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A Nigerian woman, Nneka Obani, who survived domestic violence has shared her story and advised women to walk away from abusive partners.


Taking to Facebook on Tuesday, April 22, 2024, she shared photos of a broken vanity table her ex-husband allegedly threw at her when she was six months pregnant.


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According to her, he allegedly resorted to violence because she told their house help, his ‘babe’ to leave for stealing from her.


“Flee from domestic violence, not everyone is strong enough to survive it. If you don't die directly from the physical abuse, you may end up dying from the HBP that the marriage served you,” she wrote.

"Google memories just brought this up, yours truly was six months pregnant here, when they pushed this vanity table at her, the mirror ended up scattering into pieces and gave her some serious injury. Why did he do this, because his babe the househelp was told to leave the house for stealing from her madam.
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"Tomorrow a lunatic will post that 95 percent of women were caught cheating, that's why they were kicked out of their marriages but they all come online to claim that they were abused. And I see men shouting preach! Preach!!! Then women who should know better will be in the comment section saying gbam.

“If you gbam to things like that, may your daughters experience the exact same thing in their marriages. Whether you gbam secretly or openly, may they experience abuse and see how sweet it is.”

thesicilian:
So you knew she was he was sleeping with the househelp and you didn't send her away, immediately, and only decided to send her away when she stole from you? The story is not clear.

thesicilian:
So you knew she was he was sleeping with the househelp and you didn't send her away, immediately, and only decided to send her away when she stole from you? The story is not clear.

Zonefree:
Who brought the house help into the house? Why should a sane woman bring a matured woman in her home in the name of house help?


When a married woman is not having her ways with her husband, she tends to accuse the innocent husband of sleeping with the house help.

Biglittlelois:
Accuse? Why did the husband react violently to a six month pregnant woman when she wanted the house maid to leave?

And where is it said in the article that the house maid is a matured woman

Creamypie:
Forget this emotional blackmail. Na women way.na Only lazy and incompetent wives have househelps. Let's hear from the husbands side first. See how quick she was to assert the house help was his babe, as if she knew it all along and kept quiet. Madam talk truth

Zonefree:
The house help is matured, if not, the bittered ex wife would have been calling the innocent man a Paedophile all over social media.

Kajaard:
This is the wives version of the story. I don't give verdicts until I hear both sides of the story (inclusive of the husbands version).

Because people twist tales to get sympathy from online in-laws like us

Biglittlelois:
1) Emotional blackmail when empty of what to say, you live with them to know what really happened abi?

2)You must be a crazy clown for the bolded you spewed

3) I thought chioma should be the "rolls modens" of every married woman for peace to reign according to morally bankrupt males like you, why are you shocked that she accepted her husband's "babe" and draw the line on stealing?

Creamypie:
thats y you are a fool. If she really believed that he was dating her, y did she wait until she "stole" b4 asking her 2 leave? What makes her think she stole it. Pls get off my mention

Biglittlelois:
The cheating irresponsible violent ex is innocent? How?

Why exactly wouldn't she be bitter to someone that almost killed her?

Zonefree:
Almost killed her? What proof do you have?

Biglittlelois:
Comprehension failed you? The broken glass and "sustained serious injuries" in the article skipped your eyesight? Serious injuries can't lead to death?

Zonefree:
So, you believed the words of a jilted and bittered ex Nigerian wife?

What if she broke the glass? And where are the photos of her "sustained serious injuries"?

Biglittlelois:
So we should believe you, an unknown moniker on a faceless forum instead of a woman that voluntarily said her story?

Why not go to her page and ask her for details since you think you are that important to know more of what happened.

thesicilian:
So you knew she was he was sleeping with the househelp and you didn't send her away, immediately, and only decided to send her away when she stole from you? The story is not clear.

Zonefree:
Women supporting women in full glare.

Tallesty1:
Normals na. Most times when a man stands up for a house help, next thing they do is to accuse him of sleeping with her.

Kobojunkie:
HUH? Didn't someone hail some woman called Chioma for accepting her cheating husband in the name of peace? Why is it unclear when another woman accepts cheating from her husband but not a house help stealing her property?

thesicilian:
Lol
NO woman will accept cheating from her husband when the cheating is CONTINUOUS, in the SAME HOUSE she lives, and with a MAID she has CONTROL over.

Biglittlelois:
Yes, and that is because there may be no evidence to support that notion, so now that the husband reacted violently to her telling the house maid to leave the house, what does that tell you about the irresponsible husband? And even at that, you expect her to allow the maid to stay in the house after stealing from her?

Kobojunkie:
I disagree! There are cases out there of women accepting the maid as second wife.

thesicilian:
On the matter of evidence, did she mention any evidence that the maid actually slept with her husband or even stole from her? Did she mention what she supposedly stole from her? What if the maid was actually a hardworking, honest person that bothered the children (if any) and husband really liked, and when madam is beating her for stealing what might have just got lost, the husband decided to speak out for her? We all know that in most households with maids, the man dare not defend the maid when madam is beating her for fear of madam claiming they're sleeping together.

thesicilian:
∆ You go tell me which village you come from make I go check

Zonefree:
Who brought the house help into the house? Why should a sane woman bring a matured woman in her home in the name of house help?


When a married woman is not having her ways with her husband, she tends to accuse the innocent husband of sleeping with the house help.