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Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Maysdevices(f): 12:56am On Mar 05
iamL:


E clear say you be man but a coward to be hiding under the guise of a female attacking females.
What females did I attack



I don’t need to prove to you what I am but if you are so interested in knowing, you can send me an email
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Maysdevices(f): 1:04am On Mar 05
Franzinni:
now I have perspective... You are a woman, and that is why you are seeing it from your perspective... Madam, I am in no means trying to argue against your point and the reason is I as a man, have no understanding of the relationship dynamics from the perspective of a woman, I can only refer to my observation of how I have come understand the position of both sexes in a relationship... Let me ask if you were married to a man who falls short of providing and protecting you in your home, be honest... How would you feel and how long would you endure before you begin to behave like ops wife...

It's like working for mtn and you are told to bare with them as there is no salary for 5 months... Be fair.
You have a traditional man’s mentality, I have a modern woman’s mentality. You believe your worth as man is to provide and when that doesn’t happen, you’re worthless enough to be insulted to your face.

I was in long term relationship with worse downs than you can ever think of, even embarrassments but I never once made him feel less of himself in fact it made me want to protect to him more from this cruel world. We are now engaged and it’s been years of bliss.

I will build to help my man and make myself useful before calling him poor and wretched. She that is not poor and wretched, how does she help around the house? There is a balance to these things

She might as well have spit on his face

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Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Kobojunkie: 1:43am On Mar 05
Maysdevices:
■ Thats not the point. Men reason a certain way once they’ve gotten the women they want in their lives. Once a man commits, know he has reached the apex of his hustle and now wants stability. However most women don’t value stability and always want the excitement they see their richer counterparts have. In this confusion, they lash out their men for not being richer or doing more whereas those men were perfect financially to them before they got married. The man gets confused but uses the pain to propel themselves to greater heights and starts living like the wife is his sister. He provides for her but doesn’t love her and would rather spend his nights with ‘appreciative’ women outside. There are better ways to trigger a man’s ambition once you see him complacent than to insult him unnecessarily.
In our less sane clime, relationships here are different.
■ Just look at Veekeejames this week for example, she is being dragged simply because she is richer than her man. Learn to live in Nigeria and not online.
Here's a simple question. Did this woman married to this man in fact tell you that she is trying to "trigger his ambition" or are you instead assuming there that every woman's brain works exactly like yours do when it comes to what each wants in a relationship, how much each is willing to accept and so on? undecided

2. Relationships are different and as such we must be made to believe, by you, that all Nigerian women in relationships with Nigerian men in Nigeria think and act exactly like you do, right? undecided

3. So this veekeejames person is being dragged for something as stewpid as that, all Nigerian women should then avoid dating men not earning as much as they do? Are you kidding me? undecided
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Seeker2014: 6:44am On Mar 05
How do I go about learning skills on Data annotation and data analysis? I do not know the skill targets please.
blackpanthar:
I commend your courage sir, to remain with that woman, talk more of being faithful or patient is really a herculean task.
Now to the main matter...
YOU WERE ACTUALLY POOR....(Passing Over Opportunities Repeatedly) in your past but this year EVERYTHING WILL TURN UP FOR YOU.

Do not blame her sir, blame yourself for not understanding the COMMITMENT DEMANDS of marriage before jumping into it.
I wouldn't want to go deep into how this our generation has EXALTED MARRIAGE beyond limits.... it feels like singleness is a disease yet the truly married ones do not publicize the HEAVY WORK involved.
Before marrying, read books, go to conferences and ask questions... you will discover THERE IS NO HONEY WITHOUT MONEY.

Now let me give my 50cent solutions/ideas (asides what other great minds in this forum will offer)

1) Move out of that house... send her to stay with your parents for a while and then you can go manage with a friend. THEN SUBLET THE 3 BEDROOM(you will get enough money for a tank and more)

2) buy more drums

3) buy 25k POS and give her to start work........ so she will know how hard it is to make money and begin to appreciate you

4) learn how to drive, then offer UBER SERVICES to people who own cars... YOU WILL BE DRIVING FOR THEM AND PAYING THEM 25K OR 30K WEEKLY WHILE THE REST IS YOURS. (this is more better than the meagre salary you earn)


5) Learn how to use the computer well and learn skills like DATA ANOTATION, DATA ANALYSIS and I can help you with a REMOTE JOB.

6) LEARN WEB DESIGN and GRAPHICS and inform people of your skills by word of mouth and you will get jobs/contracts

7) GO TO GOOGLE and type cysed jobs you can apply if you are in the selected states and get a higher paying job with more recognition.


I hope this helps you bro... keep pushing... you will own houses one day. Stay Inspired.


Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Franzinni: 8:04am On Mar 05
Maysdevices:

You have a traditional man’s mentality, I have a modern woman’s mentality. You believe your worth as man is to provide and when that doesn’t happen, you’re worthless enough to be insulted to your face.

I was in long term relationship with worse downs than you can ever think of, even embarrassments but I never once made him feel less of himself in fact it made me want to protect to him more from this cruel world. We are now engaged and it’s been years of bliss.

I will build to help my man and make myself useful before calling him poor and wretched. She that is not poor and wretched, how does she help around the house? There is a balance to these things

She might as well have spit on his face
unfortunately you are an anomaly when it comes to the stand of women globally. Because I have yet to see a woman who will stand by a man when he is in the dirt, and if you truly did that for your man, don't you think you are more traditional than modern... Because "ride or die" meant something back in the day... But nowadays nah "for better for stay, for worse for leave" ... So men, get yourself right FIRST, be capable of carrying the load before you ever embark on the journey of marriage because apart from 1 or 2 unicorns like this madam up there, you will be insulted and called out of your name if you don't meet up with the needful... And rightfully so.
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by upuphim(m): 10:49am On Mar 05
Add Pwan Group real estate business to your teaching job to deal with poverty. We sell land and houses in 23 states of the nation including Abuja. You can reach me on oazimo@yahoo.com for more details.
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by ggood: 10:57am On Mar 05
Franzinni:
go to skillshare or udemy... You can take very high quality course for as low as 3k, 5k, but first do a small research on what tech job are lucrative going into the next 3 to five years and by process of elimination you will find one that vibes with your person...but try and learn python. It will open doors beyond belief.

YouTube is good, but the problem with it is that, the information is scattered across various channels and various teaching styles and that is the reason why most people pick up a skill and get overwhelmed and quit... so I advise a structured paid training with a certificate of completion issued at the end of your training.... It will come in handy too .
God bless you brother for the information
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Xammie001(m): 12:41pm On Mar 05
Love is BLIND, MARRIAGE WILL OPEN YOUR EYES BRO
Dey behave like SIMP, one day she will leave the house without thinking about you
AkporsMechanical:
I promise to be very brief.
My wife and I live in a three bedroom flat without paying rent, although we only occupy one room since we don't have much property yet. The owner of the house abandoned the house before now and when we had accomodation issue asked us to stay there. We have been here since last year. However, there is no Geepee tank to supply water into the house. We could only pump water into our little drum when there is light. So I always go fetch water from the neighbouring compounds whenever there is no light which have resulted into several insults. My wife has been dragging me that I must buy a Geepee tank.

My salary as a private school teacher is barely enough to feed us talk more of saving to buy a Geepee tank especially in this economic crisis. In the midst of all these, my wife's phone went bad and needed a new one Just this afternoon, my wife started raining insults on me that I am not behaving like a man at all, that I should have settled down fully before thinking of marriage, that I want to make her go hungry. This was because I told her I would cut off some part of my salary to be saving so I can buy curtain for our room, television and save for Geepee tank. She even went ahead to say I am poor and wretched just because I can't afford her a new phone for now.

Since afternoon, I have refused to eat. My problem here is that my parents love my wife and my parents are far from where I reside. And I don't want to report my wife to my parents so it won't bring disrespect later to her in the future. Secondly, as the first born of my parent,I don't know how my parents will take it if I tell them I don't want to marry her again so they don't have b.p. I am really really confused. The little extra money I get from extra tutorial is what I do send to my two siblings in school even though is very little compare to their needs but at least it is something.

I feel like running away but to where? I truly love my wife but she is regretting marrying me. Please what can I do?
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by AkporsMechanical(m): 12:50pm On Mar 05
Maysdevices:


I’M A WOMAN I WILL TELL YOU FOR FREE THAT YOU ARE A SIMP!!!!!! You fetch water for her too?


What a fucking pity.

Why do your parents love her? Abeg don’t make me angry which one is you truly love your wife?

What do you want us to do now apart from tell you to dump for a while let her learn money doesn’t fall from the skies?

You want us to contribute money for Geepee tank or what?

Mr ‘I truly love my wife’ that calls him wretched and poor for because of ordinary phone GO AND SLEEP

SIMP

This story made me so angry if I were a guy, I fit track you woze you 😡


Abeg no vex for me jare. You fit still track me. I don tire like this.
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by AkporsMechanical(m): 1:14pm On Mar 05
blackpanthar:


The job i posted in item 7 is currently recruiting.

Edo
Lagos
Abuja
Bayelsa


You didnt mention your LOCATION... I hope this helps


Thank you very much sir. I am residing in Ogun State but very close to Lagos. #700 naira bike fare to Lagos. I will check out the job right away.

Sir, my contact is 0.8.1.six.six.two.eight.9.1.5.5
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by teeshet: 5:25am On Mar 06
Franzinni:
we have media like

Graphics design
Editing
Cinematography
Videography
Content creator (a must for every human being, it is a good reference and indicator of progress )
Filmmaker
Story board artist
Gaffer
Directing
Vfx
Sound design
Foley
2d animation
3d animation
And the list goes on...

Now for tech I would

Learn programming with python
And why I say python is because it is in virtually all systems like banking, defense, computing, robotics, surveillance you name it.... in the world in one way I the other which gives you the ability to be very versatile with your skill set...

It's not going to be easy but if you can pull it off, you would one day look down from your lofty height and be glad you are not that guy down there anymore... To greater height... And God speed!

I want to learn python. Connect me
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Maysdevices(f): 8:30am On Mar 06
AkporsMechanical:


Abeg no vex for me jare. You fit still track me. I don tire like this.
Haha. Lol. Don’t mind me
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Preciousese(f): 3:52pm On Mar 06
Maysdevices:


I’M A WOMAN I WILL TELL YOU FOR FREE THAT YOU ARE A SIMP!!!!!! You fetch water for her too?


What a fucking pity.

Why do your parents love her? Abeg don’t make me angry which one is you truly love your wife?

What do you want us to do now apart from tell you to dump for a while let her learn money doesn’t fall from the skies?

You want us to contribute money for Geepee tank or what?

Mr ‘I truly love my wife’ that calls him wretched and poor for because of ordinary phone GO AND SLEEP

SIMP

This story made me so angry if I were a guy, I fit track you woze you 😡


You be confirmed man,stop pretending ohh

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Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Preciousese(f): 3:54pm On Mar 06
muyico:
Wait?
she s not working?
seems like u married liability woman.
my wife bought her phone by herself. She dash me her 4ma phone. When she c i didnt fancy latest phone! U gat alot to do on her! U re not man enough. 4 ur wife to rainz insult on u. Despite my wife taking alot of responsibility at home. She nava once insult me b4!!

These women dey try oh,they work and feed man while he relaxed at home
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Preciousese(f): 3:56pm On Mar 06
Maysdevices:
As a woman I feel very angry because I know exactly what that woman thinks of him, yet she’s jobless

When I was in school I used to listen to 21year old girls brag that they will slap their boyfriend if they catch him cheating or if he doesn’t send them money but will sleep with all the yahoo boys in school while mature men in Lagos hustle and train them


Make men continue to dey disturb themselves, y’all don’t know how special and too sexy you are when you act like what you were created to be. A MAN, YOU ARE THE PRIZE.


Rubbish


A woman will tell a man that his the price, another woman husband for that matter,abeg Mr man you don't even know to to fake been a woman🥱🥱🥱
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Whois(m): 6:52pm On Mar 06
TUANKU:
You no get TV and her phone don spoil...she will make life hell for you cheesy

The bitter truth here shocked

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Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by mysticwarrior(m): 12:05am On Mar 07
My brother in marriage once there is financial crisis women are tend to vent their frustration on their husband’s.
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Maysdevices(f): 8:28am On Mar 07
Preciousese:


A woman will tell a man that his the price, another woman husband for that matter,abeg Mr man you don't even know to to fake been a woman🥱🥱🥱
Interesting
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Maysdevices(f): 8:30am On Mar 07
Preciousese:


You be confirmed man,stop pretending ohh
You seem obsessed
Do you want to eat my pussy or something?
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Preciousese(f): 10:09am On Mar 07
Maysdevices:
You seem obsessed
Do you want to eat my pussy or something?

Gross am not a lesbian and even if I were I won't be eating some fools own

Anyway I don't need to bother about that cause I know na WR wrinkled and dirty tiny dick and balls thats there
No go work dey look for woman to feed you
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Maysdevices(f): 11:07am On Mar 07
Preciousese:


Gross am not a lesbian and even if I were I won't be eating some fools own

Anyway I don't need to bother about that cause I know na WR wrinkled and dirty tiny dick and balls thats there
No go work dey look for woman to feed you
Lol. You are so clueless, it’s hilarious

Go eat breakfast and leave me alone. Thanks
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Preciousese(f): 11:38am On Mar 07
Maysdevices:
Lol. You are so clueless, it’s hilarious

Go eat breakfast and leave me alone. Thanks

Leave you alone,did I hold you in anyway
Biko go and continue looking for women that will feed you
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by user32(m): 11:53am On Mar 07
imagine if u werent living in a free apartment
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by torqque7(m): 8:30pm On Mar 11
Maysdevices:
This exactly what he wants. Tomorrow when his wife calls him poor and wretched for not having any furniture in the house, Una go still contribute for am to furnish

Simp ass man fetching water for an ungrateful abusive thing

As in the guy SIMPING Sha no be here o.A woman who trash talks her husband like that means she doesn't respect him, and he will always beg for sex and she will only give him pity fvck whenever she decides to.

As she no de reapect her husband for house I can assure you, that's if she hasn't even started cheating yet o there is one guy somewhere that fvcks her anyhow without caution and she still respects him. Some SIMPS are irredeemable..he is gradually getting to that point.

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Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by Maysdevices(f): 2:58pm On Mar 22
torqque7:


As in the guy SIMPING Sha no be here o.A woman who trash talks her husband like that means she doesn't respect him, and he will always beg for sex and she will only give him pity fvck whenever she decides to.

As she no de reapect her husband for house I can assure you, that's if she hasn't even started cheating yet o there is one guy somewhere that fvcks her anyhow without caution and she still respects him. Some SIMPS are irredeemable..he is gradually getting to that point.
This is so sad.

As a woman, I can’t help but agree to this. If she’s disrespecting you, she’s respecting someone somewhere else that doesn’t give her anything

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Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by JoeEeL(m): 9:09am On Apr 16
okine4real:
i have learnt one thing in marriage, as a man, make provision for counter attacking your wife when her madness start. If my wife start her wahala, i simply leave the house for her and go stay another of my house. As a man, hustle get money and build house apart from the one you staying and leave a spare room for contingency sake, if her wahala too much, go stay from the house dey go work. I always tell my wife, if you think am poor, then go and make the money yourself, stop giving me stress. if you cant build, go rent one room for far place keep there, the house nor be for to dey carry woman go there ohh, just to go and cool your head, if your wife start wahala.

What if she later finds out about the new address of the second house cos she soon will
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by okine4real: 3:29pm On Apr 16
JoeEeL:


What if she later finds out about the new address of the second house cos she soon will

while she go find out? go get apartment for far place, never you speak to her regards to you having a place to go cool off. if after things normal, and too much question dey arise as to where you dey sleep, just stay mute, nothing pains and fears a woman more than a man when nor dey talk too much. Your woman but not be able to read your mind. If you die because of stress of billing, another man go take over from where you stop. be wise.
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Giving Me Pain. by JoeEeL(m): 9:37pm On Apr 16
okine4real:


while she go find out? go get apartment for far place, never you speak to her regards to you having a place to go cool off. if after things normal, and too much question dey arise as to where you dey sleep, just stay mute, nothing pains and fears a woman more than a man when nor dey talk too much. Your woman but not be able to read your mind. If you die because of stress of billing, another man go take over from where you stop. be wise.

Thanks for the advice boss.

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