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I met my husband at university as an undergraduate.

We started as friends and it grew into something beautiful.

After graduation and NYSC, we got jobs and worked for a while.

A few years later we got married.

A few months after marriage my husband changed.

First of all, he ordered me to resign from my job.

We fought over that for months until I gave in for peace to reign.

A few months after that he began mistreating me.

Any little misunderstanding we have he'll remove the smart card from our cable so I don't watch TV.

Once the cable subscription expires, he'll refuse to subscribe again or order me not to subscribe even when I can afford to.

To make matters worse, he'll lock the kitchen door and take the keys along with him to work, so I can't cook or eat.

Then he'll lock me inside our house so I can't go out to eat.

He did it the first time and started to keep malice.

I decided to apologize for peace to reign.

After I apologized he kept malice with me for another month.

I kept my cool and kept watching.

The next time we had a misunderstanding he did the same things.

He did it a third time and I found out that it's now a pattern.

The next time he locked me inside after a misunderstanding I left before he returned.

I decided to take spare keys to all the doors before we had a misunderstanding.

I took the decoder with me and switched off my phone for over a week.

When I switched it on he had sent me so many angry texts and WhatsApp voice notes.

Once I left I informed my family that I wanted out of the marriage.

My Father advised that I give him some space instead, but I knew I was done with the marriage.

He thre.aten.ed me for a while about ending the marriage, but when he found out I didn't care, he mellowed down and changed his tone.

He reached out to my family to apologize for how he treated me.

He said he didn't know what came over him asking me to return home.

My Father refused saying there's a lot to be sought out.

My Father insisted that I couldn't be unemployed because he didn't invest in me to sit at home.

My husband accepted that I could get another job and promised never to starve me or lock me inside, but I don't trust him anymore.

I never believed he could turn around to treat me the way he did like a common criminal.

Imagine denying me food and locking me inside the house.

Asking me to resign my job was the worst and refusing to provide for me.

Now he is acting sorry and remorseful but it's all a show to me.

He is pleading with me to return home but my Father is as suspicious as me.

My Mum feels that I should give him a chance but I have a bad feeling about returning to him because I feel he'll get worse if I return.

I no longer have any interest in marriage anymore, I just want to know if I'm making a mistake because now I fear for my life.

I fear that I'm no longer safe because of the way he suddenly changed and became remorseful.

I feel it's just an act.

I don't want to make a mistake that I'll regret.

What I don't understand is why you'll marry someone and do all this.

Take away the smart card of the decoder, lock the kitchen, and lock someone Inside the house so that......https://www.allsinglesandmarried.com/2024/08/how-to-be-faithful-and-naughty-to-your.html

Hmmm, this is so pathetic and am sorry about your predicament.. sorry to say, that man is a wolf In a sheep skin.. na why e good to dey enquiry about anything and anything you want to delve in to.. prayerfully, but once una don like una sef don love don blindfold una be that.. .Madam my advice for you..put one leg I. And one leg out since there's more trust there again and marriage is not supposed to be like that. A man suppose to treat his wife like his mother or his sister.. anyways it's well.. but you are a good woman. According to your story o, I pray to find a loving caring and a submissive woman someday...Shalom

First of all, he ordered me to resign from my job.

My Father insisted that I couldn't be unemployed because he didn't invest in me to sit at home.

He ordered you to resign and you agreed without considering your wonderful father's investment in you?

Your husband is a small pig and you mismarried. Accept you made a mistake and can easily correct it by dumping him.

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Una love don expire.. Accept it that way.. Your father sef get as him take dey. If say na so his wife dad do his wife,will your mom still be in his house today? Which kind useless investment he dey talk about? You should have stopped her from marrying at first,since you invested. Your dad is suppose to be a peacemaker maker in all these not the other way round,even though your said husband self na big Werey for treating you the way he did. What are your own faults? You no talk your own now o,na your husband you dey hammer on. You might have also been the reason the love he had for you died easily..

Before returning to your husband, please get a job. Don't allow anyone not even your husband force you to resign from your work. Unfortunately, he is an idiot with no shame or should I call him an ignorant boy who shouldn't have gotten married. He is still in the bloom of youth but rush to marriage thinking he's ready. A woman should have something doing even if your husband is wealthy.

Marriage no no be by force!

BigYash:
Una love don expire.. Accept it that way.. Your father sef get as him take dey. If say na so his wife dad do his wife,will your mom still be in his house today? Which kind useless investment he dey talk about? You should have stopped her from marrying at first,since you invested. Your dad is suppose to be a peacemaker maker in all these not the other way round,even though your said husband self na big Werey for treating you the way he did. What are your own faults? You no talk your own now o,na your husband you dey hammer on. You might have also been the reason the love he had for you died easily..

Her Dad has not done wrong, even me i have a strong feeling that, the husband is so angry and looking for a way to bring her back and give her serious beating which if he does he would make sure the wife's parents are not aware.

Rember he had threatened his wife to come home, it was his wife resistant that made him to come and beg, i have read matters like this.

Woman if you go back to that house?
You are dead meat.
That man is mean, heartless and a scycopath.
Run for your life and never look back.
Finally he is INSECURE and will do anything to surpress,repress and ultimately murder you when you resist.

LoveUdie:
I met my husband at university as an undergraduate.

We started as friends and it grew into something beautiful.

After graduation and NYSC, we got jobs and worked for a while.

A few years later we got married.

A few months after marriage my husband changed.

First of all, he ordered me to resign from my job.

We fought over that for months until I gave in for peace to reign.

A few months after that he began mistreating me.

Any little misunderstanding we have he'll remove the smart card from our cable so I don't watch TV.

Once the cable subscription expires, he'll refuse to subscribe again or order me not to subscribe even when I can afford to.

To make matters worse, he'll lock the kitchen door and take the keys along with him to work, so I can't cook or eat.

Then he'll lock me inside our house so I can't go out to eat.

He did it the first time and started to keep malice.

I decided to apologize for peace to reign.

After I apologized he kept malice with me for another month.

I kept my cool and kept watching.

The next time we had a misunderstanding he did the same things.

He did it a third time and I found out that it's now a pattern.

The next time he locked me inside after a misunderstanding I left before he returned.

I decided to take spare keys to all the doors before we had a misunderstanding.

I took the decoder with me and switched off my phone for over a week.

When I switched it on he had sent me so many angry texts and WhatsApp voice notes.

Once I left I informed my family that I wanted out of the marriage.

My Father advised that I give him some space instead, but I knew I was done with the marriage.

He thre.aten.ed me for a while about ending the marriage, but when he found out I didn't care, he mellowed down and changed his tone.

He reached out to my family to apologize for how he treated me.

He said he didn't know what came over him asking me to return home.

My Father refused saying there's a lot to be sought out.

My Father insisted that I couldn't be unemployed because he didn't invest in me to sit at home.

My husband accepted that I could get another job and promised never to starve me or lock me inside, but I don't trust him anymore.

I never believed he could turn around to treat me the way he did like a common criminal.

Imagine denying me food and locking me inside the house.

Asking me to resign my job was the worst and refusing to provide for me.

Now he is acting sorry and remorseful but it's all a show to me.

He is pleading with me to return home but my Father is as suspicious as me.

My Mum feels that I should give him a chance but I have a bad feeling about returning to him because I feel he'll get worse if I return.

I no longer have any interest in marriage anymore, I just want to know if I'm making a mistake because now I fear for my life.

I fear that I'm no longer safe because of the way he suddenly changed and became remorseful.

I feel it's just an act.

I don't want to make a mistake that I'll regret.

What I don't understand is why you'll marry someone and do all this.

Take away the smart card of the decoder, lock the kitchen, and lock someone Inside the house so that......https://www.allsinglesandmarried.com/2024/08/how-to-be-faithful-and-naughty-to-your.html

I am so sorry to hear your story. Doesn’t your husband have relatives: guardians/ parents? Have you talk to any of them??

I'm so sorry about this predicament, ma'am. Can I advise that you give him another chance? However, be on guard. Channel all this resentment you feel for him into getting another job. I believe this would be a game changer for you.

All the best!

Sunnyrado:
Hmmm, this is so pathetic and am sorry about your predicament.. sorry to say, that man is a wolf In a sheep skin.. na why e good to dey enquiry about anything and anything you want to delve in to.. prayerfully, but once una don like una sef don love don blindfold una be that.. .Madam my advice for you..put one leg I. And one leg out since there's more trust there again and marriage is not supposed to be like that. A man suppose to treat his wife like his mother or his sister.. anyways it's well.. but you are a good woman. According to your story o, I pray to find a loving caring and a submissive woman someday...Shalom

He is likely one of such men who cannot bear to have strong independent women as wives. Hence the persistence that she quits her job and even after that, the torture (aimed at breaking her into subservience).

LoveUdie:
I met my husband at university as an undergraduate.

We started as friends and it grew into something beautiful.

After graduation and NYSC, we got jobs and worked for a while.

A few years later we got married.

A few months after marriage my husband changed.

First of all, he ordered me to resign from my job.

We fought over that for months until I gave in for peace to reign.

A few months after that he began mistreating me.

Any little misunderstanding we have he'll remove the smart card from our cable so I don't watch TV.

Once the cable subscription expires, he'll refuse to subscribe again or order me not to subscribe even when I can afford to.

To make matters worse, he'll lock the kitchen door and take the keys along with him to work, so I can't cook or eat.

Then he'll lock me inside our house so I can't go out to eat.

He did it the first time and started to keep malice.

I decided to apologize for peace to reign.

After I apologized he kept malice with me for another month.

I kept my cool and kept watching.

The next time we had a misunderstanding he did the same things.

He did it a third time and I found out that it's now a pattern.

The next time he locked me inside after a misunderstanding I left before he returned.

I decided to take spare keys to all the doors before we had a misunderstanding.

I took the decoder with me and switched off my phone for over a week.

When I switched it on he had sent me so many angry texts and WhatsApp voice notes.

Once I left I informed my family that I wanted out of the marriage.

My Father advised that I give him some space instead, but I knew I was done with the marriage.

He thre.aten.ed me for a while about ending the marriage, but when he found out I didn't care, he mellowed down and changed his tone.

He reached out to my family to apologize for how he treated me.

He said he didn't know what came over him asking me to return home.

My Father refused saying there's a lot to be sought out.

My Father insisted that I couldn't be unemployed because he didn't invest in me to sit at home.

My husband accepted that I could get another job and promised never to starve me or lock me inside, but I don't trust him anymore.

I never believed he could turn around to treat me the way he did like a common criminal.

Imagine denying me food and locking me inside the house.

Asking me to resign my job was the worst and refusing to provide for me.

Now he is acting sorry and remorseful but it's all a show to me.

He is pleading with me to return home but my Father is as suspicious as me.

My Mum feels that I should give him a chance but I have a bad feeling about returning to him because I feel he'll get worse if I return.

I no longer have any interest in marriage anymore, I just want to know if I'm making a mistake because now I fear for my life.

I fear that I'm no longer safe because of the way he suddenly changed and became remorseful.

I feel it's just an act.

I don't want to make a mistake that I'll regret.

What I don't understand is why you'll marry someone and do all this.

Take away the smart card of the decoder, lock the kitchen, and lock someone Inside the house so that......https://www.allsinglesandmarried.com/2024/08/how-to-be-faithful-and-naughty-to-your.html

Nobody can give you a reasonable advice here without your husband being present to agree or disagree with your story.

If you don't want to regret your action truly, let whosoever that is mediating listen to both of you together.

correctyourself:
Her Dad has not done wrong, even me i have a strong feeling that, the husband is so angry and looking for a way to bring her back and give her serious beating which if he does he would make sure the wife's parents are not aware.

Rember he had threatened his wife to come home, it was his wife resistant that made him to come and beg, i have read matters like this.

Na why I say the husband na Werey,but I feel the father should be more of peacemaker ,even though he is trying to protect his own. Since she said she is no longer intrested,make she comot body..Marriage is not something that should be forced,since there is no connection again,she should just marry her sweet dad😎

Trust your gut feeling.

Fathers would usually be the ones to encourage you to go back to your husband. But for Baba to be wary of him, be very careful.

No use 2 eyes sleep for that house, as e no go take time before Oga unleash the plans for begging you back. 🙏

Never you return to that marriage. End of story.

Until you address the root cause why he 'changed', I don't think you should go back.

You might also want to note how his birth family ran.

LoveUdie:
I met my husband at university as an undergraduate.

We started as friends and it grew into something beautiful.

After graduation and NYSC, we got jobs and worked for a while.

A few years later we got married.

A few months after marriage my husband changed.

First of all, he ordered me to resign from my job.

We fought over that for months until I gave in for peace to reign.

A few months after that he began mistreating me.

Any little misunderstanding we have he'll remove the smart card from our cable so I don't watch TV.

Once the cable subscription expires, he'll refuse to subscribe again or order me not to subscribe even when I can afford to.

To make matters worse, he'll lock the kitchen door and take the keys along with him to work, so I can't cook or eat.

Then he'll lock me inside our house so I can't go out to eat.

He did it the first time and started to keep malice.

I decided to apologize for peace to reign.

After I apologized he kept malice with me for another month.

I kept my cool and kept watching.

The next time we had a misunderstanding he did the same things.

He did it a third time and I found out that it's now a pattern.

The next time he locked me inside after a misunderstanding I left before he returned.

I decided to take spare keys to all the doors before we had a misunderstanding.

I took the decoder with me and switched off my phone for over a week.

When I switched it on he had sent me so many angry texts and WhatsApp voice notes.

Once I left I informed my family that I wanted out of the marriage.

My Father advised that I give him some space instead, but I knew I was done with the marriage.

He thre.aten.ed me for a while about ending the marriage, but when he found out I didn't care, he mellowed down and changed his tone.

He reached out to my family to apologize for how he treated me.

He said he didn't know what came over him asking me to return home.

My Father refused saying there's a lot to be sought out.

My Father insisted that I couldn't be unemployed because he didn't invest in me to sit at home.

My husband accepted that I could get another job and promised never to starve me or lock me inside, but I don't trust him anymore.

I never believed he could turn around to treat me the way he did like a common criminal.

Imagine denying me food and locking me inside the house.

Asking me to resign my job was the worst and refusing to provide for me.

Now he is acting sorry and remorseful but it's all a show to me.

He is pleading with me to return home but my Father is as suspicious as me.

My Mum feels that I should give him a chance but I have a bad feeling about returning to him because I feel he'll get worse if I return.

I no longer have any interest in marriage anymore, I just want to know if I'm making a mistake because now I fear for my life.

I fear that I'm no longer safe because of the way he suddenly changed and became remorseful.

I feel it's just an act.

I don't want to make a mistake that I'll regret.

What I don't understand is why you'll marry someone and do all this.

Take away the smart card of the decoder, lock the kitchen, and lock someone Inside the house so that......https://www.allsinglesandmarried.com/2024/08/how-to-be-faithful-and-naughty-to-your.html

don't go back to that marriage. I repeat don't ever in your life go back.

met my husband at university as an undergraduate.

We started as friends and it grew into something beautiful.

After graduation and NYSC, we got jobs and worked for a while.

A few years later we got married.

A few months after marriage my husband changed.

First of all, he ordered me to resign from my job.

If this is not non fictional, then something must be wrong with his mental health and he needs to be admitted at mental health hospital for proper health management.
YOUR GOING BACK MAY COST LIFE. THERE'S NO NEED TO TAKE SUCH A RISK.

God punish you for talking bad about her father.mumu

BigYash:
Una love don expire.. Accept it that way.. Your father sef get as him take dey. If say na so his wife dad do his wife,will your mom still be in his house today? Which kind useless investment he dey talk about? You should have stopped her from marrying at first,since you invested. Your dad is suppose to be a peacemaker maker in all these not the other way round,even though your said husband self na big Werey for treating you the way he did. What are your own faults? You no talk your own now o,na your husband you dey hammer on. You might have also been the reason the love he had for you died easily..

I didn't know that stupid women like this still exist . U resigned from ur job because of ur husband ? Ah u no well at all

the woman foolishness pass promax..

LoveUdie:
I met my husband at university as an undergraduate.

We started as friends and it grew into something beautiful.

After graduation and NYSC, we got jobs and worked for a while.

A few years later we got married.

A few months after marriage my husband changed.

First of all, he ordered me to resign from my job.

We fought over that for months until I gave in for peace to reign.

A few months after that he began mistreating me.

Any little misunderstanding we have he'll remove the smart card from our cable so I don't watch TV.

Once the cable subscription expires, he'll refuse to subscribe again or order me not to subscribe even when I can afford to.

To make matters worse, he'll lock the kitchen door and take the keys along with him to work, so I can't cook or eat.

Then he'll lock me inside our house so I can't go out to eat.

He did it the first time and started to keep malice.

I decided to apologize for peace to reign.

After I apologized he kept malice with me for another month.

I kept my cool and kept watching.

The next time we had a misunderstanding he did the same things.

He did it a third time and I found out that it's now a pattern.

The next time he locked me inside after a misunderstanding I left before he returned.

I decided to take spare keys to all the doors before we had a misunderstanding.

I took the decoder with me and switched off my phone for over a week.

When I switched it on he had sent me so many angry texts and WhatsApp voice notes.

Once I left I informed my family that I wanted out of the marriage.

My Father advised that I give him some space instead, but I knew I was done with the marriage.

He thre.aten.ed me for a while about ending the marriage, but when he found out I didn't care, he mellowed down and changed his tone.

He reached out to my family to apologize for how he treated me.

He said he didn't know what came over him asking me to return home.

My Father refused saying there's a lot to be sought out.

My Father insisted that I couldn't be unemployed because he didn't invest in me to sit at home.

My husband accepted that I could get another job and promised never to starve me or lock me inside, but I don't trust him anymore.

I never believed he could turn around to treat me the way he did like a common criminal.

Imagine denying me food and locking me inside the house.

Asking me to resign my job was the worst and refusing to provide for me.

Now he is acting sorry and remorseful but it's all a show to me.

He is pleading with me to return home but my Father is as suspicious as me.

My Mum feels that I should give him a chance but I have a bad feeling about returning to him because I feel he'll get worse if I return.

I no longer have any interest in marriage anymore, I just want to know if I'm making a mistake because now I fear for my life.

I fear that I'm no longer safe because of the way he suddenly changed and became remorseful.

I feel it's just an act.

I don't want to make a mistake that I'll regret.

What I don't understand is why you'll marry someone and do all this.

Take away the smart card of the decoder, lock the kitchen, and lock someone Inside the house so that......https://www.allsinglesandmarried.com/2024/08/how-to-be-faithful-and-naughty-to-your.html

.

Madam didn't you see all this signs before you agreed to marry him? I want to strongly believe that you saw them but was blind folded by love, thinking you can manage it in marriage. Like they will say " love is blind but marriage is an opener".

How do people change after marriage?
If they are really tired of the marriage, make Dem pull out na.

Which one be all this devilish behavior

Op, u gat comot that marriage, for your mental health and safety

BigYash:
Una love don expire.. Accept it that way.. Your father sef get as him take dey. If say na so his wife dad do his wife,will your mom still be in his house today? Which kind useless investment he dey talk about? You should have stopped her from marrying at first,since you invested. Your dad is suppose to be a peacemaker maker in all these not the other way round,even though your said husband self na big Werey for treating you the way he did. What are your own faults? You no talk your own now o,na your husband you dey hammer on. You might have also been the reason the love he had for you died easily..

believe stories like this at your own peril , when a womans eyes is already outside she picks little little meaningless details , i did not see anything like domestic violence and you never said whatever lead to these incidents , madam better go amd calm down and submit to your man . Outside no good ooo them no dey tell person , small boys go use you do yeye , even your family will laugh at you last last na person wey you no ever believe say you go ever agree to even talk to go begin sleep with you be wise , the journey you are about to embark on does not end the way you assume it will , that your husband you are condemming you go see the sweet woman wey don learn her leason go quickly grab am . Aunty just dey play

LoveUdie:
I met my husband at university as an undergraduate.

We started as friends and it grew into something beautiful.

After graduation and NYSC, we got jobs and worked for a while.

A few years later we got married.

A few months after marriage my husband changed.

First of all, he ordered me to resign from my job.

We fought over that for months until I gave in for peace to reign.

A few months after that he began mistreating me.

Any little misunderstanding we have he'll remove the smart card from our cable so I don't watch TV.

Once the cable subscription expires, he'll refuse to subscribe again or order me not to subscribe even when I can afford to.

To make matters worse, he'll lock the kitchen door and take the keys along with him to work, so I can't cook or eat.

Then he'll lock me inside our house so I can't go out to eat.

He did it the first time and started to keep malice.

I decided to apologize for peace to reign.

After I apologized he kept malice with me for another month.

I kept my cool and kept watching.

The next time we had a misunderstanding he did the same things.

He did it a third time and I found out that it's now a pattern.

The next time he locked me inside after a misunderstanding I left before he returned.

I decided to take spare keys to all the doors before we had a misunderstanding.

I took the decoder with me and switched off my phone for over a week.

When I switched it on he had sent me so many angry texts and WhatsApp voice notes.

Once I left I informed my family that I wanted out of the marriage.

My Father advised that I give him some space instead, but I knew I was done with the marriage.

He thre.aten.ed me for a while about ending the marriage, but when he found out I didn't care, he mellowed down and changed his tone.

He reached out to my family to apologize for how he treated me.

He said he didn't know what came over him asking me to return home.

My Father refused saying there's a lot to be sought out.

My Father insisted that I couldn't be unemployed because he didn't invest in me to sit at home.

My husband accepted that I could get another job and promised never to starve me or lock me inside, but I don't trust him anymore.

I never believed he could turn around to treat me the way he did like a common criminal.

Imagine denying me food and locking me inside the house.

Asking me to resign my job was the worst and refusing to provide for me.

Now he is acting sorry and remorseful but it's all a show to me.

He is pleading with me to return home but my Father is as suspicious as me.

My Mum feels that I should give him a chance but I have a bad feeling about returning to him because I feel he'll get worse if I return.

I no longer have any interest in marriage anymore, I just want to know if I'm making a mistake because now I fear for my life.

I fear that I'm no longer safe because of the way he suddenly changed and became remorseful.

I feel it's just an act.

I don't want to make a mistake that I'll regret.

What I don't understand is why you'll marry someone and do all this.

Take away the smart card of the decoder, lock the kitchen, and lock someone Inside the house so that......https://www.allsinglesandmarried.com/2024/08/how-to-be-faithful-and-naughty-to-your.html

Madam i wont tell you to leave or stay in your marriage but ponder on these words before you make your decision "In as much you feel where you are accepted is inappropriate for you also have it at the back of your mind you might not also be accepted where you feel is appropriate for you " now let me break it down you leave your marriage you will be searching for a replacement cause of shame and self respect you will be very picky but the man you left will be enjoying alot of attention from different women willing to cook for him amd even give him their bodies some are even ready for him to step on their heads cause they have all learnt the hard way thats just the irony of life . Dont even think rejecting a man is punishing him , you are only punishing and complicationg your life . No matter what it is you both should try to resolve it abeg ooo

Baronthecelebri:
God punish me .I be mumu

Okay

Juliearth:
I'm so sorry about this predicament, ma'am. Can I advise that you give him another chance? However, be on guard. Channel all this resentment you feel for him into getting another job. I believe this would be a game changer for you.

All the best!

Sincerely I don't agree with you on this. Give him another chance? No please.
He doesn't deserve the woman, he should live by himself and never bother any decent female. These guys are never repentant, I've a case currently with about the same situation and the hell the lady is going through breaks my heart!
Please marriage should never be a war zone or a ground zero!
Second chances can be given when there are no extreme cases of strife!!

Your life is in danger. Anyhow you want to use sort it out just know you are in danger.

He is a ticking bomb.

Juliearth:
I'm so sorry about this predicament, ma'am. Can I advise that you give him another chance? However, be on guard. Channel all this resentment you feel for him into getting another job. I believe this would be a game changer for you.

All the best!

go and take her marital place so that you can experience what that Psychopath has in stock.

Stop being weak minded and always be wise to stay alive