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Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

Red flag 🚩,shine your eyes,look for other options and play along. Ireee oo.

Pls don't wait until she finally tells u to leave. Take ur time and be looking for another lady.

Johnthesuccess:
Red flag 🚩,shine your eyes,look for other options and play along. Ireee oo.

Exactly. This is 99.999999% true

Marriage favors women more not men
Stop showing her how much you love are
That’s the weapon she’s using against you bc you’rea big $imp

The issues that made you break up before have not been addressed. Those things she asked you to change... you didn't mention them. Do you drink? Smoke? Womaniser? Gambling perhaps or you don't know how to save and build? These and others are major deal breakers fir serious ladies that value rgeir peace of mind more than bearing Mrs.

normally I nor dey advise person who dey in love, APC supporters and rich men.
But baba dey see RED SEA, he still dey seek advice. Try dey advise yourself sir. You are just an option to her, you are not her dream man or priority.

mrcrabs:
I don't understand how people break up and still come back after a while and think all will work out.

if you guys will work out why then did you break up in the first place.

Be real with yourself , tell yourself the truth and the truth is that relationship wont work.

its better you end it now than getting married and having issues in the marriage.

PS what do i know ?

They come back cos they realized their mistakes and wish to work on it. Two people in love can compromise to reach a common goal. It takes a emotional maturity mind to understand this level of dating.
Even in marriages partner do have misunderstanding that could lead to divorce but later reconcile and find a way to iron things out.

Give her room to study you more. You shouldn't rush her into a marriage, she isn't prepared for. An everlasting union isn't something to be rushed into. Slow things down bro. Make more money. Build a promising future. Don't marry on top of a salary that can stop in the next moment.👨‍🦯👨‍🦯👨‍🦯👨‍🦯

No be your wife be that.
Don't force her to do what she doesn't want to do. Move on.

Simp never end well in life
You better learn Sense and move on, you have bn dribbled, don't allow her to dribble you again


Whisper:she has find someone better and far alpha male than you

She's no longer enthusiastic about settling down with you do move on. There are many ladies looking to get married

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

That girl is obviously not ready or serious for marriage. I will suggest you move forward and get someone else

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

This may be a blessing in disguise. Move on bro.

There are better fishes in the river/ocean.

Breakup with her asap and get yourself together. I bet you will be glad you did after a while.

No carry Woman matter for head o, I know you love her but guy, forget about love, go and make money and add value to your life and get a good woman to marry, a woman that wouldn't stress your life.

This life is short, Men are going through a lot, you don't need a woman that would toy with your emotions. Believe me when I say this, Men are the Trophy. Look inwards and you will understand what I am saying.

Don't marry her o. If not you will regret.

It's either there's another guy that's giving her hope or she's still a kid. Marriage isn't for kids.

Someone is being fvcked silly by some other dude and u are here calling her fiancee abi finance?

sammirano2:
That girl is obviously not ready or serious for marriage. I will suggest you move forward and get someone else

Gbam. It's a simple stuff.

Women plenty when don ready for marriage o, but na wives na dey few.

I just believe God has a far better Woman for him. He may not see it that way now because for him head e dey feel say e love the babe.

If he chose to eventually marry her, he's going to suffer. Because she will continue to manipulate him and constantly toy with his emotions.

You better prepare your heart for break up.
I will advise you to move on with you life and look for a lady that is ready to settle down with you.
As for this one, she is not ready to settle down with you

My advice for you is simple! Don’t take that girl serious again..Start look for another girl and play along with her..Breaking up with a girl for just one month is enough for her to entertain other choices, talk more of two years…..That girl already have another girl who is deceiving her and she’s weighing the option btw you and the other guy..use your head when dealing with ladies..

7demons:
They come back cos they realized their mistakes and wish to work on it. Two people in love can compromise to reach a common goal. It takes a emotional maturity mind to understand this level of dating.
Even in marriages partner do have misunderstanding that could lead to divorce but later reconcile and find a way to iron things out.

UNDERSTOOD clearly but in reality 70% times it does not end well and the case above is another example of it been a bad move.

The only niggers I know rushing to marry a lady is one where thr lady is very wealthy or from a wealthy family

Bro move on come on don't force it man

If I tell you the truth now, you will say I am a bad person, so enjoy your misery in peace.

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

Bro, please move on.

When a lady says slow down, it simply means she is not into you.

Hello,

When a lady tell you to slow down there is a reason for her requesting for you and her to slow down first she is not fully ready to be committed to you she's weighing her options seriously, any serious lady will be so happy that you want to introduce her to your parents at least that is an assurance that you really mean to settle down with her and she will obviously have the backing of your family members in case there's fire in the mountain, just in case you opted out from the relationship you both had, however there's an angles to this issue you need to sit down as a the man here, and asked yourself some pertinent questions because it mostly likely she has seen some red flags, while you guys were dating and now that you want to take the relationship to the next level, she wants to buy time, she wants to be fully sure what she's going into to avoid pain and regret, while some other ladies will not ignore the red flags no matter how loving, romantic and caring you are because there are lot of marital issues here and there they are learning from on daily basis and trust me they are still learning,that is not say ladies and guys don't mess up, any babe who doesn't know it's worth will just grab their copy fast and settle for anything your babe seems to know what she wants and she's really weighing her options carefully and seriously.

Let me asked you few questions if you don't mind do you have anger issues? since when you and your babe reconciled, have you cheated on her? do you observed her birthdays buy her gifts on her birthdays or special days? Have you ever shouted at her at the slightest provocations? do guys argue over an issue often and often? do you take her out even if you can't afford to buy her expensive stuff? how often do you call her to check on her? are you working or you still a student? what are your goals dreams and aspirations? do you share your plans with her as regards what and what you want to do and what you are aiming to achieve as a guy if you are sure you haven't missed out on any of this question i raised, sit her down and her asked the same question if she cant look you in the eye and tell you the truth let her be she's considering another guy over you let her be, she's going for a much more ready made guy than you she doesn't deserved your love.

What will be, will be!!

Regards

David Adenrele

Chidex369:
Thank you bro. I appreciate

am happy u acknowledged this.no force any woman to marry you else high chances u won't enjoy or be in control of the relationship.
U can easily tell her as someone suggested that u have issues at work and u were asked to stop coming.make it look real.if she isn't really for you, within a month what ever she is hiding from you will be in the open.

You have messed up the natural order of things and the relationship is doomed. Women chase relationships, whilst men chase sex. Anything contrary to that is seen as unattractive, especially in your situation where you are begging for marriage. Accept your loss, learn your lesson, move on and close that chapter of your life. Trying to salvage this situation would keep you trapped in a one-sided relationship.

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

Slow things down means u love her than she loves u atleast right now.

Slow things down means she want to take her time and be sure of certain things it could be financial readiness, trust issues or family related issues.

Slow things down means there is still time so why are u rushing like u have something to hide.

Slow things down indirectly mean ur game isn't tight. She likes u enough to accept ur proposal but ure rushing way ahead of ur potential from.her perspective atleast.

Means u can't read the her expressions and body language and that's a serious weakness.

She told u were she wants to see improvements look into them and do what u feel is best for u having her in mind. Don't just do all she says if it's not what u agree with.


Whatever u do be a man.


Don't marry a girl unless she's eager to marry u as mush as ure eager to marry her. Now it looks like ure begging her or about to and Not playful begging but serious begging . That doesn't look good or make sense cos u will be a beggar in ur home until u learn how to Balance the power in a relationship which can be difficult sometimes.

Blame Tinubu!

Offpointng:
Slow things down for now which can also mean, "leave me alone for now". And person wey tell you mai you leave am alone you no go leave am??

We guys really need to understand that you're actually writing an invitation to suffering and Emotional pain when you try to force yourself on people most especially Women. Now, I know how hard it's gonna be for you now but just like she asked you to slow down, slow down for real nigga to save urself pains

In total agreement with above, can you state what areas she wants you to improve, it will help me form a better opinion on if the relationship is worth pursuing or not!

Chidex369:
Greetings my people,

Please I really need your advice on how to go about this matter that is really eating me up. We went on a normal date with my girl whom I have proposed marriage to and she accepted it. But in recent time I have been telling her to come and see my parent but was like we are not yet ready, I don't understand it.

Today we went out and she opened up and started telling me areas of my life which she's not really comfortable with and I should improve on them. When she was done she said she needs us to slow things down for now.

I don't really know how to go about this right now. Please I really need your advice on it. I really love this girl and wants to settle down with her. We broke before and reconcile after two years, and we been back for like 6 months now.

Please no insult or curse. Please I need your advice.

You want to force things on a lady who didn't accept you at least 75%.

You are just an option to her..
Seems you want to enter into that emotional torture garnished with frustration for life.

Wake up before it's too late.

For your peace and sanity, marry a lady that is into you, Otherwise, hehehehehe sorry will be your name later🤣🤣🤣.

You are even lucky she is being honest with you now..

And lastly, another guy better than you is on her case..Which is the reason she is weighing her options.

Oga slow down and think..

YOU ARE VERY STUPID

NUMBER 1 RULE: NEVER LOVE A WOMAN MORE THAN SHE LOVES YOU

IF SHE TRULY LOVES YOU AND WANTS TO SPEND HER LIFE WITH YOU....SHE WOULDN'T CARE ABOUT ALL SHE HAS TOLD YOU....EVEN IF NA FLOOR YOU DEY SLEEP...SHE WILL BE HAPPY TO SLEEP ON THAT FLOOR WITH YOU

A WOMAN THAT LIKES YOU....MIND YOU I NO EVEN SAY LOVE YOU....A WOMAN THAT LIKES YOU WILL ALWAYS BE ASKING YOU WHEN ARE YOU TAKING HER TO YOUR PARENTS HOUSE TO GO SEE THEM

IF ALL THIS WHILE YOU HAVE BEEN WITH HER AND SHE HAS NEVER EVEN BOTHERED TO ASK YOU WHY YOU HAVEN'T TAKEN HER TO YOUR PARENTS HOUSE THEN IT'S VERY OBVIOUS THAT SHE DOESN'T SEE YOU AS A HUSBAND MATERIAL FOR HER

EVEN ASHAWO WEY YOU GO FVCK WELL GO DEY TELL YOU WHEN YOU DEY CARRY HER GO YOUR PARENTS TALK MORE OF THE GIRL WEY YOU DON ALREADY PROPOSE TO

Freshtruth:
How many f you remember this simp?

So una don turn this guy to meme.