Tallesty1:


True, women have always contributed.

Even in the olden days, women traded farm products, worked on their own small farms, or assisted in men's farms.

But losing respect for your husband because you contribute financially is irrational.

It will never make sense to me.

There are homes where women are the primary providers, yet husbands are respected.

It's not about the money; it's about the woman, the kind of person she is.

So if as a man you cannot seek assistance from your wife because she will disrespect you, then you married rubbish.

Tallesty1:
Interesting.

I am not of the opinion that couples should sit down and calculate who should do this and that, but in marriages where both are gainfully employed, I see no reason why a man should bear the financial responsibility alone. This marriage is a union formed by two people who are determined to make things work. Once one person is taking care of one thing, the other person should look for another thing and get it working.

You can't dump the financial responsibility; men's mental health matters.

Philip4564:
Like I'm very curious and willing to know the responsibility of the wife at home or let me just say where does she step in the bills at home. I mean which area is she suppose to be assisting the husband in the shouldering of the responsibility at home. I'll like the married folks here to enlighten us or give us an insight on the area where their wife cater for in the responsibility. I'm a young guy just getting into it and I'll like to know where my wife should be contributing to Thanks.

EreluRoz:
I dislike men having such mindset, like that sharing bills wareva I detest it as well and as such I reply them in a very silly way.

Two people who are truly into each other won't even remember sharing bills or whatever, the man should be ready to be the financial provider while a wise woman know how to be his back bone codedly.



I don't know your gender but I give it to you. Oyel dey your head.
You simplified it.

Men that go into marriage waiting to share bills with a woman always have problems because women are naturally not created to provide, a woman that shares bill with her husband most times loose respect for the man and before you say jerk marriage have broken.

A woman should help all round when needed without being told and not attaching her to a particular responsibility.

EreluRoz:
I personally don't believe in women contributing financially at home however she should help immediately she observed the weight is getting heavier on you without being told.
Buying snacks for kids if you insist on a particular area.

akube34:
funny. Come abroad, you go believe

Tallesty1:
Why?

EreluRoz:
Why do you think marriages no longer stand the test of times?
Modern world has forced women into being providers which is against their nature and thus fighting back which eventually lead to crashing of marriages.

I'm sure you always applaud marriages of older generation, were the women hustling like women of these days? You can't share roles and expect everything to remain the same. Like I said, a woman should be her husband's backbone and cover-up for him immediately as at when needed without being told but not to be assigned a particular responsibility to shoulder financially. It's actually about the mindset for me, I dislike such mindset of sharing bills from men, it makes me look at such men as being lazy and not masculine.

crackhaus:

Many of us were born and raised in a home with a provider mother. I do not have any woman around me from that generation who wasn't/isn't a provider in their homes.

It is modern women that don't want to be providers. The majority of the older generation of African (Nigeria) women worked their asses off to fend for their homes just as much as the men.
Brush up on your history if you aren't lucky to have such women around you.


More gibberish.

NoToPile:
Maybe a woman should also open a thread to ask which area should a man contribute in domestic care of the home. Most if not all working women do contribute to the home already so what's with the formula. Just know that house rent, school fees, chop moni, major bills are on you as the man, you should be prepared for this as the husband.

EreluRoz:
You will always have your way even if the truth stares right in your face. No be you again

Philip4564:
Like I'm very curious and willing to know the responsibility of the wife at home or let me just say where does she step in the bills at home. I mean which area is she suppose to be assisting the husband in the shouldering of the responsibility at home. I'll like the married folks here to enlighten us or give us an insight on the area where their wife cater for in the responsibility. I'm a young guy just getting into it and I'll like to know where my wife should be contributing to Thanks.

Philip4564:
so what you're trying to say now is for the man to shoulder the responsibility 100%

Tallesty1:
especially coming from someone who has strong opinions on traditional gender roles in marriages

EreluRoz:
I dislike men having such mindset, like that sharing bills wareva I detest it as well and as such I reply them in a very silly way.

Two people who are truly into each other won't even remember sharing bills or whatever, the man should be ready to be the financial provider while a wise woman know how to be his back bone codedly.

Men that go into marriage waiting to share bills with a woman always have problems because women are naturally not created to provide, a woman that shares bill with her husband most times loose respect for the man and before you say jerk marriage have broken.

A woman should help all round when needed without being told and not attaching her to a particular responsibility.

crackhaus:

Because she doesn't have money, is broken from having bad relationships, or just a stingy person.

A woman who's a natural giver, has no emotional scars, or has plenty money to spend, will never see it as a big deal contributing to her home.

Heck, I even hate that word 'contributing'. It's like saying you're contributing to your own life.

crackhaus:

Many of us were born and raised in a home with a provider mother. I do not have any woman around me from that generation who wasn't/isn't a provider in their homes.

It is modern women that don't want to be providers. The majority of the older generation of African (Nigeria) women worked their asses off to fend for their homes just as much as the men.
Brush up on your history if you aren't lucky to have such women around you.


More gibberish.

TheWinterBird:
There're marriages where men don't mind being the sole providers because they've the capacity, there're marriages where the women earns more, etc. There's no one-size-fits-all with something like this, as every marriage is different. You've to communicate with your spouse and discuss what works for y'all, not what others are doing.

UyaiIncomparabl:

Speak for yourself, darling.

I find it very uncanny for a woman to assume the "provider" role when it is not that the man is incapacitated to provide or is going through a financial meltdown. If not, why should I? How then do you assert your masculinty? Breeding kids and causing an uproar in bed?

So, it is okay for me to a part or full provider and still assume the back breaking chores while saddling with the kids in the home while the man does what with himself? Make it make sense.

I am a staunch believer of gender roles. That someone does not share alike values with you does not make their opinion(s) gibberish. Remember that two truths can coexist and we can still be happy.

UyaiIncomparabl:

Or maybe she believes in gender roles, have you thought about that?

NoToPile:
Maybe a woman should also open a thread to ask which area should a man contribute in domestic care of the home.



Most if not all working women do contribute to the home already so what's with the formula.

Just know that house rent, school fees, chop moni, major bills are on you as the man, you should be prepared for this as the husband.

crackhaus:

Your financial situation can make you a believer of gender roles, because you don't have choice.

You cannot hear all this kind of talk from women who have money and are givers.

And when I say money, I mean her own money wey she work for... not my husband dash me.

crackhaus:

Na oriaku lifestyle you fess dey find from beginning... No surprises.

Only you said two truths can coexist, only you still said you find my opinion 'uncanny'. Werey

Go chop dat afang soup wey una cook today make you dey alright.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Which financial situation? Whether I have money or not, my man should provide. I am a giver, but you will provide. How about that? Or is it too hard to understand?

EreluRoz:
I dislike men having such mindset, like that sharing bills wareva I detest it as well and as such I reply them in a very silly way.

Two people who are truly into each other won't even remember sharing bills or whatever, the man should be ready to be the financial provider while a wise woman know how to be his back bone codedly.

Men that go into marriage waiting to share bills with a woman always have problems because women are naturally not created to provide, a woman that shares bill with her husband most times loose respect for the man and before you say jerk marriage have broken.

A woman should help all round when needed without being told and not attaching her to a particular responsibility.