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When it comes to relationships and choosing a partner, it's important to distinguish between a high value man and a high quality man. In this article, we would be looking into the concepts of both, their associated strengths and drawbacks of being in a relationship with both and leave the decision to the women on who is their version of an ideal partner.

Who is a High Value Man?

A high value man is someone who possesses traits and qualities that make him highly desirable in various aspects of life. This could include characteristics like ambition, success, charisma, and confidence. He may be financially stable, socially adept, and have a strong sense of leadership. Most women are drawn to the high value man due to their success and high status in the society.

Benefits of Being with a High Value Man:

1. Boost in Confidence: They often exude robust self-confidence, which can be both attractive and comforting in a relationship, providing a reassuring presence in your life.

2. Strong Leadership: These men typically possess potent leadership skills, making them reliable partners who can guide the relationship and make well-informed decisions that benefit both parties.

3. Inspired Ambition: Their relentless drive and ambition can be incredibly motivating, possibly enhancing your shared lifestyle, and encouraging you to pursue your dreams with similar fervor.

4. Emotional and Financial Security: High Value Men often bring a sense of security, both emotionally and financially, ensuring a stable and supportive environment for you to thrive in.

5. Elevated Social Status: They usually have extensive social networks and high social standing, which can introduce you to new opportunities and enriching experiences.

6. Protection and Support: Their assertiveness translates into a protective and supportive nature, making you feel safe and valued in the relationship.

7. Intense Passion: The strong, passionate personality of a high value man can make your relationship deeply exciting and engaging, adding a vibrant dynamic to your interactions.

8. Rich Experience: High Value Men often carry a wealth of life and professional experiences, which they openly share, offering insightful perspectives and wisdom.

9. Efficient Problem-Solving: Their decisive and analytical mindset helps tackle challenges effectively, providing prompt and practical solutions to any obstacles you may face together.

10. Motivational Influence: Being with someone who is highly driven can boost your own motivation, encouraging personal growth and self-improvement.

Drawbacks to Consider:

1. Overwhelming Dominance: Their dominant nature might at times feel overbearing, potentially disrupting a healthy balance in the relationship's decision-making process.

2. Stressful High Expectations: High standards set by High Value Men can be stressful, possibly leading to feelings of inadequacy or pressure to meet their expectations.

3. Emotional Distance: Their strong independence may sometimes come across as emotional detachment, making it challenging to connect on an intimate level.

4. Big Ego: A High Value Man’s sizable ego can create difficulties in compromising or admitting mistakes, which might hinder effective communication and conflict resolution.

5. Relationship Competitiveness: Their inherent competitiveness might seep into the relationship, leading to unnecessary conflicts and power struggles.

6. Workaholic Tendencies: Given their ambition, High Value Men might frequently prioritize work over quality time, potentially causing feelings of neglect or frustration.

7. Public Image: Trying to maintain a specific image can make the relationship seem shallow. High Value Men may feel obligated to uphold a certain public image, potentially leading both partners to act according to societal expectations rather than being authentic. This focus on appearances can weaken the bond by prioritizing perception over genuine connection.

8. Control Issues: High Value Men may display controlling behavior, limiting their partner's freedom. Accustomed to making decisions, they might extend this control to their relationships, influencing their partner's choices and activities. This can leave their partner feeling stifled, inhibiting self-expression and impeding personal growth.

9. Pressure to Perform: Dating a highly successful individual can create pressure to match their achievements. High Value Men often adhere to high standards, prompting their partner to feel the need to reach similar levels of success, resulting in stress, feelings of inadequacy, and constant comparison affecting self-esteem and happiness.

10. Social Scrutiny: Relationships with well-known individuals attract unwanted attention and judgment. High Value Men's influence often draws public interest, leading to media scrutiny, gossip, paparazzi intrusion, and social media rumors. This external pressure can strain the relationship, invade privacy, hinder simple moments, and escalate minor issues into public drama, causing unnecessary tension.

Who is a High Quality Man?

A High Quality Man is described as an individual who chooses to live outside social dominance hierarchies. High Quality Men are seen as self-sufficient, independent, aloof, and mysterious individuals who do not conform to traditional social norms. They are typically charismatic, confident, and have a strong sense of self. They are often admired for their intelligence, creativity, and ability to think independently.

Benefits of Being With A High Quality Man:

1. Their confidence: They have a quiet confidence that doesn’t need external validation. High Quality Men often exude confidence and self-assuredness, which can be very appealing to women. Since their confidence isn't based on external factors but from within, it can't be shaken easily.

2. Their Independence: Their ability to function well on their own and not rely on others for validation can be seen as attractive. Women who appreciate a man who can think for himself and live his life without seeking the approval of others tend to be drawn to him.

3. Their Genuine Mystery: The High Quality Man tends to be enigmatic and intriguing. He possesses a genuine sense of mystery in spades which other men tend to lack, which can be alluring to women who enjoy a challenge.

4. Their Charisma: Many High Quality Men possess a quiet charisma and unique charm, making them engaging and captivating to be around. Women can perceive this charisma and usually seek to get more of it.

5. Their Emotional Depth: Despite their aloof exterior, High Quality Men can often be emotionally intelligent and have a depth that draws women towards them. They are able to make deeper connections with the women they engage with.

6. Their Self-Sufficiency: They take care of themselves and don't need anyone to manage their lives. Therefore, they have little to no drama in their lives.

7. Their Authenticity: They are true to themselves and live by their own rules no matter who is watching. This authentic lifestyle can be a breath of fresh air to women who value authenticity.

8. Their Stoicism: Because they aren't really connected to the external environment, they remain calm and composed, even in tough situations, which can turn some women on.

9. Their Empathy: Though seeming contradictory, they tend to understand others’ feelings while maintaining their emotional independence, which leaves women intrigued.

10. Their Intelligence: When it comes to intelligence, High Quality Men are in a league of their own. They are often well-read, knowledgeable, and able to think critically, often thinking outside the box and bringing unique perspectives to the table. They also are great at finding effective and innovative solutions to challenges, which a number of women adore.

11. Their Minimalism: They focus on what’s essential and avoid unnecessary clutter in life. They never show off their goods or seek to impress anyone. Rather, they divert their funds selfishly to their goals.

12. Their Non-Conformity: They don’t follow societal trends and prefer to forge their own paths, which brings a sense of adventure and danger which some women are drawn to.

13. Their Focus: They are highly focused and often have well-defined goals they are driven to achieve, often setting high standards for themselves and others around them.

14. Their Adaptability: They can adjust to different situations and environments with ease - blending into various social dynamics without forfeiting their true identity.

15. Their Curiosity: They are eager to learn and explore new ideas and experiences including the women they are in relationships with, which gives the woman a deeper sense of being understood.

16. Their Loyalty: Though it may tarry, when they commit to someone or something, they are extremely loyal, which women tend to appreciate eventually.

17. Their Respectfulness: They respect others’ boundaries and expect the same in return.

18. Their Strong Moral Code: They usually have a strong sense of character, live by their principles, and hold themselves to a high ethical standard.

19. Their Resilience: When difficulties arise, they almost never fall into complaining or pointing fingers but immediately start to work on ways to overcome them. They often bounce back from setbacks and don’t let failures define them. They are also relentless in pursuing their goals, no matter the obstacles, which leaves women in awe.

20. Humility: Despite their many strengths, they remain humble and do not brag about their achievements.

These traits combine to form a person who is self-assured, intriguing, and reliable, making High Quality Men quite appealing to many women.

Drawbacks To Consider:

1. Fierce Independence: High Quality Men may prioritize their independence over the relationship, making some women feel neglected or secondary. It isn't easy dating him as he tends to place his independence over the relationship.

2. Aloofness: Their aloof and mysterious nature can make it difficult for partners to understand their feelings and intentions, which can bring about negative feelings.

3. Commitment issues: High Quality Men may struggle with commitment, preferring to maintain their freedom and resist traditional relationship structures.

4. Difficulty in opening up: They may find it challenging to express their emotions or communicate effectively, leading to issues in the relationship.

5. Need for space: High Quality Men often require alone time and personal space, which can be difficult for some partners to navigate, especially women who tend to be very emotional.

6. Not Enough Support Networks: Due to the lack of a wider tribe, there could be a case of lower support networks when challenges arise. Though this challenge can be overcomed due to the aforementioned strengths mentioned above.

Both categories of men possess distinct qualities that make them special in their own right. The decision to choose between them ultimately rests on the individual woman. It is common for men in society to naturally lean towards one of these two groups, leading to the question:

As a woman, which type of man do you find yourself drawn to and why?

As a man, would you mind sharing your experiences associated with any of these archetypes?

Share your thoughts in the comments below; I look forward to reading your perspectives.

Instead of you to just kukuma give Dem clay and water so that they can comfortably mould their rubbish,you just here capping Arab.

Nonsense post!

Zonefree:
Nonsense post!

Both archetypes of men exist thereby this post is a real thing. Besides, let the women give their replies.

Sonnobax15:

Instead of you to just kukuma give Dem clay and water so that they can comfortably mould their rubbish,you just here capping Arab.

Yet these two groups of men can be found in today's society. What is your point?

CuteMike01:
Both archetypes of men exist thereby this post is a real thing. Besides, let the women give their replies.

Nonsense post again!

Sonnobax15:

Instead of you to just kukuma give Dem clay and water so that they can comfortably mould their rubbish,you just here capping Arab.

I tell you Some people will begin to lose their natural self in order to please girls of being either of these type of men

Auxtan:
I tell you Some people will begin to lose their natural self in order to please girls of being either of these type of men

It is a scale in which individuals fall into. We also have the female versions of these types but that isn't the focus today.

By your natural preferences and personality design, you tend to subconsciously gravitate towards any of these two archetypes more than the other whether you are aware or not. The thing is - which one do you find yourself naturally drawn to or aspiring to be? Which archetypes do your core personality strengths and weaknesses tend to go with?

You raised good point but how practical for a man to possess all these traits.

Humans are just.. humans! You gotta love us whether high valued or not.

I just try to be happy these days. If we don't vibe then we don't ride.

CuteMike01:
It is a scale in which individuals fall into. We also have the female versions of these types but that isn't the focus today.

By your natural preferences and personality design, you tend to subconsciously gravitate towards any of these two archetypes more than the other whether you are aware or not. The thing is - which one do you find yourself naturally drawn to or aspiring to be? Which archetypes do your core personality strengths and weaknesses tend to go with?

I am a man in charge

Goodlyhrt:
You raised good point but how practical for a man to possess all these traits.

Humans are just.. humans! You gotta love us whether high valued or not.

I just try to be happy these days. If we don't vibe then we don't ride.

Simple!

Goodlyhrt:
You raised good point but how practical for a man to possess all these traits.

Humans are just.. humans! You gotta love us whether high valued or not.

I just try to be happy these days. If we don't vibe then we don't ride.

These traits are traits that come by a person's design which is further nourished to become high value and rated by society. It encapsulates personal growth, self awareness and a deeper understanding of one's life.

As humans, we fall into the extreme, neutral or low end of the scale by our natural preferences. That is why we are either too different, similar or moderate in our interactions with others.

These two categories of men do exist in our society and has been proven through experiences, questionnaires, science research and many other human personality assessments.

It is quite easier to spot or come across a true high value man than to identify with or encounter a true high quality man as they are rarer and often thrive in the background. Nevertheless, they both exist and dominate today's society. You're more likely to comes across hybrids or other archetypes of men.

The high quality men are significantly rarer and by natural preferences seek to remain in the background and shun unwanted attention. They are also sometimes referred to as the loners of the society. Refusing to be bound to societal structures.

Think of the man who always moves alone - everywhere you spot this man, he is always alone and hardly tries to bond emotionally with as many people as he encounters. He never joins or belongs to any group but hovers around each one as a temporal member. He seems robotic during conversations and always maintains a sharp look on his face.

some women only deserve a high value man, others dont
some women only deserve a jobless olodo, others dont

the reality of life is that, although you may seek for a perfect mate, you can NEVER get it. some will have many (but not all) of the attributes you desire, and thats what you will have to settle with.

any smart man knows that if a woman truly loves/Respects/cares for you, she will equally be a pain in the aaass in other areas (so choose your poison carefully)

CuteMike01:
These traits are traits that come by a person's design which is further nourished to become high value and rated by society. It encapsulates personal growth, self awareness and a deeper understanding of one's life.

As humans, we fall into the extreme, neutral or low end of the scale by our natural preferences. That is why we are either too different, similar or moderate in our interactions with others.

These two categories of men do exist in our society and has been proven through experiences, questionnaires, science research and many other human personality assessments.

It is quite easier to spot or come across a true high value man than to identify with or encounter a true high quality man as they are rarer and often thrive in the background. Nevertheless, they both exist and dominate today's society. You're more likely to comes across hybrids or other archetypes of men.

The high quality men are significantly rarer and by natural preferences seek to remain in the background and shun unwanted attention. They are also sometimes referred to as the loners of the society. Refusing to be bound to societal structures.

Think of the man who always moves alone - everywhere you spot this man, he is always alone and hardly tries to bond emotionally with as many people as he encounters. He never joins or belongs to any group but hovers around each one as a temporal member. He seems robotic during conversations and always maintains a sharp look on his face.

Get a new dictionary Prof you have exhausted the old one. Damn it!

High Quality Men like me, make una raise una hands make we see.

Cant even believe i could be described until this thread.

Na money no dey o. The rest correct sha.

Intense passion and emotional distance seem contradictory to me.

So in one word, I think if I'm to get your point, one has money and all indices of material wealth met, and the other does not? In order words, a person whom the Yorubas would call idan? That is, whether with or without money, he's still fly?

As a man, would you mind sharing your experiences associated with any of these archetypes?

Let me just sit and read comments while eating this groundnut. If I was feeling like a man tonight, I would have attempted to engage this post more deeply. But I'm not in my man moods.

Those AI pics looking funky though

@CuteMike01

I really don't enjoy being the one to pour the sand in your proverbial garri here but while your article does bring up some interesting points, I find your whole categorization to be a bit limiting. For me, I think the best partner for any man or woman is someone who checks all of his/her boxes, not someone who fits into a neat little pre-packaged label. As a lady, I don't think it's wise to settle for a knock-off version of someone else's ideal man. I'd be more interested in finding someone who complements me, challenges me, and makes me the best version of myself. So there's that.

JessicaRabbit:
@CuteMike01

I really don't enjoy being the one to pour the sand in your proverbial garri here but while your article does bring up some interesting points, I find your whole categorization to be a bit limiting. For me, I think the best partner for any man or woman is someone who checks all of his/her boxes, not someone who fits into a neat little pre-packaged label. As a lady, I don't think it's wise to settle for a knock-off version of someone else's ideal man. I'd be more interested in finding someone who complements me, challenges me, and makes me the best version of myself. So there's that.

I support this with one cup of garri

It's no longer alpha and beta men now it's high and low value men and women. All these low self esteem people in this generation always looking for baseless categorization to help them feel good. Being high value isn't even about material gains or shyt. All these guys with low self worth will soon start flooding here and calling themselves high value when in reality they're nothing close

JessicaRabbit:
@CuteMike01

I really don't enjoy being the one to pour the sand in your proverbial garri here but while your article does bring up some interesting points, I find your whole categorization to be a bit limiting. For me, I think the best partner for any man or woman is someone who checks all of his/her boxes, not someone who fits into a neat little pre-packaged label. As a lady, I don't think it's wise to settle for a knock-off version of someone else's ideal man. I'd be more interested in finding someone who complements me, challenges me, and makes me the best version of myself. So there's that.

You aren't pouring sand into anything of mine. I asked for your contributions remember? The post is generalized to get opinions from as many people as possible - to engage in a discussion.

Happy Sunday everyone.

Funnily, I have the cons of a High Value Man and the pros of a High Quality Man.

What term do we name this? Super High Quality Value man?

Most young ladies of these days prefer men that lies .. Men that can form what they are not.. Men that sing the song they wanna hear. Men that can promise them heaven on earth just to get them nailed..

Eunoiaa:
Intense passion and emotional distance seem contradictory to me.

What that means is that we tend to get passionate in the heat of the moment, then boom! right after the act is done we spring out of bed and look for the next available way to upgrade ourselves and shift our passion into personal growth asap. This lack of cuddles and long talk hours on the phone makes the ladies or women in our lives feel they are being used just for sex alone. And painful thing is as a Man U can’t explain cos every word u say will be interpreted by how she feels and not what u mean. Abeg relationship matter too much, man go de think how to break free from the world order and become a main character una go de tink say na cheat e de cheat. Not good ladies

LeoThaGreat:
Funnily, I have the cons of a High Value Man and the pros of a High Quality Man.

What term do we name this? Super High Quality Value man?

A Hybrid

BigYash:
Most young ladies of these days prefer men that lies .. Men that can form what they are not.. Men that sing the song they wanna hear. Men that can promise them heaven on earth just to get them nailed..

There is some truth in what you said Sha but it isn't always the case.

COMRADES, this post too long abeg

Funny enough, both categories of men exist.

I know a high quality man and he ticks all those points perfectly.
Doesn’t give a flying f**k what anyone thinks of him, yet so respectful, intelligent with a great sense of style not inspired by others, but what he loves.
Emotional distance no be here, as he could go months without a call; but when he eventually does 2hrs won’t be enough.

High value men can be draining…
The need to conform to societal expectations; damnnnnn.
Their woman has to look like this, so that people will know he has great taste and all.

I’ll prefer a salad of their great traits… 😂
Hope I’m not being greedy? 🫣

Na money be man. If money no dey, men will look like monkeys

CuteMike01:
There is some truth in what you said Sha but it isn't always the case.

If you say so

CuteMike01:
You aren't pouring sand into anything of mine. I asked for your contributions remember? The post is generalized to get opinions from as many people as possible - to engage in a discussion.

Absolutely, and a fantastic discussion it is. All I'm saying basically is, categorizing men into "high value" and "high quality" can be likened to picking stocks on a dating app: all about the profile pic and not the long-term potential.