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Tombrown3:
I observed this behavior amongst Christians often.

And they extreme church goers with lots of Christian post all day.

FACT!!!

DeltaBachelor:
I swear babe. I can't wait for my rent to be due so that I leave this wicked environment. The energy and vibes is very negative. The funny thing is they all claim to be " christain" and church-goers. I won't belittle any tribe or religion but I stayed a bit in the North and there are things an hausa man wouldn't do. They are their neighbour's keeper. Over here, it is just unhealthy competition and unnecessary rivalry

I'm sorry to say this but Christian + extreme church goers = red flag, for me.

fuckingAyaya:
E get one neighbor like that too for our former house, she doesn't greet nor respond to greetings. Her daughter and one guy was playing outside, I dont know if the guy touched the girl inappropriately she threw a knife she was using to peel orange at the guy, omo na so knife cut one of the boy's vein on his leg na so the guy begin bleed. Blood was rushing out like say them open tap, meaning e get one babe wey i dey chyke of street I gave her appointment to come around 5pm i will be around then. When she came she came she called me she was at the gate then I rushed to open the gate for her low oand behold I saw the boy lying on the ground with blood gushing out from his leg na so I remove my shirt tied the leg then carried the boy on my back. The was say even saying chai na like this I go take die that he's feeling cold inside his body omo the guy black eye don dey go inside. Thank God for using me to save that boy that day. Could you believe that father of the girl didn't even even said thank you instead he went to call police to arrest me that there was no blood that I lied. Even the police came used sand to cover the blood that I was a liar. B4 the police came me don japa, the girl that threw that knife was crying and begging me that day to carry the boy because she couldn't carry him. Omo the girl twisted everything and said there was no blood, she even saw me the next day without greeting me lol i just laughed. May our good never put us to trouble. Omo people dey this life ooo.

How about the boy? Isn't he a witness in this case?

Yashita:
∆ He meant your signatory " "

He did? why?

Jewessgratitud3:
I hear you. Sebi the landlord will be dumb to support locking out a fellow tenant, what if the tenant was in danger of being pursued by robbers? They go collect including the landlord. Dem never jam craze.

The landlord will tell you why didn't you take your key when going out. See, last year I went to Abuja by air, I booked the flight going and coming. The flight was supposed to leave ABJ by 9pm.Unfortunately, it was delayed till 11:30 pm. I arrived my state of residence by 130 Am Took cab to my residence, arrive my residence by 2:15 Am. Open our gate with my own jam keys, enter my house peacefully. What do you think will happen if I didn't have my own personal keys?

ASAPFERG:
especially igbo people.

You're a fool. Every tribe is well represented in this nonsense so why are you singling out Igbos?
In one of my block of flats I rented out. 2 of the occupants are yorubas. 1 works in UBA while the other is an artisan. The other neighbours are Igbos. The only person giving me headache in that apartment is the Ekiti guy. All the other neighbors, including the other Yoruba guy have lodged complaints about him. I'm just waiting for his rent to expire and I'll serve him a notice

DeltaBachelor:
You really sabi them. I had never lived in such kind of environment before where every man is either envious of their fellow man or rather just plain inconsiderate with this "I don't care" attitude. Never again am I going to experience that again. God will definitely bless me to complete my own. So unfortunate. Pumping machine go spoil and your "so called " neighbours will just act like they don't care. We all share prepaid metre and when it is one person's turn, they act like it's non of their business. People are wicked o. Honestly speaking

Nigerians are individualistic by nature. That's why this country can never work in a thousand years time. Everyone is on his/her own.

I hate to bring tribe into this but I have found Igbo people to be very cold and hostile. Perfect example, I went to this shop to buy phone cover but the guy was not in his shop so I saw two Igbo guys in next shop and I asked them if they had seen the guy, they just kept looking at me and didn’t answer and had like a snarl on their faces. This has happened to me over 30 times so I know it’s no coincidence. They just look at you in anger with pure hatred as if you are disturbing them by being in their presence. I don’t understand Igbo people.

gammarays:
One of the reasons I hated one room apartment or face me I face you apartments is lack of privacy and aproko

It's good to be our neighbors keepers but there's a limit to everything

We blacks are worse, if you can't get your type better stay on your own

you can tell that alot of nairalanders lived in a face me i slap u and they are used to that caotic lifestyle of pokenosing into your neighbors affairs to even asking them for maggi and salt. Don’t mind those claiming to have cars they all broke. Someone who has really stayed im a flat from childhood till adulthood will never creat this topic

Sapasenator:
Na me be the that neighbor. I hate people coming close to me and may not even answer your greetings on real life.

and you think that's a good thing? If you don't want people coming close to you, you can become a hermit and live in isolation

I have one like that too both husband and wife always think they are above every body in the comp on street too so no one is talking to them again

No body go sleep for that compound.
Except say nah so me self dey do for them.

iSense247:
Nigerians are individualistic by nature. That's why this country can never work in a thousand years time. Everyone is on his/her own.

Funny. See the list of the most individualistic countries in the world.
1. Australia
2. Canada
3. Germany
4. The Netherlands
5. The United States

Nigeria is not in any way individualistic. We are a nosy people, never willing to take responsibility for our misbehaviours and carelessness. if they're not blaming co-tenants, they will create threads blaming landlords, etc. Think about it, how many times have you seen Nigerians abroad complaining about their landlords? Many don't even know the owner of the house they live in. That's how individualistic people do. Over here, everyone is trying to get into other people's business, not because they really care, but to be sure you're not doing better than them. Fake people. Waking up every day to fight over borehole contribution or NEPA contribution is what many consider as "having caring neighbours." LOL. Crazy country.

Some said "nobody go sleep for the compound if nobody open the gate." Can these people try such in a saner, individualistic country?

Ahmed0336:
These types of neighbours full Abuja.

You'd live in a compound where you wouldn't know your next door neighbour's name or what he does for a living.

Sometimes it can be as bad as not greeting/ talking to each other and no be say Una dey quarrel oo.

I no know who introduced this Yankee bs here.

It's not "Yankee BS", it should just be normal way of life. Who has ever benefitted from pokey neighbors? If your neighbors don't want to know you, why must you be worried about knowing them? Are you all related in any way?

Several people live in estates to avoid unnecessary familiarity with people around them - a different experience from living in face-me-i-face-you types of places on the streets where one random person will just come from no where begging for Maggi, salt etc because of see finish.

Olichoke:
At times I wonder what will be the gain of mean neighbours[b]. I have one neighbour in my compound that always found it difficult to respond to a neighborly greeting and always frowns her face whenever she sees me and my family. I and my wife decided to finally stop greeting her and she too stopped. We don't talk to ourselves living in the same compound[/b].

Who cares lolz, someone like me I will greet you oo normal but e get wen e go reach and no response I cut off walai who dey feed me....

DeltaBachelor:
You really sabi them. I had never lived in such kind of environment before where every man is either envious of their fellow man or rather just plain inconsiderate with this "I don't care" attitude. Never again am I going to experience that again. God will definitely bless me to complete my own. So unfortunate. Pumping machine go spoil and your "so called " neighbours will just act like they don't care. We all share prepaid metre and when it is one person's turn, they act like it's non of their business. People are wicked o. Honestly speaking

Na this pumping machine they pain me pass
We are currently buying water instead of them to contribute money for it to be fixed

Here are some of the reasons why some neighbours show this I don't care attitude

Some had bad experience with neighbours in the past

Some are avoiding unnecessary envy mostly if you are doing well and the neighbour is not doing so well.

Some are running away from gossip
cos most times going close or building a relationship with a neighbor can expose u to a lot of gossip.

Lastly we are in the last days where many seek spiritual help from different religious places

So don't be surprise if you neighbor sees you as a witch that is blocking his progress.

We all can testify that a lot of religious or prayer houses have done a serious damage by making their followers n believers feel that almost everyone around them is evil and should be avoided.

Let me share one of my many experience.
I had this mentality that it is not good to stay in a compound without having at least one person you can call when emergency arise.

So I connect with my neighbor unknown to me that that neighbor is a bitter soul who sees nothing good in anyone n very envious.

I didn't know that she n her husband have fought every tenant in the compound for this reason no tenant wants to get close to anyone in the compound.

To cut story short
I renovated my flat and this people could not hide their envy immediately they stopped greeting and started avoiding me .

Too many reasons dey for one to mind his business

YourKarma:
and you think that's a good thing? If you don't want people coming close to you, you can become a hermit and live in isolation

I love my privacy die. Family members must notify in advance. Nor vex ok.

Father4all:
The landlord will tell you why didn't you take your key when going out. See, last year I went to Abuja by air, I booked the flight going and coming. The flight was supposed to leave ABJ by 9pm.Unfortunately, it was delayed till 11:30 pm. I arrived my state of residence by 130 Am Took cab to my residence, arrive my residence by 2:15 Am. Open our gate with my own jam keys, enter my house peacefully. What do you think will happen if I didn't have my own personal keys?

What if he forgot to take his keys with him or don't mistakes happen? Na wa o. Some neighbors can be very callous

Mumben:
I saw a post on Facebook days back talking about experiences of people living in some neighborhood especially some estates in Abuja and everybody's I don't care attitude towards their neighbor and I thought to bring the topic here for your contributions.

A particular guys experience made me feel bad. He said he escorted his girlfriend who had come to visit him to the bus stop to board a taxi home. On getting to his compound gate, he knocked and knocked but no one came to open the gate even though he could see them through the small opening on the gate. Unfortunately for him, his phone was in his apartment and his girlfriend's family were calling him to inform him that the girl had an accident on her way home.

Las Las, he had to pass the night at a friend's place with only boxers and singlet he was putting on. On getting to his house Early the next morning, he saw a lot of mixed calls from the girls family, he called back and tried to explain but they didn't want to hear. He packed out of the compound one week later as he couldn't come to terms with the fact that his neighbours could be so mean.

Personally, I can't relate because some years ago in our former compound, I was in labour and my husband was not around, he called our landlord and he drove me in his car to the hospital. May God continue to bless him, he is such a good man


Share your experiences with I Don't Care kind of neighbours

As for me, it was so bad to realize late, Abuja neighbors are so worst to me, I don't want to narrate what I went through being the mr nice guy.

I have learnt my lesson, now I no dey open gate ooo even if you knock with iron and I dey close to the gate, just call the person you come find to open gate for you.

But wait ooo I don’t understand this topic ooo, so you mean you live in an apartment with no gateman you all pay and you are expecting some neighbor to come out of his house to open gate for you ? Awon werey. If you can’t afford to pay a gateman it means it’s a poor low income place and as such everyone has a valid reason to be suspicious of their neighbor. You can open gate now your neighbor done set you up for kidnap for money ritual lol. It’s like you are all looking at each other suspiciously and apprehensively and rightfully so

Zonefree:



What specie of human wears singlet and boxers to the bus stop?

It's good he packed out. He should relocate to the village, city life ain't for him.

This is mean

I guess you are a bad neighbour too. what goes around comes around

DeltaBachelor:
Trust me, you have a very good landlord. May God continue to bless him. I can't forget in a hurry one of the most horrific experiences I had.

A friend of mine ( of blessed memory)who travelled abroad came back and needed a place to stay. As bachelor wey I be, I accommodated him because I felt it would be a waste of money for him to lodge in a hotel for like 2 months. On that fateful day, I went to see my parents and called this my friend that I may come back late, so he should please be on the lookout in case the gate is locked.

Unfortunately for me, my phone ba3 died and unknowing to me, this my friend had gone out but put my key somewhere for me because according to him, he had been trying to reach out to me, but my phone was off. To cut the long story short, I came back around 10pm and was knocking and knocking at the gate for like 3 hours and no one came to open. Around 1am or so, I had to scale the fence because I didn't have any friend close by and I didn't want to go back home to my parents because it was very dangerous at that time of the day with robbery incidents and all and also because I was a bit drunk due to "several issues "I was facing at the time.

So back to my story, na so I scale fence o and slept in front of my door because I didn't know that my friend kept the key for me. I thought he mistakenly took it with him. Around 3am or so, that was how I felt a sharp pain on my back . I didn't know my neighbours or landlord had gone to call OPC vigilante and also the police that a thief broke into the compound. Na so them start to molest me o. Honestly, I cried that day, not because of the pain, but because of the denial and embarrassment I got.

I vowed never to give birth in that compound even if I marry because it made me to realise the kind of people I was living with. Imagine coming at 10pm and nobody responds at all despite using force and even stones to hit the gate to get attention. See ehn, I DONT CARE neighbours are in abundance. They just only care about themselves and I learnt a very big lesson that day.

Suffice to say the police that came were reasonable and very understanding and never molested me, but the OPC vigilante people that used the side of cutlass to be flogging me. I had my revenge on the perpetrators exactly a year after and they also pleaded with me and we settled, but that's a story for another day !

Sorry for your experience. Didn’t your friend come back that night? Also, please tell us how you got your revenge back. Please don’t leave us hanging. Thank you🙏

Kobojunkie:
Explain yourself!

The kobojunkie i know on nairaland can never comment without her usual emoji.

If you have good neighbors you will enjoy your stay together.
We once lived in a compound of 6 flats.
There was this family, the wife was very friendly to people and of course was friendly to my wife too..so they became good friends.
This lady will make food and bring to us.
Same with my wife too, she will make some food and send to her.
Sandra was just too good to a fault.
But her husband na Koko head somebody.
The guy gets were for head.
But the wife na better human being she be.
I missed her sha.

Mumben:
I saw a post on Facebook days back talking about experiences of people living in some neighborhood especially some estates in Abuja and everybody's I don't care attitude towards their neighbor and I thought to bring the topic here for your contributions.

A particular guys experience made me feel bad. He said he escorted his girlfriend who had come to visit him to the bus stop to board a taxi home. On getting to his compound gate, he knocked and knocked but no one came to open the gate even though he could see them through the small opening on the gate. Unfortunately for him, his phone was in his apartment and his girlfriend's family were calling him to inform him that the girl had an accident on her way home.

Las Las, he had to pass the night at a friend's place with only boxers and singlet he was putting on. On getting to his house Early the next morning, he saw a lot of mixed calls from the girls family, he called back and tried to explain but they didn't want to hear. He packed out of the compound one week later as he couldn't come to terms with the fact that his neighbours could be so mean.

Personally, I can't relate because some years ago in our former compound, I was in labour and my husband was not around, he called our landlord and he drove me in his car to the hospital. May God continue to bless him, he is such a good man


Share your experiences with I Don't Care kind of neighbours

I saw the story also. Most of them will claim to be Christian, but ravaged by un-Christlikeness

DeltaBachelor:
Trust me, you have a very good landlord. May God continue to bless him. I can't forget in a hurry one of the most horrific experiences I had.

A friend of mine ( of blessed memory)who travelled abroad came back and needed a place to stay. As bachelor wey I be, I accommodated him because I felt it would be a waste of money for him to lodge in a hotel for like 2 months. On that fateful day, I went to see my parents and called this my friend that I may come back late, so he should please be on the lookout in case the gate is locked.

Unfortunately for me, my phone ba3 died and unknowing to me, this my friend had gone out but put my key somewhere for me because according to him, he had been trying to reach out to me, but my phone was off. To cut the long story short, I came back around 10pm and was knocking and knocking at the gate for like 3 hours and no one came to open. Around 1am or so, I had to scale the fence because I didn't have any friend close by and I didn't want to go back home to my parents because it was very dangerous at that time of the day with robbery incidents and all and also because I was a bit drunk due to "several issues "I was facing at the time.

So back to my story, na so I scale fence o and slept in front of my door because I didn't know that my friend kept the key for me. I thought he mistakenly took it with him. Around 3am or so, that was how I felt a sharp pain on my back . I didn't know my neighbours or landlord had gone to call OPC vigilante and also the police that a thief broke into the compound. Na so them start to molest me o. Honestly, I cried that day, not because of the pain, but because of the denial and embarrassment I got.

I vowed never to give birth in that compound even if I marry because it made me to realise the kind of people I was living with. Imagine coming at 10pm and nobody responds at all despite using force and even stones to hit the gate to get attention. See ehn, I DONT CARE neighbours are in abundance. They just only care about themselves and I learnt a very big lesson that day.

Suffice to say the police that came were reasonable and very understanding and never molested me, but the OPC vigilante people that used the side of cutlass to be flogging me. I had my revenge on the perpetrators exactly a year after and they also pleaded with me and we settled, but that's a story for another day !

Both Landlord and co-tenants are extremely callous.

fuckingAyaya:
E get one neighbor like that too for our former house, she doesn't greet nor respond to greetings. Her daughter and one guy was playing outside, I dont know if the guy touched the girl inappropriately she threw a knife she was using to peel orange at the guy, omo na so knife cut one of the boy's vein on his leg na so the guy begin bleed. Blood was rushing out like say them open tap, meaning e get one babe wey i dey chyke of street I gave her appointment to come around 5pm i will be around then. When she came she came she called me she was at the gate then I rushed to open the gate for her low oand behold I saw the boy lying on the ground with blood gushing out from his leg na so I remove my shirt tied the leg then carried the boy on my back. The was say even saying chai na like this I go take die that he's feeling cold inside his body omo the guy black eye don dey go inside. Thank God for using me to save that boy that day. Could you believe that father of the girl didn't even even said thank you instead he went to call police to arrest me that there was no blood that I lied. Even the police came used sand to cover the blood that I was a liar. B4 the police came me don japa, the girl that threw that knife was crying and begging me that day to carry the boy because she couldn't carry him. Omo the girl twisted everything and said there was no blood, she even saw me the next day without greeting me lol i just laughed. May our good never put us to trouble. Omo people dey this life ooo.

Bro you suppose don thanksgiving for church for this kind of incident o if you are a Christian. Imagine if the boy died for your back Omo na kirikiri straight oo because the girl in question go denied you likewise her parent. No evidence you go explain tired

willi926:
I secretly spoilt my compound jam lock and threw the padlock inside bush as revenge. I knocked for 2 hours and I could see someone peeping through there curtain oo, I use stone knock for gate tire, my so called neighbours no come open door, after a while another tenant came back use phone call him wife, she came out and opened the door, she was like she never knew someone was knocking oo. I said no wahala, I didn't even act as if e pain me or said any bad word, I just keep am for mind. After some weeks them begin find padlock, lo and behold jamlock sef done spoil. One of the neighbours said they should ask me, I might know about it. If them born Una papa well come ask me useless question. Na so we take contribute another money for padlock and jamlock. Nonsense people

😂😂 thankfully no one dared to come asking

diamond68:
I hate to bring tribe into this but I have found Igbo people to be very cold and hostile. Perfect example, I went to this shop to buy phone cover but the guy was not in his shop so I saw two Igbo guys in next shop and I asked them if they had seen the guy, they just kept looking at me and didn’t answer and had like a snarl on their faces. This has happened to me over 30 times so I know it’s no coincidence. They just look at you in anger with pure hatred as if you are disturbing them by being in their presence. I don’t understand Igbo people.

This sort of thing had happened to me severally, mainly at alaba and arena market, they'd look you like shit, I wonder why? I almost fought one in the process but i had to let it slide

Well the dude should count himself lucky. So why didn’t they listen when he explained to them that he wasn’t with his phone?

I think he should thank his God that he couldn’t go further with those kind of mean in-laws.

fuckingAyaya:
E get one neighbor like that too for our former house, she doesn't greet nor respond to greetings. Her daughter and one guy was playing outside, I dont know if the guy touched the girl inappropriately she threw a knife she was using to peel orange at the guy, omo na so knife cut one of the boy's vein on his leg na so the guy begin bleed. Blood was rushing out like say them open tap, meaning e get one babe wey i dey chyke of street I gave her appointment to come around 5pm i will be around then. When she came she came she called me she was at the gate then I rushed to open the gate for her low oand behold I saw the boy lying on the ground with blood gushing out from his leg na so I remove my shirt tied the leg then carried the boy on my back. The was say even saying chai na like this I go take die that he's feeling cold inside his body omo the guy black eye don dey go inside. Thank God for using me to save that boy that day. Could you believe that father of the girl didn't even even said thank you instead he went to call police to arrest me that there was no blood that I lied. Even the police came used sand to cover the blood that I was a liar. B4 the police came me don japa, the girl that threw that knife was crying and begging me that day to carry the boy because she couldn't carry him. Omo the girl twisted everything and said there was no blood, she even saw me the next day without greeting me lol i just laughed. May our good never put us to trouble. Omo people dey this life ooo.

My God !!!!!!