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| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by okine4real: 12:16pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
i have learnt one thing in marriage, as a man, make provision for counter attacking your wife when her madness start. If my wife start her wahala, i simply leave the house for her and go stay another of my house. As a man, hustle get money and build house apart from the one you staying and leave a spare room for contingency sake, if her wahala too much, go stay from the house dey go work. I always tell my wife, if you think am poor, then go and make the money yourself, stop giving me stress. if you cant build, go rent one room for far place keep there, the house nor be for to dey carry woman go there ohh, just to go and cool your head, if your wife start wahala. |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by PhilipReigns(m): 12:19pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
blackpanthar:You are typing nonsence, there's no worst advice on this forum that these ones you drafted out. To think that your opening statement seem intelligent, but u see those numbers from one to the last number are completely out of point. Learning how to drive, master it for commercial purpose when he doesn't have a personal car or predriving experience. Data coding learning and the likes will take nothing less than 3 years on the average. So how will a married man provide for his household all those years? You are even suggesting the wive moves to husband's parent house, SMH. |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by okeke6969: 12:27pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
AkporsMechanical:If you don't know what to do then run away. |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by AlphaHakimi: 12:29pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
OP I will be truthful and blunt. You don't owe your wife luxury. It is absolutely wrong for her to call youba poor man for being unable to provide her WANTS. Every profession is important, if you are not a school teacher, who will you leave the job for. Even if you leave the job, are school teachers forbidden from getting married because they earn little salary. You see, if your wife wants luxury (a new phone or Geepee tank or whatever) she should go out and work. Your income is little and then you have a wife who sits at home waiting and depending on only you to provide?? That's wrong. The only person that deserves luxury is a person who works for it and not a person who depends on the worker. My advice to you is to treat her exactly how she treats you. If she feels she married a poor man, she should leave and join the queue of ladies waiting for a rich man. Like I said, you owe no one any form of luxury. You are already providing to the best of your ability. She either settles for what you can provide, or she leaves. If she leaves, atleast your standard of living will increase because you are married to a leech. Shalom |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by maclatunji: 12:29pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
AkporsMechanical:Do what you can and leave the rest. Report her to someone in her family she respects just for the record. I know if things get better for you financially, she is likely to change and that should not be the way things should go. However, this is life and we are not always promised a fair bargain. Focus on getting better and having more streams of income. |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by LEGALSER: 12:30pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
AkporsMechanical:Another fool don create thread. Whenever I open threads like this, I always feel irritated, it seems some of you married people, married without your brains intact. |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Weknowbetter: 12:31pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
YOU DONT PAY RENT AND STILL CANT BUY A CURTAIN? YOU ARE VERY WRONG AND NOT MATURE. YOU TAKE CARE OF HOME FIRST STOP SENDI G MO EY HOME, THOSE SIBLINGS ARE NOT YOUR CHILDREN. GET YOUR WATER TANK AND ENCOURAGE YOUR WIFE TO WORK. |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Kenneth4u205(m): 12:31pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
Did you vote for TINUBU in the last election? popweezy: |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by oyebanji(m): 12:32pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
Apart from "tibitibi", what else is she brining to he table? AkporsMechanical: |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by KillahPriest: 12:33pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
AkporsMechanical:women all over the world but especially Nigerian women have a talent for running their mouth like generator whenever they're hungry or think they're suffering so, if you run away from your wife now, how will you cope with the next woman you marry down the line ? Your solution is to solve the root cause of your problems which is obviously money. If you're a traditional man, I would have said that you should go home and appease the gods of your father's compound and beg them to open your way since we know those guys can be extremely angry when starved. Just try your best, the woman loves you but she's not diplomatic with her words |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by realgift: 12:39pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
muyico:God bless you for this comment, most guys need to grow up. Life is too short to allow woman put you under depression. If she thinks it is easy to provide,let her look for job and do so that she can also provide for the house in this harsh economy |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by TrustedLawyer: 12:40pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
GenderMix:Can he gain an erection in the midst of this tribulation? Can he even mention that to a phoneless and Televisionless woman? Let him take the advice of the person that advised him to get a POS. It is far better than teaching. Marriage without money is bitter, in fact, very bitter. It can send a man to early grave. Nobody should get married if he doesn't have a reasonable income. |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by saintneo(m): 12:42pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
Akpors, how often do you get light? If you get light daily, then I suggest you buy another drum. A drum is like 150litres to 175litres. If you fill these two drums daily, then you will not have issues. Just try to be smart in pumping water daily. Do not give yourself much tension. Focus more on solving your problem than worrying about the problem. I do not know if your believe in God, but I think you need God a a change. As per wifey, keep calm and handle things like a man. No fighting o! AkporsMechanical: |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by popweezy(m): 12:42pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
Kenneth4u205:not at all.. I was at the hospital on the day of election |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Dyfynezz12(m): 12:43pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
Eddie2024:What is bringing the insult is finance,if he didn't have enough he should av avoided the insult by not marrying her or look for someonelse that is working |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by capricornlady: 12:43pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
muyico:so you're happy your wife is taking up a lot of responsibility while you lazy around, a man is supposed to be a provider and breadwinner of a home, while the wife is a support system. No difference between you and the OP. |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by junketer(m): 12:45pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
I hate it when men behave like sisis. Marriage is not life or death. That's what i keep telling my friend that receives insults from his wife daily. End the marriage and remarry. Let's see who go marry her. My exwife is still unmarried after over 4 years that i ended the marriage but me i am over two years in another marriage and thank God she's right for me. Keep being a sisi, one day you go get BP or beat her to death. Nonsense. |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by rilChilz: 12:46pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
My brother... Dont ever compare your home with another persons home, all those people saying you are not man enough also have their own problems even if it might be different... Remember that nothing on this earth is worth your life, if you allow your wife to push you to an early grave wont make her respect your corpse any better... Take life one day at a time |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by omolola12345(m): 12:47pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
No one even cares to ask the man for his level of education and qualifications. If there is a way someone can assist him. I believe it's not all of us for this Nairaland that is not capable. I have the mind to always assist people if I have the capacity. You think it's the happiness of the man to be working in private school if it's not Nigeria that is happening to the man. I pray and I am believing God for the couples that God will send helper to them and both parties will get good jobs that will sustain their home. |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Peters1212(m): 12:48pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
Oga get a loan/grant from ur friends or ur relatives n give it to ur wife to do business since she is not working while u start looking for smting else to do... Do this fast before ur wife start looking outside. |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Viking007(m): 12:50pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
AkporsMechanical:If getting a tank will save your marriage because that’s all I can see from your write up. Get the cost of the tank and send me a dm. ✌️ |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by LandMann: 12:56pm On Mar 04, 2024*. Modified: 8:13am On Jan 27, 2025 |
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| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Maysdevices(f): 12:59pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
AkporsMechanical:I’M A WOMAN I WILL TELL YOU FOR FREE THAT YOU ARE A SIMP!!!!!! You fetch water for her too? What a fucking pity. Why do your parents love her? Abeg don’t make me angry which one is you truly love your wife? What do you want us to do now apart from tell you to dump for a while let her learn money doesn’t fall from the skies ?You want us to contribute money for Geepee tank or what? Mr ‘I truly love my wife’ that calls him wretched and poor for because of ordinary phone GO AND SLEEP SIMP This story made me so angry if I were a guy, I fit track you woze you 😡 |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Maysdevices(f): 1:00pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
Viking007:This exactly what he wants. Tomorrow when his wife calls him poor and wretched for not having any furniture in the house, Una go still contribute for am to furnish Simp ass man fetching water for an ungrateful abusive thing |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by nedekid: 1:02pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
blackpanthar:See "advice".. Nothing persin no go see for this nairaland. |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Banbanna(m): 1:03pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
Seems you don't know that most of us seriously pay mind to what people would say about one's failed short-lived marriage and couldn't imagine bearing the shame that'll come with it. He even said his parents are very fond of his wife. So he's going to feel like a failure going back his father's house. That guy rushed into marriage too quickly. Acidosis: |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by junketer(m): 1:05pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
Maysdevices:you make sense. That guy is a simp. The wife sef go add the gp tank for the insult say na people dey buy tank for am. Why can't men be men? |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by HOD1974: 1:07pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
Am a graduate in Physics Education ABU Zaria, with NCE Physics/Chemistry. I teach for over 22 years in private school before realizing the need to develop my talent in electronics repairs which was what I use in sponsoring myself in school. Mean while my wife is a civil servant and I deliberately instruct her " if money comes I support, if it's not available you support". If not everyone should stay in peace by staying apart marriage is not by force. That's if you love yourself. A living dog is better than a dead lion. Asp. |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Eddie2024: 1:14pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
Dyfynezz12:you can't know the true character of a person until you live with them under the same roof |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by IamAtAnger: 1:21pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
So if u dey give this kind advice... na who go dey teach ur children for school?... sometimes it baffles me how people reason... fine he cud look for how to earn passive income not you tell him to juz quit his job as a teacher that's modern slavery AllahOfBlood: |
| Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Dyfynezz12(m): 1:21pm On Mar 04, 2024 |
Eddie2024:Sapa brings out the worst in humans esp women, if u dnt have money for the basic stay away from them. Ordinary girlfriend self dey show broke guy shege let alone wifey |
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