hello everyone. this is my first post and im real excited. i am a nigerian who lives in south africa but moving back to lagos to start up a business online. i am coming with my expatriate(white) boyfriend and our daughter. is it safe to be back in lagos and what can i expect?

What would you expect? Nigeria is wiser now even though I dont know when u left. Feel free to come with your husband if you are legitimately married. I am married to a Bahamian and she accorded me a lot of respect here in Nigeria when she came, we wedded here and things have been very smooth and ok. If he is just a boyfriend, then expect some side talks but if u have intentions to marry and will do that as soon as you arrive, dont be afraid to bring him. I hope I helped.

its silently frowned on, i remember some time ago my parents even 'warned' me bout it. that jus made me curious

I am an American woman who looks white, even though I'm both white and African American. I am terrified of the women in Nigeria. Based on what I have seen in the U.S., African women hate when African men marry another race. I'm trying to learn as much as I can to be able to survive while we are in Nigeria. HELP!!!

@ pazuzu ,well,i would say some people dont like it but if ur happy with ur relationship u should'nt care what other's think.
that's right and if ur family is ok with it then everything should be even better but if they dont ,go ahead with ur relationship,everyone dont want the same thing in life ,what make's u happy should be what u should go for.

I personally,i've always prefered interracial relationship cos that's where my heart always go for and im happy with my partner now who is white ,although some of my family memember's dont like it but they accept it cos i dont care what they think or say,it is my life .

you should feel free to move to Nigeria if u wish but buy a house in a decent area ,that is safe and secured,i dont know when u left Nigeria but it has changed alot this few years.

And people see interracial relationship in a better way then before,as long as u and ur guy are happy ,there should'nt be any problem at all,i have few of my friend's in Nigeria that are married \in a relationship with white in Nigeria and there families and people around are ok with it and alot even admire it ,so dont worry about that but
it will be advisable to get married to ur guy before moving to Nigeria or when ur there as it is tradition and it secured for u and more accepted in the community etc

I and my partner will be getting a place down there shortly so that we will have a place to stay when we visit nigeria instead of staying in a hotel or with my family.

Good luck with ur online business

Cheers
Evept

If you are not married to the man there is no respect
In Nigeria its a big difference if its the man or woman that is white.#
From a very General point of view, lets say it dose not look too good if you are not married to the man.

as some one said above it is silently frowned upon. and it depends on the views of the family you come from.

She is staying with a white man and has a child from him.
Am very sure her family knows.
In her case its not about the Family its about the public view.
We all know what Nigerians think of Nigerian women with white men.
If she is married to him they will not be able to say anything again.
But as long as she es singel she may find herself dragging her man with other women.
And in her case she too is only girlfriend like the others

I guess it depends on the family.

I live with my Nigerian boyfriend and his family are all very nice to me. They don't seem to have a problem with us.

How would strangers know if you were married or not?

It may start with the house girl, or the normal gossiping,

well i think its depends on the family, if they welcome it, believe me, you will have no stress but if they are against, you should be ready for battles and wars!!!

in is a reply to another thread that was close,if someone could post my reply that will be find. i wanted to correct BigSis (f)

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How Are Interracial Relationships Viewed In Nigeria?

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A half caste in the states is called a half breed, a mut, a mongrel, which means someone who isn't a pure bred. The political correct term to someone's face is biracial/mixed. To use any of these terms is considred an insult. It is funny the terms we come up with for things that have existed for ages. Black Americans have been mixed for almost 400 years, yet we are well aware that we are the descendents of Africans. You can be high, high yellow to blue black in black American society.

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there is some recent evidencefrom dna test that most black americans do not have any admixture with other races,and even if most do,it's not all.second,on the census,africans,those from the islands ect, are included in the black american census,so i think you mean african americans,and even some are not mixed either,maybe most but not all.

Why are you worried about others. Why not focus your husband. You will only hear the gossip if you associate with people that gossip. If you separtae yoruself you will be fine

Goodluck.
I don't know any relative of mine dating or married to a 'white' man or woman.
Take kia!

Why not? It's just a kind of good innovation. Honestly I'm also not living in this countrybut u see I'm totally active in participating this forum. Why? To make him proud of me!xoxoxoxox =))°ºH̲̣̣̣̥α̇̇̇̊н̣̣̣̝̇̇̇α̩̩̩̩̥н̲̣̣̣̥α̍̍̊H̲̣̣̣̥α̇̇̇̊н̣̣̣̝̇̇̇α̩̩̩̩̥н̲̣̣̣̥α̍̍̊º°˚˚°=))

Outstrip: Why are you worried about others. Why not focus your husband. You will only hear the gossip if you associate with people that gossip. If you separtae yoruself you will be fine

Indeed. I live in Indonesia and my silly friends keep telling me to stop dating a ******* but that's just a joke in my ear. Mind ur business first jor!

Expect to be DUPED in cash and KIND!
Unless you be CHINESE!!!
Na only CHINESE man or woman fit DUPE NAIJA porsin CLEAN AND SQUARE!!!

Luish: I am an American woman who looks white, even though I'm both white and African American. I am terrified of the women in Nigeria. Based on what I have seen in the U.S., African women hate when African men marry another race. I'm trying to learn as much as I can to be able to survive while we are in Nigeria. HELP!!!

Then it means you have NOT done your homework(both theory AND practiCUUUMs).

You are gonna FAIL WITH BOTH FLYING COLORS AND DISTINCTION!!!!

NIGERIAN women are the least of your problems darling. We only sit TIGHT and pity you! Even after eating ya frontal and BACK LOBES, for RED, YELLOW OR GREEN CARDS. . . . He will still PREFER A NIGERIAN BUSHMEAT from his village IN HIS OLD AGE!

Pele my dia!!!

Please ask those 'a wannabees' NL males way don waka hiarrrrrrrandia taya for EUROPE AND 'THE H-AMERICAS' taya!!!!





*time for my sweeeeeet work! JOURNEY MERCIES HALLELUJAH!!! logging off *

Please come home with your man.What is important is that you are happy and your family too.We have so many foreigners married to Nigerian s living in Nigeria.