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Negroid001:
And you scream entitled, jobless and broke.

Are you blind? Can't you see i concealed all identities.?

EreluRoz:
You hate truth, see how enraged you are

Negroid001:
Enraged that? You're projecting your shortcomings. You're not woman enough to foot your bill on a date?

Tallesty1:
No, it is the guy that should gettat.

Imagine you're in the talking stage with a lady, looking to take things further. Now, his idea for a first date location is a swimming pool.

Yet, he hasn't even considered if she can swim.

Unless they have already started sharing intimate photos, many women wouldn't feel comfortable wearing a swimsuit on a first date. She might be shy or not confident about her body. It takes time to reach a level of comfort with someone before being nearly naked in their presence.

While I understand the guy's desire to take charge, fact is, he's being inconsiderate and domineering.

It's pretty much what wannabe 'red pill' guys tend to do.

Tallesty1:
No, it is the guy that should gettat.

EreluRoz:
It's obvious you can't stand truth 😆

Even if I can foot my bills, I won't be so daft to foot my bills on a date. Date wey I dy jeje you kom request, I manage oblige and you will have that guts to ask me to foot bills or share the bills? Like seriously? Blocking everywhere

Eunoiaa:
Lmaoooo. Mumu people.


You know these ediots actually take what they read here offline. Talmabout "take her to swimming pool so you can see her real face."

Negroid001:
Let them wail. No be them put money for my hand. The fact she has agreed to go on the date, now a better and responsible woman reveals a lot. And I'm happy someone has the train of thought to get relevant and not feel entitled to a man's money.

Eunoiaa:
I sha know (or hope) that girl will realise what a loser she's talking to is and dust her slippers and disappear. Sooner or later.

Negroid001:
Don't worry. I'll keep y'all updated.

PureFace1:
Most Nigerian men are scare of rejection so they play it safe and do everything not to anger the woman at the end they ended up with women that are not really interested in them, gold diggers and wh0res that don't really have respect for them.

With your rules you already have the system to filter out women that are not interested in you but what they can get out of you and you also prove to women that you are a challenge, a strong man with backbone not a wimp that will take anything or do anything to get the pvssy like most guys in Nigeria.

For a woman to agreed to pay part of the bills on the first date in this Nigeria that it rarely happen show she is really interested in you but most Nigerian men don't have the balls to conduct that test and prefer to waste their time and resources on uninterested women.

EreluRoz:
It's obvious you can't stand truth 😆

Even if I can foot my bills, I won't be so daft to foot my bills on a date. Date wey I dy jeje you kom request, I manage oblige and you will have that guts to ask me to foot bills or share the bills? Like seriously? Blocking everywhere

Negroid001:
I get balls of steel. I don't a f***.
I no dey force myself on top woman.
I'm not running a charity organisation for some hungry ass b**** to benefit from.

Common sense no common.

Negroid001:
Was in talking stage with this shima. Decided to take things up a notch. Invited her to go swimming and she deflected it. Said she prefers eatery.
I believe since I'm the one with the funds, i should be calling the shots and not her.

Ate247:
you requested to see her. A decent sensible man would not act the way you did. I think its wrong to ask a lady on a date and request she pays her bills.

Eunoiaa:
Lmaoooo. Mumu people.


You know these ediots actually take what they read here offline. Talmabout "take her to swimming pool so you can see her real face."

Negroid001:
Was in talking stage with this shima. Decided to take things up a notch. Invited her to go swimming and she deflected it. Said she prefers eatery.
I believe since I'm the one with the funds, i should be calling the shots and not her.

Nursepepeye:
you are a nonsense person you know that right?

Negroid001:
The easiest way to know if she's into you?
She'll always be willing to part with something.
I'm not running a charity organisation and you can see where i stated i can pay for all, she just has to contribute something. Even if it's our Uber fare.

Tallesty1:
@emboldened

She should do it willingly.

Yes, she will always be willing to part with something, but not this way. You are forcing her, and that is not okay.

See, we all know what we are doing. If indeed this conversation was real, then I feel you shouldn't have brought it online because it tells more about you than her; in a bad way, of course.

You captioned the story "your conversation with a jobless woman," so you clearly know that she isn't working. People who are working do not have money, let alone those who are not working. So, where did you expect her to get the money from?

Secondly, she was minding her business, and you asked her for a date. It was your idea, so why must she contribute something? You got it all wrong.

She was just being nice, knowing she didn't have money, so she was playing it cool. She didn't like the swimming idea, but she played it cool and suggested what she thought was a better alternative: an eatery. Then you asked what she would contribute.

Stop overdoing yourself. Why must you guys use Uber? All these fine girls wey dey jump bus with broke people like me, have they died?

Next time you don't have enough bill to handle a first date that you initiated, look for a nearby cashew plantation, take her there, and eat the fruits. Recreate Adam and Eve and go home.

PureFace1:
It's the woman that will decide what's considerate or not.

PureFace1:
women hate nice guys like you that are so bother with what they think instead of making your move boldly, whether she is shy or uncomfortable with it she will let you know what she can do and can't do after you initiate and make moves.

PureFace1:
Guys like you are just scare of rejection so you play it safe and nice, which man doesn't want to see the body of a beautiful woman he's interested in on the first date and hold her body close and tight ? but you are afraid the woman may reject the idea and hate you so you play it safe and disguise it with being considerate lol.

PureFace1:
If the guy was inconsiderate why did you think the woman agreed with his request ?

What a very Nice guy you are lol

So considerate and Nice but most guys like you would always end up in the friendzone, used and taken advantage of.

PureFace1:
You have to be domineering to generate any real attraction in women anyone that tell you otherwise is deceiving you. Women don't take guys like you seriously, considerate guys like you will be in the friendzone while the inconsiderate one will get all the benefits without any effort, knack her on the first date or first week of dating while you wait for years and months lol

PureFace1:
Why did you think the woman agreed to it if it was inconsiderate ? the funniest thing is that the woman could have rejected the guy if he suggested something more considerate first lol.

Eunoiaa:
Lmaoooo. Mumu people.


You know these ediots actually take what they read here offline. Talmabout "take her to swimming pool so you can see her real face."

Negroid001:
I get balls of steel. I don't a f***.
I no dey force myself on top woman.
I'm not running a charity organisation for some hungry ass b**** to benefit from.

Common sense no common.

Negroid001:
If i didn't attach the screenshot. How would you believe me? Didn't mean to be extreme tho. Point I'm trying to make is I don't let women give me conditions that don't favour me.
Uber is cheaper and more convenient, i can't be hopping on buses up and down because i want to go on a date.
Funny thing is i would have still taken her to the eatery after the pool rendezvous. I'm the one calling the shots not her. That's why i asked who's paying, because it's inconvenient for me. I'm not a foodie.

We're good now. You dig?

Tallesty1:
You are the one calling the shots because it is you who initiated the date that is why you shouldn't have asked who is paying.
You call the shots, you pay the bills.

Tallesty1:
My first thought was to ignore you but seeing that you reason the way I reasoned several years ago, I decided to educate you.

The world's population is about 7.8 billion or more, that means that we have roughly 3.9 billion women so if you think every single one of these women is looking for bad guys that will ruin their life then you are younger that I imagined.

Now let's start the class already
This is true to an extent but that doesn't mean you should be an ass. Deep inside of you, you know that he was inconsiderate which is completely unnecessary. We all know what is and what is not considerate so a matured person shows respect and consideration to the other person's comfort and autonomy.

This is embarrassingly stereotypical. All women do not want the same thing. While I may admit that there are young ladies that may go for whatever your idea of a bad guy is, there are also others who would never have anything to do with them.

On my own part, I am being human not nice and being nice, assuming I am, doesn't equate to being fearful or passive in dating. Being respectful and considerate doesn't mean I can't make bold moves or express interest. It's about finding a balance between assertiveness and sensitivity to the other person's feelings. You will get there someday.

This is likely the first time I am engaging you here so you don't know shit about me but let's continue with the flow. I don't fear rejection, because it is normal in life. I receive rejection and I reject. In life, you must reject something and if you reject then you must be rejected, it is part of life.

I choose to be considerate because it helps build trust and rapport in a relationship, which can be undermined by disregarding the other person's feelings. I don't date children and a woman can peg you from afar, with your inconsiderate bad guy attitude, that first date may never happen.

At this stage in my life, I am very careful who I mingle with. I have had my share view of naked women, those things no longer move me.

You keep saying that I fear this and that but evidences point to the fact that it is you who is damn scared.
So the reason you agree to bossing her around and asking her to contribute something for a first date that you initiated is because you don't want to be friendzoned? LMAO

Dude you do realize that sex is so cheap these days? You do not know that you can sleep with a woman without asking her out or even stressing yourself with dates, and no it is not hook up?
Move with adults that know what they want, you will get all the sex if that is so important to you.

Listen, wherever a man is, he can always take care of his need. friend zone is one place you get sex and for free if you know your game but let's not deviate.

You over oversimplify the complex relationship dynamics. You think considerate guys always end up in the friendzone while inconsiderate ones get all the benefits? Dude, relationship is built on mutual respect, communication, and adaptability, not on being domineering or inconsiderate.

This type of thinking is dangerous, it is unhealthy.

Being domineering or controlling in a relationship is not a healthy or sustainable way to generate attraction. Genuine attraction is based on mutual respect, shared values, and emotional connection, not on exerting power over someone else.
Just because she agreed doesn't necessarily mean she finds it considerate or comfortable.

Building a healthy and fulfilling relationship involves mutual respect, communication, and genuine connection, rather than relying on outdated stereotypes or manipulative tactics.

Negroid001:
Was in talking stage with this shima. Decided to take things up a notch. Invited her to go swimming and she deflected it. Said she prefers eatery.
I believe since I'm the one with the funds, i should be calling the shots and not her.

Tallesty1:
You are the one calling the shots because it is you who initiated the date that is why you shouldn't have asked who is paying.
You call the shots, you pay the bills.