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I would like to be brief and forward Enough.
Last month I got evicted from my apartment by my landlord due to my inability to pay my Rent after it was increased as a result of the removal of fuel subsidy & the general rise in price of goods and services.
I have a friend who lives very close to my house, we've been friends for some time now. I mean very close friend. He knew all that was happening to me as regards my accommodation challenge.
A few days to my Eviction, I plead that he accommodates me for just a month so I can raise money for an apartment. He knew my financial commitment at the time & also understands how my money comes. But I was surprised that he turned me down. He turned me down because, according to Him, he can't accommodate even his siblings. And he doesn't feel comfortable sharing a room with a fellow male. Immediately after this, he brought his girlfriend to start living right with him. This is same girl who cheats on him at every given opportunity. A Girl who is obviously not loyal.
While I acknowledge that he doesn't owe me anything and I'm not entitled to anything too, I consider it insensitive and callous to not empathize with a friend in such situation. I told him that if he was the one in my position, I would gladly help him even without giving a second thought. After all, what are friends for?

So right now, I'm wondering if there are still True Friends, cos it is often said that a friend in need is a friend indeed. Honestly I've lost faith in Humanity. People are very wicked. It is when u fall into trouble that you will understand who your true friends are.

Pls share your thoughts on this.

You can not predict people, you can only know the true colours of friends and relatives when you have problem
I pray God see you through

Friendship does not mean having to live together. I will never live together with a friend. You should move in with a member of your family.

When I was little and sings the anthem " a friend in need is a friend indeed" I never really understood what I do say....until I grew up Nd every word in the anthem makes much sense now

Sapasenator:
Friendship does not mean having to live together. I will never live together with a friend. You should move in with a member of your family.

Most people would prefer to live with their friends than their relatives. I'm only staying for a month, just a month.
How come he can't accommodate his own siblings?
Some things are not good .

Do u know if I have relatives here?

Agba7617:
Most people would prefer to live with their friends than their relatives. I'm only staying for a month, just a month.
How come he can't accommodate his own siblings?
Some things are not good .

Do u know if I have relatives here?

A month always end up in a year or fight. My friend cannot live with me and no friend should ever compare himself to.my gf. Wrong comparison.

Sapasenator:
A month always end up in a year or fight. My friend cannot live with me and no friend should ever compare himself to.my gf. Wrong comparison.

just know the kind of friends you keep
I lived with a friend for complete 1 year(I won’t say who paid the house rent) and we never quarreled for ones.
We’re we just contributing equal bills….if u get,we flex
If u no get and I get…we flex too….

Nemesis0147:
just know the kind of friends you keep
I lived with a friend for complete 1 year(I won’t say who paid the house rent) and we never quarreled for ones.
We’re we just contributing equal bills….if u get,we flex
If u no get and I get…we flex too….

Naso life suppose be but only a few people would understand

Agba7617:
I would like to be brief and forward Enough.
Last month I got evicted from my apartment by my landlord due to my inability to pay my Rent after it was increased as a result of the removal of fuel subsidy & the general rise in price of goods and services.
I have a friend who lives very close to my house, we've been friends for some time now. I mean very close friend. He knew all that was happening to me as regards my accommodation challenge.
A few days to my Eviction, I plead that he accommodates me for just a month so I can raise money for an apartment. He knew my financial commitment at the time & also understands how my money comes. But I was surprised that he turned me down. He turned me down because, according to Him, he can't accommodate even his siblings. And he doesn't feel comfortable sharing a room with a fellow male. Immediately after this, he brought his girlfriend to start living right with him. This is same girl who cheats on him at every given opportunity. A Girl who is obviously not loyal.
While I acknowledge that he doesn't owe me anything and I'm not entitled to anything too, I consider it insensitive and callous to not empathize with a friend in such situation. I told him that if he was the one in my position, I would gladly help him even without giving a second thought. After all, what are friends for?

So right now, I'm wondering if there are still True Friends, cos it is often said that a friend in need is a friend indeed. Honestly I've lost faith in Humanity. People are very wicked. It is when u fall into trouble that you will understand who your true friends are.

Pls share your thoughts on this.

Maybe he doesn't like the way you live

I have friends that I can't live with, our style of doing things is just not compatible

Maybe he likes smoking and you don't

Maybe he likes extreme order and you like to switch things up from time to time

Maybe you like keeping late nights and he doesn't

There are many reasons why two friends can't live together

Sapasenator:
A month always end up in a year or fight. My friend cannot live with me and no friend should ever compare himself to.my gf. Wrong comparison.

u have a gf, sir? thought u're a gay . my bad if wrong

Geovanni412:
Maybe he doesn't like the way you live

I have friends that I can't live with, our style of doing things is just not compatible

Maybe he likes smoking and you don't

Maybe he likes extreme order and you like to switch things up from time to time

Maybe you like keeping late nights and he doesn't

There are many reasons why two friends can't live together

Besides, friendship can be useful for a lot of other things and not neccessary living together.

Sirqt5:
u have a gf, sir? thought u're a gay . my bad if wrong

Nothing wrong with being gay. Try harder.

Friendship in Nigeria usually translates to one person taking advantage of the other person.
I had to cut off most of my friends and blocked them and I am left with only one friend. The rest are acquintaces and business partners.

Sapasenator:
Nothing wrong with being gay. Try harder.

u are gay ? . Better go for deliverance

Sirqt5:
u are gay ? . Better go for deliverance

Nothing wrong in being gay, try harder mate!

Original people are scarce. They are the true friends. Some are blood related and some are outsiders than became our friends. Those that are empathetic to us, sacrificial and realistic in their approach. These type of people are rare!

Padipadi:
Original people are scarce. They are the true friends. Some are blood related and some are outsiders than became our friends. Those that are empathetic to us, sacrificial and realistic in their approach. These type of people are rare!

Very rare. Some people act like they have never been helped by anyone in their lives

Not all friends are friends.

FirmTR:
Not all friends are friends.

I'm telling u.

True friends are rare....

Uchenna10:
True friends are rare....

Honestly

So you think him denying you a place to stay for a month stay automatically makes him a bad friend,...
Why not mention every other things he has done for you in the past bro...

I can't live with people, and it's not wickedness... it's just me loving my space..
Me that wakes up in the middle of the night to record songs and my recording session i can be quite loud and energetic..
Now imagining me having to down my energy because of you or me denying you your sleep ..


I sell herbs for sexual enhancement tho

He'll rather live with his gal than house a bro for a short while?? such a p*ssy-ass-nigga...
Bro before hoes, anyday, anytime

Johnson225:
He'll rather live with his gal than house a bro for a short while?? such a p*ssy-ass-nigga...
Bro before hoes, anyday, anytime

You're the real MVP bro. That's the way to go. Funny enough, if same guy has same accommodation issues, his babe will never agree to accommodate him, it's still a guy that will help him

It's understandable if he can't allow anyone to live with him even his siblings, but he should have shown material concern,

Material concerns such as providing alternative (eg accommodation from another friend) or giving some money to soften your problem.

Anyways situations like this are good in a way that it's clears off the speck from your eyes, so you won't go extra miles for someone that can't cross the gutter for you.

On a side note, he has actually played himself. If you are a true good friend to him and you gave up on him, it's his loss. Humans are resources, and no one let a good resources slip off their hand.

Your pain is temporary, you'll sort this out and get over it, but he has lost a good person that will make his life better, and that cheating babe is his karma.

Sit down and watch.

Agba7617:
I would like to be brief and forward Enough.
Last month I got evicted from my apartment by my landlord due to my inability to pay my Rent after it was increased as a result of the removal of fuel subsidy & the general rise in price of goods and services.
I have a friend who lives very close to my house, we've been friends for some time now. I mean very close friend. He knew all that was happening to me as regards my accommodation challenge.
A few days to my Eviction, I plead that he accommodates me for just a month so I can raise money for an apartment. He knew my financial commitment at the time & also understands how my money comes. But I was surprised that he turned me down. He turned me down because, according to Him, he can't accommodate even his siblings. And he doesn't feel comfortable sharing a room with a fellow male. Immediately after this, he brought his girlfriend to start living right with him. This is same girl who cheats on him at every given opportunity. A Girl who is obviously not loyal.
While I acknowledge that he doesn't owe me anything and I'm not entitled to anything too, I consider it insensitive and callous to not empathize with a friend in such situation. I told him that if he was the one in my position, I would gladly help him even without giving a second thought. After all, what are friends for?

So right now, I'm wondering if there are still True Friends, cos it is often said that a friend in need is a friend indeed. Honestly I've lost faith in Humanity. People are very wicked. It is when u fall into trouble that you will understand who your true friends are.

Pls share your thoughts on this.

Can't blame him. We've seen instances where the person you accomodate will refuse to leave your house even after the date they gave has come and gone.

Maybe when you had money, you were living lavish thinking your friend will be there for you whenever e red for you.

It’s a solipsistic world and you should aspire to render help to others more than you dream of getting help from them, because at the end of the day, it’s all man for himself.

You get to live your day like tomorrow no sure and not compare your life with that of anybody.

If your friends are taking an apartment of 500k, and you can only afford 150k apartment, no because of comparison forcefully take apartment of 400k just to feel among. Because if e red for you, the people you are trying to measure up with will be the first to run away from you.

Friends or not, nobody wants a liability, especially in this current situation of Nigeria.

ogbeni that nigga isn't your friend stop using the word loosely, a friend that can't be there for you in your down moments isn't worthy of being called a friend so it's better you cut that bitch nigga off

Guy, let me tell you the truth and nothing but the truth. I too can not accommodate a fellow man for one month especially if I live in one room apartment but I can help a good friend raise money for his house rent. Even in my year one at the university, I lived alone and turned down all requests for roommate although money was tight then because I liked my privacy. I can manage to accommodate a girl that I fucck for a few days but I will feel weird and awkward to sleep in a room with a fellow man. As for the nigga bringing his cheating girlfriend to stay with him, that's none of your business. For you to even come here to complain shows the kind of person you are and it looks like he dodged a bullet by not accommodating you.

Accommodating others can be tricky. A lot of people have had negative experiences doing so, even from so called friends and families. Maybe your “friend” is just being careful.

People say friends are bad, blah blah.

Everybody is someone's friend. Are you a good friend yourself ??

Anyway, I empathize with you bro. On a positive note, I've heard more and can relate to someone loosing his accommodation and going on to better things.

This exact moment can be the beginning of your success story. 👍