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Nigerian man cries out for advice as he complains over girlfriend’s habit of giving out her number to other men, despite being in a relationship with him.

The man made his complaint known in a post on Facebook relationship platform.

According to the man he and his girlfriend had been dating for two and a half years.

During this time, because of her frustrating behaviour he had put her on a 30K monthly allowance but she keeps displaying a troubling behaviour.

He stated that his girlfriend always gives out her number freely to other men.

When he confronted her, she opined that he hasn’t married her yet so she’s free to do as he likes.

The man has come online to seek advice from social media users over his puzzling issue.

He wrote …

“I am fed up of my Gf behaviors.. its been 2 and half years now we’ve been dating… I try all my best to satisfy her. I even considered giving her 30k monthly maybe she will change. But all to no avail.. she love giving out her number if guy approach her… how can she be in a serious relationship with me and still giving out her number. That’s an insult to me.

She doesn’t even allow me check her phone.. she always say I haven’t marry her. So she is free… I am tired of her. Her mum knows me a lot. She knows I am the only guy dating her. We love each other a lot. But I don’t want to share her with someone else.. my friend advise me to go and lock her in alfa place. So she will love only me. But I want to seek advise before doing anything.. I will read all comments..”

This man has a scarcity mindset.

Money can't keep a woman.

It is not an insult giving her number to other men since you are yet to marry her.

Why give a woman that sum every month? Insecurity! yeah.

Don't buy that stupid idea of 'privacy' check her phone anytime you want to.
You'd only be saving yourself from a lot of problems.

The man, the gf, her number, the relationship, the other guys are all stu.pid...

yungkels:
The man, the gf, her number, the relationship, the other guys are all stu.pid...

In fact. They are mad.

Sit her down and tell her you are done with her

Banny who's in a relationship but still giving out her phone number to random guys is equal to the task of dishing out her kpekus to the same guys should they continue calling the number

BeyondCertainty:
This man has a scarcity mindset.

Money can't keep a woman.

It is not an insult giving her number to other men since you are yet to marry her.

Don't buy that stupid idea of 'privacy' check her phone anytime you want to.
You'd only be saving yourself from a lot of problems.

Why give a woman that some every month? Insecurity! yeah.

Tbh the 30k in this economy sef nor reach

You are in a friends with benefits situationship so therefore, behave as such

It's still baffles me how men would see fire and still enter it all in the name of romantic relationship.

Listen as a man you are the prize , start acting like one.

RZArecta:
You are in a friends with benefits situationship so therefore, behave as such

You've said it all

the dude is just a temporary space warmer, until she finds exactly the type of man/relationship she is looking for. its obvious he is NOT the one.
you are SINGLE but you dont know it yet!

Weak man.. He is dating himself.. He is worried about her giving out number,but not worried about the pussy she is sharing.. She is definitely a Clito trader.. If she no give out number,how customer wan take reach her to come render services?

The Man want to dey enjoy free kpekus with different styles, and doesn't want to pay for it officially;/Unless the girl is not interested in marriage. Any smart girl cannot stop giving men her number if she is not sure she would settle down with her boyfriend.

Mugu

Ladies would only tell you about the guy they are not interested in, the rest, okay ooo

Na this one demm. them dey call simp

it won't be well with d op and the man fr posting this rubbish....nonesense

If your supposed girlfriend still distributes her number to men, it clearly means that you're not what she's looking for. She's just using you to pass time pending when she'll find the kind of man she wants.

So my dear op, you're dating yourself. My advice is that you stop giving her that 30k monthly stipend and use it for something meaningful in your life.

Run for your life…

Which advice e dey seek.
If he no see the red flag,na him sabi.
If he no dump the hoe make I know wetin cause am.Otherwise,na premium tears dey load for am.

We have said it here B4! All 9ja girls are ashawo

The truth of the matter is that, the fact that you haven't caught your girlfriend/sister/wife doing ashawo work doesn't mean she is not an ashawo. They are all the same.

30k wey you suppose share give bambiala for street since you no need am.

She is simply looking for a better option

You are right, if you say they are all st*pid you are also right in fact all of you are right.

FRANCISTOWN:
In fact. They are mad.

Crycry baby wey suppose don start to dey arrange replacement for the street hawker down dey here dey cry on top banny wey go eventually go around before she learn.

Foolish SIMP! WTF?

N30K monthly for what exactly, abeg?

How much do you give ur mum, siblings, relatives monthly?

E no go well for dis guy, I swear!

Fool get the Bleep outta here

Kill any guy u see around her...

By the time u kill 2 or 3, she will take u serious

you wont leave her now - until she give you incurable disease na him ya eye go clear 😏

My point is if it’s a serious relationship and you’ve shown real and genuine intentions to her but she still keeps making herself seem available to other men, then she doesn’t respect you.

Giving out number means “im interested in talking with you and keeping in touch “ . She knows those men are after her but she still makes them feel they have a chance. This isn’t safe for you cos you can’t monitor her movement, she may decide to “step out” a little , trust me you won’t know.

Don’t be pressured to marry when you aren’t ready for that cos she may continue doing it in marriage.

2yrs is no joke and also, please don’t go into any monthly financial responsibility to any girl you aren’t married to, you’ll regret it. Don’t pay a girl to be with you or respect you.

Are you sure you’re not the only one in this “serious” relationship? Clearly her options are still open.

You’re a man , act like one. Since she does what you don’t like and you can’t tolerate, you know what to do.

Rule number 1: don't ever try to privatize a public property.
What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news.

Oga if you no meet your wife as a virgin, oga go for DNA test oooooo because boreholes a.k.a non-virgins can't be trusted atall

All girls these days are into hookups. They want to level up with yahoo boys doings. Our fathers were lucky to have home keepers as wife even when there were no money our mother never leaves our fathers.
All these girls just marry and keep sleeping around, all girls.