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Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by chikason22(m): 9:52am On May 06
Hmmm
Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by Niok: 9:52am On May 06
You don't have to stoop so low dude
Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by AbdulhakeemIdris(m): 9:53am On May 06
The Only Matured payback is become "RICH" go and make money and stop revenging this way.

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Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by seanwilliam(m): 9:53am On May 06
Rizzputin:
You are both wrong and right at the same time. Let me tell you why.

You are right for allowing things to end. But you are soo wrong for a host of other reasons.

First, this kind of girl is what I call Drama Divas. These kind of girls will be the sweetest and worst kind in a relationship


I was going to write a thread on them and the best ways to handle them. But I couldn't due to time. Maybe if I did, and you read it... would have saved you from making costly mistakes


Let me guess...

At the start, this girl was so sweet to you. She was loving, respectful, submissive. She confessed her feelings to you. Told you how much she loved you. Showed you care and affection.

She said you were the best thing that ever happened to her. She complimented you a lot on your good qualities. She'd call to check up on you and wanted to spend time with you.

Then all of a sudden she changed...

Her love bombing dropped out of nowhere. She promised to change but never really did.

And because this was your first time with this kind of girls.. you were caught off guard. Then, you made the biggest mistake of all: You begged

You see, these Drama Divas are in a special category of 3 kinds of girls. The other two are: Daddy issue girls and girls with a history of toxic bfs or relationships

The worst thing you can do with these girls is to make them feel they "have" you or beg them to stay with you


Why?

Because all their lives they're the ones begging. Begging for their dad to come back. Begging not to be abandoned.

So when as a man you do the Begging She starts doubting her love for you. Because that's not what she's really used to.

The thing is this girl isn't a wicked person or a nonsense girl. She's damaged. Life doesn't come with a manual on how to handle relationships

She's only reacting based on how life and people she cared about treating her.

She isn't consciously trying affect your mental health. It's her subconscious taking over based on what she's experienced

If you dig through her past... you'll notice a history of abandonment. This has made her the way she is.

You should have just let her go. And advise her to seek therapy (do NOT save her yourself)

You're not the only guy neither is that guy. There are others. So it's pointless chatting up other guys

Keep an eye out for my thread on this. Because these group of girls are very common among these gen z girls

I've personally encountered more than 10 of them.

They will make you feel so special. Hype up your ego... then along the line they start throwing drama, tests and challenges to drain you.

You'll be great if she never feels you're completely hers. And if you can control your emotions and not overreact

The general goal tho, is to never date them. Rather, keep them as friends with benefits or fùck buddies till they move on to marriage

For the future .... I’m quoting this…..
Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by Gadafii: 9:53am On May 06
The best payback is actually moving on from such girl and being a better man for yourself

It won't take time before she lands another guy again, so are you going to call that new guy also, I am in no position to tell you how to deal with your stuff tho, but moving on and not looking back would have been the best option

Reason why you feel accomplished now is because you had begged like a desperate man before when you should have simply zeroed your mind from her the moment you noticed she was acting funny, instead of begging her

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Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by jeromestarks: 9:53am On May 06
FRANCISTOWN:


In my honest opinion. I think what you called a revenge is nothing but immaturity at it's peak.

You are just a baby. You just acted like a narcissist yourself, so, because a girl is leaving you. You went into 100% panic and pressure.

That girl will still find another guy and you will still be forever pained.
I don't even know how some of you are so weak to the extent of making relationships a do or die affair.
At the end of the girl the girl was right to dump you. You sounded like a real baby.

You have no value for yourself. Someone wants to dump you. Treat them like they never existed in the first place.
Please shut up and let men with real peniss talk.

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Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by seanwilliam(m): 9:55am On May 06
Op, You have scarcity mindset ..
I’ve been in your shoes before, you’ll grow with time…
Until then, start having abundance mindset..
Dem no too dey put woman’s matter for head.

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Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by telleyway: 9:56am On May 06
Kindnessprocity:
cool

You can call me wicked, I don't care, this lady messed up my mental health badly while still gaslighting me,I was trauma-bond . At a point she start making it obvious she's out of the relationship, I literally want to die and she cares less, then I noticed its because of a guy she's tagging her friend she's giving those mad silly attitudes, she starts shouting at me things she doesn't do before, ghosting my status, I even begged and begged this lady is manipulating me.

Then I did the unthinkable I digged out the guy's number, through some connections, I told him how the girl came to spend days with me after she left his place,she's my girlfriend Bla bla bla.

Before I did all these I told her, she begged me heaven and earth but I didn't bulge, I just saved the guy from falling in love with a narcissist and hookup babe.

I was surprised she's asking for mercy when she doesn't have any to give. NONSENSE GIRL.

This girl has master the act of seducing men, through love bombing to make you become so attached to her, luckily for the guy he told me he's starting to like her and see her differently, but I told him with concrete evidence she's just painting a false pic of herself...

I'm satisfied 😌

Can't post all chats but the chats was very long.

Did I do wrong?

She wicked me,I just do my own back...and they guy even loved the chat he had with me.

Doing this to a girl you didn't pay a Kobo on her head is immaturity of the highest order. Both of you were just having fun and you have no moral or legal right to behave this childish.
Before I forget, you can be sued for deformation of character.

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Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by BeigJawnson(m): 9:59am On May 06
BabbanBura:
Is this really necessary from her? Why not just quit respectly instead of humiliating you?

And must you also go this route to mess her up?

This is immaturity from both of you!


Let me ask in capital letters... HAVE YOU EVER FALL IN LOVE AND YOUR HEART BROKEN?


AN AFRICAN PROVERBS SAY " IT IS BETTER TO FALL FROM A TREE AND HAVE YOUR BACK BROKEN THAN TO FALL IN LOVE AND HAVE YOUR HEART BROKEN"

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Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by BeigJawnson(m): 9:59am On May 06
Kindnessprocity:
cool

You can call me wicked, I don't care, this lady messed up my mental health badly while still gaslighting me,I was trauma-bond . At a point she start making it obvious she's out of the relationship, I literally want to die and she cares less, then I noticed its because of a guy she's tagging her friend she's giving those mad silly attitudes, she starts shouting at me things she doesn't do before, ghosting my status, I even begged and begged this lady is manipulating me.

Then I did the unthinkable I digged out the guy's number, through some connections, I told him how the girl came to spend days with me after she left his place,she's my girlfriend Bla bla bla.

Before I did all these I told her, she begged me heaven and earth but I didn't bulge, I just saved the guy from falling in love with a narcissist and hookup babe.

I was surprised she's asking for mercy when she doesn't have any to give. NONSENSE GIRL.

This girl has master the act of seducing men, through love bombing to make you become so attached to her, luckily for the guy he told me he's starting to like her and see her differently, but I told him with concrete evidence she's just painting a false pic of herself...

I'm satisfied 😌

Can't post all chats but the chats was very long.

Did I do wrong?

She wicked me,I just do my own back...and they guy even loved the chat he had with me.

I give you kudos... You did the right thing... The same bible says eye for an eye, in old testament and also says when slapped on right check turn the left.

There are two different things in the same bible but takes wisdom to know when to apply each of them...

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Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by Amayabor1: 10:00am On May 06
If this is real, then you are a mistake of a man. You are probably a woman in a man's body.

Thank God the girl left your miserable and pathetic self.
Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by Angelfrost(m): 10:01am On May 06
Childish and Unnecessary...!

Real men move on to the next available lady once their relationship ends... They don't waste time on baggage.
Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by Lionize: 10:02am On May 06
Kindnessprocity:
cool

You can call me wicked, I don't care, this lady messed up my mental health badly while still gaslighting me,I was trauma-bond . At a point she start making it obvious she's out of the relationship, I literally want to die and she cares less, then I noticed its because of a guy she's tagging her friend she's giving those mad silly attitudes, she starts shouting at me things she doesn't do before, ghosting my status, I even begged and begged this lady is manipulating me.

Then I did the unthinkable I digged out the guy's number, through some connections, I told him how the girl came to spend days with me after she left his place,she's my girlfriend Bla bla bla.

Before I did all these I told her, she begged me heaven and earth but I didn't bulge, I just saved the guy from falling in love with a narcissist and hookup babe.

I was surprised she's asking for mercy when she doesn't have any to give. NONSENSE GIRL.

This girl has master the act of seducing men, through love bombing to make you become so attached to her, luckily for the guy he told me he's starting to like her and see her differently, but I told him with concrete evidence she's just painting a false pic of herself...

I'm satisfied 😌

Can't post all chats but the chats was very long.

Did I do wrong?

She wicked me,I just do my own back...and they guy even loved the chat he had with me.
What is the wrong you did? Did you lie against her? As far as I know, you simply granted an unsolicited interview, nothing wrong. If you had said, 'oh, she killed her father', and that was a lie, my brother, I go stone you to death.

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Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by WantsandMore: 10:02am On May 06
Peppysco:
The OP is just too petty. Walking away without say a thing would have been the best. Now, you've created a competitive scenario, 1-1 by the score now. When such a girl has the chance to strike back,in whatever form, she's coming for your jugular.
Ghen Ghen Ghen ...action film
Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by UcheKingsley1: 10:03am On May 06
Kindnessprocity:
cool

You can call me wicked, I don't care, this lady messed up my mental health badly while still gaslighting me,I was trauma-bond . At a point she start making it obvious she's out of the relationship, I literally want to die and she cares less, then I noticed its because of a guy she's tagging her friend she's giving those mad silly attitudes, she starts shouting at me things she doesn't do before, ghosting my status, I even begged and begged this lady is manipulating me.

Then I did the unthinkable I digged out the guy's number, through some connections, I told him how the girl came to spend days with me after she left his place,she's my girlfriend Bla bla bla.

Before I did all these I told her, she begged me heaven and earth but I didn't bulge, I just saved the guy from falling in love with a narcissist and hookup babe.

I was surprised she's asking for mercy when she doesn't have any to give. NONSENSE GIRL.

This girl has master the act of seducing men, through love bombing to make you become so attached to her, luckily for the guy he told me he's starting to like her and see her differently, but I told him with concrete evidence she's just painting a false pic of herself...

I'm satisfied 😌

Can't post all chats but the chats was very long.

Did I do wrong?

She wicked me,I just do my own back...and they guy even loved the chat he had with me.

Cry cry Boy grin
Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by Didi2d(m): 10:04am On May 06
Solofresh2:
This your payback weak gan

Walai, I think say better thing him wan talk sef. I think say him buy house and big car sef
Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by Shegzdave: 10:04am On May 06
The part that caught My attention was “mo to bara mije” which means las las I don f!ck up grin
Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by StreetTyga: 10:04am On May 06
How does this one concerned me abeg

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Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by dettolgel: 10:05am On May 06
Rizzputin:
You are both wrong and right at the same time. Let me tell you why.

You are right for allowing things to end. But you are soo wrong for a host of other reasons.

First, this kind of girl is what I call Drama Divas. These kind of girls will be the sweetest and worst kind in a relationship


I was going to write a thread on them and the best ways to handle them. But I couldn't due to time. Maybe if I did, and you read it... would have saved you from making costly mistakes


Let me guess...

At the start, this girl was so sweet to you. She was loving, respectful, submissive. She confessed her feelings to you. Told you how much she loved you. Showed you care and affection.

She said you were the best thing that ever happened to her. She complimented you a lot on your good qualities. She'd call to check up on you and wanted to spend time with you.

Then all of a sudden she changed...

Her love bombing dropped out of nowhere. She promised to change but never really did.

And because this was your first time with this kind of girls.. you were caught off guard. Then, you made the biggest mistake of all: You begged

You see, these Drama Divas are in a special category of 3 kinds of girls. The other two are: Daddy issue girls and girls with a history of toxic bfs or relationships

The worst thing you can do with these girls is to make them feel they "have" you or beg them to stay with you


Why?

Because all their lives they're the ones begging. Begging for their dad to come back. Begging not to be abandoned.

So when as a man you do the Begging She starts doubting her love for you. Because that's not what she's really used to.

The thing is this girl isn't a wicked person or a nonsense girl. She's damaged. Life doesn't come with a manual on how to handle relationships

She's only reacting based on how life and people she cared about treating her.

She isn't consciously trying affect your mental health. It's her subconscious taking over based on what she's experienced

If you dig through her past... you'll notice a history of abandonment. This has made her the way she is.

You should have just let her go. And advise her to seek therapy (do NOT save her yourself)

You're not the only guy neither is that guy. There are others. So it's pointless chatting up other guys

Keep an eye out for my thread on this. Because these group of girls are very common among these gen z girls

I've personally encountered more than 10 of them.

They will make you feel so special. Hype up your ego... then along the line they start throwing drama, tests and challenges to drain you.

You'll be great if she never feels you're completely hers. And if you can control your emotions and not overreact

The general goal tho, is to never date them. Rather, keep them as friends with benefits or fùck buddies till they move on to marriage

You are on point. I had similar issue during my uni year. We were living together in off campus. She loved me and one day told me she does want to sex again until we get married. Me just fashy her then. After a while she thought I was messing with other girls because I had them a lot then but I really wasn't. I was preparing for a wicked exam then and had no time. She out of no where one day asked for sex and we had and then she refused and didn't want to have sex again and one day she went and bleeped her ex.


Came crying and told me and was trying to blame me that I ignored her and she didn't know where we are at and that was why she decided to have sex with the guy. I changed it for her that day because she was trying to gas light me instead of taking responsibility for her action. She knew I was angry but after a long talk I told her I don't want to continue with the conversation since it was leading no where. She begged I left to crash at my guy's place and I switched off by phone. Two days later I came back and pretended like nothing happened she as well. I just started living with her as a room mate she tried to move things to where it was before but I let her know I can't trust her anymore. Once our rent expired I moved out and we just became hello friend. I can't even count the number of risks I took for that babe back then. You see women some of them are without conscious.

After school she later got married and would call me time to time. I. Kept her at arms length because I don't trust that woman.

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Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by Bahamas95(m): 10:06am On May 06
So childish.


Can't you forget about this drama and move on?
Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by Hakeem66: 10:10am On May 06
Is this all your worries?

Mummy's boy
Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by jubrilELsudan: 10:10am On May 06
YOU ARE REALLY VERY STUPID AND IMMATURE AND THE GUY TOO IS EQUALLY STUPID AND IMMATURE

SHE WILL MEET A BETTER MATURE MAN WHO DOESN'T CARE WETHER SHE IS FVCKING ANY OF YOU KIDS BUT JUST WANNA BE WITH HER IRREGARDLESS

Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by RichLastBorn: 10:13am On May 06
Brooo…thats a lame comeback. If the new guy loves her after some few apologies they’ll comeback together and laugh hard at you. Lol see you 😂😂😂 your lost
Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by bluefilm: 10:15am On May 06
Kindnessprocity:
cool

You can call me wicked, I don't care, this lady messed up my mental health badly while still gaslighting me,I was trauma-bond . At a point she start making it obvious she's out of the relationship, I literally want to die and she cares less, then I noticed its because of a guy she's tagging her friend she's giving those mad silly attitudes, she starts shouting at me things she doesn't do before, ghosting my status, I even begged and begged this lady is manipulating me.

Then I did the unthinkable I digged out the guy's number, through some connections, I told him how the girl came to spend days with me after she left his place,she's my girlfriend Bla bla bla.

Before I did all these I told her, she begged me heaven and earth but I didn't bulge, I just saved the guy from falling in love with a narcissist and hookup babe.

I was surprised she's asking for mercy when she doesn't have any to give. NONSENSE GIRL.

This girl has master the act of seducing men, through love bombing to make you become so attached to her, luckily for the guy he told me he's starting to like her and see her differently, but I told him with concrete evidence she's just painting a false pic of herself...

I'm satisfied 😌

Can't post all chats but the chats was very long.

Did I do wrong?

She wicked me,I just do my own back...and they guy even loved the chat he had with me.

You sound like a child... a confused child, as a matter of fact

Grow up
Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by tuzle(m): 10:16am On May 06
The guy is very immature. Person break ur heart, the best revenge is to walk away, become more successful and find a better person than him/her. All this childish revenge that makes u look immature and petty.

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Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by Pedyson: 10:19am On May 06
You went too far Bro, but wait did you also check yourself? Don’t come here and paint your own side of the story, she might probably be that loyal girl to the other guy, compatibility matters a lot

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Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by otemeh01(m): 10:20am On May 06
Personally, I don't think this is necessary. You should understand by now that most people will jump at anyone they feel is presently better than their present option because most people are trying to leave a good life. You don't need to stoop so low because u will find other pretty girls to roll with. Just be focus and have a sense of direction. Ladies must Naturally flow towards u. Na u go come tire for them sef. If care is not taken, u go come turn male version of ashewo sef.
What u did is not worth it.

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Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by Patojargz: 10:23am On May 06
Weak Man!!!
Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by KingMack(m): 10:25am On May 06
100smile:


Ahswear, me wey man united dey serve breakfast every week...


...ad dem go still serve us urgent dinner today 😫😫

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Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by Trustyourself: 10:26am On May 06
Kindnessprocity:
cool

You can call me wicked, I don't care, this lady messed up my mental health badly while still gaslighting me,I was trauma-bond . At a point she start making it obvious she's out of the relationship, I literally want to die and she cares less, then I noticed its because of a guy she's tagging her friend she's giving those mad silly attitudes, she starts shouting at me things she doesn't do before, ghosting my status, I even begged and begged this lady is manipulating me.

Then I did the unthinkable I digged out the guy's number, through some connections, I told him how the girl came to spend days with me after she left his place,she's my girlfriend Bla bla bla.

Before I did all these I told her, she begged me heaven and earth but I didn't bulge, I just saved the guy from falling in love with a narcissist and hookup babe.

I was surprised she's asking for mercy when she doesn't have any to give. NONSENSE GIRL.

This girl has master the act of seducing men, through love bombing to make you become so attached to her, luckily for the guy he told me he's starting to like her and see her differently, but I told him with concrete evidence she's just painting a false pic of herself...

I'm satisfied 😌

Can't post all chats but the chats was very long.

Did I do wrong?

She wicked me,I just do my own back...and they guy even loved the chat he had with me.


Can you now see the reason for the whooping 76% failure in 2024 JAMB
examination?

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Re: My Payback To The Girl Who Broke My Heart. by victorazy(m): 10:27am On May 06
Kindnessprocity:
cool

You can call me wicked, I don't care, this lady messed up my mental health badly while still gaslighting me,I was trauma-bond . At a point she start making it obvious she's out of the relationship, I literally want to die and she cares less, then I noticed its because of a guy she's tagging her friend she's giving those mad silly attitudes, she starts shouting at me things she doesn't do before, ghosting my status, I even begged and begged this lady is manipulating me.

Then I did the unthinkable I digged out the guy's number, through some connections, I told him how the girl came to spend days with me after she left his place,she's my girlfriend Bla bla bla.

Before I did all these I told her, she begged me heaven and earth but I didn't bulge, I just saved the guy from falling in love with a narcissist and hookup babe.

I was surprised she's asking for mercy when she doesn't have any to give. NONSENSE GIRL.

This girl has master the act of seducing men, through love bombing to make you become so attached to her, luckily for the guy he told me he's starting to like her and see her differently, but I told him with concrete evidence she's just painting a false pic of herself...

I'm satisfied 😌

Can't post all chats but the chats was very long.

Did I do wrong?

She wicked me,I just do my own back...and they guy even loved the chat he had with me.

Brotherhood love what you did grin

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