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Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by LaSenior: 5:53am On Jun 08, 2024
Azazyel:
I don't know why I can't stop laughing. grin. I only have one thing to tell you. If the baby father is still alive, he sends money for her upkeep and both of them still meet then you are in for a rough ride.
Aje confirmento he's in for a very long ride

This one that chop I chop

Husband chop baby daddy chop aluta continue
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by Cutehector(m): 5:54am On Jun 08, 2024
If a girl ever tells me she is a baby mama, i'm dropping the call that moment or ending the chat.
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by LaSenior: 5:55am On Jun 08, 2024
Funflipper:
That is what we call open marriage because there is no way in hell the baby daddy won't still be fucking her.
gbam grin grin grin grin grin grin grin

Fresh girls full everywhere this one won kpai untop baby Mama
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by HardMirror(m): 5:56am On Jun 08, 2024
RevenuesBoost:
It's possible

I know someone that went through similar issue.
She was lied to by the guy that he got a job and a car and he is ready to settle down.
Meanwhile, the car belonged to his uncle and he was jobless and lived with his uncle.
He even spends money on her like he isn't broke. As soon as she got pregnant, he told her to abort the baby, she refused, so the truth came out.


She got pregnant at 23 now married to another man.
Any man that loves you wouldn't care if you got a kid or not.
women be talking emotional rubbish. These ones follow money and cars.
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by HardMirror(m): 5:57am On Jun 08, 2024
LaSenior:
Aje confirmento he's in for a very long ride

This one that chop I chop

Husband chop baby daddy chop aluta continue
lol.
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by Inosky:
nkemjacob2:
she got deceived by a guy that promised her marriage 5 years ago. She was ignorant then. But the guy still takes care of the boy. But they are no more
This was the situation of a lady that DM few months ago. She told me she likes me and was looking for love. I asked her if she's still have feeling with the guy, she said 💯 "No".

For me, I'm not in (marry) to papa any baby mama, it would be hard to do so in Nigeria and Africa as a whole. We are not used to these stuffs like the whites, except you're wealthy and have influence. 99% percent baby mama are likely to cheat on you or even go back their ex (if he's still alive) in the guise they're visiting their kids and cheat. I have seen where this happened and have watched a lot of films where it happened.
Let me add this, it is better to legally take custody of the kids she birthed entirely if you wish to marry any baby mama. By this, you have solved 98% of the future problems that may arise.

Generally, the condition of any lady being a baby mama matters. Was she rãped? Did her husband die? Or she was open and decided to have a kid by spreading her legs because of the sweetness of sëx and saying she was deceived? The first two are manageable reasons to accommodate but require legal backing to solidify such in case you're going in for a marriage purpose, while the second part is deceiving, could be 99% lies as long as the man in question is still very much alive and you might just be a tool they want to use.

Don't be deceived, use your head if you're embarking on such journey. Just be careful and study her before you jump in with her.
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by LaSenior: 5:59am On Jun 08, 2024
Emu4u2c:
I'm in one currently.. I love the girl but she is all shade of wrong and every Day I see reasons why everyone is against single mothers...One thing I observed about the single mother in my care..She fights me and disrespects me but you should see the respect she gives to the baby daddy...gets me confused then Why didn't he cope with her bad character..And believe me sometimes I feel like I'm her dump load where she off-loads all her rubbish...Why am I still in such relationship?.. Well I have access to free kitten why it last....I won't say I'm a Red piller..no.. but at least I'm not mentally and emotionally locked to her...so I'm taking advantage of the situation...Are we getting married?.... That's Left for God to decide and well I'm awaiting his direction but I will enjoy the moment while it last
better run commot from it now you still have the chance or you go waste your resources tire
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by TWoods(m): 6:17am On Jun 08, 2024
Emu4u2c:
I'm in one currently.. I love the girl but she is all shade of wrong and every Day I see reasons why everyone is against single mothers...One thing I observed about the single mother in my care..She fights me and disrespects me but you should see the respect she gives to the baby daddy...gets me confused then Why didn't he cope with her bad character..And believe me sometimes I feel like I'm her dump load where she off-loads all her rubbish...Why am I still in such relationship?.. Well I have access to free kitten why it last....I won't say I'm a Red piller..no.. but at least I'm not mentally and emotionally locked to her...so I'm taking advantage of the situation...Are we getting married?.... That's Left for God to decide and well I'm awaiting his direction but I will enjoy the moment while it last
Those 2 things don't go together.
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by Omalicious1: 6:18am On Jun 08, 2024
nkemjacob2:
Pls i need an advice I am in love with a girl she is a baby mama. But I am finding hard to battle the metal stress of her been a baby mama of a boy. Pls I need your advice to over come this. I truly love her and I want to marry her. Pls no jokes
Abort Mission...as long as the father of her child is still alive, she has an unfinished business with him. Secondly, on the flip side, if you were a baby-daddy, will she love you exactly the way you're loving her now? Think about this when you're making use of the toilet and without your phone
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by Zairee: 6:33am On Jun 08, 2024
nkemjacob2:
Pls i need an advice I am in love with a girl she is a baby mama. But I am finding hard to battle the metal stress of her been a baby mama of a boy. Pls I need your advice to over come this. I truly love her and I want to marry her. Pls no jokes
My only problem is what her relationship with the other dude is like
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by techub: 6:58am On Jun 08, 2024
edoncast:
Pls can u help me do this .
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Call or WhatsApp
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by PrimadonnaO(f): 7:10am On Jun 08, 2024
Emu4u2c:
I'm in one currently.. I love the girl but she is all shade of wrong and every Day I see reasons why everyone is against single mothers...One thing I observed about the single mother in my care..She fights me and disrespects me but you should see the respect she gives to the baby daddy...gets me confused then Why didn't he cope with her bad character..And believe me sometimes I feel like I'm her dump load where she off-loads all her rubbish...Why am I still in such relationship?.. Well I have access to free kitten why it last....I won't say I'm a Red piller..no.. but at least I'm not mentally and emotionally locked to her...so I'm taking advantage of the situation...Are we getting married?.... That's Left for God to decide and well I'm awaiting his direction but I will enjoy the moment while it last
Which direction are you awaiting from God when you're having such mindless sin?

God doesn't work like that.

You're on your own, sir.
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by JozzyMayana: 7:29am On Jun 08, 2024
Add me on WhatsApp - 0. 9. 0. 5. 1. 7. 8. 8. 6. 4. 3.....

We’ll talk better there bro!!
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by ama0423(m): 7:45am On Jun 08, 2024
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by Crestaria: 8:05am On Jun 08, 2024
LaSenior:
gbam grin grin grin grin grin grin grin

Fresh girls full everywhere this one won kpai untop baby Mama
grin Fresh girls that majority of them put innocent deceived face but of a truth they have done multiple abortions, sleeping with men anyhow,some still have the mind to go to church or mosque raise hands to GOD but a wicked pretender. And a lady who slept with one man all her life,end up been a baby mama by circumstances yet decent and respectful (in the sense that she doesn't sleep around and her focus is on how to raise her child well)
Which is better? grin grin

Good morning
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by seanwilliam(m): 8:27am On Jun 08, 2024
Emu4u2c:
I have red lots of articles on the red pill right from the days of ubunja.... Most Old naira landers know the moniker... I'm not getting married to her but I won't avoid a chance to have a free pussycat
Take it from me, sooner or later you’ll be trapped. 🪤

And why are you having scarcity mindset ?
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by sfinkzslot(m): 8:54am On Jun 08, 2024
Some men are actually attracted to single woman with child [baby mama] . The child is a prospect that she is fertile and capable of bearing children for him. It is can be a conscious or subconscious instinct. That's why some cultures demand that a lady is pregant before wedding can take place
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by grandstar(m): 9:24am On Jun 08, 2024
nkemjacob2:
Pls i need an advice I am in love with a girl she is a baby mama. But I am finding hard to battle the metal stress of her been a baby mama of a boy. Pls I need your advice to over come this. I truly love her and I want to marry her. Pls no jokes
If you peer into the future and see you can't love her child as your own, then forget it

You're taking a packaged deal.

Some baby mama's may give their love child to her parents to raise up which frees her from the fear most men have with raising a kid that's not theirs biologically.

The first option is the best to to me.

The second is selfish and mean. It's left to you to decide.
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by Oracleee: 9:37am On Jun 08, 2024
EreluRoz:
The most important thing is you love her and I see no reason why her baby should be a distraction. That baby may become a president tomorrow and make you proud of being a good step dad. In life just be good kos you don't know what posterity has waiting for you.
Werey
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by mamaafrik(m): 10:28am On Jun 08, 2024
Feelings79:
I'm 44 years old and it's been my experience having married a baby mama for 8 years before it collapsed.The most pain is that the relationship between them and their kids daddy never ends, to the point the man keep fucking her before meeting any obligation to the baby
Hmmm;sorry for your ordeal
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by Emma1Oj(m): 11:10am On Jun 08, 2024
immortalcrown:
How old was she when it happened?

She was not deceived. She is not a rational adult. If you don't mind having an irrational wife, go ahead to marry her. The choice is yours but be ready for the consequences of your choices.

I am not saying she is evil or wicked. I am not saying she cannot change for good. My point is that she was and is still an irrational adult. If she has changed for good, she would have taken responsibility of her past actions instead of claiming that she was deceived. Stop believing that she was deceived. I can bet that she was not deceived. But if you think she was actually deceived, tell us the full story of how the deception happened.
is either you are a lawyer or you understand females system of operations so well.

You nailed it
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by MrBroke(m): 12:27pm On Jun 08, 2024
Na small children full Nairaland, imagine the yeye comments I dey read.
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by Azazyel: 12:38pm On Jun 08, 2024
LaSenior:
Aje confirmento he's in for a very long ride

This one that chop I chop

Husband chop baby daddy chop aluta continue
Omo I shock say some guys still never understand the format. Dem wan dey play Indian love with babymama. The moment she has argument with the guy, she go run meet her baby father. If she has issues with baby father, she go run meet husband material. grin two gbola don sure for her. Maximum enjoyment. The funny part is this husband material go dey beg her to leave the baby father.
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by SkengRay: 12:48pm On Jun 08, 2024
HardMirror:
women be talking emotional rubbish. These ones follow money and cars.
Like bro you get grin. I pity men of this our generation that don't think and gets controlled by Emotions. Dem go too suffer
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by SkengRay: 12:54pm On Jun 08, 2024
lesson44:
If you love her,please follow your heart. Baby mama has never been a drag on any woman until this present generation of Nigerians. I am 52 years old , I know what I am talking about here.
Don’t listen to side talk. Do what makes you happy.
Yeah Sure Op 🤣🤣🤣. Do What Makes you Happy. But don't forget there are consequences🤣🤣🤣
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by Sammy249: 12:55pm On Jun 08, 2024
nkemjacob2:
Pls i need an advice I am in love with a girl she is a baby mama. But I am finding hard to battle the metal stress of her been a baby mama of a boy. Pls I need your advice to over come this. I truly love her and I want to marry her. Pls no jokes
my brother if you like go and Marry her you will regret in the future the day you were born if you go ahead , I have studied and learnt one thing about babymamas after dating two and meeting a lot of them and studied third character and lifestyle and I have come to realise that any female that is a baby mama is nothing more than a retired , sex loving and money hungry , desperate and shady nymphomaniac female who only be able a baby mama because karma of trapping a man with a baby to get married didn't work or because she was enjoying the good sex a ex was giving her which was a fling and she confused it for a relationship and thinking the child would trap the man to marriage , basically for you to be a baby mama is a reflection of your negative character and behaviour ,no descent female would be a baby mama ,God almighty will protect you from that happening to you , my notion is that all babymamas are straight up exposed hoes that have been exposed , most of them love hanging out and bar invites to come and eat chicken and fish and chips they love you taking them out to chill spend and sex after that's all they are about unless they are pretending to gain your affection first all trap you,don't be a simp for a virgin talk less of a baby mama ,do you know how many hot rounds a female gets from a man fit her to decide to get pregnant and keep a pregnancy if a man that she is not married to , bro wake and stop acting like a child, go online there a lots of single non babymamas outchea stop letting a worn out okra drinking to make her fanny tighter and sweeter baby mama trap you with her sex she learnt From multiple sex with her ex lover and Baby father 😂😂😂
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by SkengRay: 12:58pm On Jun 08, 2024
Azazyel:
Omo I shock say some guys still never understand the format. Dem wan dey play Indian love with babymama. The moment she has argument with the guy, she go run meet her baby father. If she has issues with baby father, she go run meet husband material. grin two gbola don sure for her. Maximum enjoyment. The funny part is this husband material go dey beg her to leave the baby father.
You Get am bros🤣.
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by AlphaHakimi: 1:46pm On Jun 08, 2024
You are making a very wrong decision if you go ahead and marry her.

Being a baby mama, a prostitute, a bad woman etc are all vices every man should avoid in a woman. Now ask yourself this question, If it's a known fact that you will be very poor for the rest of your life( Being broke is considered a vice for men in the eyes of women) will this woman still agree to marry/date you knowing fully well that you will never make money for the rest of your life?

You see, when it comes to making the choice for a life partner women are more rational than men but when it comes to loving with the consequences of the choices we make, men are more rational.

Allow single mothers to be single. There is a reason why the word SINGLE is attached to their name.

That woman will always place that child above you. If she was sooo good, her baby daddy would still be with her.

Shalom
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by obinnaxci(m): 1:48pm On Jun 08, 2024
As long as the baby daddy or father of the kid is alive, you will ever have a peaceful relationship with her.

nkemjacob2:
Pls i need an advice I am in love with a girl she is a baby mama. But I am finding hard to battle the metal stress of her been a baby mama of a boy. Pls I need your advice to over come this. I truly love her and I want to marry her. Pls no jokes
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by pps1759(m): 4:49pm On Jun 08, 2024
Emu4u2c:
I'm in one currently.. I love the girl but she is all shade of wrong and every Day I see reasons why everyone is against single mothers...One thing I observed about the single mother in my care..She fights me and disrespects me but you should see the respect she gives to the baby daddy...gets me confused then Why didn't he cope with her bad character..And believe me sometimes I feel like I'm her dump load where she off-loads all her rubbish...Why am I still in such relationship?.. Well I have access to free kitten why it last....I won't say I'm a Red piller..no.. but at least I'm not mentally and emotionally locked to her...so I'm taking advantage of the situation...Are we getting married?.... That's Left for God to decide and well I'm awaiting his direction but I will enjoy the moment while it last
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by onyekabe(m): 5:30pm On Jun 08, 2024
I was in a similar situation some people say marrying a single mother is not bad.
I am advi you from experience don't marry a single mother. You can never be her priority in this life
Re: I Love Her. She Is A Baby Mama. Pls Advice Me. I Am A Single Guy by kwasoly(m): 6:00pm On Jun 08, 2024
nkemjacob2:
Pls i need an advice I am in love with a girl she is a baby mama. But I am finding hard to battle the metal stress of her been a baby mama of a boy. Pls I need your advice to over come this. I truly love her and I want to marry her. Pls no jokes
Flee from fornication...
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