendency to become bored/unfulfilled in a marriage that was initially full of fun/ satisfaction.

Now, what causes this situation? It is in most cases caused by unrealistic expectations and entitlement. This usually happens when one partner expects too much from the other and hence becomes disappointed when the expectations are not met.

Solution: When you discovered that your partner has become disillusioned as a result of too much expectations which you can't meet, balance it up by putting him/her on a similar scale, that is telling the partner about your expectations and how they are not being met and that you do want to see them work it out. By so doing, the idleness and boredom that fuels the partner's inordinate expectations will die a natural death and he/she will understand the real dynamics of life.

its a great approach

sukkot:
those are aberrations. In a perfectly healthy woman it’s 27.3 days.

Now I know you're trolling. 'Aberrations' indeed 🙄

Klass99:

If you don't want to have kids, what's the essence of getting married in the first place?

Jman06:
If you don't want to have kids, what's the essence of getting married in the first place?

Not everyone's concept of marriage involves birthing children, some choose to be single and having kids then we have those who got married and intentionally being child-free

Mindlog:


Not everyone's concept of marriage involves birthing children, some choose to be single and having kids then we have those who got married and intentionally being child-free

As far as I'm concerned, it makes no sense getting married in the first place if one doesn't want to have kids. What would they be doing together? Is it the so called companionship which to me is useless to a man because there are a lot of things to keep a man company in this time and age. As a matter of fact, women don't make good companions to men because they usually have different interests from what men find interesting.

Jman06:
As far as I'm concerned, it makes no sense getting married in the first place if one doesn't want to have kids. What would they be doing together? Is it the so called companionship which to me is useless to a man because there are a lot of things to keep a man company in this time and age. As a matter of fact, women don't make good companions to men because they usually have different interests from what men find interesting.

You making no sense of marriage without children does not invalidate another person's desire to be child-free in marriage.....the sky is big enough for all.

Women don't make good companions to men, you can marry your fellow man who share same interests with you then you both decide whose sperm would be used to inseminate a surrogate mother, after she births, you both take custody of the baby and nurture........you don't need a wife nor a baby mama.