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Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by TaminaliaCatapa: 11:40pm On Mar 09, 2019
This has been worrisome abeg, I don’t like the idea of bringing any gf from Naija come marry, they mess up real bad.

The Naija girls wey dem born abroad sef, they ain’t any way different from foreigners wey go dey tell you to start sharing house chores 50:50 with dem. There is nothing bad if I do those chores in my own volition, but making it a duty for me is a no-no.

Reason why I cant marry white is obvious, the very immediate point I just made up there, some won’t even let you take your kids back to naija coz it’s shîthole

Please, if you are a
1. Naija married man in a foreign land
2. Didn’t marry here in naija but abroad


How did you get married and what type of woman is she.


Please we wanna learn

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by iRepNaija1: 11:43pm On Mar 09, 2019
So are you saying you want a wife who takes care of all the housework while you only help when the mood strikes you? What are you honestly saying? I'm seriously curious.

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Sojebrand(m): 11:43pm On Mar 09, 2019
am here to learn too grin

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by TaminaliaCatapa: 11:49pm On Mar 09, 2019
iRepNaija1:

So are you saying you want a wife who takes care of all the housework while you only help when the mood strikes you? What are you honestly saying? I'm seriously curious.

You are the reason why a white man said if you wanna hide anything from an african, put it in a book

Or do you have trouble comprehending writeups?

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 11:52pm On Mar 09, 2019
Go get a village girl.

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by TaminaliaCatapa: 11:53pm On Mar 09, 2019
NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Go get a village girl.

If u noticed my first paragraph, I said they mess up real bad....dem dey open eye pass Lagos girls sef when dem reach..

Lalasticlala

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 11:55pm On Mar 09, 2019
Meeting the right lady needs the help of God. One can be a player slaying ladies as he wishes but still end up with the wrong lady.

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by iRepNaija1: 12:05am On Mar 10, 2019
TaminaliaCatapa:


You are the reason why a white man said if you wanna hide anything from an african, put it in a book

Or do you have trouble comprehending writeups?

Lol. I'm just asking a question and you have to respond with that? How can I comprehend if you can't write clear writeups?

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by TaminaliaCatapa: 12:06am On Mar 10, 2019
iRepNaija1:


Lol. I'm just asking a question and you have to respond with that? How can I comprehend if you can't write clear writeups?

It’s clear, if you’d read again, but this time between the lines

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by iRepNaija1: 12:17am On Mar 10, 2019
TaminaliaCatapa:


It’s clear, if you’d read again, but this time between the lines

You just want a doormat. God willing, you won't get her.

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by pansophist(m): 12:23am On Mar 10, 2019
The kind of wife you are looking for will be hard to find in the US (and the west in general). South America, Eastern Europe, Africa and Asia are places you will find women who uphold traditional female qualities and won't expect domestic input from you. As a corollary, you will be required to fulfil traditional masculine duties, especially understanding that bringing home the bacon is solely your responsibility.

Furthermore, any country that has undergone mainstream feminism tends to withers traditional women of which you seek, as they are looked down upon as people suffering from internalized misogyny. Women in the west generally are into career building, placing it above family. I am not married (still in my 20's), albeit, my ex-employer, friends and many Dutch people I know (I live in the Netherlands) actually prefer women from the aforementioned countries, solely for the same reasons you espouse.

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by TaminaliaCatapa: 12:34am On Mar 10, 2019
pansophist:
The kind of wife you are looking for will be hard to find in the US (and the west in general). South America, Eastern Europe, Africa and Asia are places you will find women who uphold traditional female qualities and won't expect domestic input from you. As a corollary, you will be required to fulfil traditional masculine duties, especially understanding that bringing home the bacon is solely your duty.

Furthermore, any country that has undergone mainstream feminism tends to withers traditional women of which you seek, as they are looked down upon as people suffering from internalized misogyny. Women in the west generally are into career building, placing it above family. I am not married (still in my 20's), albeit, my ex-employer, friends and many Dutch people I know (I live in the Netherlands) actually prefer women from the aforementioned countries, solely for the same reasons you espouse.

Thanks bro, have you recorded obvious success from men who married from those countries (Africa Excluding Nigeria)....all awa uncle wey marry naija women, wey bring them here dey sweat for under snow

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by pansophist(m): 12:37am On Mar 10, 2019
TaminaliaCatapa:



Thanks bro, have you recorded obvious success from men who married from those countries (Africa Excluding Nigeria) all awa uncle wey marry naija women, wey bring them here dey sweat for under snow

I've seen both. The successful, and the unsuccessful. Ultimately, it all depends on the people in the marriage, and not marrying the wrong person, or for the wrong reason.

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Adebabanla: 12:47am On Mar 10, 2019
I dated a white and she tried to be respectful and do all but their werey is always in them..Asians are the best!! But doesn’t mean you can’t meeg werey Asian too .. just pray for God’s direction bro

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 12:53am On Mar 10, 2019
Marry a young girl with strong nigerian traditional values that you can groom from nigeria. Submissiveness should be a top priority. You just need to search well and observe her behaviour well.

A second or third generation western born nigerian female is filled with feminist thoughts, they are very unattractive if you want a good and stable marriage

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 1:13am On Mar 10, 2019
Plenty of gud abroad-born n abroad-raised based Nigerian women. A buddy of mine married one 30years old two years ago in Baltimore U.S, they're happily married with a baby girl now. He was turning 35 n wanted to settle down, no time for play. Raves about how a good wife she is. Am in the U.S n have met nice Naija ladies myself. My elder brother too married a Naija lady Accountant here, two kids now, lovely humble lady, calls me uncle everytime grin. He's in IT. Both have daily 9-5 jobs. She works longer shifts at times like during tax season. Everyone can't be bad, op, maybe u arethe problem or u better yet change ur circle to find who u looking for

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 3:28am On Mar 10, 2019
Following...

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 3:34am On Mar 10, 2019
TaminaliaCatapa:
This has been worrisome abeg, I don’t like the idea of bringing any gf from Naija come marry, they mess up real bad.

The Naija girls wey dem born abroad sef, they ain’t any way different from foreigners wey go dey tell you to start sharing house chores 50:50 with dem. There is nothing bad if I do those chores in my own volition, but making it a duty for me is a no-no.

Reason why I cant marry white is obvious, the very immediate point I just made up there, some won’t even let you take your kids back to naija coz it’s shîthole

Please, if you are a
1. Naija married man in a foreign land
2. Didn’t marry here in naija but abroad


How did you get married and what type of woman is she.


Please we wanna learn
whatever you do, make sure that you avoid Nigeria home based girls.

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by TaminaliaCatapa: 4:00am On Mar 10, 2019
Charelsz:
whatever you do, make sure that you avoid Nigeria home based girls.




IKR but Bro you cracked me up... grin grin grin

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 4:03am On Mar 10, 2019
Find 9ja babe wey just migrate. As for me i go for blacks from other african countries. They seems to hv sense more than 9ja babes

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by DeRay98(m): 5:24am On Mar 10, 2019
Joromi12:
Find 9ja babe wey just migrate. As for me i go for blacks from other african countries. They seems to hv sense more than 9ja babes

Black Ladies from other African countries are usually more down to earth, so many of them fancy Nigerian guys as better family men,
Who care for their ladies, strong and protective. Except where our bad boys "don go shit for market" that have earned us bad names. Eg Kenya women.
Naija home based girls are to trust nowadays especially if you live in diaspora, they mostly see you as their key out of poverty rather than partner hence they play along until they find the right moment to reveal their true ID.

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Skmoda360(m): 5:44am On Mar 10, 2019
DeRay98:


Black Ladies from other African countries are usually more down to earth, so many of them fancy Nigerian guys as better family men,
Who care for their ladies, strong and protective. Except where our bad boys "don go shit for market" that have earned us bad names. Eg Kenya women.
Naija home based girls are to trust nowadays especially if you live in diaspora, they mostly see you as their key out of poverty rather than partner hence they play along until they find the right moment to reveal their true ID.
!!! Gbam!!!

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by bdchange(m): 5:56am On Mar 10, 2019
TaminaliaCatapa:
This has been worrisome abeg, I don’t like the idea of bringing any gf from Naija come marry, they mess up real bad.

The Naija girls wey dem born abroad sef, they ain’t any way different from foreigners wey go dey tell you to start sharing house chores 50:50 with dem. There is nothing bad if I do those chores in my own volition, but making it a duty for me is a no-no.

Reason why I cant marry white is obvious, the very immediate point I just made up there, some won’t even let you take your kids back to naija coz it’s shîthole

Please, if you are a
1. Naija married man in a foreign land
2. Didn’t marry here in naija but abroad


How did you get married and what type of woman is she.


Please we wanna learn
I don't know how you created this unimaginable ideology in your head about ladies home and abroad. So you chose to believe that there are no good ladies anywhere you reside. Well I want to tell you that you are wrong and can get a good lady if you place yourself in the position to meet a good lady in abroad or here in naija.

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by ShinqRambq: 8:09am On Mar 10, 2019
Slaves in the 18's and still a slave,why would you get married to a slaver who will sue you for having two balls when you can get married to Amaka,submissive and well-chosen by mommy,who will worship you for having no balls at all,remember mommy knows best!

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by igboboy3(m): 8:10am On Mar 10, 2019
You'll meet the kind of people you want if you mingle in the right circles. There's a lot of first gen immigrants who still have a strong cultural background. If you're well established professionally and live in the right cities e.g Dallas, Sugarland, many upper-middle-class mums will connect you with their daughters.
Avoid the ones who are Nigerian in name only.
Like the other poster, i've also heard good things about asians and east african women, but you'll say goodbye to naija flavour for life

however sha, na yankee you dey, if sengemenge burst, na police matter o!

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 8:49am On Mar 10, 2019
TaminaliaCatapa:




If u noticed my first paragraph, I said they mess up real bad....dem dey open eye pass Lagos girls sef when dem reach..

a
Take it to God in prayers

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Kazeemakeem(m): 8:59am On Mar 10, 2019
NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Take it to God in prayers






New you look good I like u

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by kense88: 9:04am On Mar 10, 2019
DeRay98:


Black Ladies from other African countries are usually more down to earth, so many of them fancy Nigerian guys as better family men,
Who care for their ladies, strong and protective. Except where our bad boys "don go shit for market" that have earned us bad names. Eg Kenya women.
Naija home based girls are to trust nowadays especially if you live in diaspora, they mostly see you as their key out of poverty rather than partner hence they play along until they find the right moment to reveal their true ID.
our ladies earning bad name back to back

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 10:46am On Mar 10, 2019
TaminaliaCatapa:


IKR but Bro you cracked me up... grin grin grin
lol
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 10:50am On Mar 10, 2019
Kazeemakeem:







New you look good I like u
Thanks
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Nobody: 11:04am On Mar 10, 2019
Wonderful thread, following.
Walahi, stories of coded slay queens don bring down person prick real bad. cheesy

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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad, How Did You Choose Your Significant Half? by Ishilove: 11:38am On Mar 10, 2019
Yuugen:
Plenty of gud abroad-born n abroad-raised based Nigerian women. A buddy of mine married one 30years old two years ago in Baltimore U.S, they're happily married with a baby girl now. He was turning 35 n wanted to settle down, no time for play. Raves about how a good wife she is. Am in the U.S n have met nice Naija ladies myself. My elder brother too married a Naija lady Accountant here, two kids now, lovely humble lady, calls me uncle everytime grin. He's in IT. Both have daily 9-5 jobs. She works longer shifts at times like during tax season. Everyone can't be bad, op, maybe u arethe problem or u better yet change ur circle to find who u looking for
On the flip side, we have abroad born and raised Nigerian women who have shown their partners hell. This shows that it is the individuals, not the location they were raised that can determine the success of a marriage. This and the grace of God.

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