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I am 25M. Never had a relationship before and still a virgin.

I am too far gone at this point. I haven't learned how to date because I was shy and way too focused on my studies while in school, of which i graduated with 2:1.

I never learned how to talk to women with the purpose of dating them so I still like a teenager. I don't think many women would give a chance to an awkward, inexperienced and not that attractive man in his mid 20's.

Never had a real job before, because i schooled from home throughout my 5 years in the university (I attended a federal university).

The past year I've made changes to myself, and started going to gym to get in better shape.

But I think all this is too little too late. I missed so many learning experiences in dating and women at this point, and many women may expect a well developed man, not some confused teenager in his mid 20's.

I am currently on my 1 year mandatory service and just have 3 months left to round up, and yet i'm still single!.

I'm not even ugly, just average in looks, it's just that i get this pressure and anxiety in my chest whenever i try to approach a woman.

funny enough, i am currently the General secretary of my CDS, and so i am a bit well known in the CDS. However, do i have a single phone number of a female? No!

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I'm just like you too. I don't do all those nonesense relationship which I know is a thing of benefit for a typical Nigerian girl. Wherever I find myself, and I show face, they flock around (and I know it's cos of money) with this, I easily have any of them I desire. Some of them will even beg me to come to my place (with the Intention of sleeping with me and probably glue me to them) but I decline whichever one is not my spec, especially the fat and dark ladies. They disgust. One was even seducing the other day, I wish I could just tell her that she isn't my spec and all that.

Bro make money your priority and you don't need to force anything. They will come naturally.

When it's time to settle down, be on the lookout for a virgin (if possible). That way, you won't worry about much of anything.

BigDickProblems:
I'm just like you too. I don't do all those nonesense relationship which I know is a thing of benefit for a typical Nigerian girl. Wherever I find myself, and I show face, they flock around (and I know it's cos of money) with this, I easily have any of them I desire. Some of them will even beg me to come to my place (with the Intention of sleeping with me and probably glue me to them) but I decline whichever one is not my spec, especially the fat and dark ladies. They disgust. One was even seducing the other day, I wish I could just tell her that she isn't my spec and all that.

Bro make money your priority and you don't need to force anything. They will come naturally.

When it's time to settle down, be on the lookout for a virgin (if possible). That way, you won't worry about much of anything.

Thank you for your input

Alcohol

It's the influence of a spirit named burxer. You'll need to come to my spiritual center with 6 canes so I'll flog it out of you.

This I have seen.

Why are you just bothering yourself over nothing Op?

I was once like you until i started following my boss here on Nairaland, Pukkalolo. Search for his profile and go through all topics and posts there.

Start talking to a girl or two everyday. A little hello would do.
From there, you graduate to asking for their names.

It's hard i know but its worth it.

And buy his book too.

Sonnobax15:

Why are you just bothering yourself over nothing Op?

No mind am. Instead of am to focus on hustle and peace of mind first.

BigDickProblems:
I'm just like you too. I don't do all those nonesense relationship which I know is a thing of benefit for a typical Nigerian girl. Wherever I find myself, and I show face, they flock around (and I know it's cos of money) with this, I easily have any of them I desire. Some of them will even beg me to come to my place (with the Intention of sleeping with me and probably glue me to them) but I decline whichever one is not my spec, especially the fat and dark ladies. They disgust. One was even seducing the other day, I wish I could just tell her that she isn't my spec and all that.

Bro make money your priority and you don't need to force anything. They will come naturally.

When it's time to settle down, be on the lookout for a virgin (if possible). That way, you won't worry about much of anything.

Virgin Without Characters would run you mad ..

You never jammed wicked virgin before abi ?

E go clear ya eyes ...

DonroxyII:
Virgin Without Characters would run you mad ..

You never jammed wicked virgin before abi ?

E go clear ya eyes ...

Bro, I'll still choose a wicked virgin over a wicked H*oe

Are you fair, tall and handsome? If yes, come make i toast you

Leave relationship, just knack and leave them.....till u see the right girl pls.

KingEarnest:
I was once like you until i started following my boss here on Nairaland, Pukkalolo. Search for his profile and go through all topics and posts there.

Start talking to a girl or two everyday. A little hello would do.
From there, you graduate to asking for their names.

It's hard i know but its worth it.

And buy his book too.

The second paragraph here says it all OP. No amount of learning can beat action.

While you missed out on gaining much needed experience in earlier years, it’s not too late to start.
Enough has been said about the cons of being with a partner that doesn’t like you genuinely, and only after what they’ll gain from you, so be on the lookout for that.

To defeat your anxiety, start from random “Hello” (with a smile won’t hurt) like King Earnest said. From there you go on. Only action will rid you of your anxiety.

BigDickProblems:
Bro, I'll still choose a wicked virgin over a wicked H*oe

Wicked Virgin Vs Good Hoe nko

Naijatask:
I am 25M. Never had a relationship before and still a virgin.

I am too far gone at this point. I haven't learned how to date because I was shy and way too focused on my studies while in school, of which i graduated with 2:1.

I never learned how to talk to women with the purpose of dating them so I still like a teenager. I don't think many women would give a chance to an awkward, inexperienced and not that attractive man in his mid 20's.

Never had a real job before, because i schooled from home throughout my 5 years in the university (I attended a federal university).

The past year I've made changes to myself, and started going to gym to get in better shape.

But I think all this is too little too late. I missed so many learning experiences in dating and women at this point, and many women may expect a well developed man, not some confused teenager in his mid 20's.

I am currently on my 1 year mandatory service and just have 3 months left to round up, and yet i'm still single!.

I'm not even ugly, just average in looks, it's just that i get this pressure and anxiety in my chest whenever i try to approach a woman.

funny enough, i am currently the General secretary of my CDS, and so i am a bit well known in the CDS. However, do i have a single phone number of a female? No!

Just role with Your Social Secretary... Find One Dude that's a Guyman ... Waka with him for two weeks .. e don Set!

As for your chest, Your mind is what is making it to misbehaved... Simply give yourself a task of toasting atleast two girls per day & collect number, The Anxiety would dissappear!

Na simple things !

OP, Just Relax your mind.

Again, when you meet a New Babe, don't be over-excited or start fantasizing on how to Fucck her.

Speak to her Normally and watch how things turn out.

If she wants you Guys to Date, start Dating. But also make sure She does not pressure with Financial or Emotional demands.

Then for Sex, just relax once again when It's time for it.
Even if you last 1mins, it's normal. Many Guys started like that.

i thought i was shy and introvert but when i quit porn and masturbation i found out that i was wrong.

I know how it feels, I was once like you.
I lost my virginity at 25years old. I became a Badoo late, I was naive, innocent, religious and avoided the opposite sex like plague but look at me now, I'm a master.


Social anxiety is real, I use to have it before. I couldn't relate with guys not to talk of ladies. My life was practically zero, no friends, no adventures, no fun. Nothing, nothing.

How did I start, na by practicals oooo. Most of the things I know now na from actions. At first, it'll look awkward and weird but you'll learn the ropes and become a master with time