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Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by Philip4564(m): 9:05am On Mar 02 |
Tallesty1:100% fact |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by Aaaaarghmed(m): 10:59am On Mar 02 |
Tallesty1:no mind dem.dem wan save their money.e no go work.lol.you must get something assigned to you wey you dey use your money support for house. 1 Like |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by NoToPile: 6:26pm On Mar 02 |
Maybe a woman should also open a thread to ask which area should a man contribute in domestic care of the home. Most if not all working women do contribute to the home already so what's with the formula. Just know that house rent, school fees, chop moni, major bills are on you as the man, you should be prepared for this as the husband. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by Truvelisback(m): 7:48pm On Mar 02 |
Philip4564:If you can't foot the bills in the home, split it with her. You pay the rent and the school fees while she provides what the family will eat and other minor needs or vice versa. |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by okeke6969: 3:02am On Mar 03 |
EreluRoz: |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by akube34: 3:04am On Mar 03 |
EreluRoz:funny. Come abroad, you go believe |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by EreluRoz: 3:29am On Mar 03 |
akube34:I don't like abroad 1 Like |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by Eunoiaa(f): 2:45pm On Mar 03 |
"Which area should a woman" why are you coming at it from a gender angle? Are you not adults? Will you not be married? Can you not sit down as grown ups and DISCUSS how you want your home to be run, and share up responsibilities between you two based on each person's strengths/weaknesses? Where one person doesn't seem to do well in, you step in and mitigate any adverse effects that may come out and vice versa. Where another excel in, you let them take charge while carrying the other along. Simple and as uncomplicated. Strength- and individual-based partnership, not gender. |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by crackhaus: 6:38pm On Mar 03 |
Tallesty1:Because she doesn't have money, is broken from having bad relationships, or just a stingy person. A woman who's a natural giver, has no emotional scars, or has plenty money to spend, will never see it as a big deal contributing to her home. Heck, I even hate that word 'contributing'. It's like saying you're contributing to your own life. |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by crackhaus: 6:44pm On Mar 03 |
EreluRoz:Many of us were born and raised in a home with a provider mother. I do not have any woman around me from that generation who wasn't/isn't a provider in their homes. It is modern women that don't want to be providers. The majority of the older generation of African (Nigeria) women worked their asses off to fend for their homes just as much as the men. Brush up on your history if you aren't lucky to have such women around you. I'm sure you always applaud marriages of older generation, were the women hustling like women of these days? You can't share roles and expect everything to remain the same. Like I said, a woman should be her husband's backbone and cover-up for him immediately as at when needed without being told but not to be assigned a particular responsibility to shoulder financially. It's actually about the mindset for me, I dislike such mindset of sharing bills from men, it makes me look at such men as being lazy and not masculine.More gibberish. 2 Likes |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by EreluRoz: 7:50pm On Mar 03 |
crackhaus:You will always have your way even if the truth stares right in your face. No be you again |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by Kobojunkie: 8:56pm On Mar 03 |
NoToPile:Indeed! Philip4564, pay attention. |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by rainluv: 9:08pm On Mar 03 |
I'm more interested in the duties and contributions of the man in day to day house chores and kids care 5 Likes |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by crackhaus: 11:24pm On Mar 03 |
EreluRoz: |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by 1Sharon(f): 12:08am On Mar 04 |
A wife should contribute under 50% of the bills at home. If it's about the same or more, she ends up doing more. A woman should be either be a SAHM or pay under 50% of the bills. Nothing else. 3 Likes |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by cococandy(f): 2:09am On Mar 04 |
Philip4564:mmm okay but What area are you contributing to in the keeping of the home? 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by cococandy(f): 2:10am On Mar 04 |
Philip4564: No. She’s saying embrace a partnership. 2 Likes |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by cococandy(f): 2:12am On Mar 04 |
Elaborate please Tallesty1: |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by akaahs(m): 4:31pm On Mar 04 |
EreluRoz:Will u still expect him assist you doing the house chores?? |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 1:22am On Mar 05 |
crackhaus: Or maybe she believes in gender roles, have you thought about that? |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 1:30am On Mar 05 |
crackhaus: Speak for yourself, darling. I find it very uncanny for a woman to assume the "provider" role when it is not that the man is incapacitated to provide or is going through a financial meltdown. If not, why should I? How then do you assert your masculinty? Breeding kids and causing an uproar in bed? So, it is okay for me to a part or full provider and still assume the back breaking chores while saddling with the kids in the home while the man does what with himself? Make it make sense. I am a staunch believer of gender roles. That someone does not share alike values with you does not make their opinion(s) gibberish. Remember that two truths can coexist and we can still be happy. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by TheWinterBird(f): 9:05am On Mar 05 |
There're marriages where men don't mind being the sole providers because they've the capacity, there're marriages where the women earns more, etc. There's no one-size-fits-all with something like this, as every marriage is different. You've to communicate with your spouse and discuss what works for y'all, not what others are doing. 1 Like |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by Philip4564(m): 9:41am On Mar 05 |
TheWinterBird:Thanks God bless |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by crackhaus: 11:51pm On Mar 10 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Na oriaku lifestyle you fess dey find from beginning... No surprises. Only you said two truths can coexist, only you still said you find my opinion 'uncanny'. Werey Go chop dat afang soup wey una cook today make you dey alright. |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by crackhaus: 12:00am On Mar 11 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Your financial situation can make you a believer of gender roles, because you don't have choice. You cannot hear all this kind of talk from women who have money and are givers. And when I say money, I mean her own money wey she work for... not my husband dash me. |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by Kelechi009: 12:13am On Mar 11 |
NoToPile: I think you should open that thread, let's see what the outcome would be. |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 1:44pm On Mar 11 |
crackhaus: Which financial situation? Whether I have money or not, my man should provide. I am a giver, but you will provide. How about that? Or is it too hard to understand? |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 1:45pm On Mar 11 |
crackhaus:
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Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by crackhaus: 7:36am On Mar 13 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Lol, okay... |
Re: Which Area Should A Woman Be Contributing To At Home by Gbadugbakun(m): 8:37am On Mar 13 |
EreluRoz:You're clearly still living with your parents this is why you have no idea of how harsh the economic situation is out there. Only a witch would look at a man she claims to love suffering to provide food for his family and tell herself that buying snacks for her kids would be her contribution in the home. |
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